onyenze123:
you hv to check the engine, tire, body, electrical parts before u pay for a ride na

kevoh:
Plunging into marriage without testing the waters is like taking a 50-50 risk, at times 70-30 in the case of infertility. There's no laid down rule as whatever step you take could result into success or total failure irrespective of your religious beliefs.

If you must practice premarital sex and you confirm that all is well, then be moderate about the whole sex thing. For crying out loud, you will be spending the next 45 to 60 years with this person, you don't want to kill the whole excitement before the marriage kicks off.

wealthinfos:


And how about the risks of not confirming her before marriage?

wealthinfos:


my brother me sef taya o. I beg you don marry?

CallMeMadMan:
See wetin madness dey cause

widowhusband:
ok you want to be sure she does not have congenital gynatresia.

Gaborone:
Risk or no risk, abstinence is one cross I would carry so I can follow Christ.

Let pre-marital sex/testing be one of the things I count as loss, so I can gain Christ.

wealthinfos:


@Madman, which madness are u referring to?

CallMeMadMan:
The one wey dey your head

misreal:
you are simply the best.

wealthinfos:


pls say ur own opinion on the issue

misreal:
you are simply the best.

Gaborone:



I appreciate this.



Have a lovely holiday.

misreal:
you are simply the best.

wealthinfos:


and i will take it that you didnt test your wife before marrying her

misreal:
i would rather not get married than sin against God.

wealthinfos:
Somebody should tell me that yes there are no risks marrying a lady without testing her womanhood! Oya i dey wait:p

wealthinfos:


Mr. Too holy, And i will take it that you meant there is no need testing her before marriage?

I happened to catch this morning’s Valentine in the Morning show where radio host Sean Valentine posed a question to see what people thought about waiting to have sex until marriage. Of the various opinions called in, one with a few proponents was, basically, “You’ve got to test drive that car before you buy it.”

As wrong as I think it is to compare people to cars and marriage to a sales transaction, I understand the analogy. We don’t want to leap into the pool without testing the water.

This line of reasoning is nonsensical, and we can see that by asking the following question: What exactly are we “testing” for that makes a “test drive” necessary?

If it’s some kind of transmittable disease, then the results of any “tests” can and ought to be disclosed with your clothes on. If it’s some other known health issue, this ought to come out in conversation in the course of the relationship. It’s hard to imagine a deal-breaker intimacy issue that can’t be talked about in advance rather than vetted in a “test drive.”

What we’re most interested in when test driving a car is performance. If the concern is your ideal expectation of “performance level” in bed, then that becomes more important than how a person performs as a faithful and supportive spouse, as a sincere lover and leader, and as a committed father or mother to your children. These characteristics are assessed in other ways. Are you really going to judge what should be a lifelong commitment on the thrill level or whatever initial impression you hope to get from a sexual test drive? If that’s the case, you’re not ready for any kind of serious relationship.

Sex is important—critical, in fact, to the survival of the humanity. Fortunately, the important thing we need to know about sex at any stage of life is that men and women are well-capable of it. The experience of sex is meant to be discovered within the experience of a committed marriage, and is too important to tested in situations outside of that relationship. It is also too simple of a process to require practice, and too deep and meaningful of a connection to merely sample. We are really going after something like ownership without the commitment of ownership. A short-term “lease”, in fact. So the “test drive” logic fails.

Sex is fun and we want it without limitations. This is the truth behind the “test drive”, a means to justify sex in spite of where our moral conscience might be telling us it belongs.

And about that conscience: One caller expressed regret that she had NOT waited until marriage because she was now having difficulty convincing her teenaged daughter to wait. Mom didn’t so why should she? That’s a dilemma indeed. We apparently know that even though we might advocate a past lifestyle, when it comes to teaching our children, we want something better.

Even though in secular culture we’ve largely abandoned Biblical values that show us God’s design for sex within the context of marriage, it seems the values still get called upon. Those who prefer abstinence can’t always articulate why we want our children to marry as virgins, and even those who prefer to “test drive” can’t articulate why we still stigmatize others who do. But we inherently know there is a respectable standard that says waiting for marriage is just a better way to go.

SOurce>> https://godneighbor./2013/03/14/why-sex-before-marriage-isnt-a-test-drive/

wealthinfos:


@Madman, and what is the madness about the post? Pls share ur position

plappville:



Why do u think it is the woman that needs to be tested? This is the problem with most Africa men. They always believe that infertility is a womans problem. Some men will not care to check themselves medically if their liquid is productive. When they marry and they have problems with producing kids. They put the blame on the woman. Haba.. See what i have been reading here shows a selfish way of reasoning. By the way, why do u want to test the woman? What happens if your first test result to having a baby? U will now say. Please abort it am not ready yet. I pity women who allow themselves to be slaved by men all because they want to marry. A true Christian should trust God when making his/her choice. God said, the thoughts i have for you are (good) why not trust him? Instead u want to bycut. Satan is polluting the church with negetive thoughts. I can see that.

Gaborone:
Risk or no risk, abstinence is one cross I would carry so I can follow Christ.

Let pre-marital sex/testing be one of the things I count as loss, so I can gain Christ.