It's no secret that in Nigeria , everything seems to revolve around men. They commit all sorts of atrocities, sexually , emotionally, and otherwise, but at the end, women are the ones always being persecuted and shamed, even for the actions of men. Things like even rape which a man commits is usually blamed on the woman, as though she was the one that forced him to rape her. This is our African society. Anyway that's not the main issue here. This is just a prelude to the article below about some terrible stuff that guys do which they are always foolishly proud of :

1. Being the first to disvirgin a girl OUT OF WEDLOCK : A lot of times you will see guys bragging to their friends about how they've used Amina or Sandra , how ' na them open gate ' or how they got there 'first' . Meanwhile these are the same men who will want to marry virgins as wives at all cost. They go any length to deceive innocent girls so that they can brag to their friends. They are so self centered as they will never feel sorry about that in their lives, but will still ensure that they marry the freshest , youngest and untouched women.

2. Being the one who has messed up a lady , or used her and dumped her : Some men will even go to the extent of lying about an innocent woman or even a lady passing by , to their friends , that they have slept with her. Always bragging that 'i don mess up so and so' . Ah....as a smart guy that I am , na me turn her to mugu o...........or how they broke so and so's hearts and they are all begging for him to cime back. I noticed that guys always like to have a situation where it seems that a large number of women are always at their mercy or messed up by them and begging for marriage or respect. Sometimes guys will deliberately tell you they mess around with women so that in the long run, those women will have no choice, dignity and years lost, but to come back begging for marriage. It's unfair but our men are always proud of having a woman under their foot like a dirty dog.

3. Having so many girlfriends , and being a master player : A lot of times, guys love to brag about having so many girls or being a great player and being able to handle it all without breaking a sweat. Why this is so wonderful as an achievement to men and a taboo for a woman to brag about as well ? Well women are automatically expected to have more shame and be modest. But how do men magically expect to see decent women for marriage when they are striving to obtain and use every unfortunate woman that enters their web or steps into their view ? It is an issue that begs for some sensibility. Anyway, this is another thing guys are extremely proud of which don't just cut it to me.

4. Not being virgins : As our crazy African society would have it , men are always happy to discuss how experienced they are, while all our women are expected to be chaste. It just doesn't make any sense, because the men are not gaining these sex skills with goats , dear, they are using women and spreading the word that using women is a good thing , but at the end of the day they look round naija and cry that they can't find a decent woman. This is why men marry their daughter's age mate these days in the process of finding a decent lady. Because they know they have contributed to destroying the women of their generation.

Well,to close things up finally, this article is not blaming men solely for the plight of our African women, because women have their own minds and are just as capable of evil as men. But rather this is an article exposing how men greatly contribute to the destruction of the women they bash every day. Most men will bash women for not being virgins, but 70% of men will tell you that they can't date a woman without sex. In the case where he has tasted her and the relationship doesn't work out, she moves to another man and is then branded a slu.t for a mentality which men brought out in the first place. Well, feel free to add your own contributions......

To whom it may concern.

OP are you saying you would like to be a man in your next life

OP re u trying to say they have done all to you

Wow!! U must b a sex symbol..

You guys have nothing to say now but 'to whom it may concern' because you know this is all true. But for a better society, this lackadaisical attitude , plus that of the female gender, should change .@ henribj , maybe I'd like to be a man In my next life so I can enjoy in life as its obvious the scheme of things ain't gonna change. .....and menix Must it happen to me before I can see what is happening? We live in this world so obviously it's quite easy to see what is happening......duh

Krystalxxx:
..and menix Must it happen to me before I can see what is happening? We live in this world so obviously it's quite easy to see what is happening......duh

U must b a seer...

Can u help mii see if I will marry a fine gal?

menix:


U must b a seer...

Can u help mii see if I will marry a fine gal?

ok.... ..let me go and ask ifa

Krystalxxx:


ok.... ..let me go and ask ifa

Can I ask?
Is Ifa a boy?

Yeap! they should be put behind Bars...Evil people!

menix:


Can I ask?
Is Ifa a boy?

