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I'm In Love With A Married Man. by VICTORIA91(f): 1:05pm On Sep 22, 2015
Dear NL,

I'm 25 years old, I met this guy online via chatting and before i knew, we met and we fell deeply in love.This guy is irresistible when we met and i never prayed for something more, because he was so caring, lovely and loving, not only that he is so tall and handsome as i have always prayed for. After a month we knew each other better and every minute i rang him up, he later told me and revealed to me everything about him, because he is not the flamboyant type of guy, i hardly notice that he is loaded.

At age 33 he has a lot of properties and work with a Ministry in Lagos, seconded employment with one int'l institution, he got me int'l passport and took me out of Nigeria shore for the first time in my life. I am from an average family and I'm not easily moved with material things, I'm a working class lady earning moderate salary and living well, i had a relationship before him but not a stable one.

He later revealed to me that he has something to tell me that might tear us apart, i made up my mind since it would not lead to my death, i bet i have reached my bus stop, because he is also in love with me. What a perfect match!. Until the day he bursted it out that he is married with kids and he was sweating and breathing so restlessly, waiting for me to breakup with him, i reassured him i will still love him at that, he explained he impregnated the girl and his family forced him to marry the girl...in short, three kids, two boys and a girl from the woman,(first boy and a twins).

I almost fainted, but pretended as if all is well, at least he still managed to tell me to let me decide to continue or not. We both continued and this month make our 6th month and he is already talking about our marriage, he tried divorcing the first wife, but get warned to let her be to make peace reign, i noticed he loves me so much and also loves his children too well too. He is traveling out soon to study for his PH.D. He wants me to get pregnant for him and do the needful with my family and declare his intentions of taking me as his second wife to his first wife and family...But at this stage i have doubting mind maybe i'm ready to go on or not..i don't feel like ruining the woman's home, and i don't feel like losing this my sweet love, he is not forcing me and he wants me to decide for myself....

Please help me dearies, abuse are allowed at least maybe it will straighten my brain..but i sincerely love him, he promised to settle me down in another state and assured me that all will be well.The issue is i'm so CONFUSED.

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Re: I'm In Love With A Married Man. by Nobody: 1:06pm On Sep 22, 2015
Seriously,,,as much as you repulse me right now,,i cant help but feel your pain.
GOSH i detest senseless girls,,buh i'm gonna spare you any harsh words and give you a good advice.
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You'll be wicked to be the reason another woman's home is destroyed..i know you love the nigga,but according to your story,i think you love him more for his looks and money.
He isn't the only guy in the world you know.And what baba God would have expected from you would be to advice him against leaving his wife and break up with him..
Even the bible said the first wife of a man remains his only wife until death..
So even if you get married to him,im sorry to say that you will never be recognised by God as his wife.
I know its a hard decision but,
think of your future
think of the future of the mans kids.
Think of the future of the man's wife.
Say no to sidechicking.
And make the right decision.
#jah bless#

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Re: I'm In Love With A Married Man. by ammyluv2002(f): 1:06pm On Sep 22, 2015
Pls unlove him ASAP

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Re: I'm In Love With A Married Man. by Nobody: 1:07pm On Sep 22, 2015
"I'm In Love With A Married Man" and you no shame to talk am

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Re: I'm In Love With A Married Man. by ShutTheFhuckUp: 1:07pm On Sep 22, 2015

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Re: I'm In Love With A Married Man. by deadZONE: 1:08pm On Sep 22, 2015
Am not surprised...
Its common with nigerian
girls....

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Re: I'm In Love With A Married Man. by Shebarh(f): 1:09pm On Sep 22, 2015
You want an advice put ya self in the woman's shoe first before seeking for an advice

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Re: I'm In Love With A Married Man. by IamLEGEND1: 1:09pm On Sep 22, 2015
And if we call you harlót now,you go say we dey insult you.

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Re: I'm In Love With A Married Man. by Princecalm(m): 1:10pm On Sep 22, 2015
the moment you realise marriage is a delicate issue the better for you

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Re: I'm In Love With A Married Man. by vizkiz: 1:10pm On Sep 22, 2015
another hoe on the loose... So what about the guy you were dating before you met this married man?

