waley007:
Yes shes a good girl to the core,but these days she doesnt even respect me anymore

Then she's a torn wife material, quit the relationship

Hey, let that lady go and you're just her second option.

waley007:
Everytim i have problem with my girlfriend concerning her exes.she just wont let them go.we both love each other bt we ar in a distant relationship.she introduced me to her parent and my parent luv her too,moreso we plan to get married.
Anytime we have issues,she talks to her ex,somtime last year,i got her voice notes with one of her ex in another town and they were both romantic on phone,we fought over this and i forgave her,we had issues last week and i paid her a suprise visit bt to my dismay,she talked to another ex of hers for about 30mins the night before my visit and she also called him about 1hr before we met the second day,remember she didnt know i was coming,the guy kept calling her numba,i pressurised her to call her ex in my presense and end any conversation that may happen again but she refused.
Her family loves me and even her dad calls me,they see me as their inlaw,am thinking of quiting the relationship,what do i do..her exes has always bin our problem and yet she loves me.am just tired

hmmmm guy...u hav bin ansad al ready it isnt bin a wife material dat zz d issuezz...it zzz is she ready 2 settle down...frankingly speakin she isnt ready 2 settle down...she lavzz u!! Yes bt dr she isnt ready 2 say yes i do wit u...a woman dat cnt break d bond existin btw ha ex n ha...wen bin single wil certainly neva do dat even wen married...xo save ursf dat trouble 4 d future ooo

my guy forget pastor. if she refuses to stop communicating with her ex, i beg you run for your life. it would get worse. I dated a girl like that to the point the ex started insulting me on phone. Now she is always begging me but i have moved on already. God might be using this experience to warn you to stay clear.

i don't think u should break up with her yet...give her ultimatum to choose between her exs and u.

@OP
I wonder why people will see fire and still be asking can it burn.
Continue with this babe at your risk!
I think you should take a walk, that babe is not ready!
I read where you said pastor(s) said .................., but you are seeing !!!
I prefer people make such crucial decisions based on what the know, what the see and what they think.
Be a man, stop being a wimp and act decisively on what is.
A babe is continuously disrespecting your person and relationship and you are talking of going long term.
Do not come in a couple of years to post "my children are not mine"

On a lighter note
Since your babe is so into exes, break up with her, let her get a new guy, then you become her ex

waley007:
I agree with you cos i dont even believe in love anymore,how will i be so loyal to a woman and she would take me for granted..somtimes being a bad guy pays,av come to realise that girls lyk bad guys more

yea, very good bad guy

skyface00:
Bros she's not your girl, seems d so ex are broke, and u have enough 2 spend on her, she still have unfinished job with her ex, even if u ended up marrying her, just pray she never see d ex again, she will gladly bang him both left n right without any regret, u are just a ceremonial husband to be while the heart is somewhere else

Try and find out.... D so called Ex are broke

I so agree with u, u said it all. She's jst using him as a momentary company

Tomfrench:
yea, very good bad guy

LolZ

waley007:
We have been to different churches,and we av always bin told that we ar meant for each other..even when her mum went to pray,d pastor told her mum hes expecting our wedding invitation card,as well as my mum too,more than 3 pastors told my mum,i wanted to travel recently and went to a pastor to pray,witout mentioning her,d pastor talked about her and kept giving me assurances...but attimes i feel like maybe shes possess,because upon all dis i dont know why she wont let her ex go...i asked her to block al her ex on facebook but she felt so bad about it telling me she wants them to keep seeing how good shes doing in her relationship..what if i had not paid her a suprise visit,maybe she would av deleted all stuffs

In situations like this, you needn't consider spiritual compatibility. You might be spiritually compatible but not a must that u marry each other, especially when u guys are not physically and morally compatible . From your assertions, it seems the girl isn't ready or find it hard to comply. What you can't live with when married, reject it now if u dont want to be a divorcee at early marriage stage.

She is not your GF

You are her EX

My broda, i have been there b4. I was more patient and played the understanding guy, but at the end of the day, the inevitable happened-we separated!

Young man, that girl is just confused. I Have itnessed this before.
What you should do is to demand her loyalty.
Ok, I see that you've done that by asking her to call them in your presence. Which she refused.


Leave her. She is too immature and won't change even after marriage.

When you fight she will compare you to them and insult you by revealing her regret.

A girl who doesn't know how to have boundaries is not worth it.

trilobite:
Young man, that girl is just confused. I Have itnessed this before.
What you should do is to demand her loyalty.
Ok, I see that you've done that by asking her to call them in your presence. Which she refused.


Leave her. She is too immature and won't change even after marriage.

When you fight she will compare you to them and insult you by revealing her regret.

A girl who doesn't know how to have boundaries is not worth it.

