I met my husband Dayo, in my third year at the university. I can still remember that day. He had come to my hostel to put up with his cousin Tomi for a short while as he was posted to the university health centre for his national youth service corps.. Tomi had forgotten to drop the keys to his room on Dayo's instructions and he was stranded. It began to drizzle after a while and I had no choice than to let him wait in my room. I gave him some water and we started a conversation. Dayo was such an amazing person to be with that I didn't realize how much time we had spent chatting. It just seemed like I had known him all my life. We became friends and I was the happiest girl at that time. Dayo was everything I wanted in a man. Tall, dark, handsome and of course a medical doctor. I was just too obsessed with getting married to a medical doctor that I forgot about everything else. Dayo probably understood that I loved him too much and made a fool of me. I willingly offered him my most prized possession, my body, my virginity. Dayo was too happy to know that he was the first man and he promised me everything in the world. He told me that he would take me to the altar as soon as he got a job and i earnestly hoped and prayed for it. However one thing I couldn't understand about Dayo was his attitude towards women. I wouldn't say he went after them, but he just couldn't resist them. He accepted gifts and cash from them and would often introduce me as his friend. Everytime I complained about his attitude, he would say he knew exactly what he was doing and there was no point nagging about anything as I would be his wife one day. .. God answered my prayers and Dayo was retained in the university health centre. I waited eagerly for his proposals as the days went by but he began to drag feet. He said he wanted to save more and I obliged but days grew into months and months into a year and Dayo wasn't willing to see my parents. Two years passed by and I grew weary of waiting. Dayo had a good job, a nice car and a small beautiful apartment but he kept on postponing the big deal. I stopped having sex with him and Dayo had a good reason to cheat on me with my little cousin. I was very mad at him and he apologised profusely. He told me that my sister had seduced him and I believed him. Sarah was such a spoilt brat so I let the matter go. I began sleeping with him again to secure my relationship . I cooked his food, did his laundry, kept his house clean and did all the wifely chores but still Dayo wasn't making up his mind so I decided to help myself. .. I deliberately got pregnant for him! I had mixed feelings. Would my pregnancy make him speed up our marriage plans? Would he be happy? Would he reject it? I thought about it for several days and finally opened up to him. He dropped his spoon of rice hastily as I made the comment "I am pregnant", looked at me angrily and said "You must be joking. Are you so stupid to get pregnant? I am not ready for marriage. You better take that bastard out of your womb if you ever want to see my face again". I nearly slumped,I couldn't believe my eyes. Everything came back to me in a flash. The first time we met, the first time we made love, the day he got his employment letter, the day I caught him with my little cousin, the many female friends, the weird text messages from female colleagues... The world came crashing at my feet and I realized that Dayo didn't love me as much as i thought. I realized that I didn't take .enough time to know him before accepting him,I realized that giving him my body was the worst mistake, I realized that I ignored all the warning signs. Dayo wasn't the man for me but I pushed too hard... I couldn't stand an abortion, I couldn't stand having a child outside wedlock so I went in search of his family. I was lucky to meet his mum and she accepted me with open arms. She told me that no son of hers would bring shame to the family and that I was in safe hands. She sent for Dayo and he made it very clear to his mother and other family members that he wasn't ready to marry me... I wept like a baby but Dayo wouldn't change his mind. My church got wind of the news and suspended my parents who were church elders. My father was very mad at me and warned me never to return home.
It was a lonely world for me. Dayo called me all sorts of names and told me that he only accepted the pregnancy because he was the first man but he was too young to get married... After much persuasions from his big uncles and family members, Dayo decided to pay my bride price and I moved in with him.. Its four years now and I still cry every night. I am pregnant for the second child but Dayo doesn't regard that as anything. He blames me for every misfortune in his life and treats me like thrash. He still hangs out with the boys and acts like a bachelor... My husband is 29 and he feels he is too young to be a father and husband. He says I dashed his hopes of going abroad to further his studies, he says I didn't let him have his dream home and life. He just keeps saying I messed his life and I wonder why...
Every day I hope and pray for a miracle and I know someday my husband Dayo would come around........
Dear single ladies, do not love a man too much and forget that you are special too. You deserve to be treated like royalty. Getting pregnant in a bid to make a man marry you is just a sheer waste of time... You really cant force a man to do anything. Let him make up his mind. Let him be the one in a haste to take you to the altar and not the other round....
Call me old fashioned but I will still tell the truth. Sex before marriage to a large extent beclouds your sense of reasoning. You never see things rightly when you are giving it...
Finally, a broken relationship is a million times better than a broken marriage. So quit if it isn't working. Even if you have invested a good number of years in it, walk away. It is far better than spending the rest of your life in tears...A man who treats you like thrash in a relationship won't do better in marriage.. Wise up!

Interestingly deep...............

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So that's her excuse- a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage? What a load of bull! And she went on to have a 2nd child with this guy. She doesn't sound like the sharpest tool in the shed. Smh. As for her story, she should have controlled her whoremones. Nothing more to say on this except you reap what you sow.

dharay99:

see lonq textbook,
For law students tho.


Neeeeexxxxxx†....

Why are you this lazyyyyy...

Sorry

and gals be thinkn they can tie a nigger down wth sex every time

Nigerian girls and money. Greedy bastards. She knew that he is a casanova yet she still went ahead to get married to him, now that she realised he isn't willing to change she's here giving the wrong advice. Why didn't she ask Nigerian girls not to marry for cash, not to depend on a guy for cash she's here saying don't love too much. RUBBISH.

dharay99:

uhm, na condition.

Loolzz, pele ooo

hearts magazine came to my mind.

Illegal Straffing ain't worth it



If da nigga rily love you, he will stick to ya Witat sex


Premarital sex comes with Lotta insecurities nd Itz nt kul



Nice story op




FEAR GOD

Wht a way of life sorry dear

misspicy:
Sorry

But why? He showed her his true colours before pregnancy & marriage and yet she still went on & got herself caught in the mousetrap. I don't feel sorry for people like this. They create their own hell so they can turn around & play woe is me. So what if he's the 1st guy she ever slept with? Doesn't mean he's "it" as he's now showing her a live show, front row seat. She needs to untangle this mess, stop acting helpless & do something-leave him. IMHO, she's just being pathetic.

PunkyVeer:


But why? He showed her his true colours before pregnancy & marriage and yet she still went on & got herself caught in the mousetrap. I don't feel sorry for people like this. They create their own hell so they can turn around & play woe is me. So what if he's the 1st guy she ever slept with? Doesn't mean he's "it" as he's now showing her a live show, front row seat. She needs to untangle this mess, stop acting helpless & do something-leave him. IMHO, she's just being pathetic.

Lol,i book space ni naw


Btw did u see wer i mentioned u?

Op, nice and interesting story you got there.. And this look like wale adenuga's super story.... but you missed to add somethinhg "we are nothing but pencil in the hands of the creator"

ok

charijee:
He might probably turn around some day and start being real nice, you never can tell.



I'm seeing something in this write up ...Jeffrey don't even ask cos I won't tell you

If I read it,you know I'll see it too.

charijee:
He might probably turn around some day and start being real nice, you never can tell.



I'm seeing something in this write up ...Jeffrey don't even ask cos I won't tell you

Hmmmm

misspicy:

Lol,i book space ni naw

Hahaha. Ok.

jonaifame22:
and gals be thinkn they can tie a nigger down wth sex every time

Na who dey tie this one down with sex

[quote author=joshuamoses101 post=38529741][/quote] I just finishd washing all my pots

charijee:
Read and whisper it

I've seen it..... I now see why you refused to answer my mails anytime I refer to THAT.