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"My Little Thought On HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!" by Yongi99(m): 9:55pm On Aug 22, 2015 |
This may not be the best time for me to
write on
this because of misinterpretati ons, but I
can no
longer resist the push. "Husband Scarcity"
has
become one of the challenges faced by
many
young girls today. If you go to prayer
houses,
majority of the intentions are prayer for a
life
partner. And this calls for concern. Casting
our
minds back to the time of our mothers and
grandmothers, was there
really much of a "Husband Scarcity"
problem? Or,
maybe there were more men than women
then, or
there was an adequate corresponding
numbers of
both genders. I don't think so. Maybe then,
the
women had values and were prepared to
build a
home and not park into a built home. Then,
once a
young man comes of age and can at least
feed
himself and his wife, he goes out in search
of a
wife and the woman really appreciates him
and
helps him to build a future. What am I really
trying
to say? We created what we now see as
"Husband
Scarcity" for ourselves. Today, the reverse is
the
case. Ask an average girl to define her
dream
husband; you get things like "he has to be
tall,
handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at
least, and
be presentable" and then she adds "God
fearing" in
order not to sound so worldly. Then, check
the
number of girls around you and the number
of men
that meet that standard, and you will see the
problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer
in my
father's house and then go and start
suffering with
a man." What a wonderful dream! What if
from the
beginning, you have everything you want
and there
is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the
table
turns around, then comes suffering? Will
you run
away? No one prays for suffering, but it is
good to
start small and end big, than start big and
end
small. The problem is that the description
majority
of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the
same. When 50 girls want the same kind of
man
and the man that fits what they want is just
1 man,
and the man can only pick one. Then, what
becomes of 49 others? They simply start
lamenting of "Husband Scarcity". Another
irony of
our time is that it is hard, due to the face of
our
economy to find a man who is of marriage
age
who possesses all
those things these ladies want, legally
(except
those involved in Internet fraud); even the
number
of those in Internet fraud is not enough to
match
all those searching for already made
husbands.
If you look around, majority of the ladies of
substance, of good value and virtue, who
are ready
to build a home with a man who has
prospects,
are married and not complaining of
husband
scarcity. The easiest way to find a husband
now, is
to change your view of who a husband is. A
husband is that man God made and then
saw that
it may be hard for him to really actualize his
purpose for making him, without a help
mate and
then made the woman and gave to him, and
he felt
complete and fulfilled. MARRIAGE IS NOT A
POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a
mission
of building the family of God here on earth.
For
those who see marriage as a way out of
poverty, it
is a way into bondage. Women are HOME
BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T
CONFUSE
A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is
today, may only be a route to where God has
destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth
is that
YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT
HIS
DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "husband
scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not
saying that you should pick anyone that
comes
your way and talks of marriage, not all men
are
husband materials. What I am saying is that
you
should stop setting your standard on
material
acquisitions or
physical appearances. Look beyond the
physical.
WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT
HE
OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS
MADE
UP OF. And that which he is made of is, most
times, not seen with the physical eyes, only
its
effects can be seen. Marriage is a permanent
thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that
which
is not seen is permanent. Relax and go to
God in
prayer. God did not just make Eve for
making sake;
He made her for Adam's need to become
complete
and fulfilled. By: Blessing Ekpo cc: farano, Rocktation 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Little Thought On HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!" by ladyF(f): 9:56pm On Aug 22, 2015 |
Preach on!! Marriage is not even by force. The way some people are desperate ehnnnn. Hian!!!!! |
Re: "My Little Thought On HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!" by BeeBeeOoh(m): 9:57pm On Aug 22, 2015 |
I am available oh.. |
Re: "My Little Thought On HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!" by Nobody: 9:58pm On Aug 22, 2015 |
ladyF: like you won't marry... |
Re: "My Little Thought On HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!" by UrennaNkoli(f): 9:59pm On Aug 22, 2015 |
Good |
Re: "My Little Thought On HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!" by Nobody: 10:00pm On Aug 22, 2015 |
What makes a red bucket what it is? It's red. What makes a blue towel what it is? It's blue What males a broke guy what he is? He's broke! I don't _fucking care if he's made of iron or sulphur. ![]() My own advice for any lady is this, make your own money and marry within your class. All this vision and destiny tales that touch the heart dey tire me a beg. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: "My Little Thought On HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!" by vizkiz: 10:00pm On Aug 22, 2015 |
ladyF: I will remind you about this post when you clock 50 ![]() 1 Like |
Re: "My Little Thought On HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!" by Spikkylee: 10:09pm On Aug 22, 2015 |
F |
Re: "My Little Thought On HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!" by Yongi99(m): 10:11pm On Aug 22, 2015 |
LadyF on my thread? It's alrice. |
Re: "My Little Thought On HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!" by Nobody: 10:12pm On Aug 22, 2015 |
anytime I see a lady, I see digger in her hands , so I run ... I mean real run o |
Re: "My Little Thought On HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!" by ladyF(f): 10:17pm On Aug 22, 2015 |
