faith2ogesco:
Guys leave dose talk o. He's d first son. No father in his ryt mind will deprive his first son of education cos of DAT issue. My dad hardly caned me wen I was lil but I learnt. As I finish sec skul cane no dey near me again o. He knows wats up na. I ain't disrespectful but I won't stand deer and take dose floggings. No offence his dad seems insecure toe for doing DAT and its prob d mums influence.

psucc:
If he is grown up beyond discipline, he better get out of somebody's house and as well cater for his education. Inasmuch as he resides therein, by all moral standards, he owe his parents a duty, including cooking.

fayvah:
u dey talk bullshit aw mumsy go dey aux pikin go dey cook n she dey complain.....

freecocoa:
His parents are wrong to flog or treat him with disrespect but then, he doesn't seem to respect his parents enough to take simple instructions from them, who does he expect to be cooking for him? His parents pay his fees, house and feed him, the least he can do is help out with chores. There's nothing wrong in a man cooking(especially for his parents), he should find a way to reach out to his parents to understand each other better, although I doubt that he's really reasonable telling his mum not to expect "better" from him.

Xbabangida:

You don't understand my sister, he complained the mother does almost nothing in the house. He said all she does is watch africa magic while he is busy in the kitchen cooking what the family will eat and still,they complain if the food is not sweet or the spice is not enough or the food is not properly cooked . It is not really that the parents are that old. They are just in their late forties. If they were old and too weak to work, it would have been understandable but they are not.

freecocoa:
Babe, if I lived with my parents, it will give me pleasure to do all I can for them in the house, least of all chores, I won't be comfortable sitting while my mum does chores, unless she insists, has his mother not been taking care of him since? What's the big deal? What sort of child even complains that his mum does nothing but watch african magic? Except his mum has been that way since they know her, then I can't understand his angle, besides, it's not like he doesn't have siblings who help out, or does he do [b]everything[/b]himself?

It's not entirely fair to complain after someone's made effort but then, that also doesn't mean he can't take correction and cook better, maybe it's me but I find it really strange that a man in his 20s living at home, will expect his mum to do chores for him.

My dear, late forties don dey old these days, if not the way our country be, one should be thinking of things to do for his/her parents as appreciation or just to even show them love, not complaining about cooking for them.

Xbabangida:

What you've failed to understand is that he is a guy and not a lady.

freecocoa:
I've been using "he" and you think I don't know he's a man? So parents with no female child(ren) shouldn't have chores done for them or what exactly?

Xbabangida:

You are just talking out of sentiments.

freecocoa:
Okay.

Xbabangida:

How will you feel if at your age your father told you to wash his car only for him to tell you to kneel down and flog you for not washing his car well?

freecocoa:
Did you read my first post? I condemned him being flogged and suggested he talks to his parents about such things so they can understand each other better by finding the best way to communicate without any party feeling disrespected.

Btw, my dad doesn't need to tell me to wash his car, I do that whenever I'm home, if he happens to be already at it and I notice, I take over, there are some errands you don't wait to be sent on.

Xbabangida:

But my stance is certain chores are masculine while others are feminine and they should be kept that way. Not in my life will I force my son to cook except he is doing from his own freewill and I wouldn't stoop so low to tell him that the food is not sweet rather encourage him to do better or better still ,leave the cooking for me,I will handle it, I am still alive and strong.

freecocoa:
Babe, if I lived with my parents, it will give me pleasure to do all I can for them in the house, least of all chores, I won't be comfortable sitting while my mum does chores, unless she insists, has his mother not been taking care of him since? What's the big deal? What sort of child even complains that his mum does nothing but watch african magic? Except his mum has been that way since they know her, then I can't understand his angle, besides, it's not like he doesn't have siblings who help out, or does he do [b]everything[/b]himself?

It's not entirely fair to complain after someone's made effort but then, that also doesn't mean he can't take correction and cook better, maybe it's me but I find it really strange that a man in his 20s living at home, will expect his mum to do chores for him.

My dear, late forties don dey old these days, if not the way our country be, one should be thinking of things to do for his/her parents as appreciation or just to even show them love, not complaining about cooking for them.

faith2ogesco:
ur a lady he's d first son. Big difference. I cook at tyms in d house but when dey wanted to turn me to kitchen boy one certain tyms, I jux park

Xbabangida:

But my stance is certain chores are masculine while others are feminine and they should be kept that way. Not in my life will I force my son to cook except he is doing from his own freewill and I wouldn't stoop so low to tell him that the food is not sweet rather encourage him to do better or better still ,leave the cooking for me,I will handle it, I am still alive and strong.

