cococandy:

If you're staying for the kids, trust me they won't learn anything from both of you and it will even affect them worse than a broken home when both of you start going at each other. So that's kinda pointless sha. Staying for the kids. Pfft.

But since you're staying for the money, find a way to collect it well well before dumping him sorry ass.
Too bad you can't divorce him and get all his money. Or at least half and the future proceedings. That's what people who treat their wives bad deserve.

Anyway that's one option.

Or you can forgive him if he's willing to change.
But who are we kidding? He came back after long days of inexplicable absence filled with more lies?
Smh. That's not happening.

The money you're even staying for no be only una get am. His other families that you're yet to find out about will come in due time to claim their share. Hope there's enough to go round.
Meanwhile protect yourself and goodluck.

just to clarify something, when i say i'm staying for the kids, what i mean is, i'm staying to have them in my life cause if i leave now, he and his family are sure to get custody of the kids (i mean we are in Nigeria). When i'm in a more civilized country, I can expect justice so for now I have to suck it up so I can have my kids in my life.

Vikky014:
Whatever.i wunt leave i will teach d so called cheat the real meaning of cheating. meanwhile emotional cheating is d best weapon. so if u like take vikky014 as a whor*e. dts ur cup of tea

I don't know you who are so I can't call you a who'e but your previous comment was whorish.

Listen, cheating just to "punish" a cheating partner is silly.

You're putting your health and life in line and if the yahoo boy leaks your pics online then nah serious OYO.

Why not leave?

When the going was good for you and your hubby, you never came online to post it on NL, you now have an issue with your marraige and you are disturbing us.

There are 3 Sides to every story: Your Side, His Side and the Truth.

You are only telling us your side. From your reaction to his cheating by paying him back in his own coin , protrays you as a very loose lady without decency.

With an attitute like yours, You must hve drivin your hubby to Have eyes for other women.

To consider cheating on your hubby with 2 kids, just makes you a Slu.t.

If a woman can say that she is staying cos of Money after her trust has been betrayed by her hubby , just means you were a pro.st1tute before your wedding. You are now sellng your body to your hubby.

Madam , pls go ahead and Cheat on your Hubby and stop occuppying NL space with Empty Rants and stop being a Coward.


NB: YOU ARE THE SAME LADY THAT HAD A RUNNING BATTLE WITH HER HUBBY AND MOTHER-IN-LAW SOME TIME AGO ABOUT TRAVELLING TO WRITE EXAMS AND DROPPING OFF YOUR KIDS.

YOU HAVE BEEN CONFRONTATIONAL IN YOUR MARRAIGE, GO BACK AND READ SOME OF THE COMMENTS OF THE TRAVELLING SAGA THREAD AND YOU WILL SEE THAT ALOT OF THE COMMENTS WERE THE LACK OF TRUST YOUR HUBBY HAS FOR YOU.

YOU OBVIOUSLY HVE TENDENCY OF BEING WAYWARD. AND YOU HVE CONFIRMED IT WITH YOUR INTENTION TO CHEAT.

nickibarb:
So my husband cheated on me some months ago right, i realised this when i came across numerous flirtatious messages on his whatsapp (you might remember me from my previous posts). The drama resulting from that discovery was so complicated, i don't even have the strength to go there. Anyways, my reason for this post is that I am obsessed with paying him back in his own coin. I think i'm way too hot for that insult he meted out to me like does he think because i have two kids I am like totally off the market? The first two guys i flirted with as payback (via the same whatsapp) were falling over themselves to get with me. My husband saw the messages (i'm glad he did) and it drove him crazy, he was swearing fire and brimstone about what he'll do to any guy that messes with me. Right now, I don't feel any love for my husband, I kinda told him that already. He broke my heart and I don't think it can ever heal. I'm only here in this marriage co-habitation cause he has some money (i like the entitled life) and of course I would love to give the kids a two-parent home. (I have some cash of my own though but he has a lot more).

