Ah babe... Dnt dish d food oooooO... Me am single and searching,wen u guys are done devorsing, u can ask me out, ill #marryU
Ah babe... Dnt dish d food oooooO... Me am single and searching,wen u guys are done devorsing, u can ask me out, ill #marryU
Ah babe... Dnt dish d food oooooO... Me am single and searching,wen u guys are done devorsing, u can ask me out, ill #marryU

Joy1706:

Everyone can understand? But you did not understand instead u went on and on about how women should revere their husbands like Sarah did

are you teachable at all?

how old are you sef?

Sarah had a large home to manage because her husband was wealthy, but does it stop her from reverencing her husband? was her husband her first priority or not?

I ask again, how old are you?

/

Donariok:
I smell FP.
will modify wen it makes FP

wake up........ its on FP

so women ehn, wats d big deal der na.abeg dis one no b mata joor

Empero1:

The husband must be a wretched and control freak ... SMH

Calling a man wretched over what he does in his own house shows how stupidd you are.
Go and marry his wife and serve her ,since you hate being served.

Joy1706:
Please I will want to know the opinion of people.
My husband insists I dish his food. For instance, if I set the food on the table with plates and cutlery, he prefers I dish onto his plate, that it shows complete service.i think otherwise because I might be busy attending to other chores. This morning he almost left for work without taking breakfast and when i asked why he was leaving, he said the service was not complete. So I had to leave what I was doing to dish food for him.

What are your views on this?
*culled from facebook*

i wonder y junk like this is making FP? Ko kan aye now!! How does dis info affect people life? Soon u come to NL to tell us yur husband aid yu shuld use yur hand to open yur punna bfor he insert his joystick.....slowpoke

bukatyne:


@Bold:

The OP is not a power struggle... byvan painted a scenario perfectly...

The food is in front of the husband and the wife is busy... The husband still expects her to leave what she is doing and serve it

Where is the power struggle?

Why are people twisting it to suit their intentions?

People will twist it in a way that the woman will be at fault. It's simple. There is food in front of the man and he refused to serve himself instead waiting for the busy wife to come and serve the food. It is not if you can serve your husband or any other scenario people are making up. Nobody said they could not serve their husband.

SmartMugu:
I never thought this would ever be an issue to any woman. OP, how were u raised? Did your mom dish out food for your dad? If she did, did she lose anything in the process? If she didnt, how is it a big deal for you? It all depends on how you were raised. Most likely, people like you would prefer if he actually did the cooking for u.
My wife is American and she has done that for the past 10 years we've been together. How is it a big deal for a Nigerian woman where the culture still thrives?

In other words, if oyibos have no problem doing do it why SHOULD the Nigerian girls. I have no problem with your opinion but the comparison makes it look like "una no even be oyibo and una dey form" like they're better off or something. I might have interpreted wrong but...

Truth be told, some blacks will always be slaves to white men...

babygirlfl:


People will twist it in a way that the woman will be at fault. It's simple. There is food in front of the man and he refused to serve himself instead waiting for the busy wife to come and serve the food. It is not if you can serve your husband or any other scenario people are making up. Nobody said they could not serve their husband.

Na today?

The writer of that story is nothing but a Slave to her Husband..Hianaa..Dish food wey don dey already in front of you?And see the responses of her fellow women.Chai..Women are their own problem..The day i hear say my GF has more Female friends,na that day i go start to dey fear her..Rubbish

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Men are not babies.
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My dear, men are big babies.
But wait o...how is this an issue sef, op? Ofcos you are to dish ur husband's food.
Maybe you can make it easy on yourself by serving his food straight from the pot to his plate when he is ready to eat

The woman should divorce the man if she finds it difficult serving. There is no big deal here.
Someone else will serve the oga.

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thats also an option.

CSTR2:
Calling a man wretched over what he does in his own house shows how stupidd you are.
Go and marry his wife and serve her ,since you hate being served.

Thunder fire you there . It's only a fool like you and your ilks that demands servitude from women and men alike instead of living morally to earn their loyalty . Slowpoke ! Never you dare quote me again because your father in his right sense will not dare me least of you ... idiot .

Donariok:
I smell FP. will modify wen it makes FP

OYA come and do.

Adaeze003:


Oh my goodness!!! This comment literally made my day. Couldn't have said it any better.

I hope it does just as it did for her.....

MarvellousGod:
He's not only being immature, he's being very very silly. .. rejecting your wife's food cos of a petty issue? What will now happen if the food isn't cooked well? Pour it on her? I suspect he has another place he goes to eat and just uses this as an excuse. ..

My dear, this is marriage. Some things are supposed to be overlooked. . Do you think the marriage will survive if the woman picks on small stuffs the husband does? How do they handle bigger issues if they see this as a problem? The woman has cooked the food (definitely alone), she has served also, to dish out is the only problem. Maybe she should also feed the man after dishing out.. so laughable, ... The man does it even when the woman is busy with other things. . As I said hunger never catch am or he doesn't enjoy the wife's food hence giving unreasonable excuses. ...

