Recently , I saw a man trying to get the attention of a young lady but to my suprise his friend told him " Bode , take it easy o you know you just got married last saturday ." and he smiled , so fast ; someone who got married has started chasing skirts all around , its barely a week he got married o .

I begin to wonder , Why Cant Marriage Vows Stop People From Cheating ? Is Marriage Vows Just For Fun ? I still dont understand cos have attend some weddings and I know how emotional that moment when couples exchange vows can be . Why do they quickly forget ?

Am curious ...

Marriage sef....

Na wa o

Maybe they see it as mere formality

They went to church to lie to God, the spouse and the congregation

Jozzy4:
Recently , I saw a man trying to get the attention of a young lady but to my suprise his friend told him " Bode , take it easy o you know you just got married last saturday ." and he smiled , so fast ; someone who got married has started chasing skirts all around , its barely a week he got married o .

I begin to wonder , Why Cant Marriage Vows Stop People From Cheating ? Is Marriage Vows Just For Fun ? I still dont understand cos have attend some weddings and I know how emotional that moment when couples exchange vows can be . Why do they quickly forget ?

Am curious ...

When you also get married you will understand! Be patient! Lolz

They take it for granted because God is slow to anger. ..

had it been when you go against the vow intentionally, God gives you a heavy maddening knock from heaven instantly , you'll see people keeping their vows diligently and marriage would have been a more serious institution. ....

God help us. ...

Mostly men of course. Just don't mind them their own case na spiritual something.....

Because marriage vows are for RELIGIOUS HYPOCRITES AND DUMMIES!!!!!

Dear don't worry, you'll see the big picture when you get married.


That time, you'll tell us why

At this point, it has become inevitable

ArchEnemy:
Maybe they see it as mere formality
They went to church to lie to God, the spouse and the congregation

Hmm , This is serious !

Jozzy4:
Recently , I saw a man trying to get the attention of a young lady but to my suprise his friend told him " Bode , take it easy o you know you just got married last saturday ." and he smiled , so fast ; someone who got married has started chasing skirts all around , its barely a week he got married o .

I begin to wonder , Why Cant Marriage Vows Stop People From Cheating ? Is Marriage Vows Just For Fun ? I still dont understand cos have attend some weddings and I know how emotional that moment when couples exchange vows can be . Why do they quickly forget ?

Am curious ...

Because nothing can stop a man or woman hell bent on going astray. You know that proverb our people say, a dog that wants to get lost stops hearing his master's whistle. Being faithful in marriage requires you to exercise self control, no one will exercise it for you. Marriage vows are simply a public statement of your intention to exercise self restraint but if in your heart you know you were just lying to the world then who will help you?

hmm

LordReed:


Because nothing can stop a man or woman hell bent on going astray. You know that proverb our people say, a dog that wants to get lost stops hearing his master's whistle. Being faithful in marriage requires you to exercise self control, no one will exercise it for you. Marriage vows are simply a public statement of your intention to exercise self restraint but if in your heart you know you were just lying to the world then who will help you?

If it is so difficult and needs so much self-control and self-restraint, why get married at all? Where is the fun in all of this?
Do people get married in order to constrain themselves?

Mindfulness:



If it is so difficult and needs so much self-control and self-restraint, why get married at all? Where is the fun in all of this?
Do people get married in order to constrain themselves?

LoL! If you go to a club and they tell you not to enter with slippers, will that be a constraint to your fun?

LordReed:


LoL! If you go to a club and they tell you not to enter with slippers, will that be a constraint to your fun?

First of all, do I feel like going to a club wearing slippers?
Secondly, what are my alternatives? Are there any?

Mindfulness:


First of all, do I feel like going to a club wearing slippers?
Secondly, what are my alternatives? Are there any?

So you agree with the constraint of not wearing slippers to a club but suddenly feel the constraints of marriage are a barrier to fun?

LordReed:


So you agree with the constraint of not wearing slippers to a club but suddenly feel the constraints of marriage are a barrier to fun?

Is it about me?
It is about your post which claims that people need a lot of self-control to stay faithful in marriage.
If staying faithful can be compared to wearing or not wearing slippers to a club what is the self-control for?