vizkiz:Lol....It still won't change the fact. Marriage is still not by force! ![]() Dharniel:Definitely I will, but I would never be under pressure. Being a Mrs isn't a criteria for measuring your achievements on earth. Some people are presently in bad marriages out of their desperation, looking for how they can make it all disappear. Society should definitely take part of the blame. |
Re: "My Little Thought On HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!" by HDee(m): 10:40pm On Aug 22, 2015 |
first of all, back in old day, our fathers practiced polygamy, so, it kinda covered the scarcity of husband. Buh today? 1- men a scarce, d few ones don't wanna venture into polygamy. 2- the most annoying, ladies saying; am too gud for him, he's not romAntic, and the likes(e.g the one ladyf posted above), and that's how they clock 40, 50, without boyfriend not to talk of husband. ![]() |
Re: "My Little Thought On HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!" by ladyF(f): 10:43pm On Aug 22, 2015 |
HDee: ![]() ![]() |
Re: "My Little Thought On HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!" by HDee(m): 11:14pm On Aug 22, 2015 |
ladyF: ![]() |
Re: "My Little Thought On HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!" by ladyF(f): 11:16pm On Aug 22, 2015 |
HDee:Lol I fear o ![]() |
Re: "My Little Thought On HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!" by ronald4lif(m): 11:36pm On Aug 22, 2015 |
Why will husband not scarce when the cost of marital rites in some tribes is frightening. There are cases where the total sum of funding this rights gulp about 500k or more. How many bachelors have such amount to waste ![]() |
Re: "My Little Thought On HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!" by Onyiibazz: 11:40pm On Aug 22, 2015 |
This Op na copy pose sha! Abeg put your 'sauce' jare because i don read this writeup somewhere before! |
Re: "My Little Thought On HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!" by Richy4(m): 11:41pm On Aug 22, 2015 |
There are female scarcity too. There are lots of girls turning 18 every day. Still, the good ones has been taken. |
Re: "My Little Thought On HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!" by Rexnegro(m): 11:48pm On Aug 22, 2015 |
I agree to a large extent cos due to the world population likewise in nigeria female are 2/3 of the population...so there's more scarcity of men to that of women. But notwithstanding when God direct you nomata The scarcity you did find ur own wife or hubby.... |
Re: "My Little Thought On HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!" by Jayjay0(m): 11:49pm On Aug 22, 2015 |
Tho i didnt read the write up sha... Let the ladies not be deceive by that cock and bull story because after having all the money in the world men will never take you serious and you start begging your driver or gateman to marry you. Peace!!! |
Re: "My Little Thought On HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!" by donholy28(m): 6:17am On Aug 23, 2015 |
Women out number men by close to a billion...if all men take 100 wives each there will still be single women but d thing is that women are desperate to marry while men dread marriage |
Re: "My Little Thought On HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!" by Situation001(m): 6:21am On Aug 23, 2015 |
as in |
Re: "My Little Thought On HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!" by Yongi99(m): 7:37am On Aug 23, 2015 |
Onyiibazz:i credited the original writer. |
Re: "My Little Thought On HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!" by nnachukz(m): 9:02am On Aug 23, 2015 |
![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() vizkiz:badoo. well she is married but she trick and stylishly beg the man to marry am. no need to remind her of this post in future. |
Re: "My Little Thought On HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!" by Jfrezzy(m): 9:38am On Aug 23, 2015 |
This paper work is excellent ,it just the fact and truth. When ladies start been realist about what Marriage is and what it should be...But still one has to think are they still those kind of ladies in Nigeria ,who want to be Known as Home builders,Future Builders . |
Re: "My Little Thought On HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!" by Jimdonnet(m): 10:32am On Aug 23, 2015 |
Please I need work.am in abule egba.i have only ssce.even if it's a menial work please guys. |
Re: "My Little Thought On HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!" by Vanpascore(m): 11:03am On Aug 23, 2015 |
Wat?? |
Re: "My Little Thought On HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!" by Yongi99(m): 12:28pm On Aug 23, 2015 |
Everybody today is looking for "ready- made". Nobody wants to struggle to be successful. The ladies will be setting standards for a husband as if the world is a husband factory. Without even accessing themselves to see if that kind of man deserves them. Being comfortable in your marriage is good, but are you ready to "struggle" with your husband to make a comfortable home. Some of our ladies today don't even want to hear that. They want to just walk into the home, relax, cross their legs and eat off the man's struggle. A man will appreciate that lady that stuck with him when he had nothing, when his account was zero, when they both had to soak garri to survive, when richer men came around she rufused them. My dear except that man is the one who supplies brimstone to hell, he will value you more than anything in his life. In the days of our mothers and grandmothers, men were not more than women. It's just that those days the women were ready to build a home with the man. But today we can hardly find that. Our ladies today are so full of themselves. Pride has taken all over them. The world is changing fast, values are fading, integrity is diminshing. MONEY is on everyone's mind, money is what the lady want to use guage their would be husband. And they even add "God fearing" to the list. Dear before God and yourself you know that, that one na just to make the list "complete". Even the men (or husbands-to-be) will take some blame, because they will want to struggle, and struggle, and struggle, until they now say they are ready to get married. Oh let me buy a car, oh let me build a house, Mister that virtuos and faithful woman is more valuable than those things. |
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