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Men, Go Within! by MizMyColi(f): 12:10pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
Dear reader about domestic violence. A lady (that I deeply admire) made an update on her Facebook wall because of some shocking observations that she had made about abuse in marriages and asked 3 questions:https://wordsmithf./ 4 Likes |
Re: Men, Go Within! by donTbone(m): 12:11pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
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Re: Men, Go Within! by MizMyColi(f): 12:12pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
Re: Men, Go Within! by donTbone(m): 12:16pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
MizMyColi: itz not funny faaaa! ![]() I hate it when I see men beat up their woman! Where I reside in school, it happens day in day out and I do ask, ''why cant this woman just leave''? but I guess itz cos of the children. But she eventually left and was api for her. Then the stupid man now became a single father! WAH A SHAME! ![]() Itz a nice writeup thou ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Men, Go Within! by Tallesty1(m): 12:20pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
.......... So I think the best thing to do now is to divorce her. I can't take it anymore. He concluded. And for like 40 minutes i was lost in thought. I gazed into the river that is flowing in front of us but there was nothing there to talk about. What should I say to him now. I asked myself. Even bible itself acknowledges that it's terrible to live with a nagging wife? "Your wife realy have a bad tongue" I said. Just to break the silence and hopefuly get something to talk about "But there wouldn't be much problem if you control your anger" "Do you think it is that easy? I laugh when people tell me that I need to be counselled on anger management when they know there wouldn't be a need for that if she behaves accordingly" "what do I say to him" I asked myself again. I looked at the stones we each sat on but there was no answer there. Just then I looked at the river again and noticed that a herd of cattle has started crossing through the river. As a result, the water became very muddy. I told him to go and get me a drink. ”The water in the lake is very muddy. I don’t think it is suitable to drink, Let's go home if your are thirsty.” "No, lets stay a little longer. I'm not very thirsty". After a while, I again asked him to go back to the river and get me some water. This annoyed him a bit. But he didnt know i was looking for a story that will help me to help him. He obediently went back to the lake. This time he found that the mud had settled down and the water was clean so he collected some for us to drink. I looked at the water and then looked up at my friend and said, “See what it takes to make the water clean. You let it be and the mud settled down on its own. It is also the same with your mind. When it is disturbed, just let it be. Give it a little time and it will settle down on its own.” if the words she is saying are disturbing you then give her space. Visit a friend and come back when her blood is calm. If you think she is purposly doing that then try to make sure she doesn't succed by giving her positive response. Act like you are un-aware of her bad character. She wasn't like that when you married her right? No; she wasn't Tame her then, pray for her, let her hear when you tell God about her nagging. help her the best way you can to become her old self, be firm regardless of her action, enlarge your sense of things. Stop listening to the sound of her voice and start hearing the unspoken words in her heart, the hidden meaning of her words because she could be trying to express herself. Return her harsh words with sweet ones, pet and show her love, buy her gifts, take her out occasionaly, help her at home. She could be batling stress. She is your wife and divorce is not an option in marriage” I Wished Him Luck And Left Asaply ^^^^My conversation with a friend years ago^^^^ The cause of the problem most times is in us. 4 Likes |
Re: Men, Go Within! by MizMyColi(f): 12:21pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
donTbone: Hmmmm So what if bae annoys you beyond usual? Like reeeeallly annoy you? |
Re: Men, Go Within! by Tallesty1(m): 12:22pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
donTbone:You for call the police to arrest. One over here used to beat his wife, I wanted to give him a thorough beating but I know I will be getting myself into trouble so I arrested him instead. I am his enemy till today but I don't care. 1 Like |
Re: Men, Go Within! by donTbone(m): 12:25pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
MizMyColi: Before marrying Bae, there should be this commitment that 'I wont lay my hand on bae even if she nags' (cos that's the most annoying to me). I learnt something from my Dad... when Mum brings this behavior of 'WOMEN' and she wouldn't let anyone have a say, you know what he does? Piks up his car key, drives back to his office and comes back when he sees mumsi is back to normal ![]() That's stil the best to do I think ![]() 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Men, Go Within! by donTbone(m): 12:27pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
Tallesty1:Police ke ![]() their matter cos the man acts weird atimes... Besides, na family matter... if them they do "press up" shey I go dey dia? ![]() ![]() |
