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Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by dominusgai(m): 10:02pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
SonOfEl: read ur bible well, sarah never even served abraham food, he had servants to do that for him(gen 18:7) . verse 8 shows us he even prepared the milk and butter himself. Also, he treated sarah like a queen, banishing Ishmeal for her sake. A man that says e will not eat because his wife did not dish the food b4 him is an inconsiderate idiot that does not hold his wife in esteem. But i dont blame him, i blame his father for teaching him rubbish. If a simple thing like dis will make a man look out, then his wife is walking on eggshell and as a man who saw is mother on eggshells i wud not wish that on any woman. Those kind of men would insist their wives cook 4 dem even wen they see she is hot with fever. God forbid. If dat kind man near my daughter na pump action i go take pursue am. And if a man's criteria for measuring honor is his wife dishing food in front of him, he has low self esteem and should get a new measurement criteria 6 Likes |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Kimoni: 10:03pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
naijababe: Naijababe 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Gloryblossom(f): 10:04pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
My Advice for u is to kindly follow up ur man in prayers,there might be forces out there fightin ur hapiness.table ur case to God almighty who joined. Both 2geda,don't give room to foolish advices ur knees n tongue in prayer can go along way.God bless ur home |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Johnrake69: 10:05pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
Joy1706: Pardon, whats your point? She rarely sees me, I visit my her once a year. Anything she does its out of love and thats the essence. Sorry to say, buh with your current state of mind it will be difficult for a man to stay with you. You need to be schooled on how to keep a man happy. Its not sex, Which of course a man can always get anywhere. Its little things like this that will keep a man. And point of correction am not a spoilt brat. Peace |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Deehvahrzz(f): 10:08pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
My one kobo to this drama. If anyone has ever taught you bending to your husband's every will would keep him from straying, that is d biggest lie of the century. Whether you serve his food with a golden spoon or not, stand at attention when he's eating or be slow dancing ND stripping so you can enlarge his throat or be pouring oil as he swallows to help d food travel down with ease or hold a napkin ND clean after every spoonful, if he will look for someone who doesn't fuss over him, he will. All this traditional expectations have never kept a man. Like our brothers no sisters in the Lord will say, "Back in our mother's time", Am sure we all know their husbands were still serial cheaters ND those that didn't cheat didn't just cheat. Let's us stop deluding ourselves to believe a wife who is perfect ND jumps to her husband's every wish will stop him from seeing amaka or sidikat or awele or ekaette or hauwa either outside or even in the house. If he has enough man in him to keep it in the pants, he will. Men who take offense at silly issues like this have to stop being silly, overgrown babies and should learn to serve nd feed themselves. Your wife is human.. Treat her with a little respect. It's just reciprocal. You can't expect her to treat you like her dad while you treat her less than a slave. If she cooks, then it's fair that you serve it ND eat ND say thank you. Even servants that owe you money deserve that much. Not to say a woman you promised to love, cherish and care for. As your mum still serve your food, remember her mum probably still serves hers too. When you marry as a sane person who actually has a functioning brain, and for all the right reasons too, you won't make this an issue. Women, let's train our boys to have plenty sense and learn to respect and appreciate. Not just to nag and moan over petty issues like a girl on PMS.. 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Nobody: 10:09pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
Deehvahrzz: According to the OP, the husband requested complete service. Is that too much for a man to ask for from his wife? |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Nobody: 10:09pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
Joy1706:SIT DOWN THERE NA. |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Nobody: 10:10pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
Joy1706:love does not mean you should not submit to your husband.... you just being arrogant. It takes nothing to dish the food. |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Deehvahrzz(f): 10:12pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
dominusgai: Honey, I blame his mother... She should have taught him how she would have loved to be treated. No disrespect meant to anyone at all.... 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Nobody: 10:15pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
Spybradd: lol |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Nobody: 10:16pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
Joy1706: Not meant to. Just for wisdom receptive peeps to learn from. |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Nobody: 10:17pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
Joy1706:YOU READ BIBLE TO SUIT YOUR SELFISHNESS. 1.ABRAHAM LISTEN TO HIS WIFE AND LOOK WHAT HAPPEN ( BLOODY MULISM) 2. ADAM LISTEN TO HIS WIFE AND LOOK WHAT HAPPEN ( SHAME AND DEATH) 3. SOLOMON LISTEN TO HIS WIFE AND LOOK WHAT HAPPEN (BLOODY IDOLS) SO DON'T USE YOUR MOUTH TO SPILL RUBBISH |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Nobody: 10:17pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
Joy1706:YOU READ BIBLE TO SUIT YOUR SELFISHNESS. 1.ABRAHAM LISTEN TO HIS WIFE AND LOOK WHAT HAPPEN ( BLOODY MULISM) 2. ADAM LISTEN TO HIS WIFE AND LOOK WHAT HAPPEN ( SHAME AND DEATH) 3. SOLOMON LISTEN TO HIS WIVES AND LOOK WHAT HAPPEN (BLOODY IDOLS) SO DON'T USE YOUR MOUTH TO SPILL RUBBISH 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by CSTR2: 10:19pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
Joy1706:Now you are taking it somewhere else. Many of you quote the bible during arguments like this, which was why i gave you the authentic position of the Bible. Nobody can force you to do what God says. |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by vankunlex001(m): 10:20pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
some people just dey carry family matter here. You ursekg gas know.d.right thing na
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Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Nobody: 10:20pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
You are one in a million. sinizia: 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Deehvahrzz(f): 10:21pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