Estharfabian:
Yeap! they should be put behind Bars...Evil people!

ooh right there sister . Warris all this rubbish

Krystalxxx:
It's no secret that in Nigeria , everything seems to revolve around men. They commit all sorts of atrocities, sexually , emotionally, and otherwise, but at the end, women are the ones always being persecuted and shamed, even for the actions of men. Things like even rape which a man commits is usually blamed on the woman, as though she was the one that forced him to rape her. This is our African society. Anyway that's not the main issue here. This is just a prelude to the article below about some terrible stuff that guys do which they are always foolishly proud of :

1. Being the first to disvirgin a girl OUT OF WEDLOCK : A lot of times you will see guys bragging to their friends about how they've used Amina or Sandra , how ' na them open gate ' or how they got there 'first' . Meanwhile these are the same men who will want to marry virgins as wives at all cost. They go any length to deceive innocent girls so that they can brag to their friends. They are so self centered as they will never feel sorry about that in their lives, but will still ensure that they marry the freshest , youngest and untouched women.

2. Being the one who has messed up a lady , or used her and dumped her : Some men will even go to the extent of lying about an innocent woman or even a lady passing by , to their friends , that they have slept with her. Always bragging that 'i don mess up so and so' . Ah....as a smart guy that I am , na me turn her to mugu o...........or how they broke so and so's hearts and they are all begging for him to cime back. I noticed that guys always like to have a situation where it seems that a large number of women are always at their mercy or messed up by them and begging for marriage or respect. Sometimes guys will deliberately tell you they mess around with women so that in the long run, those women will have no choice, dignity and years lost, but to come back begging for marriage. It's unfair but our men are always proud of having a woman under their foot like a dirty dog.

3. Having so many girlfriends , and being a master player : A lot of times, guys love to brag about having so many girls or being a great player and being able to handle it all without breaking a sweat. Why this is so wonderful as an achievement to men and a taboo for a woman to brag about as well ? Well women are automatically expected to have more shame and be modest. But how do men magically expect to see decent women for marriage when they are striving to obtain and use every unfortunate woman that enters their web or steps into their view ? It is an issue that begs for some sensibility. Anyway, this is another thing guys are extremely proud of which don't just cut it to me.

4. Not being virgins : As our crazy African society would have it , men are always happy to discuss how experienced they are, while all our women are expected to be chaste. It just doesn't make any sense, because the men are not gaining these sex skills with goats , dear, they are using women and spreading the word that using women is a good thing , but at the end of the day they look round naija and cry that they can't find a decent woman. This is why men marry their daughter's age mate these days in the process of finding a decent lady. Because they know they have contributed to destroying the women of their generation.

Well,to close things up finally, this article is not blaming men solely for the plight of our African women, because women have their own minds and are just as capable of evil as men. But rather this is an article exposing how men greatly contribute to the destruction of the women they bash every day. Most men will bash women for not being virgins, but 70% of men will tell you that they can't date a woman without sex. In the case where he has tasted her and the relationship doesn't work out, she moves to another man and is then branded a slu.t for a mentality which men brought out in the first place. Well, feel free to add your own contributions......

It appears you have a serious problem with men

@ kaboninc, I don't have a problem with them, just their wickedness.

Krystalxxx:
@ kaboninc, I don't have a problem with them, just their wickedness.

And you think the ladies are not wicked too?

Pray for them and move on @ op.

besides, i think you are overrating this virginity thing, being used and dumped hurts the same way regardless if you are a virgin or not. Stop hyping nairaland misinformation. In addition, no be somebody go disvirgin you? Just asking.

Well, lord have mercy.

and then, there is the option of keeping legs closed but how many people consider that viable.

Greyworld:
To whom it may concern.

who?

https://www.nairaland.com/2413286/


op see a thread you opened and now you are complaining about shallowness in men.

@ tpiander , that thread isn't as shallow as the kind of stuff that guys have done just for fun.

kaboninc:


And you think the ladies are not wicked too?