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Re: I'm In Love With A Married Man. by Princecalm(m): 1:11pm On Sep 22, 2015
sometimes I ask if Love and stupidity have anything in common

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Re: I'm In Love With A Married Man. by ab1x: 1:11pm On Sep 22, 2015
All is not well. Do not break another woman's home. They forced the woman on him and he has three kids with her. Are you that brainless? Better wake up from your slumber. I am pretty sure that after having kids for him he is going to opt for another lady and use the same scope on her too.

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Re: I'm In Love With A Married Man. by kingofpool: 1:11pm On Sep 22, 2015
MzRoyalHighness:
"I'm In Love With A Married Man"
and you no shame to talk am
Dnt mind that useless thing, see as she even open her odour manufacturing company(mouth) self the talk am.

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Re: I'm In Love With A Married Man. by Nobody: 1:14pm On Sep 22, 2015
kingofpool:
Dnt mind that useless thing, see as she even open her odour manufacturing company(mouth) self the talk am.
gringringrin

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Re: I'm In Love With A Married Man. by MrsChima(f): 1:15pm On Sep 22, 2015
It is okay to fall in love but you don't have to act on those feelings. I have had thoughts of killing a bish and felt like killing the bish but, I didn't act on it.

Apply that and move on. You will always be second fiddle.

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Re: I'm In Love With A Married Man. by richidinho(m): 1:15pm On Sep 22, 2015
ok grin

try tell him to divorce his wife...u hia

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Re: I'm In Love With A Married Man. by Intrepid01(m): 1:15pm On Sep 22, 2015
There is nothing wrong in it.

But please don't think that Guy will stop with you. He's still going to marry the 3rd and even the 4th wife. So prepare your self very well for a whole lot of things. Because from experience second wife are more worried about their husband marrying more wives than the first. Goodluck

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Re: I'm In Love With A Married Man. by Ab025(m): 1:16pm On Sep 22, 2015
There is nothing to be confused about

Sleeping with a married man is not ideal but you can also decide to marry him as his second wife, at least that's not a crime.

#Ur choice

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Re: I'm In Love With A Married Man. by Kingsasian(m): 1:16pm On Sep 22, 2015
kingofpool:
Dnt mind that useless thing, see as she even open her odour manufacturing company(mouth) self the talk am.
hahahahahahaha

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Re: I'm In Love With A Married Man. by VICTORIA91(f): 1:16pm On Sep 22, 2015
I once said abuse is allowed......is not my fault, all blames on blind love. :-
MrsChima:
It is okay to fall in love but you don't have to act on those feelings. I have had thoughts of killing a bish and felt like killing the bish but, I didn't act on it.
Apply that and move on. You will always be second fiddle.
Thank you.I
appreciate your kind advice

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Re: I'm In Love With A Married Man. by StPete: 1:17pm On Sep 22, 2015
“The cane wey dem take beat the first wife, naim dem go take beat the second”

You are still basking in the euphoria that you have found your perfect match. By the time the honeymoon phase is over, I hope it won’t be too late.
Let me tell you something, another woman’s husband is hers, don’t go near trying to play second fiddle.

From what he said he told you about him been forced to marry his wife, that is definitely a lie. He made the mistake by impregnating her the first time, was he forced to impregnate her again?

There are many single men out there, don’t let all his achievements fool you. Those achievements will also fool so many women after you. All that glisters is not gold.

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Re: I'm In Love With A Married Man. by Swissheart(f): 1:20pm On Sep 22, 2015
Opt out!......he was forced to marry her yet they have 3kids....think pls

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Re: I'm In Love With A Married Man. by Hazardd(m): 1:20pm On Sep 22, 2015
Your case strong Walahi, you are dating a married man with 3 kids and you are proud enough to said it.... Who God had join together let no man put asunder...next patient pls

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Re: I'm In Love With A Married Man. by MrsChima(f): 1:21pm On Sep 22, 2015
VICTORIA91:
I once said abuse is allowed......is not my fault, all blames on blind love. :- Thank you.I
appreciate your kind advice

You are welcome.