I totally ignore my husband now, I don't give a hoot about whether he comes home or not. Some days ago, after staying away for like forever, he came home ready to give a million explanations about his whereabouts but i wasn't interested, i just carried on a conversation with him like i didn't notice he had been absent (the same explanation i used to literally beg him for). It's making him so uncertain and shaky and i'm loving it. Looks like he enjoyed the attention i used to give him before when i used to whine about him not calling me and not coming home. Now i don't give a f*** and he knows it. Anyways, I probably won't cheat unless i meet a really classy, enlightened, well travelled young-man , the type i'm usually attracted to (like my husband), for now i just feel like ranting. Most Nigerian men are not my type anyway. I'm 27 so i'm not that old. This n**** messed with the wrong wife. Its been a slow boring day at work today maybe clients are already in pre-independence celebratory mode, so i'm available to read your comments. try and be nice okay *tougueout.

sauceEEP:
Am classy just like trey songz so how can we meet @ op?

haha. trey songz works but trust me if i was looking to hook up with someone, it won't be with someone who has heard my story. i'm just here to vent...anonymously

AnneMomoh:
When the going was good for you and your hubby, you never came online to post it on NL, you now have an issue with your marraige and you are disturbing us.

There are 3 Sides to every story: Your Side, His Side and the Truth.

You are only telling us your side. From your reaction to his cheating by paying him back in his own coin , protrays you as a very loose lady without decency.

With an attitute like yours, You must hve drivin your hubby to Have eyes for other women.

To consider cheating on your hubby with 2 kids, just makes you a Slu.t.

If a woman can say that she is staying cos of Money after her trust has been betrayed by her hubby , just means you were a pro.st1tute before your wedding. You are now sellng your body to your hubby.

Madam , pls go ahead and Cheat on your Hubby and stop occuppying NL space with Empty Rants and stop being a Coward.

Harsh but true....

Tallesty1:
I don't know you who are so I can't call you a who'e but your previous comment was whorish.

Listen, cheating just to "punish" a cheating partner is silly.

You're putting your health and life in line and if the yahoo boy leaks your pics online then nah serious OYO.

Why not leave?

i bet u dnt know sme1 can cheat wtout having sex abiok lemme gist u small.. when i flirt wt sme1else by exchanging romantic txt msg am automatically cheating in my own dictionary bc it will reduce d attention i hv for my partner...i dnt need to exchange nudes or hv sex wt d so called spare tyre. i will jst b playing mind game wt my cheating spouse through that to keep him in check


i wunt leave a cheat. bt both of us will b going for hiv taste evry 3 mnths and b using protection. i can only leave if he is a wife beater. i had dt mentality of leaving a cheating spouse bfore bt to me it wunt solve d problem bc i might be sleeping around after dat

Tundeiab:


Gross!!!

just cheat on me bt pray dt i dnt catch u bc if i do. hmmmmmm ur own name nah sorry cos i will evn b kissing my phone in ur presence and form calls in ur presence

Really? What happened to respecting ur own body and being d bigger person?
Sometimes it's way easier to forgive. U r not a saint either. He saw flirty chats on ur phone and he let it slide. That's probably a sign of remorse.

You've gone on and on about how young and hot you are nd men falling over themselves to get u,which am sure ur husband did to get you but did that keep him from screwing someone else? Please get that out of your mind.

If you are staying,please give it ur all. If you are not please save urselves d misery.
That he cheated doesn't mean u shouldn't forgive might take a while, bt u would get there. That is strength! Weaklings are always stuck on past failures.