MarvellousGod:
Don't worry, when you don't have a female child you'll understand. . You'll continue doing all chores alone because men don't do chores abi?
Yes, some chores may be feminine but what happens when a female isn't around? The mother will continue toiling because men are allergic to chores abi??

The instance you gave about female washing cars.. so if you don't have a brother, you'll leave your dad to be washing his cars while you watch?

The children are all grown, they should even be willing to render any assistance they can to their parents before they leave and start their own family. .

People like you will be saying men shouldn't do chores but will cry when your husband doesn't help at home..
Had he been the person watching African magic while his mum cooks, he wouldn't have seen a problem. .there is a problem because it's the woman watching

I see no problem with op doing chores at all.. the only problem i see is the canning even though op may have been rude to his mum....

HitlerGaddafi:


African mentality shaaa. I noticed only the female are in support of that nonsense,it all boils down to sentiments. When I was younger too, they almost turned me to a woman in the house. I cooked,swept ,wash,did this did that. On this particularly day, they gave me their underwear to wash and i was grossly irritated. I argued with them that day and I just parked my things and left the house. The truth is we don't have good mothers again. The mothers of this generation and previous ones lack maternal care and that maternal bond and people like you, Dyt freecocoa are definitely one of them. Drop this african mentality, it is stvpidity and thats why the whites will continue to call you animals because of nothing but your awkward way of thinking. I see no reason why a grown up male child should be forced to cook and still complain that the food is not well cooked. First and foremost, he has no business in that kitchen so get that, upfront.

MarvellousGod:
Don't worry, when you don't have a female child you'll understand. . You'll continue doing all chores alone because men don't do chores abi?
Yes, some chores may be feminine but what happens when a female isn't around? The mother will continue toiling because men are allergic to chores abi??

The instance you gave about female washing cars.. so if you don't have a brother, you'll leave your dad to be washing his cars while you watch?

The children are all grown, they should even be willing to render any assistance they can to their parents before they leave and start their own family. .

People like you will be saying men shouldn't do chores but will cry when your husband doesn't help at home..
Had he been the person watching African magic while his mum cooks, he wouldn't have seen a problem. .there is a problem because it's the woman watching

I see no problem with op doing chores at all.. the only problem i see is the canning even though op may have been rude to his mum....

faith2ogesco:
no prob in doing chores for me. But as for being rude, d mum caused it jor. She's suppose to be wiser. Whenever I did a chore and didn't do it well. Mama encouraged me. Esp if it was kitchen duty. Only God knows how she said it DAT made d dude flare up. Every parent in naija always know children obey ur parents in d lord. But dey never remember d one DAT says parents do not provoke your children to wrath. Even when dey do DAT. Children still take d blame. If she had corrected him subtly with instructions on how to do it better. Dis case for no dey here now. Astalabyebye

Richy4:
So during the heated argument, he doesn't know what his mates does best right?

What he should have done was to leave the room and slam the door to it's very foundation....

Anyways there is nothing he can do at the moment because his school fee, and up keep is on the line if he does anything funny.

I have no issue with his parents asking him to do the chores. But they should stop treating him like a girl. The kneeling down aspect, the flogging @ 20s haba!!!!!

People that says he should move out, yes he should. But do people move out empty handed? He is a student. He got no job. How will be pay the bills and rent.

When the white guys move out of their parents houses and jobless. The government provides for them monthly or fortnightly enough to pay rent. And feed. But if they want more to buy shirt, cigarette etc, that is when they storm out of their comfort zone and look for work. You guys should not mistake Nigeria to be like that. He got no where to go to.

HitlerGaddafi:


African mentality shaaa. I noticed only the female are in support of that nonsense,it all boils down to sentiments. When I was younger too, they almost turned me to a woman in the house. I cooked,swept ,wash,did this did that. On this particularly day, they gave me their underwear to wash and i was grossly irritated. I argued with them that day and I just parked my things and left the house. The truth is we don't have good mothers again. The mothers of this generation and previous ones lack maternal care and that maternal bond and people like you, Dyt freecocoa are definitely one of them. Drop this african mentality, it is stvpidity and thats why the whites will continue to call you animals because of nothing but your awkward way of thinking. I see no reason why a grown up male child should be forced to cook and still complain that the food is not well cooked. First and foremost, he has no business in that kitchen so get that, upfront.

jashar:



Please explain 'treating him like a girl'. Girls should be treated like the way he was treated right?

MarvellousGod:
Yeah, the woman would have simply encouraged him instead...
However, two wrongs don't make a right, he would have found a better way of handling it instead of flaring up and exchanging words with his mum..

In Africa, you must obey your parents as long as you're still under their roof and they fend for you. . You just have to hustle and leave ASAP... No, I don't justify the treatment some parents mete out to their kids...