Mindfulness:


Is it about me?
It is about your post which claims that people need a lot of self-control to stay faithful in marriage.
If staying faithful can be compared to wearing or not wearing slippers to a club what is the self-control for?

LoL, it's not a claim it's a FACT. Marriage is not a magical pact that immediately grants you power to resist sexual temptations just as your intention to go to a club will not magically grant you entry.

LordReed:


LoL, it's not a claim it's a FACT. Marriage is not a magical pact that immediately grants you power to resist sexual temptations just as your intention to go to a club will not magically grant you entry.

You still make it look like it is extremely hard to stay faithful.

Mindfulness:


You still make it look like it is extremely hard to stay faithful.

People get a bit self defensive when they hear the words self control, discipline, restraint, etc. However these are things we must do if we must carry on as humans and civilized ones at that. Everyday you express these things to all sorts of degree, marriage is not any different. Just as you don't go around slapping every person who annoys you, same way you should not go around sleeping with every person who catches your fancy. These things are as hard/easy as you take them to be.

LordReed:


People get a bit self defensive when they hear the words self control, discipline, restraint, etc. However these are things we must do if we must carry on as humans and civilized ones at that. Everyday you express these things to all sorts of degree, marriage is not any different. Just as you don't go around slapping every person who annoys you, same way you should not go around sleeping with every person who catches your fancy. These things are as hard/easy as you take them to be.

If I decide to enter a monogamous relationship then I do it because I feel like doing it and because it is fun and feels good.
If it takes effort and self-control to stay faithful to my partner, then it is the wrong relationship.

KanwuliaJara:
Because marriage vows are for RELIGIOUS HYPOCRITES AND DUMMIES!!!!!

vows are sacred covenant you make in the presence of God and man which God will hold you accountable for on judgement day by the way where are you stepping out going to?you're becoming very hot this days o.

Mapa won woman yi

I don't really now why they don't take it serious

Maybe I might compare it with when you are searching for a job desperately on the internet,
and you spot a nice one. You know all those declaimers you have to click yes, yes, yes without even reading it to know what it was.
just because you wanted access to that website. That could be modern day Marriage.

In a hurry to answer MRS or MR, Many just jump into it, without knowing what it was, or what they are saying yes to.

Mindfulness:


If I decide to enter a monogamous relationship then I do it because I feel like doing it and because it is fun and feels good.
If it takes effort and self-control to stay faithful to my partner, then it is the wrong relationship.

Listen you are not a statue so do not deceive yourself, even married to the most fun partner, you'll still encounter temptations. It is better you come to terms with that fact than to live in denial.

Mindfulness:


If I decide to enter a monogamous relationship then I do it because I feel like doing it and because it is fun and feels good.
If it takes effort and self-control to stay faithful to my partner, then it is the wrong relationship.

You sound immature...and slightly off-puting.

You just wait till you get a partner bo

Speechless3:


You sound immature...and slightly off-puting.

You just wait till you get a partner bo

And your point is?

LordReed:


Listen you are not a statue so do not deceive yourself, even married to the most fun partner, you'll still encounter temptations. It is better you come to terms with that fact than to live in denial.

People can encounter "temptations" and decide to resist them without having to exercise self-control. It doesn't have to be so difficult as you illustrate it.

Speechless3:

You sound immature...and slightly off-puting.
You just wait till you get a partner bo

Well said...

LordReed:


Listen you are not a statue so do not deceive yourself, even married to the most fun partner, you'll still encounter temptations. It is better you come to terms with that fact than to live in denial.

Please can you elucidate more on the emboldened?

Mindfulness:


People can encounter "temptations" and decide to resist them without having to exercise self-control. It doesn't have to be so difficult as you illustrate it.

LoL please enlighten me how you resist temptation without self-control.

Richy4:
I don't really now why they don't take it serious

Maybe I might compare it with when you are searching for a job desperately on the internet,
and you spot a nice one. You know all those declaimers you have to click yes, yes, yes without even reading it to know what it was.
just because you wanted access to that website. That could be modern day Marriage.

In a hurry to answer MRS or MR, Many just jump into it, without knowing what it was, or what they are saying yes to.

Nice .