Hello House,

I'm in a dilemma concerning my househelp and Nanny.

I've noticed she has developed a relationship with the neighbours which I'm not comfortable about.

She isn't a live in hand but has been with us for 2 years now.
She is a woman in her early 40s, a Yoruba Christian who stays not too far from my place.

She helps with housechores when we are away at work.
Her job role is to:-

(1) prepare the kids and take them to school every morning.

(2) Return to the house and do housekeep.

(3)Take the kids home after school hours.

(4)Prepare lunch for them and help them with their home work.

Her hours of work is between 7am and 7pm when she resigns to go to her house.

My daughter has told me how they've gone twice to watch TV next door in the home of both neighbours. (Nanny took them there).

Should I be worried about this development or is it part of the growing up phase for the kids?

Seems she isn't challenged enough with the workload and what does she do when she's at the neighbours.

Don't you have TV in your house? Time to look for another Nanny abeg or try extended care in schools.

sit her down and talk to her .explain what u want to her or she face resignation.

I wouldn't be comfortable if I were you too. Tell her you don't like it . This is a job and as such she shouldn't be fraternising with your neighbour
in fact she has no business with Ur neighbour on your paid time. Dont know your kind of neighbours but I bet you they every little detail about Ur life and family. if I was Ur neighbour I wouldn't allow such but that is me. don't condone it at all and start thinking of a replacement if she doesn't stop.

if the nanny/househelp does all of these, then what do you do for children as a parent? do you think it's easy being lonely, having no one around to atleast say hi? I feel you only need to warn her on discussing your family issues with outsiders.

Mystical888:

Hello House,

I'm in a dilemma concerning my househelp and Nanny.

I've noticed she has developed a relationship with the neighbours which I'm not comfortable about.

She isn't a live in hand but has been with us for 2 years now.
She is a woman in her early 40s, a Yoruba Christian who stays not too far from my place.

She helps with housechores when we are away at work.
Her job role is to:-

(1) prepare the kids and take them to school every morning.

(2) Return to the house and do housekeep.

(3)Take the kids home after school hours.

(4)Prepare lunch for them and help them with their home work.

Her hours of work is between 7am and 7pm when she resigns to go to her house.

My daughter has told me how they've gone twice to watch TV next door in the home of both neighbours. (Nanny took them there).

Should I be worried about this development or is it part of the growing up phase for the kids?

Seems she isn't challenged enough with the workload and what does she do when she's at the neighbours.

See if you can add more chores maybe that will curb the idle time.

Have a word with her too and firmly express that you don't want that.

Begin to explore back up nanny options.

Don't let her know your daughter gave you the information

Those people aint Robots.

They need 2 mingle wt other ppl or else depression gona creep in.

So long as she does her job well n does no harm, I don't think dts a big deal.

all you women up there advicng her to sack her or give her extra load are wicked what happened to simple telling her not to go there.wicked housewives

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I never like the idea of a nanny take care of my children when I give birth sha....... na Which kind work the woman is doing that to take of her children is not allowed......


I pray Dey don't abuse your children. ...


respect to my mum. ......

you don't have TV or cable TV in your house?

Cause that could be a lie she asked your daughter to cook up for you in other to hide other things that could pose as a danger.

Are your neighbours Christians?

If they are not, what kind of relationship do you have with them?

These are questions you should ask yourself before taking action

Rewrite terms of engagement, get her busier and pay her more.

Send her parking

U should be very worry. she could expose your kids to unnecessary exposure. besides, it's out of d dictates of her job. summon her to other

The Nanny is your employee. She is working for you.

You pay her from 7am to 7pm to take care of your kids.

Sit down with her and be firm. Tell her that you do not want her taking your kids to anyone's home when she's working for you. Make sure she knows that you are very unhappy with that attitude.

In short, tell her that there might be consequences for her actions.

If she is bored, she can take the kids for a walk or watch TV in the house.

T

You worry too much.

are ur kids under house arrest? are your neighbours going to pose bad influence to ur kids?

That's why it's important for at least a parent should be responsible for their children's upkeep and growing up..

Rather than feeling career righteous..

Sacrifices makes a family whole..

I didn't say don't go back to work..
Let the kids grow to a certain age b4 u go back to work..

You worry to much

1) do you have TV in your home and what kind of program is she going to watch there

2) Your neighbor.... Are they the accommodating one or not

3) What kind of relationship have you with your neighbour that you....

4) are your neighbour the sit at home type or a worker

5) If your nanny is the talking type..... She will mingle with the neighbour no matter how much you try

6) do you discuss your family problems or what goes on within that you became scare

7) what time do you have for the kids when you leave home 7am and come back 7pm.... Don't you have weekends with them?

If you feel uncomfortable
Talk with her.....
At least she does all her work and keep your children well

Relax no big deal

Hmmm!
Why do I get d feelin dat diz thread iz 4 MILFs & dey aah commentin too?


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#exits thread & vanish#

raayah:
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come back and make sense

Talk to her about it.. #Simple.


Don't go main life unnecessarily tough for her.

Maybe she is now friends with the neighbours help or something.

Sit her down and have a chat with her as that's the mature thing to do. Don't go and start piling up more jobs for her to do as that may make her feel some kind of way anf take it out on your kids.

If after the chat she continues in her ways, simply fire her.

steffans:
That's why it's important for at least a parent should be responsible for their children's upkeep and growing up..

Rather than feeling career righteous..

Sacrifices makes a family whole..

I didn't say don't go back to work..
Let the kids grow to a certain age b4 u go back to work..

How will they feed kids if they are not working??

I personally don't see anything wrong if she pops in to say hi to the neighbours once a while as long as the neighbours are decent people. Still you should sit her down and map out her job description for her. I don't like the idea of burdening her with extra chores, she is human being not a donkey.

Don't be jealous young woman.

Love your neighbors..



Be practical about it

Human beings are social in nature,you can't expect her to be on her own through out the day

If you Aint comfortable with it,you can talk to her, and if she refuses to stop you are free to do all the work on your own

Period!