Mrs/lady I want 2 tell u dat u ve bin a wonderful lady. 4 U 2 be able 2 condole dis 4 long it shows dat u actually love ur darling husband. But come 2 think of it, can 2 blind people lead dem selves? D answer is NO. Am so sorry lady buh ur husband is a blind man,buh since u don't know dat, u wanna join him 2 bcome blind 2, dats pretty bad young lady. Wen I was done going thur ur message I realised dat u ve got a very beautiful heart and dats y u wanna salvage ur home. Pls take ur husband 4 a counselling class both of u should be attending d classes 2geda and den u guys should learn 2 free ur selves frm every bondage and life will bcome meaningful 2 u both. The bible says“the heart of man is despirately wicked above all things who can know it? Except God. And the heart of every human is in the hands of God he alone can twist it 2 any directions he wishes. Prayer!prayer!!prayer!!! Prayer 2geda and always ask him 2 lead d family prayers. Anything u can hate u have the power 2 overcome dat thing. The strenght of the oppressor is the silence of oppressed. If u really wanna save ur home pls watch and pray. God will help u and ur husband in Jesus most name. Amen

Vikky014:
i bet u dnt know sme1 can cheat wtout having sex abiok lemme gist u small.. when i flirt wt sme1else by exchanging romantic txt msg am automatically cheating in my own dictionary bc it will reduce d attention i hv for my partner...i dnt need to exchange nudes or hv sex wt d so called spare tyre. i will jst b playing mind game wt my cheating spouse through that to keep him in check


i wunt leave a cheat. bt both of us will b going for hiv taste evry 3 mnths and b using protection. i can only leave if he is a wife beater. i had dt mentality of leaving a cheating spouse bfore bt to me it wunt solve d problem bc i might be sleeping around after dat

lols....


I get you now but it is still risky.


Here is what I mean.


I don't care about the motive of whoever is flirting with me(assuming I am the one she will flirt with) if she's giving me enough attention then I will definitely Bleep her, ie if I want to.

Flirting is all fun and game until someone takes it serious, shit happens y'know and (not bragging) if I (4 example) wants to nail a woman, married or single, all I need is her attention(no matter how small) and time. The scripture says we should rebuke the devil, but warns us to flee from all sexual immorality because we can't handle the temptation.

I don't care about how long your spoon is, eating with the devil is a dangerous game.

My point is, it is unwise to change and become who you are not because someone changed. If you can't cope and that person is not ready to quit then leave.

Flirting is cool but serious feeling will develop eventually

AnneMomoh:
When the going was good for you and your hubby, you never came online to post it on NL, you now have an issue with your marraige and you are disturbing us.

There are 3 Sides to every story: Your Side, His Side and the Truth.

You are only telling us your side. From your reaction to his cheating by paying him back in his own coin , protrays you as a very loose lady without decency.

With an attitute like yours, You must hve drivin your hubby to Have eyes for other women.

To consider cheating on your hubby with 2 kids, just makes you a Slu.t.

If a woman can say that she is staying cos of Money after her trust has been betrayed by her hubby , just means you were a pro.st1tute before your wedding. You are now sellng your body to your hubby.

Madam , pls go ahead and Cheat on your Hubby and stop occuppying NL space with Empty Rants and stop being a Coward.


NB: YOU ARE THE SAME LADY THAT HAD A RUNNING BATTLE WITH HER HUBBY AND MOTHER-IN-LAW SOME TIME AGO ABOUT TRAVELLING TO WRITE EXAMS AND DROPPING OFF YOUR KIDS.

YOU HAVE BEEN CONFRONTATIONAL IN YOUR MARRAIGE, GO BACK AND READ SOME OF THE COMMENTS OF THE TRAVELLING SAGA THREAD AND YOU WILL SEE THAT ALOT OF THE COMMENTS WERE THE LACK OF TRUST YOUR HUBBY HAS FOR YOU.

YOU OBVIOUSLY HVE TENDENCY OF BEING WAYWARD. AND YOU HVE CONFIRMED IT WITH YOUR INTENTION TO CHEAT.

yeah whatever. prostitute, slut,LovePeddler what other name do you have? total bullshit. and he has decency for cheating on me right? this stupid Nigerian mentality is one the reasons I resisted us moving back here. He just came here and started behaving like a lot of other men around here cos this society lets them get away with their nonsense.

