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Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Toks2008(m): 11:28pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
All over the world,women divorce their hubbies for so many reasons but statistics have shown that infidelity tops the list especially in this part of the world where polygamy has become the norm,but the question is;does it make sense for a lady to divorce her hubby over infidelity when same man can as well decide and indeed marry more wives? I want ladies to understand this one vital point that most and i mean MOST HUSBANDS will cheat on their wives even if they are married to angels and the fact that your husband cheats on you does not mean he does not deeply love and desire you. Please don't get it twisted...Not all men cheat and adultery is a sin before GOD and all adulterers be a man or woman shall end up in hell but i am not here to preach any sermon but to face reality head on. Many ladies are always quick to say they can not stand an adulterer as a husband and some will threaten to rain fire and brimstone on a philandering hubby but in case you discover your hubby cheats on you please what would you do? 1.Would you rather leave your marriage, remain single and celibate for life? 2.Would you rather leave your adulterous hubby and start sleeping about with other men who are probably randy or husbands of other women? 3.Would you keep changing the new man to start all over with another if he also cheats on you? 4.Would you prefer to stay with an adulterous hubby and also shamelessly philander about in the bid to seek a revenge? 5.Would you prefer to stay with a philandering hubby,live a decent lifestyle and focus on your life and that of your children and just see him as a sex partner warning him to use protection if he must eat out? 6.Would you prefer a sexually decent hubby to take a new wife because he says he hates sleeping with random women? Please don't answer with "none of the above because if you are in that position,you will certainly be faced with an option. This is what i want many married ladies to know and i can't stress it enough..There is absolutely nothing you can do to stop a man to be polygamous either by sleeping around or taking a second wife "IF" he wants to and you can't even nag him out of it but In order to have a good stand if your hubby cheats on you,be a good wife first by being very humble,GOD fearing,Excellent cook,Financially independent,a crazy LovePeddler only to your hubby then watch and see. Many ladies make some adulterous hubbies feel too important.Don't even think about worrying your head about your husband's fidelity but warn him to use protection if he must keep mistresses...i bet he will be so scared that he will sit up. Unfortunately many ladies just give their husband an excuse to have that Alpha ego whenever they rant and give them heat over an inconsequential emotionally vulnerable side dish. There are more interesting things in life so please don't spoil your fun by hinging your happiness on your hubby's infidelity to you..trust me,If every married lady can care less if her husband cheats and just focus on developing her life and that of her child(ren),how happy many marriages will be. Its not difficult,,its a thing of the mind. Hope this makes a little sense. 118 Likes 15 Shares
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Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by OZAOEKPE(f): 11:31pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
"I need google". Quote me anywhere. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Favolly(f): 11:34pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
Number 1 please 5 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Toks2008(m): 11:37pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
Favolly: Easy to say. Si at 26 say you caught your hubby cheating then you will leave and never have sex again? I hear you. 52 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by eyinjuege: 12:40am On Sep 23, 2015 |
OP, another possible scenario and also more common than you think 5. Would you rather stay with a philandering man playing the dutiful and long suffering wife, but also start philandering secretly and loving every minute of it? 38 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by KanwuliaJara: 4:10am On Sep 23, 2015 |
1. NO 2. NO 3. NO 4. NO 5. NO Reason for ALL 5? I am a better "PHILANDERESS"! ![]() No man can beat me at that kind of game o! ![]() Abi, I nefa "PROOF" am? ![]() I go TANDA whia I dey KAMKPEEEEEEE !!! No need to SWAP one HE-GOAT FOR ANOTHER ABI? ![]() He-goat na he-goat abegggggi!!!! ![]() 103 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Nobody: 4:47am On Sep 23, 2015 |
When married,4. |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Dyt(f): 4:56am On Sep 23, 2015 |
Who knows But only those who finds themselves in that situation knows Well there are something's some partners look out for in marriages that some don't even have time to worry if he's cheating or not ![]() ![]() I have seen women who loves their men nonetheless They love yet they look out We women love too but don't mean we dot feel tingling for another man but we control better Some men can't just take eyes off In all Diff strokes for diff folks abi how them dey talk am Na you know where shoe dey pain you If you can endure, hmmm hmmm kokanmi and if otherwise Choice always yours Just be happy #happy#dancing#singing#pharrel 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by pet4ril(f): 5:02am On Sep 23, 2015 |
I just pray I don't find myself in such mess because honestly, I don't really know the answer to the question you just asked only God knows what the future holds and what the answer is in my heart 22 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by cococandy(f): 5:14am On Sep 23, 2015 |
What would the guys do in such situations? That's what we will do. Yeye questions. 106 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Nobody: 8:36am On Sep 23, 2015 |
