Hello nairalanders

It is with sadness and hurt that I decided to ask guidance on what action I should take with regards to the event that happened in my life.

I met a guy two years ago and fell in love with him wholeheartedly in fact he is my first love. the relationship was fun and romantic. I lost my innocence to him. Although there were times I had suspicions and I would confront him about it but he always found a way to clear my suspicions. One issue I always felt bad about was that he never took me to his family. As at the beginning of the relationship about a month into it his sister got married and I was not invited I felt maybe it was too early and shrugged it off. he never used my pictures as dp claiming he doesn't feel its proper until we are married. apart from all these he was a sweet and loving man. we were like best friends.

Fast forward to two years later I did something I had never done before. I searched his phone while he was asleep and what I discovered was a blow for me. He was in another relationship!!! I stole the girl's contact and disguised as his colleague just to get information from her with time she was free with me. I discovered they had been dating for seven years and she lived in another state. just last week he said he was travelling for a business event only for me to find out he went for his introduction to her family.

confronted him and he has been begging me to forgive him.

Kind hearted nairalanders please what do I do? should I expose him to the girl or not.

Yes please do . . . . .dont waste more time . . . . I proudly took from ladyf and introvert there birth ryt . . . . . . . . . Thats a good improvement

I wonder why some people keep on asking for advice on something they can use their initiatives for. . . Nawaao!

what's her innocence.... dead curious

Go ahead!

Expose him if he promised u of marriage but dont if u people never agreed on that.

First of all, what do you mean by innocence

eme40rald:
Hello nairalanders
It is with sadness and hurt that I decided to ask guidance on what action I should take with regards to the event that happened in my life.
I met a guy two years ago and fell in love with him wholeheartedly in fact he is my first love. the relationship was fun and romantic. I lost my innocence to him. Although there were times I had suspicions and I would confront him about it but he always found a way to clear my suspicions. One issue I always felt bad about was that he never took me to his family. As at the beginning of the relationship about a month into it his sister got married and I was not invited I felt maybe it was too early and shrugged it off. he never used my pictures as dp claiming he doesn't feel its proper until we are married. apart from all these he was a sweet and loving man. we were like best friends. fast forward to two years later I did something I had never done before. I searched his phone while he was asleep and what I discovered was a blow for me.he was in another relationship!!! I stole the girl's contact and disguised as his colleague just to get information from her with time she was free with me. I discovered they had been dating for seven years and she lived in another state. just last week he said he was travelling for a business event only for me to find out he went for his introduction to her family.
confronted him and he has been begging me to forgive him
Kind hearted nairalanders please what do I do? should I expose him to the girl or not.

What will you gain by exposing him?

witnezHD:
what's her innocence.... dead curious

virginity sir

No need for that just move on....

this guy is a bad player

onomeglo:
No need for that just move on....

100likes...he'd get wateva is coming to him.. No neex to force karma

eme40rald:
virginity sir

did he promise you of marriage?

eme40rald:
virginity sir

thanks didn't know

What will exposing him change? The lady would still stand by him. Sorry but you've been played. Just accept it and move on.

witnezHD:
what's her innocence.... dead curious

virginity

sseunth:
virginity

how did you know

If it were me,I'd expose him(yes I'm that wicked what a wicked man,two timing he-goat..my dear,pls tell his fiancee,you wld be doing her some good.

Don't expose him, leave him alone

ronald4lif:
What will exposing him change? The lady would still stand by him. Sorry but you've been played. Just accept it and move on.

you cant be too sure his fiancee wld stand by him..every normal thinking lady wouldn't anyway...yes,she has been played,and exactly because she doesn't have anything to lose,she shld tell the other lady!

Just move on....

eme40rald:
Hello nairalanders
It is with sadness and hurt that I decided to ask guidance on what action I should take with regards to the event that happened in my life.
I met a guy two years ago and fell in love with him wholeheartedly in fact he is my first love. the relationship was fun and romantic. I lost my innocence to him. Although there were times I had suspicions and I would confront him about it but he always found a way to clear my suspicions. One issue I always felt bad about was that he never took me to his family. As at the beginning of the relationship about a month into it his sister got married and I was not invited I felt maybe it was too early and shrugged it off. he never used my pictures as dp claiming he doesn't feel its proper until we are married. apart from all these he was a sweet and loving man. we were like best friends. fast forward to two years later I did something I had never done before. I searched his phone while he was asleep and what I discovered was a blow for me.he was in another relationship!!! I stole the girl's contact and disguised as his colleague just to get information from her with time she was free with me. I discovered they had been dating for seven years and she lived in another state. just last week he said he was travelling for a business event only for me to find out he went for his introduction to her family.
confronted him and he has been begging me to forgive him
Kind hearted nairalanders please what do I do? should I expose him to the girl or not.

@ OP, you've loved and you've lost. Just move on. He has begged for your forgiveness. Whatever joy you derive from telling the other woman will be short-lived. Besides, what's to say she will not forgive him? Just count your losses and move on!

Ce sera sera

Expose that M****RFUCKER!! But with evidence, so he doesn't go about breaking other girls heart. He just played a fast one on you.

Tnx everyone for ur advices

If say na man post this topic about what his woman did to him now....... NL boys for don arrive to abuse women like vultures wey see dead body...........God dey measure una punishment with heavenly scale.

jemimaa01:
you cant be too sure his fiancee wld stand by him..every normal thinking lady wouldn't anyway...yes,she has been played,and exactly because she doesn't have anything to lose,she shld tell the other lady!

She can proceed but I'm unsure if that would yield any positive outcome. It will only end with the guy apologising to his fiancé and that settles it, although after some initial gragra from her. But like you said she's got nothing to lose and if that will help assuage her hurtful state then fine.

delishpot:
If say na man post this topic about what his woman did to him now....... NL boys for don arrive to abuse women like vultures wey see dead body...........God dey measure una punishment with heavenly scale.

You've a point. None of the guys here including myself has faulted the guy for his heartless behaviour. Surely it would have been an entirely different case had it involve a lady. Our bad.

ronald4lif:


You've a point. None of the guys here including myself has faulted the guy for his heartless behaviour. Surely it would have been an entirely different case had it involve a lady. Our bad.

Its all good brother. Its just that the double standard thing is *paining me* tomorrow it will be our daughters going through this. When we have failed to caution our sons. Many NL topics encourage men to handle wom3n exactly as this man treated the poor girl.


OP.... worry not every day your heart remembers the pain karma will visit him.
Pkele, move on. I know its not easy but you have to try for your own sake.

My dear,just move on with your life...it's not that easy! That I know already.
But just forgive and forget him
As for the lady allow her to find out things by herself o so they won't tag you names lol

Awwww!!!! pathetic.

Bae!! Exposing him to his fiancee won't make you feel any better, on the other hand the fiancee needs to know the type of person he is dealing with.
In all, you should be concerned about yourself and how you'd get over the disappointment.
Anyway, from your writeup you seem as someone who's doing pretty well.

Left for me, You've got to move on and let go of your ex and his fiancee. Face your life and be a better person than when he left you.

Goodluck dearie