5minsmadness:
A friend of mine is having a guilty conscience. His ex came to visit him over the weekend from another state when his wife was not at home. Even though he took precautions to prevent any untoward advances by lodging her in a hotel away from his home, he is still wondering wether he should let his wife know that she came.

Ladies would you want him to tell you or is it unnecessary information?

5minsmadness:
A friend of mine is having a guilty conscience. His ex came to visit him over the weekend from another state when his wife was not at home. Even though he took precautions to prevent any untoward advances by lodging her in a hotel away from his home, he is still wondering wether he should let his wife know that she came.

Ladies would you want him to tell you or is it unnecessary information?

hahn:


Keeping secrets is very bad in a marriage especially when it involves an ex. It was stupid of him to even invite the ex close to him. He had better delete her number and ask her NEVER to contact him again. An ex should be treated as exactly what they are, a part of the past that should be forgotten and never revisited.

Of course his wife would want to know but it might raise unnecessary suspicion in the wife. The fact that he keeps in touch with the ex is his first problem. He should tell the ex to fvck off!

DuchessLily:


OP talk true; its not ur friend, it is u!

God says "flee from every appearance of evil.. But u r inviting a situation that would cause evil. if u give the devil a yard, he will take ten.. How would u feel if ur wife invites an ex and lodge him into a hotel?? That's how u guys create problems for ur homes , later, the excuse will be " I didn't mean it to happen, its not what u think, its d devil's handwork, etc etc

Ur precaution for something not to happen again BTW u and ur ex should be staying away from her and facing ur marriage, family and work, NOT inviting her to town and lodging her outside ur home ... In fact , the fact that she is outside ur home, hiding in one hotel were evil easily happen, will enhance the evil to happen whether its in ur mind or not! And that is if the evil has not yet happened sef ... Be wise! Do unto others, what u would have them do to u

5minsmadness:

Good point. Thanks.
The issue I think has to do with exes whom you had a cordial breakup with. How do you tell an ex who is also a friend to fvck off? Thier breakup ended in a friendly way and they've been pals ever since.

5minsmadness:


Maybe it's me, maybe it isn't
The thing is we've advised the guy that what he did was wrong and he gets that. The issue now is whether he should go ahead and mention it to his wife cos he doesn't keep things from her. Frankly I told him it's unnecessary but others feel strongly otherwise. What do you as a lady think?

Aprime:
- ‘Tell the Ex to fúck off!’
- EX = an appearance of evil’

Some comments though... ◑▂◑
People tend to forget they are someone's EX too.

5minsmadness:

Good point. Thanks.
The issue I think has to do with exes whom you had a cordial breakup with. How do you tell an ex who is also a friend to fvck off? Thier breakup ended in a friendly way and they've been pals ever since.

5minsmadness:

Good point. Thanks.
The issue I think has to do with exes whom you had a cordial breakup with. How do you tell an ex who is also a friend to fvck off? Thier breakup ended in a friendly way and they've been pals ever since.

MarvellousGod:
Of course the wife should know and they can go visit the so called ex together since the man can't do without seeing her ....

Really, what's the visit all about? The ex came solely to see him and he even lodged her in a hotel? Some men eehhh...... Would have been a different thing if the ex came to town for some other business and decided to check up on old friends. ...
Wonder what level their discussion has reached for the man to invite and lodge her in a hotel......
Don't do stuffs you wouldn't love your wife doing. ...

He had better tell the wife before she finds out herself. They can all go out together. ...
You men eehh

Aprime:
- ‘Tell the Ex to fúck off!’
- EX = an appearance of evil’

Some comments though... ◑▂◑
People tend to forget they are someone's EX too.

5minsmadness:

Good point. Thanks.
The issue I think has to do with exes whom you had a cordial breakup with. How do you tell an ex who is also a friend to fvck off? Thier breakup ended in a friendly way and they've been pals ever since.

5minsmadness:
A friend of mine is having a guilty conscience. His ex came to visit him over the weekend from another state when his wife was not at home. Even though he took precautions to prevent any untoward advances by lodging her in a hotel away from his home, he is still wondering wether he should let his wife know that she came.

Ladies would you want him to tell you or is it unnecessary information?

freecocoa:
Ofcourse I'll want to know, but why is he feeling guilty? Could it be he still has a thing for the ex? I would love to think the best thing to do in such an instance, is call wifey the moment the visitor is around and let her know his plans.

Anyways, the deed is do, he should just tell his wife and deal with the small interrogation/drama that may follow.

DuchessLily:


@the bolded.. Hehehe. OK oo

Tell her.... Cos if she finds out herself.. The trust will die oo. And I hope the ex has gone ooo

DuchessLily:


Its not d ex I called appearance of evil.. But d evil/sinful acts with the ex or even sinful thoughts towards the ex, now that he is married

How would u Knw if we were someones's ex?? And even if, I wouldn't bring myself low to go on a visit to an ex who feels I'm not worth marrying ... Cos he left Her to marry someone else.. So why now invite her for a visit?

MarvellousGod:
Of course the wife should know and they can go visit the so called ex together since the man can't do without seeing her ....

Really, what's the visit all about? The ex came solely to see him and he even lodged her in a hotel? Some men eehhh...... Would have been a different thing if the ex came to town for some other business and decided to check up on old friends. ...
Wonder what level their discussion has reached for the man to invite and lodge her in a hotel......
Don't do stuffs you wouldn't love your wife doing. ...

He had better tell the wife before she finds out herself. They can all go out together. ...
You men eehh

5minsmadness:

Na wa o. Did you quarrel with all your exes? Or were all your relationships tending towards marriage?

greatgod2012:






On the other hand, if it's your wife that did what you just did or are doing, would you like to know, and if you know, what will be your reactions?
Be sincere, please!
Regards!

5minsmadness:


On behalf of all men, sorry ma

the man didnt invite her. she came impromptu and stayed late and the man decided to lodge her. Perhaps he would have told her to start going when it was getting late. Perhaps her should have stopped her at the door outright. Perhaps...but these things happen. Nobody is 100%perfect all the time.
Biko no vexxx

LordReed:


Why is he paying for her stay? What obligation does he have towards her? If he genuinely want to be of help why didn't he tell his wife from the get go?

5minsmadness:

Hehehehehe

Not sure thats a good idea o.
I think from the explanation the whole thing was an impromptu visit. Its even possible the ex had "ideas" but the guy couldnt forcefully get rid of her. He didnt invite her, she dropped in unannounced. The hotel thing was suggested by him to prevent her from sleeping over in his house. I guess he didnt want to tell wifey immediately so she doesnt start rushing down from wherever she is or worrying or whatever.

I still maintain its cache information. trash to be disposed of without raising brouhaha. I could be wrong.(Or i could be right.)

thelish:
Dem dey lounge hotel throw way? The man might have given a cordial sex as well. First of all, wetin she con find?

5minsmadness:

If he gave cordial sex why would he want to tell the wife?
This is why am saying he shouldnt bother in case she starts making such insinuations.