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Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by talltosyne: 7:35pm On Aug 29, 2015 |
Other mamas with d book, pls send to others. Thanks 1 Like |
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by stadora(f): 7:41pm On Aug 29, 2015 |
chinma414:I undstnd wr u re goin n ur fears, bt if I wil eva hv d mind 2 abandon ds baby, I wudnt hv carried it at d 1st place. I ws gvn an option of abortion frm onset, bt I refused, n dat has bn d source of my pain til 2day. bt I bliv my joy is almst near. I mentioned abt caterin 4 d expenses Cos dats d idea my madam gave me. bt she didn't tok abt rentin a house 4 me. I dnt hv any money of my own, Cos I jst graduated n finished service since last year n hvnt gtn a job yet or any oda means of income 4 nw. hv bn survivin tru ds woman dat took me in. thanks 4 ur concern n response. |
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by stadora(f): 7:48pm On Aug 29, 2015 |
Kimoni:Sory, I only explained d best way I can, am nt good wt words n expresin myself. dats y tins gt 2 ds stage b4 i had 2 come up 2 d house. that has bn my weekness. thanks 2 d mamas dat undstood n wr able 2 explain tins. I ve explained d issue of payin d nanny above, hope u undstnd. thanks 4 ur response n concern. |
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by stadora(f): 7:51pm On Aug 29, 2015 |
joilin:I hv frnds n family, bt can't relate ds issue wt dem 2 avoid insults n misjudgment |
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by stadora(f): 7:53pm On Aug 29, 2015 |
Apple19:Thanks 4 ur concern |
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by firsttymum(f): 8:08pm On Aug 29, 2015 |
Stadora How long will u hide d child? Note that u can't hide a child for long. And ur people will b more heart broken finding out u have a grown child. They will only insult or criticize u for a short while and that will b it. Ur family is ur best bet dear... Consider it... 3 Likes |
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by Beryl15: 8:09pm On Aug 29, 2015 |
Stadora dear, I understand where you're coming from. But support from family is very important at this point in time. If this lady can follow you to your parents place and help explain things to them, that way you won't have to face the alone cos You can't continue to hide forever. What happens when you give birth? How long can you hide the fact that you have a child? It's better to deal with it now and if you decided to let your pple know pray about it fervently and as God for positive and warm reception from them. There's nothing God cannot do. You'll be surprised. We would do as much as we can to help. |
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by stadora(f): 8:13pm On Aug 29, 2015 |
tatacherie:As 4 my family, my mother is no more n my father remaried, n was carried away by hs new wife. then I stayed wt my uncle wo Managed 2 c me tru d uni, bt since ds incidence, he showed no concern. his action n atitude ws d main reason I decided 2 kip ds preg 2 myself n left home. dnt want 2 tok 2 any of my relation again. |
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by zaynie(f): 8:27pm On Aug 29, 2015 |
Stadora, are your parents still alive? If yes, then they are your best bet. Go to them with humility and repentance. You are not too young to have child at least you are a graduate. Bear in mind that whatever humiliation and admonishings you will receive is till you get back in shape and get a job. Your mother's relative nko? Grandparents and sisters or female cousins are usually more sympathetic. 2nd option: do you know the family of the man who impregnated you? Then pack and go to his house at least till you get back on your feet. This journey you have embarked on will not be easy, even married ones dont find it easy. You will need help from a lot of ppl. You think pregnancy has barred you from a lot, wait till a living and breathing child arrives, then you will realise how many opportunities you have to forsake for the sake of this innocent, beautiful and totally dependent child. Toughen up......be prepared to face humiliations and judgement. If you are ashamed of facing your own people then how will you protect your child from their swift tongue and judgy eyes. No matter how bad it is, one day you will have to tell them. You cant hide it forever. Why not now rather than later. Make up your mind quickly, time is not on your side. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by seunkeji5(f): 8:38pm On Aug 29, 2015 |
stadora: hello, not trying to condemn you o, but you as a graduate should have look for teaching job in a less expensive state where you would have been able to get yourself an accommodation now and also have some cash. Anyway pls after giving birth, put urself together and look for job, so as to sustain yourself. May God see you through. |
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by Nobody: 8:38pm On Aug 29, 2015 |
