I'm a young bachelor, 30 years of age. I was accused by somebody i look up to, he said i was suffering from misplaced priorities, i was wondering if its true that I am suffering from it.
[/b]What did I do ?[b]
He said I should not have bought a car yet.
He advices I get a land and start developing it small small small.
[/b]my situation[b]
I am a young civil servant, working for the past two years now on a salary of 51k. My savings is 20k monthly.
I live in my family house, so i don't pay rent. Planning to move out when I want to marry.
I support with food money to the tune of 12k monthly.
I plan to marry in 15 months time sha.

Though I have always respected his opinion on life issues, I don't plan to sell that car ooo.. Its a toks 2.0 primera 1999.

So my peeps, wats your take on this matter??
Candid opinions plssssss....

Heed to advice Bro...


The guy/man is advising base on experience...



And experience them say na best teachers oooo!

The man is right, buying a car is good but not d right thing to do.

How much u wanna sell your job

asumo12:
Heed to advice Bro...


The guy/man is advising base on experience...



And experience them say na best teachers oooo!

Now that I already have it....can't
I make the land my next priority??

dulux07:
The man is right, buying a car is good but not d right thing to do.

What makes it wrong actually

Eyekandi:
How much u wanna sell your job

Sincerely, your question isn't relevant to the topic...thanks.

apexquest:

Now that I already have it....can't
I make the land my next priority??

Sure u should...

How much do you spend on the car monthly?

apexquest:

Sincerely, your question isn't relevant to the topic...thanks.

I know that, just fooling around. Sorry.

Wey lady F

@Apexquest
think outside the box and do what matters to YOU, because you are the only one who is going to live with the consequences. if you are fully happy with your purchase then dont let any fool out there tell you (or make you feel) otherwise.
live your life, be merry, enjoy what you got and have a big smile while cruising pass the haters waiting at the bus stop!

ladyF:
How much do you spend on the car monthly?

Fuel 3k weekly cos of long distance to work.
No major repairs for now except changing the alternator that failed, 3.5k, bought it cleans toks 4 months ago.

apexquest:

What makes it wrong actually

Dont know mayb u ve other means u mak money apart rm d 51k, cos if not d salary is low compared to responsibility n xpenses ahead of u.

D wedding xpense, n married life comes with its xpenses as well, at dat age, u shud b out of fam aos. Remember d car comes with its own expenses as well. I.e maintenance n fuel. D money u used in getin a car, could ve help lift a lot of financial burden, or get a lucrative asset e.g land or sometin that helps add to ur income.

This is jst my own view, u might b able to manage d situation, n it works out well for u, sometimez doin something good for ourselve brings hapines dan doin d right thing, cos we all liv once.

MRBrownJ:
@Apexquest
think outside the box and do what matters to YOU, because you are the only one who is going to live with the consequences. if you are fully happy with your purchase then dont let any fool out there tell you (or make you feel) otherwise.
live your life, be merry, enjoy what you got and have a big smile while cruising pass the haters waiting at the bus stop!

Mrbrown, your comment is funny.

apexquest:

Fuel 3k weekly cos of long distance to work.
No major repairs for now except changing the alternator that failed, 3.5k, bought it cleans toks 4 months ago.

I think its fair tho....Enjoy ur car. If he were in ur shoes he'll probably buy the car too.

You can think of buying a land and developing when it's convenient for you. You can't put ur money down for a land, then start managing. Just my own opinion sha...

You are truly suffering from misplaced priority, ok now that he has toss land priority your way, land is your next until another is tossed your way.
One would have thought you were saving to get your own accomodation, invest in any of the financial options open to have good savings for your marriage and marital life, to expand your income source with a business option or something but you saved to live perhaps bigger than the main owner of your accomodation, to buy a liability that you will be spending the rest of your tiny savings on.
You may not sell the car but you can consider using it for transportation on the side. Perhaps you should move to your own accomodation to have a feel of being responsible and learn prioritizing because you are still having similarities with one of 'em students that uses Iphone6 while their parents use nokia 3310.

you are doing the Right thing at the Wrong time bro...buying car isn't a big deal but maintaining it it's another serious issue to considered ,...

GHoJes:
You are truly suffering from misplaced priority, ok now that he has toss land priority your way, land is your next until another is tossed your way.
One would have thought you were saving to get your own accomodation, invest in any of the financial options open to have good savings for your marriage and marital life, to expand your income source with a business option or something but you saved to live perhaps bigger than the main owner of your accomodation, to buy a liability that you will be spending the rest of your tiny savings on.
You may not sell the car but you can consider using it for transportation on the side. Perhaps you should move to your own accomodation to have a feel of being responsible and learn prioritizing because you are still having similarities with one of 'em students that uses Iphone6 while their parents use nokia 3310.

Your advice is well noted sir, learnt something.

dulux07:

Dont know mayb u ve other means u mak money apart rm d 51k, cos if not d salary is low compared to responsibility n xpenses ahead of u.

