Please advice a Friend
She got married 7years ago with a girl and a boy to show for it. It was the suggestion of my husband not to have kids again which I kindly oblige to. But after my last child I have had six abortion because he wouldn't want me to deliver the baby and now I am pregnant for the 7th time he still wants me to abort it. But I said no to him and he has threatened to throw me out of his house if I don't do as he had instructed. I think this is wrong and what do I do. Note that I will never abort this one. And also note that he had refused all forms of birth control I suggested to him. PLEASE I NEED UR ADVICE AS I AM SO CONFUSED.

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U have decided to keep it at all cost... what do u want us to do for u

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Oooooh nnnoooo!!!

This are the things that piss me off about men, they are selfish! What if u die? What if the baby will be ur helper in future?what if there's a complication?

And h doesn't buy the idea of contraceptives

He's mad!

He definitely wants to kill u

Am so pissed right nw

U have aborted councillor,chairman,governor,house,senator, and president DAT want to come and repair d remaining Nigeria (ki lo Ku)

I think it is consent not concept

God is great..some people are just too blessed while some are searching for such blessings...7 children am sure its the same child seriously trying to find its way into this world..Abeg let it come, it just might bring real good blessings

If this is true... Then d man must be related to devil himself. Beware.

Report him to his Pastor/Imam/native doctor, parents/friends and your doctor.

aigjoey:
Please advice a Friend
She got married 7years ago with a girl and a boy to show for it. It was the suggestion of my husband not to have kids again which I kindly oblige to. But after my last child I have had six abortion because he wouldn't want me to deliver the baby and now I am pregnant for the 7th time he still wants me to abort it. But I said no to him and he has threatened to throw me out of his house if I don't do as he had instructed. I think this is wrong and what do I do. Note that I will never abort this one. And also note that he had refused all forms of birth control I suggested to him. PLEASE I NEED UR ADVICE AS I AM SO CONFUSED.

Knowing how fertile you are, you should have insisted on contraception after the first d&c, making him understand you will never terminate again if he insists on no birth control.

Na wa for some men o!

aigjoey:
Please advice a Friend
She got married 7years ago with a girl and a boy to show for it. It was the suggestion of my husband not to have kids again which I kindly oblige to. But after my last child I have had six abortion because he wouldn't want me to deliver the baby and now I am pregnant for the 7th time he still wants me to abort it. But I said no to him and he has threatened to throw me out of his house if I don't do as he had instructed. I think this is wrong and what do I do. Note that I will never abort this one. And also note that he had refused all forms of birth control I suggested to him. PLEASE I NEED UR ADVICE AS I AM SO CONFUSED.

if you knew fully well that your husband didnt want any more kids then why didnt you start taking contraception?! you guys make no damn sense but i guess you will soon be OYO. good luck then!

Why dint you get family planning :s

aigjoey:
Please advice a Friend
She got married 7years ago with a girl and a boy to show for it. It was the suggestion of my husband not to have kids again which I kindly oblige to. But after my last child I have had six abortion because he wouldn't want me to deliver the baby and now I am pregnant for the 7th time he still wants me to abort it. But I said no to him and he has threatened to throw me out of his house if I don't do as he had instructed. I think this is wrong and what do I do. Note that I will never abort this one. And also note that he had refused all forms of birth control I suggested to him. PLEASE I NEED UR ADVICE AS I AM SO CONFUSED.

He refused birth control and yet doesn't want any more kids?

Where do people find these kinds of partners who have garri where their brains should be?
No thoughts for your well being whatsoever.

After you have this baby, You better go by yourself to your nearest family planning centre and get contraceptive shots or an IUD/ implant before you kill yourself with incessant abortions.


Pissed.

Madam you should have acted wisely before you begin to get pregnant every now and then. If your hubby has refused you birth control, you should have done one without his knowledge, remember your life and not his is at risk here. Well on the matter at hand, involve his family members and your own to interfere. Involve his friends and the family pastor.

You are a very irresponsible woman.
That you can abort a life six times is crazy. I have friends that have spent over 20 years praying for God to bless them.with just one. I have a friend in coma for 2 years from an op to enable her conceive. How can your husband tell you not to abort and not to take precautions. Those two are contradictory. You should have resolved it. Anyway I find this hard to believe because no man is that stupid. Unless he wanted to just kick you out or kill you.
The only advice I have for you is that you seek forgiveness from the giver of life.

How did you get to this point in your life? How did you get to love your husband more than you love yourself. You are an adult and should be able to make decisions that affect you. Yes, this is a decision about you because its not like the problem is that he wants more kids and you don't. The problem here is that you either use contraceptives or you have an abortion. This decision is entirely yours to make. If you die today while having an abortion, despite the fact that you were doing as he said, people will blame you and curse you and maybe even add that you were pregnant for someone else. The society we live in will not blame him because he is a man. They won't care if you did what you did because you were being a good wife. If you are strong enough to go ahead with this pregnancy against his instruction, I don't understand why you were not strong enough to get a contraceptive in the first place.

