While the whole drama de shele. I confess, I jus de tick the popular guys here and on the visit thread to check off the baddddd guy!
Apoologies oloking, bigfido, Allen, 100dollar uuna follow the list o! But the profiles no match... Denied visa...just one son...loolz! *runs out of thread

olokings:
Come! What are you women saying!
Nerf you for that matter. ....abeg, abeg abeg. ....
Pls jejely for the sake of peace. ...mk she go an averagely safe hospital born the pikin then u ready that moni tk dey do upkeep. ...
Love child can and should never be more privileged than legal child weh be boy for that matter. .
The guy wan die young?
Your wife and her some go just wayonly kpef u in ur sleep if they here this nansense

Thank you my brother. In fact, God bless you. If his legal children do not possess American passports and citizenship, then an outside one shouldn't either! #cryingoutmyeyesout#

nefertitiram:

D
Of course she can. Its to book doc or hosp and accomodation. Put.the $30k in her account. I hope she.works or is into biz as ties to d nigeria. No harm in trying. You just may be forrtunate.

Nefetitiram, abeg stop this na! I take God beg you. Haba! Let the girl register for Island Maternity if she's in Lagos where she will get experts help or any good private hospital. What kind of expensive joke is this one? After delivery, let the man go for a DNA sharply! Haba!!!!

olokings:
Come! What are you women saying!
Nerf you for that matter. ....abeg, abeg abeg. ....
Pls jejely for the sake of peace. ...mk she go an averagely safe hospital born the pikin then u ready that moni tk dey do upkeep. ...
Love child can and should never be more privileged than legal child weh be boy for that matter. .
The guy wan die young?
Your wife and her some go just wayonly kpef u in ur sleep if they here this nansense

olokings:

Weh u no pet woman, set her right psychologically emotional physical how do you expect to have her goodies.
You have to set the mood b4 you scatter the sheets. ..abi na doll she be. .abeghi. ...there's Noone who's libido can't be raised. ...
Kai I dey vex. ....mk o quiet b4 I'm ruptured. ..

Is this really olokings... Haba, what happened to all the nice pristine english..?? The guy don vex ooh

whatever happened has happened, I don't think its right to take it out on the unborn child.. After all, its not his fault that he is a love child - he didn't ask for it

This tale is heartbreaking. Your poor wife and son are probably oblivious to all the events unfolding. Stumbled across this thread to prepare for my 2nd missionary journey and saw this. Children are innocent yes, but this man is about to give an undue privilege to his Baby Mama and the unborn baby. I suspect Babymama came up with the idea of giving birth in the US (as compensation perhaps?). Of course I may be wrong. Oga, please let the pu**y whipping end. Giving birth to this child in Nigeria, just like your son is not "punishment" as some may see it. Actually, it is only fair to do so. Majority of Nigerians give birth here even with lots of cash. So please don't let Babymama bend ur ears to settle her abroad. What you need is to come clean, seek your wife's forgiveness and rebuild your family. You cannot deal with the mess that awaits you in future if you don't do the right thing now.
Wishing your wife and son the best in view of whatever you decide to do.

Mrng chief. ..
Well it's all said n done. .I've slept on it so that's ah KIV'd issue.
How's ur enjoying nursery.
Happy Sunday n nice weekend to you n your familia. .

shawlar:


Is this really olokings... Haba, what happened to all the nice pristine english..?? The guy don vex ooh

whatever happened has happened, I don't think its right to take it out on the unborn child.. After all, its not his fault that he is a love child - he didn't ask for it

Something's just make u mute
El2015 tell ur wife o... If she's aware of this whole plan who are we to stop u, afterall its ur money. But if she's not aware, she'll b betrayed u cheated on her not just cheating , but with a child to show for it... And then u now sent the mama to America to give birth.... Hmmm she'll b so betrayed if she finds out.


Main while I cover my DH penis and eyes with the blood of Jesus.

Even men with wives with good libido still fool around. Na to just dey pray jare...