cococandy: Surely you can answer the question without bothering about what the guys would do if you are actually sure of your sef... Or is what the guys would do a function of what you would do ![]() ![]() ![]() 35 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Nobody: 8:46am On Sep 23, 2015 |
cococandy: hehehe. Very yeye question I will stay and be a sex and HIV partner. #Iranu jmoore:he won't list that one...rather he listed this Would you keep changing the present man to start all over with another if he cheats on you?^^^, forget the IF there_that's just an easy way out, trying to make the statement conditional while subliminally implying that all men cheat. That's the lie they use to encourage women to stay in bondage They would ask her:- How are you sure the next man would be better? *how are you sure he won't beat you too? *or be a worst cheat. And a younglady would take it as her destiny to perpetually endure. When my name isn't ndidi... ![]() 178 Likes 17 Shares |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Nobody: 9:09am On Sep 23, 2015 |
No 5...but I won't be happy doing that. |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Rocktation(f): 9:23am On Sep 23, 2015 |
OP as a man, ask yourself these questions. Whatever answer you give yourself, is the answer a woman would prolly give. 38 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Nobody: 9:52am On Sep 23, 2015 |
OP, you forgot to include; 6. Would you prefer to marry a philandering man, wait till he makes good money, kill him afterwards and inherit all his wealth? Now, that is an option worth considering. ![]() 107 Likes 9 Shares |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by jmoore(m): 9:58am On Sep 23, 2015 |
"Would you divorce him and marry a faithful man?" Why is this option not listed? ![]() 82 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Vikky014(f): 10:36am On Sep 23, 2015 |
Toks2008: 5 smetimes 4 and i will do dt 4 with his friend then divorce him straight away and will never look back |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Jozzy4: 11:38am On Sep 23, 2015 |
Its not easy though bcoz the world's moral standard is very low ; but by Gods grace , I never pray or wish to cheat on my future wife . 9 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by bukatyne(f): 11:48am On Sep 23, 2015 |
jmoore: Hehehehe! The OP assumes 99.9% of married men are unfaithful. 18 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by justcallbuki(f): 12:05pm On Sep 23, 2015 |
i think this topic is for those that their husband cheat,so,what's the question for me that my husband doesn't cheat uhn? 11 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Nobody: 12:34pm On Sep 23, 2015 |
Kachisbarbie: You have answered your first paragraph in your second. There's no need to list that option because it goes without saying that the woman never married or intended to marry a cheater. The cheater was, in the beginning, a "faithful man" wasn't he? And then you say there's a lie that all men cheat, that's true. It is a lie. But in a case where the woman finds her second "faithful husband" has cheated, what is she to do with the five options listed in the OP? We can address this thread based on the OP or you could just start your own counter-thread. ![]() 7 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Nobody: 12:36pm On Sep 23, 2015 |
bukatyne:Really! It does? Please point out areas where this assumption presents itself. 1 Like |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Toks2008(m): 12:40pm On Sep 23, 2015 |
Kachisbarbie: Timbuktou: Timbuktou i doff my hat for you because i actualy got so pissed when i read Kachisbarbie comments because just as you reterated,i believe the write up is so clear but then some people just have difficulty comprehending and sometimes i just do not bother explaining. Thumbs up for clarifying 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by skydeep(f): 1:03pm On Sep 23, 2015 |
cococandy:Lol. Always want the women to take the final decision because men are immune to taking blames ![]() 18 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by bukatyne(f): 1:08pm On Sep 23, 2015 |
Timbuktou: I meant the Poster Toks himself. You can read up his other posts. |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by cococandy(f): 1:09pm On Sep 23, 2015 |
njokusboy: @bold, gbam. Exactly. You guys lead. We follow. If you will stay married to the lady and endure her lover after lover, pray for her to change and protect the marriage from divorce even when the lady can't stop sleeping around, we will. If you won't, we won't. 55 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Rocktation(f): 1:10pm On Sep 23, 2015 |
Abi? Like asking if the woman would "shamelessly philander about" when her husband "philanders". It becomes shameful for women when supposedly, it is a natural phenomenon for men. @skydeep 42 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by xynerise: 1:10pm On Sep 23, 2015 |
justcallbuki:Because he has not been caught doesn't mean he doesn't cheat ![]() *Runs out sighting someone* 8 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by cococandy(f): 1:10pm On Sep 23, 2015 |
skydeep:This Tok boy is foolish sha. But he doesn't know. I'll spank him one day. 19 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by cococandy(f): 1:11pm On Sep 23, 2015 |
xynerise: ![]() Madam sky bia Biko. Ejidelem ya na shirt. He's going nowhere. 2 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by xynerise: 1:14pm On Sep 23, 2015 |
Rocktation: There is this sentimental saying that "A key that opens many door is a master key, but..... ![]() ![]() Erm....technically, that saying is right but not morally ![]() 11 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by xynerise: 1:17pm On Sep 23, 2015 |
cococandy:Woman, leave my Agbada ![]() 4 Likes |
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