Re: Men, Go Within! by RobinHez(m): 12:33pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
donTbone: What of those who don't have offices...only the beer parlour across the street? ![]() |
Re: Men, Go Within! by MizMyColi(f): 12:34pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
Re: Men, Go Within! by donTbone(m): 12:35pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
RobinHez: What works for my family might not work for all family. But I know we all av that family friend that we rely on. Such a place might be a place of refuge! And if none is available, then just pray God give you strength to turn deaf hears to the frustration! |
Re: Men, Go Within! by RobinHez(m): 12:37pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
donTbone:All I wanted to hear! ![]() |
Re: Men, Go Within! by Tallesty1(m): 12:42pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
donTbone:Your mom is obviously not the type we are talking about because if she is, she would put the car keys in her bra, hold your dad by the belt and insist to be killed first before he can leave. |
Re: Men, Go Within! by donTbone(m): 12:42pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
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Re: Men, Go Within! by donTbone(m): 12:44pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
Tallesty1: ![]() ![]() ![]() With His principle... she wouldn't want to do dat! ![]() ![]() ![]() You know say every madness for woman get level! |
Re: Men, Go Within! by LarrySun(m): 2:46pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
Men who beat their spouses are nothing but rats with syphilis. 3 Likes |
Re: Men, Go Within! by MizMyColi(f): 3:14pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
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Re: Men, Go Within! by IsaacBuchi(m): 3:32pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
Welcome Home, MizMyColi! ![]() |
Re: Men, Go Within! by IsaacBuchi(m): 3:37pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
Tallesty1: Lovely story that beautifully illustrates a valuable lesson. |
Re: Men, Go Within! by cococandy(f): 4:15pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
Mizmycoli where you dey see all these guys? Introduce them to NL Na. We need more like them. Read this We are all responsible for our own actions (and despite what we have been told, violence is NOT the response needed for marriage issues) Golden. 1 Like |
Re: Men, Go Within! by MizMyColi(f): 4:22pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
cococandy: Loooool Them dey track my NL movement like kilode (when the need arises). This one is an NLer o Infact, he is on that thread right now....he registered looooong before me, and has only a scant number of posts. They're more active on FB. They think of NL as a battle ground. This is not to make anyone feel uncomfortable, but I have to admit that I owe much of my transformation post 2014 to the guy in question.... Dee, if you are reading this....this biuriful woman thinks your presence here will be appreciated. Yeah, I should have mentioned Lalasticlala on this thread too. 2 Likes |
Re: Men, Go Within! by MizMyColi(f): 4:24pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
Re: Men, Go Within! by IsaacBuchi(m): 4:31pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
MizMyColi: Hahaha...at least I have u for a day Thank God when you are on leave from that lions den you know where home is for your leisurely pleasure ![]() |
Re: Men, Go Within! by Nobody: 4:37pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
Ok ooo. Anything can be the cause of beating a woman. she nags, she is disrespectful, she is dirty, etc. Then, I ask, If that battered wife arrests her husband or pay soldiers to beat up that her husband after. Did she do bad? 1 Like |
Re: Men, Go Within! by refreshrate: 6:35pm On Oct 03, 2015 |
Question from me is when they're doing these things to completely piss the guy off, don't they know? |
Re: Men, Go Within! by MizMyColi(f): 10:46pm On Oct 03, 2015 |
refreshrate: Violence is not the answer. 3 Likes |
Re: Men, Go Within! by OnyeEgo1(m): 10:52pm On Oct 03, 2015 |
One crazy fact I have come to realise in ladies is that you can't rilly win them expecially the one you love... I budge easily n let them steal d show, just to let peace reign.. |
Re: Men, Go Within! by OnyeEgo1(m): 10:57pm On Oct 03, 2015 |
I just hate their victim mentality dat won't make dem accept their wrong especially one here who will go her way to show her typing skills... Sighs |
Re: Men, Go Within! by refreshrate: 11:49pm On Oct 03, 2015 |
MizMyColi: Totally agree with you ma, but not provoking someone into that position also requires wisdom, why do the women not apply it? Just trying to understand whats behind the psyche |
Re: Men, Go Within! by YourCoffin: 9:38am On Oct 04, 2015 |
I think when a man's tolerance has stretched beyond his inability to control the urge to hit his wife, he should run to the nearest court and sign the divorce papers. 2 Likes |
Re: Men, Go Within! by johnson232: 2:57pm On Oct 04, 2015 |
donTbone:@bolded, what is wrong with being a single father? What is ur business with how another man treats his wife? Why were u praying for the woman to live? Do u know if the beating she gets from her husband is as a result of her attitude? Don't u know some women can be very annoying, & they can only be calm by a hit? U sound like a weak guy... |
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