stadora it is well with you.pls able mamas help us with ideas. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by proudmum11(f): 8:42pm On Aug 29, 2015 |
[quote author=beedam post=37448012]@ proudmum11....welcome to the thread! wishing you a stressfree 9 months. Thanks Snr Beedam |
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by stadora(f): 8:44pm On Aug 29, 2015 |
Beryl15:Am stayin wt my madam in kado estate, close 2 Life camp. |
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by tatacherie: 8:59pm On Aug 29, 2015 |
divinemandate:I eat black soup once in a while though n it comprises of d leaves u mentioned. U can register after ur 2nd missed period or u can decide to register ASAP.start taking ur prenatal vitamins immediately too.I take folic acid,n fersolate n vit c.pls go n register. |
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by Nobody: 9:03pm On Aug 29, 2015 |
if you can afford a selfcon in owerri,it would be cheaper for you and depending on how close it is to me,I can come and help you when you need it.without pay.if you agree,we can start searching for d apartment.Although d best thing to do is to get any family member or close friend involved in case of emergency. this is d time you need them most because this journey isn't an easy one.I wish you were financially independent because I don't think your madam will fulfill her promise for long. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by tatacherie: 9:07pm On Aug 29, 2015 |
@ stadora in as much as u need support financial,physical,n otherwise I think u still need to clear every mess now.Everyone is responsible for their actions.don't dodge d consequences face it and come out refined and stronger.u did d right tin by keeping ur baby.fight for him till d very end so dat issues won't arise wen his grown.The Lord will see u tru.like Zaynie said if u know ur baby fathers family locate them n see how it goes.I believe dey will look into ur case however if dey don't go back home cos d time is very short now.it would have been easier if u had started planing this from d beginning of d preg.if u tink u can cope alone den renting a mini apartment will b better even if its one room u will grow from there Other mamas pls help 2 Likes |
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by divinemandate: 9:17pm On Aug 29, 2015 |
@stadora honestly I wanted to jump nd pass ur issue since am just new here, but seriously I cldnt hold it. pls my dear d mistake hv been made , ds ur option is like embarking in another greater mistake.look at it critically nd logically 1. if u said ur madam will take care of d bills, dnt u think it might be a way she want to use to trick u out of her house 2. if she accomodates u all ds while y wouldn't she do so at ds critical time 3. she is like a stranger to u d/fore even if she meant taking care of d bills, what happen if she change her mind at d zero hour 4. I believe of all ur friends , relative, school nd course mate there must be somebody dt should be of help, just look well nd inwardly 5. what abt d future of d unborne child, dnt think of now think of tomoro, if u go ur waydn d child is nt protected my dear braek d secret now because of future if nt d shame nd hurt will be more painful in future on d job issue , is nt going to be easy as u see it because u need atleast 3_6 months rest bfore u talk of job, it depends sha. so u will depend on a stranger for those months? thnk abt it also, wt ds ur idea u will end up subjecting urself to slavery which will affect u nd ur child for life my dear gather enough momentum nd pray, dn tackle nd face whatever u might face at once highest d wind of d news will blow for a while after which It will become old story wish u d best. I pray God will nt forsake u in ds journey. 5 Likes |
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by divinemandate: 9:20pm On Aug 29, 2015 |
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Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by divinemandate: 9:34pm On Aug 29, 2015 |
tatacherie:thanks a lot,, 1 Like |
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by Apple19: 9:46pm On Aug 29, 2015 |
@stadora..... My sis, there's no amount of justifications for your hidding the precious gift. This madam of yours can just wake up one day and speak in other tongues, who then will you call to pay the nanny and take care of the baby? Anyways, God will lead you aright, cos sincerely, you can't take care of the child alone. @all, mamas PLS, what could be the cause of this recurrent stomach ache ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by lailo: 9:58pm On Aug 29, 2015 |
talltosyne:Hi dearie please kindly send an e copy of the book to lydiabalogun@gmail.com |
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by Jennifer89(f): 10:28pm On Aug 29, 2015 |