IamforGod:
Oooooh nnnoooo!!!

This are the things that piss me off about men, they are selfish! What if u die? What if the baby will be ur helper in future?what if there's a complication?

And h doesn't buy the idea of contraceptives

He's mad!

He definitely wants to kill u

Am so pissed right nw

He does not but takes delight in me aborting. Funny enough he has a doctor he takes me to. Could my husband be an occultist . my thought any way

olaafirst:
U have aborted councillor,chairman,governor,house,senator, and president DAT want to come and repair d remaining Nigeria (ki lo Ku)

You are absolutely right. If only God can forgive me.

Mariecakes:
God is great..some people are just too blessed while some are searching for such blessings...7 children am sure its the same child seriously trying to find its way into this world..Abeg let it come, it just might bring real good blessings

he does not see it that way . something is definitely wrong

Hmmmmmm

All hail the Good wife

Don't worry, your reward is waiting for you in the 'Good wives' Heaven'

Next

aigjoey:
He does not but takes delight in me aborting. Funny enough he has a doctor he takes me to. Could my husband be an occultist . my thought any way

My dear I am right behind you.

No more abortions pls, I beg u in God's name. Don't abort this one oooo. Pls it's dangerous. I understand the economy nw and all dat but he shud av thought Of it before rejecting contraceptives.

Btw,are u sure this man loves u? Cos I can't allow someone I love go through this ooo.

The more reason I get scared of marriage each day. May God help us.

babygirlfl:
How did you get to this point in your life? How did you get to love your husband more than you love yourself. You are an adult and should be able to make decisions that affect you. Yes, this is a decision about you because its not like the problem is that he wants more kids and you don't. The problem here is that you either use contraceptives or you have an abortion. This decision is entirely yours to make. If you die today while having an abortion, despite the fact that you were doing as he said, people will blame you and curse you and maybe even add that you were pregnant for someone else. The society we live in will not blame him because he is a man. They won't care if you did what you did because you were being a good wife. If you are strong enough to go ahead with this pregnancy against his instruction, I don't understand why you were not strong enough to get a contraceptive in the first place.

He wouldn't dear.. I may consider leaving the marriage. I think there is a motive to his behavior. He actually took me to the his doctor this last time for the baby to be aborted but I ran away.. To be candid with you I think my husband is a cultist.. am just thinking

IamforGod:



My dear I am right behind you.

No more abortions pls, I beg u in God's name. Don't abort this one oooo. Pls it's dangerous. I understand the economy nw and all dat but he shud av thought Of it before rejecting contraceptives.

Btw,are u sure this man loves u? Cos I can't allow someone I love go through this ooo.

The more reason I get scared of marriage each day. May God help us.

My dear don't be scared. its a beautiful experience just that mine turned out like this. At the moment he doesn't talk to me.

Hmmmmm no more killings please.

whatever your instincts tell you,the truth is not far from it.Op run oooo! I usually don't ask women to leave their marriage but abor...tion. ..6 ti....cheeeeeiiiii;umu Uwa bia oooo! !!!Don't type this thing again oooo.Go back to your people.6 ti....kai!!!Some people are really devils.

aigjoey:
He wouldn't dear.. I may consider leaving the marriage. I think there is a motive to his behavior. He actually took me to the his doctor this last time for the baby to be aborted but I ran away.. To be candid with you I think my husband is a cultist.. am just thinking

Why does your username have an 'm'

Hope this story ain't a tale.

cococandy:

Why does your username have an 'm'

Hope this story ain't a tale.

Definitely not a low tale... used a brother's registered account.. He is fully aware of it and advice me to bring the subject to this forum

aigjoey:
Definitely not a low tale... used a brother's registered account.. He is fully aware of it and advice me to bring the subject to this forum

Ok.

Well goodluck.

mutter:
You are a very irresponsible woman.
That you can abort a life six times is crazy. I have friends that have spent over 20 years praying for God to bless them.with just one. I have a friend in coma for 2 years from an op to enable her conceive. How can your husband tell you not to abort and not to take precautions. Those two are contradictory. You should have resolved it. Anyway I find this hard to believe because no man is that stupid. Unless he wanted to just kick you out or kill you.
The only advice I have for you is that you seek forgiveness from the giver of life.

You are beginning to churn out meaningless posts, life was better when you laid low.
It is very possible for her to be irresponsible yet impossible for any man to be stupid.

This is either a joke, a lie or you are crazy.

What do you mean by he refused all forms of birth control?

IamforGod:
Oooooh nnnoooo!!!

This are the things that piss me off about men, they are selfish! What if u die? What if the baby will be ur helper in future?what if there's a complication?

And h doesn't buy the idea of contraceptives

He's mad!

He definitely wants to kill u

Am so pissed right nw

Women also can be selfish.How can a woman marry a man that takes her through six abortions?Can't she think?Doesn't she have a brain?
I hope enlightenment and empowerment of women will keep growing so they can make the right decisions for themselves rather than just being a house furniture.