VICTORIA91:


Walahi, My bended head has started to be straightened with all this abuse,,,haba Nairalander anyways i appreciate you for your advise.U have really talked to me like a sister and i really wish my other 'roasters'congrat in advance....they have waited late overdue.

loll,,,i just hope you make the right decision.
You have your whole future ahead of ya.
Life is short
live it well.
.
.
Your welcme by the way,*winks*

KiidaACE:
loll,,,i just hope you make the right decision.
You have your whole future ahead of ya.
Life is short
live it well.
.
.
Your welcme by the way,*winks*

Do you wants to partake on a cyber adultery with me?

MrsChima:


Do you wants to partake on a cyber adultery with me?

lol,,your funny.
As tempting as the offer may be, i think i'll pass .

VICTORIA91:


Walahi, My bended head has started to be straightened with all this abuse,,,haba Nairalander anyways i appreciate you for your advise.U have really talked to me like a sister and i really wish my other 'roasters'congrat in advance....they have waited late overdue.

Quit playing the smallest violin in the world! Have anything sunken in? What's your next step? Look, not everyone is gonna coddle you but I hope you looked past the "tough love" & got the point. No point talking much to someone unless you know something hit home. So, where to from here?

stinggy:

It's funny to see guys criticizing her. What's the bad thing if she prefers being the second wife

ai wee teh

chimkaire:
ai wee teh

You won't dare

stinggy:

You won't dare

chimkaire:

Why that?

VICTORIA91:
I once said abuse is allowed......is not my fault, all blames on blind love. :- Thank you.I
appreciate your kind advice

How could you say such rubbish(luv is blind), you knows what you re doing, you re seeing clearly and acting based on what ur mind tells you, now you re trying to blame innocent love on ur own stupidity nd senselessness. Mtcheeeeeew, sombody kill dis tin.

stinggy:

Why that?

I dey fear for you nii

Mrs Gold digger, get pregnant and wait for third wife

This story again

KiidaACE:
lol,,your funny.
As tempting as the offer may be, i think i'll pass .

It comes with perks.

Thank God he has shown you who he is. Abeg just go before it becomes worse. Maybe next time he will be telling another woman about you with that story of force. pls try and be strong and run. God will help you.

MrsChima:


It comes with perks.

hmm,does it?
I do bite.

Problem with chicks like this is even with the warning/danger signs,they won't wanna quit the r/ship. Dude is loaded and she's afraid she may miss all the perks she's getting now. Look for a single guy and quit fuc.king him cause am so sure u guys v done the needful several times. If u can't get a single guy,PM me. Will fuc.k u till someone u wanna settle down with comes along d way

VICTORIA91:
Dear NL,
I'm 25 years old,i met this guy online via chatting and before i know, we met and we fall deeply in love.This guy is irresistible when we met and i never prayed for something more, because he was so caring,lovely n loving,not only that he is so tall and handsome as i have always prayed for. After a month we knew each other better and every minute i rang him up, he later told me and revealed to me everything about him, because he is not the flamboyant type of guy, i hardly noticed that he is loaded. At age 33 he has a lot of properties and work with a Ministry in Lagos, seconded employment with one int'l institution, he got me int'l passport and took me out of Nigeria shore for the first time in my life. I am from an average family and I'm not easily moved with material things, I'm a working class lady earning moderate salary and living well, i had a relationship before him but not a stable one.
He later revealed to me that he has something to tell me that might tear us apart, i made up my mind since it would not lead to my death, i bet i have reached my bus stop, because he is also in love with me. What a perfect match!. Until the day he bursted it out that he is married with kids and he was sweating and breathing so restlessly, waiting for me to breakup with him, i reassured him i will still love him at that, he explained he impregnated the girl and his family forced him to marry the girl...in short, three kids, two boys and a girl from the woman,(first boy and a twins).
I almost fainted, but pretended as if all is well, at least he still managed to tell me to let me decide to continue or not. We both continued and this month make our 6th month and he is already talking about our marriage, he tried divorcing the first wife, but get warned to let her be to make peace reign, i noticed he loves me so much and also loves his children too well too. He is traveling out soon to study for his PH.D. He wants me to get pregnant for him and do the needful with my family and declare his intentions of taking me as his second wife to his first wife and family...But at this stage i have doubting mind maybe i'm ready to go on or not..i don't feel like ruining the woman's home,and i don't feel like losing this my sweetlove,he is not forcing me and he wants me to decide for myself....
Please help me dearies, abuse are allowed at least maybe it will straighten my brain..but i sincerely love him,he promised to settle me down in another state and assured me that all will be well.The issue is i'm so CONFUSED.

Honestly, there is no point insulting you... I'll just say I pity you.

Maybe u should carry out research on what polygamous homes feel like. If you think he loves you so much and won't let u feel d heat, then maybe you should consider the fact that ur not the only one he'll have to protect, your children might be d ones to feel d heat.

In conclusion, I just pity you for the fact that ur even considering going into it.

KiidaACE:
hmm,does it?
I do bite.

Look at us promoting adultery after scolding OP for consoling a married man!

You bite gently?

MrsChima:


Look at us promoting adultery after scolding OP for consoling a married man!

You bite gently?

omg,,your not really married, are you?

Let's take chill pill n stop d criticism. First of all she never knew he was married before falling hopelessly in love with him. Ma only advise is polygamy comes with many ups n down, if u weigh d pros n cons and feel u can bear it, then it's fyn. Being a second wife is far better than being a mistress!!!












Buh if u can't, then start detaching ur self, it's not really easy to do buh u just have to. Cheers

KiidaACE:
omg,,your not really married, are you?