D wedding xpense, n married life comes with its xpenses as well, at dat age, u shud b out of fam aos. Remember d car comes with its own expenses as well. I.e maintenance n fuel. D money u used in getin a car, could ve help lift a lot of financial burden, or get a lucrative asset e.g land or sometin that helps add to ur income.

This is jst my own view, u might b able to manage d situation, n it works out well for u, sometimez doin something good for ourselve brings hapines dan doin d right thing, cos we all liv once.

Yes sir, I do. Usually around 10 to 12k outside salary.
True talk sir, I use my annual savings to first raise chicken for Xmas every year before I use it. I am a graduate of agriculture.
Plan to move out of FAM Ouse in January.

apexquest:

Yes sir, I do. Usually around 10 to 12k outside salary.
True talk sir, I use my annual savings to first raise chicken for Xmas every year before I use it. I am a graduate of agriculture.
Plan to move out of FAM Ouse in January.

Nice one. Impressive.

Nigerians have a funny mentality....
Guy! You made the right choice joor! How much do you think a plot of land is?
Your salary is 50k per month, that's 600k per year.. Even if you use all of your salary to build house it will take you at least 6 years to build a modest house...
What is wrong with Nigerians and their archaic mentality of building house small small..
OP! A car is a necessity and the primera is a modest choice very soon you will marry, do they expect your pregnant wife to be entering molue and danfo..
This is the time to focus on your income stream and not building a house, you need multiple income streams. When you earn @ least 100k, you can then decide to start your small small business if you want..
Why don't you use the money from selling the chickens in December to breed more chicken for easter?

Coldplay007:
Nigerians have a funny mentality....
Guy! You made the right choice joor! How much do you think a plot of land is?
Your salary is 50k per month, that's 600k per year.. Even if you use all of your salary to build house it will take you at least 6 years to build a modest house...
What is wrong with Nigerians and their archaic mentality of building house small small..
OP! A car is a necessity and the primera is a modest choice very soon you will marry, do they expect your pregnant wife to be entering molue and danfo..
This is the time to focus on your income stream and not building a house, you need multiple income streams. When you earn @ least 100k, you can then decide to start your small small business if you want..
Why don't you use the money from selling the chickens in December to breed more chicken for easter?

Thank u my brother... All your point are well noted...actually thought I was alone, on such thoughts.

Coldplay007:
Nigerians have a funny mentality....
Guy! You made the right choice joor! How much do you think a plot of land is?
Your salary is 50k per month, that's 600k per year.. Even if you use all of your salary to build house it will take you at least 6 years to build a modest house...
What is wrong with Nigerians and their archaic mentality of building house small small..
OP! A car is a necessity and the primera is a modest choice very soon you will marry, do they expect your pregnant wife to be entering molue and danfo..
This is the time to focus on your income stream and not building a house, you need multiple income streams. When you earn @ least 100k, you can then decide to start your small small business if you want..
Why don't you use the money from selling the chickens in December to breed more chicken for easter?

My lady!U are right with d comment posted.From my experience,having a car is more important to building a house b4 marriage.Mobility is important in marriage,there are a lot of activities u n ur family will enjoy.To buy things will b easier.

GHoJes:
You are truly suffering from misplaced priority, ok now that he has toss land priority your way, land is your next until another is tossed your way.
One would have thought you were saving to get your own accomodation, invest in any of the financial options open to have good savings for your marriage and marital life, to expand your income source with a business option or something but you saved to live perhaps bigger than the main owner of your accomodation, to buy a liability that you will be spending the rest of your tiny savings on.
You may not sell the car but you can consider using it for transportation on the side. Perhaps you should move to your own accomodation to have a feel of being responsible and learn prioritizing because you are still having similarities with one of 'em students that uses Iphone6 while their parents use nokia 3310.

R u talking abt just building a house just 4 having a house sake or u take ur tyme n build what u desire.Everyone has his or her own opinion but car is important in marriage especially u n ur family going to church n mount a bike?Baba God!Answer my prayer ooooo.

Eyekandi:



I know that, just fooling around. Sorry.

Hmmmmmm

First time seen a nairalander reply politely without been rude

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op wat is misplaced priority

mrsmith11:



Hmmmmmm

First time seen a nairalander reply politely without been rude

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it was my bad

adedayourt:
op wat is misplaced priority

A dictionary would help sir, or better still , make Google is thy friend.

apexquest:

A dictionary would help sir, or better still , make Google is thy friend.

now u complicate issues here

which one be dictionary again nd wer google dey liv mke i go ask am

Eyekandi:


it was my bad

Atleast you admitted it and even apologise. A xter that is not common wit ppl around here.

Anyway,you look beautiful and I guess you got a beautiful heart as well

car is ok, ask those who hv to work at odd hrs eg doctors.Also its very handy for school runs esp as u wan marry so, mek God give una pickins. Then add more bussiness to pursue land and build as your hand reach b4 your marraige reach 10 yrs or less u shd be able to hv ur own house. na so my papa do o. what class were u when your father build the family house?