Cheat and stop ranting about it .

Cheats don't rant , they simply cheat and come back home with an std .

Tallesty1:
lols....


I get you now but it is still risky.


Here is what I mean.


I don't care about the motive of whoever is flirting with me(assuming I am the one she will flirt with) if she's giving me enough attention then I will definitely Bleep her, ie if I want to.

Flirting is all fun and game until someone takes it serious, shit happens y'know and (not bragging) if I (4 example) wants to nail a woman, married or single, all I need is her attention(no matter how small) and time. The scripture says we should rebuke the devil, but warns us to flee from all sexual immorality because we can't handle the temptation.

I don't care about how long your spoon is, eating with the devil is a dangerous game.

My point is, it is unwise to change and become who you are not because someone changed. If you can't cope and that person is not ready to quit then leave.

Flirting is cool but serious feeling will develop eventually

ok. i understand u

Op has the tendency to cheat all she was looking for was the excuses and luckily one has been handed over to her on a platter of gold.

In fact I can categorically say from her comment about staying for the money as one of the reasons why her hubby doesn't respect her.

Men with wives that came for the money sometimes has zero respect for their women.

nickibarb:
So my husband cheated on me some months ago right, i realised this when i came across numerous flirtatious messages on his whatsapp (you might remember me from my previous posts). The drama resulting from that discovery was so complicated, i don't even have the strength to go there. Anyways, my reason for this post is that I am obsessed with paying him back in his own coin. I think i'm way too hot for that insult he meted out to me like does he think because i have two kids I am like totally off the market? The first two guys i flirted with as payback (via the same whatsapp) were falling over themselves to get with me. My husband saw the messages (i'm glad he did) and it drove him crazy, he was swearing fire and brimstone about what he'll do to any guy that messes with me. Right now, I don't feel any love for my husband, I kinda told him that already. He broke my heart and I don't think it can ever heal. I'm only here in this marriage co-habitation cause he has some money (i like the entitled life) and of course I would love to give the kids a two-parent home. (I have some cash of my own though but he has a lot more).

I totally ignore my husband now, I don't give a hoot about whether he comes home or not. Some days ago, after staying away for like forever, he came home ready to give a million explanations about his whereabouts but i wasn't interested, i just carried on a conversation with him like i didn't notice he had been absent (the same explanation i used to literally beg him for). It's making him so uncertain and shaky and i'm loving it. Looks like he enjoyed the attention i used to give him before when i used to whine about him not calling me and not coming home. Now i don't give a f*** and he knows it. Anyways, I probably won't cheat unless i meet a really classy, enlightened, well travelled young-man , the type i'm usually attracted to (like my husband), for now i just feel like ranting. Most Nigerian men are not my type anyway. I'm 27 so i'm not that old. This n**** messed with the wrong wife. Its been a slow boring day at work today maybe clients are already in pre-independence celebratory mode, so i'm available to read your comments. try and be nice okay *tougueout.

If you do..

You would only bring yourself down to His level. Why should you lose your dignity all in the name of revenge.

Instead get involved in something positive to better your life. And above all pray to God to give you a forgiving spirit.

Just forgive and forget.

People should only fear the consequences of their actions - PMB.

Lol see some guys ranting here like their lives depend on it! What if reverse was the case here? What if it was her husband ranting on NL that he's going to cheat on her as an act of revenge? I'm sure must of y'all would support him. Nonsense, Hypocrites!

Madam go ahead if it will make u feel better . Stay safe, use protection.

Op you are just 27 and you want to throw your life away to the bin? And also give your kids a future they will curse later?
If your husband has lost his senses doesn't mean you should do the same too, if you two cannot sort things out just leave-leave and leave.