Ladies are also wicked, but they are not as wicked as guys. Guys pick on innocent girls more than girls pick on innocent guys. Besides, only few women do all this crap just for fun.

Krystalxxx:


Ladies are also wicked, but they are not as wicked as guys. Guys pick on innocent girls more than girls pick on innocent guys. Besides, only few women do all this crap just for fun.

There's no difference. You are not a guy so you don't have an idea of what we go through.

Ladies are also evil as are guys.

Krystalxxx:
@ tpiander , that thread isn't as shallow as the kind of stuff that guys have done just for fun.

lets assume the terms saint and sinner are relative.

like i said, keeping your legs closed is an option, all things being equal,

tpiander:


lets assume the terms saint and sinner are relative.

like i said, keeping your legs closed is an option, all things being equal,

Yeah it's an option , you have valid points. Nevertheless, what I'm trying to point out is that sometimes no matter how determined a lady is, a guy will go all out to deceive in any way possible just to 'conquer ' . But your point is very obvious and I'm sure that's what most girls try to do - before a guy comes in and tries everything on heaven and on earth to destroy and decieve. At the end there's very few that survive the wave of destruction. And no it's not cuz they were decent. Just the grace of God.

Krystalxxx:


what I'm trying to point out is that sometimes no matter how determined a lady is, a guy will go all out to deceive in any way possible just to 'conquer .

true, but as Yorubas say, "b'ogiri o lanu, alangba o le wole" meaning if the wall doesnt open up for a gap, a lizard cant enter.

there has to be a breach somewhere which a guy can exploit before he gets a girl to that stage.


this is what most women refuse to examine, but instead would rather blame the guys and consider themselves their victims.


i dont really think there's such a thing as a perfect pretense, there is always a red flag somewhere which was overlooked.

just my opinion.

kaboninc:


There's no difference. You are not a guy so you don't have an idea of what we go through.

Ladies are also evil as are guys.

Well .....OK. One thing I cant say is that I know what you guys go through because I am actually not a guy.

tpiander:


true, but as Yorubas say, "b'ogiri o lanu, alangba o le wole" meaning if the wall doesnt open up for a gap, a lizard cant enter.

there has to be a breach somewhere which a guy can exploit before he gets a girl to that stage.


this is what most women refuse to examine, but instead would rather blame the guys and consider themselves their victims.


i dont really think there's such a thing as a perfect pretense, there is always a red flag somewhere which was overlooked.

just my opinion.

I get your point.

Krystalxxx:


Well .....OK. One thing I cant say is that I know what you guys go through because I am actually not a guy.

Spend your time looking for ways to improve yourself and community. There will always be evil doers. Have you heard of young mail children being raped by those who ought to protect them?

My point is that it goes both ways - as you have evil bad guys who take advantage of vulnerable girls, you also find girls who take advantage of vulnerable young guys.

Women tend to voice their pains and men tend to keep and bear alone theirs.

Good morning

Yall gotta understand,The male specie has an inborn ego which he constantly tries to exhibit and the reward for that inborn ego is respect which he earns from both from his peers and the opposite sex,however,he can't manipulate his fellow male because of same ego but instead,he looks for the vulnerable females to exhibit his ego on,go out to brag about it and earn the respect.

aaronson:
Yall gotta understand,The male specie has an inborn ego which he constantly tries to exhibit and the reward for that inborn ego is respect which he earns from both from his peers and the opposite sex,however,he can't manipulate his fellow male because of same ego but instead,he looks for the vulnerable females to exhibit his ego on,go out to brag about it and earn the respect.

Alright, this is a nice explanation. The thing is that, it is what it is whether we like it or not I guess.