Phema:
@EL2015

I'm not in a position to judge you, so I'm just going to skip that part and concentrate on your questions.

Many people have asked if this lady has any other ties, but you didn't respond. Are you the only thing/person she lives for tie she has? No job, no school? This will be a huge contributory factor towards her visa issuance. Lumping a huge sum into her account will be very detrimental.

Please, the last thing you want to do is appear to be married or engaged to this lady as that is bigamy especially if you are not a muslim. It will go on your record and this will make it more difficult for you to get a US visa in the future.

She should go prepared with documents to proove her ties and your financial/business documents to proove you two can afford it. She should just say her child's father will be sponsoring.

And no, she doesn't need to have anyone in the US. Sometimes, the less people one has, the better.

Goodluck.

As a side note; I couldn't help but notice you mentioned your wife's libido. As much as I empathise with you, my little experience in life has taught me that a very happy and healthy woman/wife will not continuously deny her husband sex for months. There is a fundamental issue in your marriage and I'm sure you have an idea what it could be. Get to the root of that issue and deal with it.

You do seem like you have a good head on your shoulders with a fairly decent heart. You've got to look for a way to fix your marital problems. You cannot continue this way. How many more babymamas will you be sending to the US? How much will you keep spending on covering your tracks? You've just got to look for a way out. If not, the more you make excuses why you should 'eat out', the more you drown and lose yourself and eventually, your family.

Most times, facing our problems heads-on costs us less (in every ramification) than taking the seemingly "easy way out".

Thank you Phema. I appreciate your time and input.

Will truly work on it with my even though it's late.

As for babymama, Bsc Physics 2009, self employed.

I was about to make a joke now and remembered how idiotic the last one I posted was.. Anyways, I dreamt that the baby mama was doing yanga for the main wife "did you born your pikin in America? We are not mates o!" anyways, let's move on with the main topic of the thread. Asides from Tango (sic) is there any other proven agent for Nigerian visa?
Ladyguinivere wetin we do o.. Lol!

No one is punishing the unborn child. Is having a child in Nigeria punishment?

How can legitimate child b born in naija and the other one b born in America? Haaaa that's not fair to the wife o...

el2015:

Will truly work on it with my even though it's late.
As for babymama, Bsc Physics 2009, self employed.

El2015
Tell ur wife and sort this mess. There are things u can't hide forever... And example is a child. How r u sure this baby mama won't blackmail u later?
How are u sure the baby is even yours, u might now send another mans child to America ( that will b truly ur karma)

kendybabe88:
@firsttymum
thank u dear.actually i want to apply with her because i was advised not to apply alone not like i need her ,but thanks.

be prepared and pray that's all u need.

A BIG thank you to you all.

If I can be scolded on a faceless forum, I wonder how it'll be in the real world.

She didn't come up with the idea, I did thinking it was best she's far away from me even though I'll take responsibility for the child. But no point trying migrate illegally.

I've decided to shelve the American Plan. She'll give birth here in Nigeria. she can always apply for visa after childbirth if she so wish.

Like you all said which I agree 100%. She doesn't deserve the privilege my wife never enjoyed.

I'm done. Will have to delete this account and move on.

It's good to be on Nairaland

el2015:

Thank you Phema. I appreciate your time and input.
Will truly work on it with my even though it's late.
As for babymama, Bsc Physics 2009, self employed.

D deed's been done n I honestly do not think the child should suffer for it. It's better to settle the child n then concentrate on your family. But to do this right, you have to confess to your wife n discuss the way fwd. Your son can have an intl passport too easily- simply send him to school in the UK (from high sch to masters), since you obviously have alotta money to spare...British passport is better in my opinion. Every other child wifey has for you MUST be delivered in her country of choice.