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Re: I'm In Love With A Married Man. by Nobody: 1:21pm On Sep 22, 2015
Its no biggie ! You won't be the first or last second wife smiley

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Re: I'm In Love With A Married Man. by Nobody: 1:26pm On Sep 22, 2015
VICTORIA91:
Dear NL,
I'm 25 years old,i met this guy online via chatting and before i know, we met and we fall deeply in love.This guy is irresistible when we met and i never prayed for something more, because he was so caring,lovely n loving,not only that he is so tall and handsome as i have always prayed for. After a month we knew each other better and every minute i rang him up, he later told me and revealed to me everything about him, because he is not the flamboyant type of guy, i hardly noticed that he is loaded. At age 33 he has a lot of properties and work with a Ministry in Lagos, seconded employment with one int'l institution, he got me int'l passport and took me out of Nigeria shore for the first time in my life. I am from an average family and I'm not easily moved with material things, I'm a working class lady earning moderate salary and living well, i had a relationship before him but not a stable one.
He later revealed to me that he has something to tell me that might tear us apart, i made up my mind since it would not lead to my death, i bet i have reached my bus stop, because he is also in love with me. What a perfect match!. Until the day he bursted it out that he is married with kids and he was sweating and breathing so restlessly, waiting for me to breakup with him, i reassured him i will still love him at that, he explained he impregnated the girl and his family forced him to marry the girl...in short, three kids, two boys and a girl from the woman,(first boy and a twins).
I almost fainted, but pretended as if all is well, at least he still managed to tell me to let me decide to continue or not. We both continued and this month make our 6th month and he is already talking about our marriage, he tried divorcing the first wife, but get warned to let her be to make peace reign, i noticed he loves me so much and also loves his children too well too. He is traveling out soon to study for his PH.D. He wants me to get pregnant for him and do the needful with my family and declare his intentions of taking me as his second wife to his first wife and family...But at this stage i have doubting mind maybe i'm ready to go on or not..i don't feel like ruining the woman's home,and i don't feel like losing this my sweetlove,he is not forcing me and he wants me to decide for myself....
Please help me dearies, abuse are allowed at least maybe it will straighten my brain..but i sincerely love him,he promised to settle me down in another state and assured me that all will be well.The issue is i'm so CONFUSED.

...

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Re: I'm In Love With A Married Man. by stinggy(m): 1:30pm On Sep 22, 2015
Sabrwahaqqo:
Its no biggie ! You won't be the first or last second wife smiley
It's funny to see guys criticizing her. What's the bad thing if she prefers being the second wife

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Re: I'm In Love With A Married Man. by honeygirl17: 1:33pm On Sep 22, 2015
Do to others what you want them to do to you.

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Re: I'm In Love With A Married Man. by Nobody: 1:34pm On Sep 22, 2015
stinggy:

It's funny to see guys criticizing her. What's the bad thing if she prefers being the second wife

I wonder oh grin

Asif being the second wife and happy is not better than being the first/ only and sullen smiley

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Re: I'm In Love With A Married Man. by Omotayor123(f): 1:36pm On Sep 22, 2015
You are in Lust not in Love! They forced him to marry his wife huh undecided (make una continue deceiving yourself)

If you are ready to be his second wife, first ask yourself :Is the legal wife ready to share her husband Put yourself in her shoes.

Babe, don't make the greatest mistake you will forever regret! Cut ties with him now before it's too late. I only see doom ahead.

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Re: I'm In Love With A Married Man. by VICTORIA91(f): 1:37pm On Sep 22, 2015
KiidaACE:
Seriously,,,as much as you repulse me right now,,i cant help but feel your pain.
GOSH i detest senseless girls,,buh i'm gonna spare you any harsh words and give you a good advice.
.
.
You'll be wicked to be the reason another woman's home is destroyed..i know you love the nigga,but according to your story,i think you love him more for his looks and money.
He isn't the only guy in the world you know.And what baba God would have expected from you would be to advice him against leaving his wife and break up with him..
Even the bible said the first wife of a man remains his only wife until death..
So even if you get married to him,im sorry to say that you will never be recognised by God as his wife.
I know its a hard decision but,
think of your future
think of the future of the mans kids.
Think of the future of the man's wife.
Say no to sidechicking.
And make the right decision.
#jah bless#

Walahi, My bended head has started to be straightened with all this abuse,,,haba Nairalander anyways i appreciate you for your advise.U have really talked to me like a sister and i really wish my other 'roasters'congrat in advance....they have waited late overdue.

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Re: I'm In Love With A Married Man. by kimnicki(f): 1:40pm On Sep 22, 2015
Sweetie it's not advisable to date a married man..not to talk of getting married to him

how sure are you that when you even agree for second wife,he won't find another girl when he goes abroad for his PhD and also tell that one stories too and marry her


I'd leave you with the law of Karma "what goes around comes back around"

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