Krystalxxx:
It's no secret that in Nigeria , everything seems to revolve around men. They commit all sorts of atrocities, sexually , emotionally, and otherwise, but at the end, women are the ones always being persecuted and shamed, even for the actions of men. Things like even rape which a man commits is usually blamed on the woman, as though she was the one that forced him to rape her. This is our African society. Anyway that's not the main issue here. This is just a prelude to the article below about some terrible stuff that guys do which they are always foolishly proud of :

1. Being the first to disvirgin a girl OUT OF WEDLOCK : A lot of times you will see guys bragging to their friends about how they've used Amina or Sandra , how ' na them open gate ' or how they got there 'first' . Meanwhile these are the same men who will want to marry virgins as wives at all cost. They go any length to deceive innocent girls so that they can brag to their friends. They are so self centered as they will never feel sorry about that in their lives, but will still ensure that they marry the freshest , youngest and untouched women.

2. Being the one who has messed up a lady , or used her and dumped her : Some men will even go to the extent of lying about an innocent woman or even a lady passing by , to their friends , that they have slept with her. Always bragging that 'i don mess up so and so' . Ah....as a smart guy that I am , na me turn her to mugu o...........or how they broke so and so's hearts and they are all begging for him to cime back. I noticed that guys always like to have a situation where it seems that a large number of women are always at their mercy or messed up by them and begging for marriage or respect. Sometimes guys will deliberately tell you they mess around with women so that in the long run, those women will have no choice, dignity and years lost, but to come back begging for marriage. It's unfair but our men are always proud of having a woman under their foot like a dirty dog.

3. Having so many girlfriends , and being a master player : A lot of times, guys love to brag about having so many girls or being a great player and being able to handle it all without breaking a sweat. Why this is so wonderful as an achievement to men and a taboo for a woman to brag about as well ? Well women are automatically expected to have more shame and be modest. But how do men magically expect to see decent women for marriage when they are striving to obtain and use every unfortunate woman that enters their web or steps into their view ? It is an issue that begs for some sensibility. Anyway, this is another thing guys are extremely proud of which don't just cut it to me.

4. Not being virgins : As our crazy African society would have it , men are always happy to discuss how experienced they are, while all our women are expected to be chaste. It just doesn't make any sense, because the men are not gaining these sex skills with goats , dear, they are using women and spreading the word that using women is a good thing , but at the end of the day they look round naija and cry that they can't find a decent woman. This is why men marry their daughter's age mate these days in the process of finding a decent lady. Because they know they have contributed to destroying the women of their generation.

Well,to close things up finally, this article is not blaming men solely for the plight of our African women, because women have their own minds and are just as capable of evil as men. But rather this is an article exposing how men greatly contribute to the destruction of the women they bash every day. Most men will bash women for not being virgins, but 70% of men will tell you that they can't date a woman without sex. In the case where he has tasted her and the relationship doesn't work out, she moves to another man and is then branded a slu.t for a mentality which men brought out in the first place. Well, feel free to add your own contributions......

We all do or rather did these things for fun..but that number 2 seriously who does that sick sh1t ..its no fun,u r not getting paid, lolzz it's true some guys lie about the females they. have had but it's all horse sh1t..like what's the essence lolzz..what I have come to know growing up is if u lie about having your way with a chic u eventually never get even close to seeing her panties.. and talking about taking her dignity n yrs lost is just stupid cos I don't think it's correct..reminds me of a friend of mine back @ uni days she would tell me about guys she's used and dumped while the guys would also claim to be taking advantage of her lolz

runnazz:


We all do or rather did these things for fun..but that number 2 seriously who does that sick sh1t ..its no fun,u r not getting paid, lolzz it's true some guys lie about the females they. have had but it's all horse sh1t..like what's the essence lolzz..what I have come to know growing up is if u lie about having your way with a chic u eventually never get even close to seeing her panties.. and talking about taking her dignity n yrs lost is just stupid cos I don't think it's correct..reminds me of a friend of mine back @ uni days she would tell me about guys she's used and dumped while the guys would also claim to be taking advantage of her lolz

lol your friend is smart though I don't understand her way. Well apart from that, I'm glad you admit that it does happen but you don't support it. That's great.

Krystalxxx:


lol your friend is smart though I don't understand her way. Well apart from that, I'm glad you admit that it does happen but you don't support it. That's great.

Yeah..interesting signature you got

runnazz:


Yeah..interesting signature you got

Thanks :-)