@olokings, I truly understand your feelings n respect it esp u being a man too...but truth is love or legal child, they are all children from God. There is nothing wrong if he makes sure he settles the child's future- that way there is little interference later. He pays the upkeep till he finishes school, sets him up with something tangible, et al...if the child is okay, he/she will less reason to interfere the wife's children's lives. But if not okay, trust me he/she will make life unbearable for the family...

On the libido thingy, whilst not supporting him in laying blames, it is now very rampant in our society. Alotta couples are facing low to nonexistent libido. Unfortunately, ppl feel shy, ashamed or embarrassed to get the needed help unlike what prevails in developed countries. It is actually a serious problem that needs medical help n runs for both male n female...

el2015:
A BIG thank you to you all.

If I can be scolded on a faceless forum, I wonder how it'll be in the real world.

She didn't come up with the idea, I did thinking it was best she's far away from me even though I'll take responsibility for the child. But no point trying migrate illegally.

I've decided to shelve the American Plan. She'll give birth here in Nigeria. she can always apply for visa after childbirth if she so wish.

Like you all said which I agree 100%. She doesn't deserve the privilege my wife never enjoyed.

I'm done. Will have to delete this account and move on.

It's good to be on Nairaland

With this post we have come to the end of this discussion.

Please let's move on.

justwise:


With this post we have come to the end of this discussion.

Please let's move on.

Thanks Justwise

Doubledouble:



D deed's been done n I honestly do not think the child should suffer for it. It's better to settle the child n then concentrate on your family. But to do this right, you have to confess to your wife n discuss the way fwd. Your son can have an intl passport too easily- simply send him to school in the UK (from high sch to masters), since you obviously have alotta money to spare...British passport is better in my opinion. Every other child wifey has for you MUST be delivered in her country of choice.

@olokings, I truly understand your feelings n respect it esp u being a man too...but truth is love or legal child, they are all children from God. There is nothing wrong if he makes sure he settles the child's future- that way there is little interference later. He pays the upkeep till he finishes school, sets him up with something tangible, et al...if the child is okay, he/she will less reason to interfere the wife's children's lives. But if not okay, trust me he/she will make life unbearable for the family...

On the libido thingy, whilst not supporting him in laying blames, it is now very rampant in our society. Alotta couples are facing low to nonexistent libido. Unfortunately, ppl feel shy, ashamed or embarrassed to get the needed help unlike what prevails in developed countries. It is actually a serious problem that needs medical help n runs for both male n female...

@doubledouble Thanks for this advice. I never knew it's possible.

LadyGuinivere:
While the whole drama de shele. I confess, I jus de tick the popular guys here and on the visit thread to check off the baddddd guy!
Apoologies oloking, bigfido, Allen, 100dollar uuna follow the list o! But the profiles no match... Denied visa...just one son...loolz! *runs out of thread

Happy Sunday Lady G for General, I wan ask you something ooo, Me, my wife and son will be traveling to US Nov/December for Vacation and Child birth from Asia and I just only want to stay for 2 weeks and fly back to Asia to enable me renew my Asian Stay, now I want my mother inlaw to accompany/stay with my wife though both will be flying from different location, my mum inlaw will fly from Nigeria and my wife, me and son will fly from Asia. Now my question is how do I apply Visa for my mother inlaw and abeg guide me on how to apply Visa for her and what steps to follow.

Question: Please anybody don use rentals.com or apartment guide to rent a house in the US,

Presido and the man with the power to rapture has spoken PLEASE let it be so we done tire for the matter.

justwise:

With this post we have come to the end of this discussion.
Please let's move on.

kendybabe88:
PLEASE MAMAS IN THE HOUSE, STILL ON MY VISA APPLICATION MATTER.PLEASE I NEED ADVICE SHOULD I APPLY ALONE OR WITH MY MUM AS MY DH WILL BE BUSY AND CAN'T GO WITH ME. BIKO HELP

I dont think there is anything wrong as long as you can show your ability to sponsor her

You done tire for the mata wen nobody they answer your question...

iolite88:
Presido and the man with the power to rapture has spoken PLEASE let it be so we done tire for the matter.

