This may not be the best time for me to write on this topic because of misinterpretations, but i can no longer resist the push. 'Husband Scarcity' has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner; and this calls for concern.


Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a 'husband scarcity' problem? Or maybe there was more men than women then, or maybe there was an adequate corresponding number of both genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home.


Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife, and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future. What am I really trying to say? We created what we now see as 'HUSBAND SCARCITY' for ourselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; and you get things like ''he has to be tall, handsome, fair and rich, be mobile, and should own a house at least and be presentable'' and then she adds ''God fearing'' in order not to sound worldly. Then check the number of girls around you, and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem.


You hear girls say '' I cannot suffer in my father's house, and then go and start suffering with a man.'' What a wonderful dream! What if from the beginning, you have everything you want, and there is no sufffering, then later in the marriage, the tables turn around and then comes suffering. Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but then it is better to start small and end big, than start big and end small.


The problem is that the description many of our girls give their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same kind of man, and the man fits what they want, its just 1 man, and that 1 man can pick only 1 girl, then what becomes of the 49 others? They simply start lamenting of ''HUSBAND SCARCITY'' Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to the face of our economy, to find a man who is of marriage and posseses all these things the ladies want; legally (except of course, those who are involved in internet fraud), even those involved in internet fraud are not enough to match the number of those women searching for already made husbands. If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects are married, and not complaining of husband scarcity.


The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view on who a husband is. A husband is that man God made and then saw that it may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making him without a help mate, and then made the woman and gave to him, then he became complete and fulfilled. MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the family of God here on earth. For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS not HOME WARMERS. Don't confuse a man's path with his destiny. Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tommorow. Another truth is that, you may be the only fast means to that his destination. Join in alleviating ''husband scarcity''. Pick up the right values.


I'm not saying that you should pick any man that comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials. What i'm saying is that you should stop setting your standards on material acquisitions and physical appearances. Look beyond the physical. What makes a man who he is, is not what he owns, or how he looks, it is what he is made up of, whiich is not seen with the physical eyes, rather only the effects can be seen. Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal, and that which cannot be seen is permanent. Relax and go to God in prayer. God did not just make Eve for making sake; he made her for Adam's need to be complete and fulfilled.

oK

this one up ^ dey find husband die.just see her signature

MrFlavvor:
this one up ^ dey find husband die.just see her signature

wow... Really. How come you knew that? But now you're aware of her desire, you could fill in the space. Atlest God has make your dreams reality, and brought you ur missing rib with just the help of Nl. *smile*

MrFlavvor:
this one up ^ dey find husband die.just see her signature

wow... Really. How come you knew that? But now you're aware of her desire, you could fill in the space. Atlest God has make your dreams reality, and brought you ur missing rib with just the help of Nl. *smile*

Men aint scarce.... Ladies don't look for anyhow men... They're looking for a man with good qualities.

Any man can be husband, but not all men can meet a woman's desire!

Dajugba:


wow... Really. How come you knew that? But now you're aware of her desire, you could fill in the space. Atlest God has your dreams reality, and brought you ur missing rib with just the help of Nl. *smile*

Bros e no dey happen

I am married

yanabasee:
Men aint scarce.... Ladies don't look for anyhow men... They're looking for a man with good qualities.

Any man can be husband, but not all men can meet a woman's desire!

by the time they are 30 na gulder ultimate search dem go dey do

MrFlavvor:
by the time they are 30 na gulder ultimate search dem go dey do

A husband is a companion, not ur financial creditor...

Who Said There's Husband Scarcity?

Good one op...



Are hubbies really scarce

Good one op...



Are hubbies really scarce