Stadora how do u think u can single handedly take care of a baby when you don't have the finance? do u think it's easy for someone to take u in with ur baby? u don't have a job or accommodation, u don't have a particular church u attend, and u dont want ur family members to see u. hmmm as other mamas suggested u have to contact your boyfriend's family or u don't know them? i wonder y u didn't get a teaching job immediately after service knowing your family background. It is well. The Lord will see u through. |
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by tyconcepts(f): 10:49pm On Aug 29, 2015 |
talltosyne: Gat it. Thanks a mill. |
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by Nobody: 10:51pm On Aug 29, 2015 |
stadora:There I was thinking you have a genuine problem not knowing its all about PRIDE and saving face! how can you run all the way to Abuja to stay with a complete stranger when you have family and friends at home in anambra?? You say you are q graduate yet your actions speaks of whom that lacks education and exposure! I commend you for keeping the baby despite the way you felt people will react, but my dear people will always talk! Your family may seem disappointed at you but they sure won't kill you!!! Please please please go home!!!!!!! Confide in your mum or sister or aunts someone must surely stand by you! Calling your baby a mistake is totally wrong, the only mistake here is you having unprotected intercourse with a man who won't or can't stand up to his responsibilities! You have a degree, that's an advantage, you can get a job when your baby is older and take care of him or her without being a liability to your family if that's what you are avoiding. Suck it up sister and go face your family now! You've carried this child all alone and by yourself which is not easy please don't deny yourself the care and pampering a new mum deserves by hiding away cuz of shame and the thought of what the world will say! F***k the world sister you are about to become a mummy and nothing beats that. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by Nobody: 11:01pm On Aug 29, 2015 |
divinemandate:congrats madam! And welcome to this lovely family! Me think uziza and scent leave is good for you don't know about utazi but as for the pepper soup stuff stay clear of any pepper soup made with uda! go register for your ante natal now I don't think anytime after a missed period is too early. Start taking folic acid asap! you can start on pregnacarw original it contains folic acid 400mcg. Happy bumping ![]() 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by livelystone(f): 11:46pm On Aug 29, 2015 |
I have d hard copy but I won't mind d e-copy too ![]() talltosyne: |
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by Debbiemma(f): 12:59am On Aug 30, 2015 |
@stadora since ur from anambra, u will understand this adage, NDI BE ANYI SIRI NA OSO CHUBA NWATA OGBA NAA IKWU NNE YA. meaning that when something is pursuing a child, he runs to his mother's people. I think that you should go to your mother's people, they will never chase you but rather, they will accept you and care for you. Please don't stay with a stranger, times are bad. Contact any of mother's family now I beg of you. 6 Likes |
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by modath(f): 1:02am On Aug 30, 2015 |
@stadora, 3. things.. 1. I respect you for going through with this pregnancy, it takes a lot of guts, i give you big props.. Then... 2.No one can help you when you are unwilling to help yourself, as @Chinwendym accurately surmised its pride that is the problem & not that you have no one... I will not advise you to move in with the person who impregnated you by force, it will never end well cos its crystal clear the guy/man wants zilch to do with you. Though it's a good idea idea to inform his relatives just for formality sake& establish a root for the baby if you really do want to keep this baby which is highly suspect, considering you are trying everything possible to make sure there is no link between your regular life&gestation period (running to abuja {big anonymous city where its easy to blend in}, staying with a stranger, girdling up to deflect probing eyes at that wedding are red herrings) which brings me to the 3rd & most important question 3..Do you plan on running away from your family, & friends forever ![]() 8 Likes |
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by divinemandate: 7:01am On Aug 30, 2015 |
Chinwendym:ok, thank u. I appreciate. |
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by divinemandate: 7:03am On Aug 30, 2015 |
talltosyne:amakadon14@gmail.com. thanks in advance. |
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by LegitDiva: 7:32am On Aug 30, 2015 |
talltosyne: Pls can u send it to chelseaumeh86@gmail.com Thanks in advance |
Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by abyyyyy: 7:44am On Aug 30, 2015 |
please I need the eBook too, send to divinegrace4abies@gmail.com. congrats to the newest mummies in the house, nerf I am waiting to hear ur birth story. |
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