Cheating back on you hubby will only spoil your name. Wanna get back at him? Divorce him, do well in business,train your kids as you should, carry yourself properly,meaning take good care of yourself. On the long run they will wish they would have threated you better etc etc. However there is simply no turning back,typical case of people dont know what they have untill they lose it.

How many men truly change after being caught cheating,even if they claim to repent? A woman is kicked out of their matrimonial home, whilst men get oppurtunity after oppurtunity. Once a man knows that eventually the woman will give in,he will continue in his old ways,knowing his behaviour has no consequences. (maybe temporary interuption of konji and food...which he was already getting outside anyways)

Whatever you do when you are a divorced woman is totally up to you,so if you wanna get your freak on every once in a while you can do that in your own private time without people running their mouth.

Just make sure you focus on becoming a better you,develop yourself so you can also be a good mom to your children. Do not drag the kids in the divorce mess by denying him to see the kids. Do demand that proper arrangements must be made and both of you threat eachother with respect.

Just my two cents.

Truckpusher:
Op has the tendency to cheat all she was looking for was the excuses and luckily one has been handed over to her on a platter of gold.

In fact I can categorically say from her comment about staying for the money as one of the reasons why her hubby doesn't respect her.

Men with wives that came for the money sometimes has zero respect for their women.

well he was a regular joe when we met. he made money while we were married

nickibarb:


well he was a regular joe when we met. he made money while we were married

Honestly, you just need to work on your marriage and talk to your hubby and if he is willing to change then so be it.

There is no point trying to get even by paying him back in his own coin as that would only spell doom for both of you, with all the negative attendants that comes with a partner that sleeps around and your kids would be at the receiving end.
I do not support his cheating habit but getting even in the same manner makes both of you same type of people and I'm afraid that your home would be filled with negative energy and lot of bad things can happen.

if you dont want to be called names dont make your family issue public,pls go back to what ever country you are coming from and cheat on your hubby.

The fact that you came back to nigeria and he cheated on you does not make cheating a Nigerian thing.

Where ever you are coming from , i believe men and women cheat on each other.

Madam pls go ahead and cheat on him as long as it makes you happy.

Coming online to Rant does not change your pesonality of a low life individual that is sticking with a Husband because of money.

Where ever you are coming from, i believe women dont stick with a cheating hubby cos of money. Women there and all over the world hve intergrity. They stick to a cheating Hubby not because of a money.

THEY STICK IN THAT MARRAIGE because OF THINGS THAT MONEY CANNOT BUY.

nickibarb:



yeah whatever. prostitute, slut,LovePeddler what other name do you have? total bullshit. and he has decency for cheating on me right? this stupid Nigerian mentality is one the reasons I resisted us moving back here. He just came here and started behaving like a lot of other men around here cos this society lets them get away with their nonsense.

AnneMomoh:
if you dont want to be called names dont make your family issue public,pls go back to what ever country you are coming from and cheat on your hubby.

The fact that you came back to nigeria and he cheated on you does not make cheating a Nigerian thing.

Where ever you are coming from , i believe men and women cheat on each other.

Madam pls go ahead and cheat on him as long as it makes you happy.

Coming online to Rant does not change your pesonality of a low life individual that is sticking with a Husband because of money.

Where ever you are coming from, i believe women dont stick with a cheating hubby cos of money. Women there and all over the world hve intergrity. They stick to a cheating Hubby not because of a money.

THEY STICK IN THAT MARRAIGE because OF THINGS THAT MONEY CANNOT BUY.

i don't mind being called names after all none of y'all know me. this is just an anonymous platform. I needed to talk to somebody and talking to strangers is great cos i get to vent, feel better about not having to bottle things up and at the end of the day pretty much no body knows what's going on with us.

as for cheating not being a nigerian thing, you're right but it seems to be considered the norm here cos like no one seems to think it's a big deal anymore. it's actually a big deal where i was. it's like wives are just expected to suck it up and get used to it.

All over the world Cheating is considered a Big deal.