In HIS own house abi? Where's the woman's house? Maybe the corridor? .. this is what spoils marriage, selfishness, instead of doing things as "ours", you do as 'mine'

I may advice the woman to start doing as the husband wishes to avoid irreparable problems but that doesn't make the man's whining reasonable. ....

immature or whatever you call it, that's not your business.
He didn't just start it. She knew that about him before marrying him, so there is no need to complain now.

The fact she even brought it up makes her immature, This is her husband and not anybody else. This is her friend, her sweetheart, her lover, if she doesn't serve him always, who else will she serve?

There are men that are trained in a particular way, the woman has known this about him, why is she complaining? She even came to the social media to talk about. what does she want to hear?

Did she tell us the ones she does? her own excesses? her own tantrums? her own nagging?
The fact is that this issue is too infinitesimal. Its not even an issue.

babygirlfl:
Did I read it right? Are we talking about Oga dishing food that is in front of him?

It seems the wife is a housewife. I don't see the man asking the wife to dish food that is already served if she too was getting ready for work at the same time. It does not make Oga right but at least he will have an excuse.

From the fb replies, it is clear most women don't pamper their husband because they love and adore him but because they are scared another woman will take their place. Yet the said men still jump from one woman to another claiming men are polygamous. Just how these women live their life like that beats me. So sad.

Again, thread softly. Let's try all we can to prevent things going south in our relationships and stuff. If it means being a 'mumu' to keep you and yours together, by all means be that mumu. At the end of the day, when the S@it hits the fan, those admonishing you to 'fight' for your right (and they are right mostly) may not be there to partake in the dance of death.

I've come to understand that being practical is one of the ways to forge ahead in life and end up succeeding where others fail. It doesn't mean accepting all you see and being passive, it denotes being wise enough to read the situation and adapt as it deems fit.

The compromise must be there. For instance, a man's body language may inform an attitude that cries out saying-"I demand total servitude from you", a stance that is out-rightly wrong. But if you fight out-rightly with the whole I-am-your-partner-not-a-slave philosophy, it may not work as practically nearly every man will reject this stance.

So being wise, you will take a compromising stance to get your way. Men are just overgrown babies ALWAYS crying for their toys and attention. Give it to them and like I said before, you've got a full blown zombie to command at will but, remember to use with care as that zombie may become a flesh-eater someday, a not so god development.

In a nutshell, in the never ending battle of the sexes, the woman may never come on top as the world has being configured that way . Skewed it may be setup wise and sad to say, but that's just the way it is. Pick your fights carefully, for your own peace, happiness and sanity sake.

CSTR2:
The woman should divorce the man if she finds it difficult serving. There is no big deal here.
Someone else will serve the oga.

abi oooh.
The woman will also find a man who doesn't mind dishing his own food that is in front of him.

life is easy

Most of the replies here are funny...imagine calling a wifr slave because she serves her husband. Biko, how many of you are married sef? Or even of marriagable age?

Adaeze003:
Even my father as old and as traditional as he is takes a dishing spoon, scoops his meal into his plate and eats it.

Chai! I think the problem is from his upbringing. He's either a brat or he's just looking for a way to be the grinch(thief of joy).

Serve him to avoid trouble. By trouble I don't mean cheating coz he who wants to cheat will cheat even if you are his slave. Trouble here refers to unhappiness and friction between the two of you.

Try to talk him into dishing his own food in a kind way. Attacking him will not work.

....My dear how do you 'try and talk' to a supposed adult to dish his food placed right in front of him instead of quarreling like a shrew and sulking like he apparantly loves to do.Is he a toddler?the man is sick upstairs and is tired of that marriage,trust me..

..And the woman too is a case,why she wont simply dish his own portion of food on his prefered plate,cover and place it in front and then proceeds to do other things beats me..if she is smart she should cut out any elaborate setting of table or whatever and just dish his portion straight from the pot into his plate from the get-go.

Jahblessme:
Everyone's home is different.
If a woman feels like its just not her cup of tea to dish out food,it's who she is.Does that make her a bad person?NO.Does that make her home less happy than yours? No.
If the man grew up in a home where his mother dished the food and gazed adoringly at her husband while he ate every morsel,it's understandable that he'd expect to see the same replicated in his home.
If 2 people like this jam whats the solution? They must meet mid way or resentment will build up.
I'd be offended if i'm told 'I wont eat because service is not complete'..wtf? Some other person would laugh it off.I'm not also one to be bothered if food is rejected...I grew up seeing my dad doing this very often so i became immune to it so if i was the wife in this situation declining to eat would be wasted on me.
In our home we eat together most times,sometimes he dishes for me sometimes i dish for him..Depends on what's happening.I may just not be in the mood to fix anything and he takes over.Does it make his blokos shrivel?NO.Does it make me grow a blokos?NO.Point is we are serving each other happily.