LadyGuinivere:
While the whole drama de shele. I confess, I jus de tick the popular guys here and on the visit thread to check off the baddddd guy!
Apoologies oloking, bigfido, Allen, 100dollar uuna follow the list o! But the profiles no match... Denied visa...just one son...loolz! *runs out of thread

Taaahhhhh!!!!!

5star Lady G 4 General....My warfi ppl go say " instead make bad tin happen, make rain fall" Nwanne nor be me u bn see 4 ya dream. Me, my wife and my Obama pikin dey New York dey Kule. I go later gist u wetin my son bn take CBP officer hin eye see 4 we own thread . Thank God say hin na fellow citizen

Hmm and here I was thinking my matter will trend for a while...apparently not.

All's well that ends well....somewhat.

kukuruku156:


Well put

You are on point Phema, communication is Key, he should also Investigate if the Issue with the madam is not a suppressed long term sex related wahala, and see a sex therapist, some women are frigid by nature, nothing a good communication and plenty lovey dovey cannot solve. Appreciate your partner and every other thing will fall into place.

Ozah'..... area!!!
#hailingthings

100dollarbills:


Taaahhhhh!!!!!

5star Lady G 4 General....My warfi ppl go say " instead make bad tin happen, make rain fall" Nwanne nor be me u bn see 4 ya dream. Me, my wife and my Obama pikin dey New York dey Kule. I go later gist u wetin my son bn take CBP officer hin eye see 4 we own thread . Thank God say hin na fellow citizen

olokings:
Ozah'..... area!!!
#hailingthings

Brosi eh! Ur boy dey local to ur government (Federal) eh!

Dem say warri nor dey carry last, dem nor no say " I nor wan die na im make person wen he sick dey drink mericin wen bitter"

Lady G I nor fit fall Warri Nation hand na. How u go dey check whether na me be d falling-hand guy!!! Shuoooo

Area!!!

I'd say u could use rentals.com to check out various apartments and when you find one of your choice then you contact them directly.
You know the thing with third-partybiz, return/change/cancellation policy are quite dicey ergo my perception of them.
That's what I did though.
I extrapolated results from third-party search with Google maps and called / email in my requests until I got a hit back. That way you are sure of covering the fine prints. ..
Good luck man

allen0000:
Question: Please anybody don use rentals.com or apartment guide to rent a house in the US,

Arghhhhhh 100! Na your face be this? Na wa ooooo! Abegi we de wait u o!
Allen its the same process you did that she'll do. She'll just explain that she wants too assist her daughter for childbirth. That the daughter de come from Asia while she's coming from Naija.
She should also carry a copy of your wife's data page/visa page and be ready to answer why na she and not anybody else go assist her

olokings:
I'd say u could use rentals.com to check out various apartments and when you find one of your choice then you contact them directly.
You know the thing with third-partybiz, return/change/cancellation policy are quite dicey ergo my perception of them.
That's what I did though.
I extrapolated results from third-party search with Google maps and called / email in my requests until I got a hit back. That way you are sure of covering the fine prints. ..
Good luck man

Thanks

LadyGuinivere:
Arghhhhhh 100! Na your face be this? Na wa ooooo! Abegi we de wait u o!
Allen its the same process you did that she'll do. She'll just explain that she wants too assist her daughter for childbirth. That the daughter de come from Asia while she's coming from Naija.
She should also carry a copy of your wife's data page/visa page and be ready to answer why na she and not anybody else go assist her

Thanks Lady G and any need to carry a copy of my own data page and visa page or just my wife copy only

Have her carry copies of your visa (stamped if u have visited the states previously) and data page, copies of your wife's hospital n ob/gyn correspondence as well as your bank balance (if you re sponsoring).

She's gonna be taking care of her dota n grand kids given work/whatever may not allow you to stay with them the whole time.

just prepare her well.

allen0000:



Thanks Lady G and any need to carry a copy of my own data page and visa page or just my wife copy only