In Nigeria, Men cheating on the wife is not frowned cos Polygamy is Culturally Legal.

Culture defines every society.


If where ever you are coming from makes polygamy culturally illegal of course, you hubby wont find it easy.

The same Culture makes Gayism illegal in Nigeria and Legal from where ever you may be coming from ,all these Makes Marriage a Complex institution.

Relocate to a location that will make your marriage work

nickibarb:


i don't mind being called names after all none of y'all know me. this is just an anonymous platform. I needed to talk to somebody and talking to strangers is great cos i get to vent, feel better about not having to bottle things up and at the end of the day pretty much no body knows what's going on with us.

as for cheating not being a nigerian thing, you're right but it seems to be considered the norm here cos like no one seems to think it's a big deal anymore. it's actually a big deal where i was. it's like wives are just expected to suck it up and get used to it.

AnneMomoh:
When the going was good for you and your hubby, you never came online to post it on NL, you now have an issue with your marraige and you are disturbing us.

There are 3 Sides to every story: Your Side, His Side and the Truth.

You are only telling us your side. From your reaction to his cheating by paying him back in his own coin , protrays you as a very loose lady without decency.

With an attitute like yours, You must hve drivin your hubby to Have eyes for other women.

To consider cheating on your hubby with 2 kids, just makes you a Slu.t.

If a woman can say that she is staying cos of Money after her trust has been betrayed by her hubby , just means you were a pro.st1tute before your wedding. You are now sellng your body to your hubby.

Madam , pls go ahead and Cheat on your Hubby and stop occuppying NL space with Empty Rants and stop being a Coward.


NB: YOU ARE THE SAME LADY THAT HAD A RUNNING BATTLE WITH HER HUBBY AND MOTHER-IN-LAW SOME TIME AGO ABOUT TRAVELLING TO WRITE EXAMS AND DROPPING OFF YOUR KIDS.

YOU HAVE BEEN CONFRONTATIONAL IN YOUR MARRAIGE, GO BACK AND READ SOME OF THE COMMENTS OF THE TRAVELLING SAGA THREAD AND YOU WILL SEE THAT ALOT OF THE COMMENTS WERE THE LACK OF TRUST YOUR HUBBY HAS FOR YOU.

YOU OBVIOUSLY HVE TENDENCY OF BEING WAYWARD. AND YOU HVE CONFIRMED IT WITH YOUR INTENTION TO CHEAT.

OUCH!

Truckpusher:
Cheat and stop ranting about it .

Cheats don't rant , they simply cheat and come back home with an std .

Truckkky...I twale unto you. Short, simple and straight to the point.

Every one else is writing an epistle. I nearly thought it was an essay competition.

op:I have these questions for you?
1,what is the foundation of your marriage like?
2,Both of you have been passing through alot but live in pretence.
3,Your marriage lacks communication from day one and you never tried looking for a solution
4,Have two wrong ever make a right?
5,Are you sure the man is not setting you up with that watspp chat? think twice men can use anything to get to something.
6,Consequences of cheeting is higher on the woman than on the man side
7,Make sure your friend are not giving you a wrong advice,cos you may not no the value of your husband untill they take him from you
8, Dont ever give your children reason to hate you in the future
9,Are you sure the man enjoys you sexually the way you did or both of you just make love for the sake of bearing children and in this case sex communication is very important .
10,Dont dear you think of divorce if the man did not initiate that.You are on the loosing side and your children will sufer it most
11,Madam be very careful the devil want to use you and will regrate your action,go home and work on your marriage.that institution is not a bed roses .
12,I have many more for you just time and chance cos I have seen a lot in the game

for more answers you can send your questions on obnwikuku@gmail.com

Vikky014:
LOL. u r funny. no be small send to chux413@gmail.com

is my pic a CV

Hahaha, ok send ur contact

pack and gooooooooooo jor....
badluck girl....

chuksfor13:
Hahaha, ok send ur contact

no be small thing