Forcing someone to do something makes the person more resistant and resentful.We shouldn't force our expectations on others.That your father or ancestor did it doesn't mean your partner will want to do it.Happiness of a home is dependent on compromise and every member feeling included.
The fact that someone may view this as a form of slavery is up to that person affected,after all everyone comes from a different place and from different standards.If Ms A feels she's too busy to dish food or sit around chatting,i don't know her situation so cannot judge. However,meal times are a good time for a family to bond. If she feels she has to provide 'service' by forcefully dishing the food and waiting on him hand and food while he eats,its easy to see how she won't want to spend extra time in his company.. If such an act does not come from a loving place,its useless.

I grew up watching my dad served hand and foot in this kind of manner,it was a chore to my mother. Ofcourse I resented such an act and knew I wouldn't be forced into doing such a thing.However,I went and married a man who is so chilled and didn't make a big deal of serve me and watch me eat.It just flowed for us cos I know he'd do same for me and the kids without batting an eyelid.

Different strokes different folks.If a man lovingly leads by example,or kindly shows what he likes, his wife will turn into certified mugu for him.
Simple as ABC

Intelligent piece as usual.

Joy1706:

As a christian, the leader is meant to serve

Bringing chistianity into this argument make its ridiculous.
Husband means Master.
Sarah called her husband master.
A christian woman should have no problem serving her husband.
That is her God given role as a wife.

raayah:


Well, if my husband acted this way towards me, I would seriously consider a divorce. Refusing to eat my food two times in a row because of complete service does not make sense.

congratulations and clap for yourself..... the great home builder...

divorce is so easy to spew on NL....

Reading through comments mostly from the females, it is of little surprise why marriages don't last any longer these days.

ElDeeVee:

I disagree with you on this. Calling a man immature because he wants his food dished in HIS own house is such a bad comment IMO.

Don't mind girls of nowadays, During parents time, e.g our mother there is nothing like dishing out food after the food is prepared they put it in the bowl or plate and kneel down before the husband to serve him his meals. But women of this age copy western world, that's y we have so many troubles in marriages.

Joy1706:
Please I will want to know the opinion of people.
My husband insists I dish his food. For instance, if I set the food on the table with plates and cutlery, he prefers I dish onto his plate, that it shows complete service.i think otherwise because I might be busy attending to other chores. This morning he almost left for work without taking breakfast and when i asked why he was leaving, he said the service was not complete. So I had to leave what I was doing to dish food for him.

What are your views on this?
*culled from facebook*

As a woman your husband's stomach is your first point of call and the password to his heart. Serving his food on the dining is not enough and can also be done by anybody. But not everybody, man or woman has the right to dish the food for him to eat. In fact in my own opinion, you should be happy and count yourself lucky to have a man like him as your husband. It shows how careful and discipline he is when it comes to things that are exclusive rights and obligations of a wife to a husband.

Woman he is very right insisting you dish out the food for him to eat. Are you aware that some men do not eat without their wives either eating with them or sitting by them in the dining? Some also do not give a damn about it. I do not think this should be a thing of choice or a cumbersome task for any woman who values togetherness, my opinion anyway.

MarvellousGod:
He's not only being immature, he's being very very silly. .. rejecting your wife's food cos of a petty issue? What will now happen if the food isn't cooked well? Pour it on her? I suspect he has another place he goes to eat and just uses this as an excuse. ..

My dear, this is marriage. Some things are supposed to be overlooked. . Do you think the marriage will survive if the woman picks on small stuffs the husband does? How do they handle bigger issues if they see this as a problem? The woman has cooked the food (definitely alone), she has served also, to dish out is the only problem. Maybe she should also feed the man after dishing out.. so laughable, ... The man does it even when the woman is busy with other things. . As I said hunger never catch am or he doesn't enjoy the wife's food hence giving unreasonable excuses. ...

In HIS own house abi? Where's the woman's house? Maybe the corridor? .. this is what spoils marriage, selfishness, instead of doing things as "ours", you do as 'mine'

I may advice the woman to start doing as the husband wishes to avoid irreparable problems but that doesn't make the man's whining reasonable. ....

Even as a man, I could not disagree with any of the points you raised. The man is not making it easy for the woman. With such pettiness, I fear the woman may just be 'tolerating' the marriage and not 'enjoying' it.

raayah:


abi oooh.
The woman will also find a man who doesn't mind dishing his own food that is in front of him.

life is easy

and let's see who hurts the most eventually.....

Had this incident with someone. Told me to serve him food. Walahi he's too afraid to ask me again.

@all the desperate girls/wives tweeting "serve him", at the end of the day, if he wants to divorce you, he will.

Empero1:


Thunder fire you there . It's only a fool like you and your ilks that demands servitude from women and men alike instead of living morally to earn their loyalty . Slowpoke ! Never you dare quote me again because your father in his right sense will not dare me least of you ... idiot .

You are a nitwit.
I have no problem with the woman finding it hard to serve her husband. That is her own business as long as she can live with the consequences.
But you calling a Man ''wretched'' because he wants his own wife to serve him food that he most likely provided with his own money is a very stupidd thing.
Grow up son/ daughter.