adanny01:
Give it up already.

Your confessing will do you more harm than good. If you do, the girl will still marry him no matter what. She is his choice, shw will be crazy to let him go for a nice man he is. You said so yourself.

eme40rald:
Hello nairalanders

It is with sadness and hurt that I decided to ask guidance on what action I should take with regards to the event that happened in my life.

I met a guy two years ago and fell in love with him wholeheartedly in fact he is my first love. the relationship was fun and romantic. I lost my innocence to him. Although there were times I had suspicions and I would confront him about it but he always found a way to clear my suspicions. One issue I always felt bad about was that he never took me to his family. As at the beginning of the relationship about a month into it his sister got married and I was not invited I felt maybe it was too early and shrugged it off. he never used my pictures as dp claiming he doesn't feel its proper until we are married. apart from all these he was a sweet and loving man. we were like best friends.

Fast forward to two years later I did something I had never done before. I searched his phone while he was asleep and what I discovered was a blow for me. He was in another relationship!!! I stole the girl's contact and disguised as his colleague just to get information from her with time she was free with me. I discovered they had been dating for seven years and she lived in another state. just last week he said he was travelling for a business event only for me to find out he went for his introduction to her family.

confronted him and he has been begging me to forgive him.

Kind hearted nairalanders please what do I do? should I expose him to the girl or not.

alfred5:
So you wanted him to dump his 7 years old relationship for you?


You get mind o!

freecocoa:
Na wa o, someone deceived another for two years and he's a nice man, it is well.

May hypocrisy not kill you naija men o.

freecocoa:
Na wa o, someone deceived another for two years and he's a nice man, it is well.

May hypocrisy not kill you naija men o.

LaRoyalHighness:
The guy is an ass.... Yet another nkita... Don't worry your head with exposing him.. God will punish him for me. I can imagine his type.. Just two weeks after wedding, he will call you to blabble. God saved you from that nkita. Don't worry.. There is Someone special out there. Keep doing your thing.

delishpot:


Its all good brother. Its just that the double standard thing is *paining me* tomorrow it will be our daughters going through this. When we have failed to caution our sons. Many NL topics encourage nen to handle wom3n exactly as this man treated the poor girl.


OP.... worry not every day your heart remembers the pain karma will visit him.
Pkele, move on. I know its not easy but you have to try for your own sake.

noblegrex:
exposing him to him to d girl will do u no good,though it might serve him right n seems like a pay back but u might also end up making a fool of yourself so,walk away from the trouble in your life.nemesis will catch up with him cos I don't think he'll change.try to bear it.God is your strenght.

adanny01:


Far from hypocrisy sister.

Op asked if she should tell his fiancee. What is the aim of telling? I know what will happen when she tells. Nothing!! And the wedding will proceed while she will nurse her heart from another blow after expect he will be dumped.

I am not encauraging decievers but the fact that vengeance is a risk since you may end up hurting the more.

eme40rald:
Hello nairalanders

It is with sadness and hurt that I decided to ask guidance on what action I should take with regards to the event that happened in my life.

I met a guy two years ago and fell in love with him wholeheartedly in fact he is my first love. the relationship was fun and romantic. I lost my innocence to him. Although there were times I had suspicions and I would confront him about it but he always found a way to clear my suspicions. One issue I always felt bad about was that he never took me to his family. As at the beginning of the relationship about a month into it ......me to forgive him.
Kind hearted nairalanders please what do I do? should I expose him to the girl or not.

starlingslimnet:
First of all, what do you mean by innocenceWhat will you gain by exposing him?

LaRoyalHighness:
The guy is an ass.... Yet another nkita... Don't worry your head with exposing him.. God will punish him for me. I can imagine his type.. Just two weeks after wedding, he will call you blabble. God saved you from that nkita. Don't worry.. There is Someone special out there. Keep doing your thing.

delishpot:
If say na man post this topic about what his woman did to him now....... NL boys for don arrive to abuse women like vultures wey see dead body...........God dey measure una punishment with heavenly scale.

elipheleh:
my dear. Which nemesis?
If God is nemesis them both of them will suffer the consequence. Both of them sinned and both of them shall die. God didn't say the disvirgined woman is a victim so she goes free.
she better pray no nemesis be involved cos she would die too.

Analysiscorner:
Move on, nne. Do not revenge cause vengeance belongs to God. Just learn your lesson

akosh005:
Buy him his wedding cake. Der is always a winner n loser. 7 is diff to 3