Timbuktou: Did you marry for wife so she can service you? Is she a service provider? It's not fair to treat her like she's a piece of furniture or a thing you own ND can give orders too. To have a happy and habitable home is a two way thing. You need mutual respect. That is trampling all over your wife's sense of human ND self respect. Everywoman deserves to be treated as a queen as much as the men deserve the kingship treatment. If you have not treated her as such, don't expect so much from her. If she will kneel ND serve you, you must have done something equally deserving and not just putting money down now. That already qualifies you for the meal. You get what you give. If a man starts screaming "give me some respect, I am a man" it makes you wonder Is he really a man? You don't ask to be treated in a way or with respect. Honey, you earn it!!!!! Being a husband doesn't just open that door, you have to get the key and turn it. Respect her ND she will blow your mind 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by kpaofame: 10:28pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
indomie and jet age children see issue wen b problem for marriage ooo.... You fit cook the food to dish am naim b d big Palava..... As ur Bossman.....i mean husband like am do am else' Between d guy is old school....He just cant understand say the wife nor get him tym.... Babyman.... Though my Future wife dare not dump food for dinning go busy her life unto sumtin else chai... i enjoy eating wit my folk or make she just dey there....else wahala wa oo |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Kimoni: 10:34pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
menxer: I have learnt another one today ooo You neva chi chong chin |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by therapistmrs: 10:35pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
ma, try to do anything to please your man and keep your home. there's no big deal in dishing your husband's meal.all the best therapistmrs..com |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by byvan03: 10:38pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
adesbreath: The post was direct and simple for anyone that chose to read and comprehend it for what it is. You brought your what ifs dimensions which is of no relevance to my original post. My post talks of what is, not what ifs. |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by SonOfEl(m): 10:39pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
dominusgai: who said Sarah never served her husband food ever in their marriage? stop being legalistic with the bible. one who calls her husband, my lord, never served him food in their marriage? guy you are immature in analysing events and history. stop assuming out of context. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Nobody: 10:41pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
Na wa o! Didn't know another name for marriage is perpetual slavery. A man who wants to cheat will cheat even if you lick his ass after he poos! 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by SonOfEl(m): 10:45pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
Deehvahrzz: your trash only ends in NL..... selfish feminist.....I wish you the best though.... |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by SonOfEl(m): 10:47pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
peppyluv02: and a woman that wants to cheat will cheat too, even if you give her your ATM card.... |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Nobody: 10:49pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
Not every woman needs a man's ATM card. He should come and collect mine. SonOfEl: 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Kimoni: 10:50pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
lionphil: May you live long Oga. I might as well not cook the damn food at all and tell him to go to the kitchen himself...why sweat for 1hr cooking the food, then come to NL to whine about an extra service that will take just 2 mins?? I can't even reconcile where the issue is exactly. Fish brains indeed 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by SonOfEl(m): 10:51pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
peppyluv02: empty brag of the week. |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by kpaofame: 10:52pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
dominusgai: na how u dey read ur bible Father Abraham is a humble person....he did not serve himself he served the three angels in d passage u quoted...Sarah was asked to prepared cake ooo... while Abraham prepared d calf..... The most important issue in this whole matter of husband n wife is d attitude in which dey portray these.... With time Genuine Servitude in some situation makes u incharge of it. ..how else wil u explain this Whoever wants to be a leader among you must be your servant , end of story...Dish the food or spoon feed him if there is no love all is nothing.... A husband can cook for himself by himself and you still not have joy n peace in that home.... Baba ehen help me n my siblings wit lovely home oo make how matter nor be social media morning dew... |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Nobody: 10:53pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
Deehvahrzz: 1. I think I deserve to be properly serviced by my wife. That's one reason why I'd marry. And I assume any sane woman would want a man who could service her. 2. She better be. I am. 3. Who's talking about treating anybody like furniture here? Stop projecting. Making a request isn't the same as treating someone like furniture. 4. Of course, I agree. 5. Asking someone to do something properly is disrespectful? How about being not properly served, isn't that disrespectful? 6. I agree. 7. If she hasn't treated me as such, she shouldn't expect such from me. Maybe where I come from, proper meal service is regarded as treating the husband like a king. Did that occur to you? Of course, not. The queen's needs must come first. 8. Therefore, I'm purchasing her respect with my performance, right? So, who's the arbiter on how much performance purchases what level of respect? I am so curious to find out. 9. She gets what she gives. Duh. 10. Any man screaming "give me respect" is a psycho and is married to a psycho woman. Because a normal woman would have the sense to respect her husband, or divorce him if she cannot or not even marry a man who deems unworthy of her respect in the first place. The woman is probably madder. 11. I'm glad you say this. So, please, stop asking for respect for this woman and stop telling her to ask for it 12. Apparently, this woman hasn't earned respect. Has she? 13. Maybe if she respected him, he would be blowing her mind right now. Did that ever occur to you? Unless of course, different rules apply to husbands and wives. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Nobody: 11:00pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
Why are you pained? Are you the op's husband or what? I no be Julius begger like your girlfriend. SonOfEl: 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Joy1706(f): 11:00pm On Sep 02, 2015 |
Johnrake69:As long as he's also schooling himself on how to keep me happy. 2 make a marriage ba? Both deserve to be kept happy, yes? 1 Like |
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