YOU ARE SO ON POINT..LOVE IS NO SUFFERING

kk..

waley007:
Everytim i have problem with my girlfriend concerning her exes.she just wont let them go.we both love each other bt we ar in a distant relationship.she introduced me to her parent and my parent luv her too,moreso we plan to get married.
Anytime we have issues,she talks to her ex,somtime last year,i got her voice notes with one of her ex in another town and they were both romantic on phone,we fought over this and i forgave her,we had issues last week and i paid her a suprise visit bt to my dismay,she talked to another ex of hers for about 30mins the night before my visit and she also called him about 1hr before we met the second day,remember she didnt know i was coming,the guy kept calling her numba,i pressurised her to call her ex in my presense and end any conversation that may happen again but she refused.
Her family loves me and even her dad calls me,they see me as their inlaw,am thinking of quiting the relationship,what do i do..her exes has always bin our problem and yet she loves me.am just tired

this is just so unreasonable, nigga? abeg, do me one favour,











































send her parking.

waley007:
Everytim i have problem with my girlfriend concerning her exes.she just wont let them go.we both love each other bt we ar in a distant relationship.she introduced me to her parent and my parent luv her too,moreso we plan to get married.
Anytime we have issues,she talks to her ex,somtime last year,i got her voice notes with one of her ex in another town and they were both romantic on phone,we fought over this and i forgave her,we had issues last week and i paid her a suprise visit bt to my dismay,she talked to another ex of hers for about 30mins the night before my visit and she also called him about 1hr before we met the second day,remember she didnt know i was coming,the guy kept calling her numba,i pressurised her to call her ex in my presense and end any conversation that may happen again but she refused.
Her family loves me and even her dad calls me,they see me as their inlaw,am thinking of quiting the relationship,what do i do..her exes has always bin our problem and yet she loves me.am just tired

I know how that feels bruh. Broke up with my ex for abt 3 months now and she's dating someone else but she still doesn't wanna let me go despite d fact dat she initiated d brkup. So u see, women are just a set of confused breeds.

waley007:
Everytim i have problem with my girlfriend concerning her exes.she just wont let them go.we both love each other bt we ar in a distant relationship.she introduced me to her parent and my parent luv her too,moreso we plan to get married.
Anytime we have issues,she talks to her ex,somtime last year,i got her voice notes with one of her ex in another town and they were both romantic on phone,we fought over this and i forgave her,we had issues last week and i paid her a suprise visit bt to my dismay,she talked to another ex of hers for about 30mins the night before my visit and she also called him about 1hr before we met the second day,remember she didnt know i was coming,the guy kept calling her numba,i pressurised her to call her ex in my presense and end any conversation that may happen again but she refused.
Her family loves me and even her dad calls me,they see me as their inlaw,am thinking of quiting the relationship,what do i do..her exes has always bin our problem and yet she loves me.am just tired

Dey there. Keep thinking.

holocron:


Then be a man and stop whining! Next time you catch those calls, fly into a rage and smash that phone! Later give her another with a new sim card. Insist the offending numbers are never found found on the new phone. Any further infractions, walk away.

If for any reason you cant do this, then bear your burden like a man and be prepared for actual cuckolding in the future. Emotional infidelity in a woman can be worse and deadlier than its physical counterpart. Your innermost secrets, strengths and weaknesses will be exposed to strangers who are not your friends!

op,you may want to read this again.

Mr wale, you are seeing good advise and you are here wasting time. Keep deceiving yourself ok. She is definitely not open and honest with you. My very cheating ex had no problem uploading my pix on fb or watsapp or bbm or anywhere. She introduced me to everyone and yet was cheating before and after she did all these. I have seen ladies that takes a guy to her pastor, pastor prays for them and blesses their supposed love and idea to marry only for her to be engaged to another guy few days later.

You just don't wanna accept, you here defending her. Better make the right decision. We have all bastardized the word LOVE. A lady that loves you keeps going back to her ex, you caught her so many times and yet cant make a decision. Why did you no go back to your own ex. Better be careful, when you are married to her, if she does same, no nairalander will suffer the pain with you, neither will the pastor expecting your invitation card.

waley007:
We have been to different churches,and we av always bin told that we ar meant for each other..even when her mum went to pray,d pastor told her mum hes expecting our wedding invitation card,as well as my mum too,more than 3 pastors told my mum,i wanted to travel recently and went to a pastor to pray,witout mentioning her,d pastor talked about her and kept giving me assurances...but attimes i feel like maybe shes possess,because upon all dis i dont know why she wont let her ex go...i asked her to block al her ex on facebook but she felt so bad about it telling me she wants them to keep seeing how good shes doing in her relationship..what if i had not paid her a suprise visit,maybe she would av deleted all stuffs

waley007:
I believe shes taking me for granted because she knows i love her,and i know she loves me too..bt i just cant continue having issues with her exes..shes a wife material and everymans dream but am already tinking about quiting it..the funniest part is that shes so proud of me and would post my pictures on social media,all her friends know me bt shes making me a bit exhausted..av already call it quit bt she kept disturbing me,the problem is she still wouldnt change

i understand ur point bt marrying a gal dat cant do without her ex is dangerous 4 u bro

since you know the issue, what do you want to hear