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please do the one's you can and dont forget your Parents

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Na wa oo.

Bros, in this Nigeria we living in so many ppl think it's their birthright for others to do stuff for them.

Stop trying to please people, u will never win. Jus do d little u can n expect NOTHING in return.
Use the money to invest in ur life, u have already done so much for the girl.

I really pity u sha

Thanks boss, my parent doesn't demand except you just want to give inform of gift or anything as a child.

You have to draw the line oga... You shouldn't be responsible for the upkeep of your inlaw. You should only give money when you feel like, not compulsory. ...
If any of them asks you for money and you don't have, simply tell the person. ..
Knowing when to say No is part of what makes you a man, you can't be dancing to their tone. ..
Better start saving/investing your money because you have a lot of responsibilities ahead.

As regards the in laws attitude problem, sorry you should have figured that out before impregnating your gf..

Op, you just have to be firm and know when to draw the line, you seem so soft....

[quote author=MarvellousGod post=37989501]You have to draw the line oga... You shouldn't be responsible for the upkeep of your inlaw. You should only give money when you feel like, not compulsory. ...
If any of them asks you for money and you don't have, simply tell the person. ..
Knowing when to say No is part of what makes you a man, you can't be dancing to their tone. ..
Better start saving/investing your money because you have a lot of responsibilities ahead.

As regards the in laws attitude problem, sorry you should have figured that out before impregnating your gf..

Op, you just have to be firm and know when to draw the line, you seem so soft... thank mum, that's why am here to get people's opinion. Thanks

[quote author=jidesam168 post=37989707][/quote] thanks alot. I will make use of your advise

jidesam168:
Thanks boss, my parent doesn't demand except you just want to give inform of gift or anything as a child.

You haven't even done anything for your parents and here you're shouldering others' responsibilities. ..

Or maybe you present yourself as being financially buoyant, you give them smilingly, then cry afterwards .. To make it worse, no Thank you from them..

You have to stand up oga, before they run you dry...

jidesam168:
thanks alot. I will make use of your advise

You're welcome. . All the best..

[quote author=MarvellousGod post=37989858] You haven't even done anything for your parents and here you're shouldering others' responsibilities. ..

Or maybe you present yourself as being financially buoyant, you give them smilingly, then cry afterwards .. To make it worse, no Thank you from them..

You have to stand up oga, before they run you dry... I never give them that notion ma, and likewise I told my wife to be, to be careful. But do u think my future is safe with this kind of inlaw?

It's time you stopped picking their calls. They are obviously without shame. Your responsibility is towards your daughter, and not even your baby mama. If however you decide to marry yourselves or continue an exclusive relationship, fine you become responsible towards your baby mama but learn to draw the line towards your "in-laws".
In fact, tell your baby mama you're not comfortable with her folks calling and asking you for money, and she should warn them off or you would do it rudely yourself.
Don't marry out of sentiments too., do you love her?, do you guys understand each other?. Marriage on its own has a lot of hassles and if you marry someone you don't respect or love out of sentiments, you'll be out of it faster than a rocket.

[quote author=jashar post=37992014][color=#770077]Pardon me in advance cuz I'm going to come off as being harsh.

The only obligation you have now is to your child and her mother. You ain't married yet, so, the family can survive without you. If you had done hit and run nko will they suffocate you with demands?
OP, when you're ready, marry the lady if you please, but you gotta draw the line somewhere. Thanks my sister, am

Shey you've forgiven me for my harshness?, Haba mama, u aare not harsh now, u gave me one of the best advice, I realy appreciate thanks alot.

[quote author=jidesam168 post=37992196][/quote] Haba mum, u are not in anyway harsh, your advice is one of the best I realy appreciate, God bless you.

eyinjuege:
It's time you stopped picking their calls. They are obviously without shame. Your responsibility is towards your daughter, and not even your baby mama. If however you decide to marry yourselves or continue an exclusive relationship, fine you become responsible towards your baby mama but learn to draw the line towards your "in-laws".
In fact, tell your baby mama you're not comfortable with her folks calling and asking you for money, and she should warn them off or you would do it rudely yourself.
Don't marry out of sentiments too., do you love her?, do you guys understand each other?. Marriage on its own has a lot of hassles and if you marry someone you don't respect or love out of sentiments, you'll be out of it faster than a rocket.

thanks for your advice Bros, am realy trying to study things( my baby mama and her family), but it's not in my plan to run polygamy. I just need God's help.

[quote author=jidesam168 post=37992196][/quote]

jashar:
Pardon me in advance cuz I'm going to come off as being harsh.

The only obligation you have now is to your child and her mother. You ain't married yet, so, the family can survive without you. If you had done hit and run nko will they suffocate you with demands?
OP, when you're ready, marry the lady if you please, but you gotta draw the line somewhere.

Shey you've forgiven me for my harshness?

thanks mum, u are not in anyway harsh, I realy appreciate your advice. God will increase your wisdom.