Yes I am.

enjoy it while it lasts..have fun





but na thunder go fire you when you try to turn him against his wife or children!!

coconut wey ripe dey for ground na the one wey dey up you dey point hand for....isorait

Since you said abuse is allowed, I will go straight to it. You claim that you are not materialistic yet you shout aloud how "loaded" this man is, that makes you a materialistic girl my dear. You also said he was willing to settle you in another state and it seems you are also thinking about that option. He is able to settle you because he can afford to, again, a materialistic mind. He took you out of the shores of the country and you jumped for it. How is it that you have a good job, can afford these things and yet, extremely excited at the opportunities and doing all these things with a man you barely knew, someone you met online. You were blinded by the material things he is giving and so, failed to ask the basic questions good girls ask. It took you a while to know he is married because you never asked and you never asked because you were materialistic. How difficult is this for you to comprehend. Most girls ask right off the bat, are you married, do you have kids etc. Am sure there were times when you called and he didn't pick your calls because he was with his family. If you asked and he lied, how does that make him your dream man. He is your dream man becos he has money period. The only reason you're considering the idea of becoming his second wife is he is loaded according to you. You even belief he was forced to marry, lol, you are extremely naive and gullible young woman. Go and marry him and be prepared for a life of chaos, battle, name calling, headaches, regrets, a useless life. If you want to know whether he was forced to marry this woman, give her a call, chat her up. He is decent according to you, yet he wants to get you pregnant and jet out of the country. He took you out of the country and sampled you day in day out and hid such fundamental information of his background from you, yet you call him decent. Decent my foot. Arent you ashamed to call a con man decent. Some nigerian girls and money; you will never cease to amuse and amaze me. I say some because there are a lot of decent, good, God fearing Nigerian girls out there who will never compromise their principles and sociatla norms and values. Ask your mr. right to go and see your parents and ask for your hand in marriage and watch his reaction. Are you demented? By the way, if this man was poor, not loaded, will you be considering this marriage. If he really loves and wants to marry you, why the thought of sending you to a different state instead of keeping you in his family home so that you can bond with his other wife and children and your children bond with their siblings. Do you actually have such a low self esteem that you are willing to go on "exile" for a decent man. I wish I was near you, boil 360 degrees hot water, pour it and wake up your retarded brian from stupor, useless girl. Don't you feel bad that this man actually is using you for sexual satisfaction? Why do you believe his mumbo jumbo and cheap talks. You should be angry with him for hiding issues of his background from you just to get in between your legs instead of talking of been loaded.

This is no news cos Aye nse ru e.

Fasten your seatbelt for NL bashings

Well, my problem is with the previous guy you were dating because I'm sure there is one.

Did you just dump him because you've supposedly found a 'better' person?
I hope this ain't the case because karma might befall you

This should be a lesson to guys; Your girl is only yours when she's in your bed, if she eventually meets a richer and probably 'loving' guy she's on to the next one

Young lady just flee from this temptation and allow a woman to enjoy her marriage and man alone

VICTORIA91:
Dear NL,

I'm 25 years old, I met this guy online via chatting and before i knew, we met and we fell deeply in love.This guy is irresistible when we met and i never prayed for something more, because he was so caring, lovely and loving, not only that he is so tall and handsome as i have always prayed for. After a month we knew each other better and every minute i rang him up, he later told me and revealed to me everything about him, because he is not the flamboyant type of guy, i hardly notice that he is loaded.

At age 33 he has a lot of properties and work with a Ministry in Lagos, seconded employment with one int'l institution, he got me int'l passport and took me out of Nigeria shore for the first time in my life. I am from an average family and I'm not easily moved with material things, I'm a working class lady earning moderate salary and living well, i had a relationship before him but not a stable one.

He later revealed to me that he has something to tell me that might tear us apart, i made up my mind since it would not lead to my death, i bet i have reached my bus stop, because he is also in love with me. What a perfect match!. Until the day he bursted it out that he is married with kids and he was sweating and breathing so restlessly, waiting for me to breakup with him, i reassured him i will still love him at that, he explained he impregnated the girl and his family forced him to marry the girl...in short, three kids, two boys and a girl from the woman,(first boy and a twins).

I almost fainted, but pretended as if all is well, at least he still managed to tell me to let me decide to continue or not. We both continued and this month make our 6th month and he is already talking about our marriage, he tried divorcing the first wife, but get warned to let her be to make peace reign, i noticed he loves me so much and also loves his children too well too. He is traveling out soon to study for his PH.D. He wants me to get pregnant for him and do the needful with my family and declare his intentions of taking me as his second wife to his first wife and family...But at this stage i have doubting mind maybe i'm ready to go on or not..i don't feel like ruining the woman's home, and i don't feel like losing this my sweet love, he is not forcing me and he wants me to decide for myself....

Please help me dearies, abuse are allowed at least maybe it will straighten my brain..but i sincerely love him, he promised to settle me down in another state and assured me that all will be well.The issue is i'm so CONFUSED.

Theres something about Jehovahs Witnesses and brainwashing..im getting wary of them.

How that relates to this topic, i dunno, just that i didn't care to read this peice of shiit.

From your story, you don't love the man.
One day the kids will make life tough for you, advice the man to love his wife only.

MzRoyalHighness:
"I'm In Love With A Married Man"
and you no shame to talk am

As in ehn! Na wa oo

A guy working in a ministry in Lagos ,so loaded to take a girl frend abroad,how much is his salary.These are kind of people Buhari should be looking for.




As for you lady,the guy will marry a third wife,still telling same story.....Women and fantasy