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Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by safarigirl(f): 1:59pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
MrLouisVanGaal1:i'm glad you can only feel a sense of importance when women cling to you. You're powerful because you have assumed the position of the centre of a woman's world. In the absence of that woman, you're just another creature with a dick. Let me correct the notion once again, that I am a feminist. I am not a feminist. I beleive in the traditional roles of a man and a woman, but I simply reject the idea of a woman surrendering and sacrificing her entire being on the alter of marriage while the man makes no attempt to do same. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Nobody: 1:59pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
please mizkholi....if you support that parents should kill that awareness of marriage in their female kids and these kids grow up and eventually seek to have a family or give birth to children how should they go about it ![]() the truth is at some point in time every lady naturally craves for a family...what we end up dealing with here is nature... 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by 4C2215131: 2:00pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
MrLouisVanGaal1: Just a quick one here. Have you taken time to see the Bliss and Ecstasy on a woman's visage on the day of her marriage? The joy is beyond being 'happy' that she is getting married. It transcends the physical, women-folk may not even know this, but there is something deep inside the sub-conscious, an awareness that has been hard-wired into the female psyche akin to knowing intuitively that murdering your mother is wrong, that tells the woman that you need that man. Hate him all you want, despise the situation all you want, hate yourself for being so weak all you want, that craving, that gnawing, that nagging realisation can never go away. This is the reason feminist are fighting as hard as they can, they have to root out that need. That they can be independent of the men folk. Newsflash! we need each other! Just as men-folk complain everyday about the dearth of good ladies, it doesn't stop them from marrying every other Saturday. Same applies to the women. Get used to it for your continued sanity sake! If you go about looking for reasons not to give the time of day to that chap, you'll have more than a million reasons not to. Your best weapon is being adept at managing a bad situation as to be frank, the man-woman issue is totally beyond redemption (maybe til we see our maker). Manage the situation sagaciously. Without meaning to wax religious here, a woman getting married is a fulfillment of something far above her, society or parent's dictate, it is her fulfilling a universal, cosmic and spiritual mandate if you will...will take me much time to really break this down, time I don't currently have given work but, let me say this, at the end of the day true happiness is not tied to her being married or a ring, true happiness is tied to her fulfilling her dreams while being married-why settle for less when you can have it all. Women, you got your work cut out for you. As 'useless' as men are, there are those who'll lift you up to achieve that which you dream of. The only issue is you hardly, if ever, give those spec of men a fighting chance (deny this all you want but it is the truth, like you know, you get what you pay for). 4 Likes |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by mightycrown1(m): 2:01pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
i support women to chase their dreams o, but after fulfilling their dreams, they should not start to chase ring because it will end them becoming a single mother. by the time you forget chasing ring along side dreams, at 30 when you might have collected Phd or be executive director of x company if you are fortunate anyway; and you want to start chasing ring im afraid the ring giver you may luckily see might be gold digger and before you realized he is off leaving you |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by raayah(f): 2:02pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
abbey621: Right! Even my partner would like me to sit at home and cuddle him all day , but he knows that I need to go to work and find my own career. What if he has an accident at work or dies or something terrible. All we are saying is that women should not rely on a man! Nairaland men will complain that women are chopping their money but will raise hell if a woman decides to make her own money. What do Nairaland men want? 2 Likes |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by ronald4lif(m): 2:02pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
proxillin: That's my major problem with them. They are insincere and their feminism charade is one of convenience. Let's be equal in areas that suits me and you can take the lead in circumstances that favours me - Nigerian feminist. An average European is likely to feel embarrassed when you attempt to pay for her refreshment and might caution you not to next time. How many of Nigerian women feminist or women generally can pay for their date? Their flimsy excuse is that you initiated the date so the man should pay. Which is baloney. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by 4C2215131: 2:03pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
safarigirl: Bare 'cos folks are tired of reading same 'ole thang. This issue has been browbeaten by both parties a trillion times and counting here. |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Ihuomadinihu: 2:04pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
So much insecurity on the part of men. This post is for women and how they can find a sense of purpose while waiting for marriage. It's only insecure half ass men that will condemn this post cos they don't even know what they want in a mate. There are two clear issues here: 1. Men see themselves as a mini god. 2. African men are threatned when they see or hear the word 'Feminism'. There are different types of feminism. No one is struggling with anyone but women should be allowed to live up to their potentials with or without marriage. This idea of shaming single women only happen in less developed societies. 3 Likes |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Nobody: 2:05pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
Nihilist:exactly my thoughts...this article should be directed to ladies who have sworn not to get married till death and to their female kids peradventure they adopt female kids... |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Whobedatte(m): 2:06pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
raayah:LOL. Nairaland men are a reflection of the larger society na. I think what we have now are mostly aggrieved young men who have gotten their fingers burnt from you ladies. So cycle continues. I have a mother and sister who have being thr 4 me over d yrs, so no matter what, I l still respect ladies, only that if u give ladies of today 1 inch, expect them to go 10 miles |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by proxillin(m): 2:07pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
ronald4lif: And they can't approach a guy. What happens if Nigerian guys stop approaching them? Most timid set of female in the world. |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by stinggy(m): 2:09pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
Hannysmilez:By all possible means, they should! And I wish them luck while pursuing their dreams. Is it your dream too? |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by abbey621(m): 2:10pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
raayah: Like I said earlier, it should be balanced. Don't chase success while sacrificing your relationship, at the same time don't focus on your relationship at the detriment of your success. A good man should work with you to achieve a balance and a good woman should not use her career as an excuse to neglect her home! |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by segend(m): 2:10pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
another thing i noticed years back in teens church was that, whenever pastors are praying for teenage boys, they always prophesy presidents ("i see presidents here", the common line), but when praying for teenage girls, they always pray for first ladies. Like can't women also be presidents, must their highest achievement only be who they are married to, ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Nobody: 2:10pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
sonofananimal:I thought it means equality in everything. Go dutch on a diner...women feel hurt. They teach u how to make a home ...and guys how to build a house.. make money...now, they teach u how to make money too and guys how to do chores... all in addition. So what's d fuss? |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Nobody: 2:11pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
@all, personalizing issues and a deliberate refusal to look at the other person's life, is the begining of the feeling that the world's entire weight is on your shoulder, hence the butt-hurt feeling which pushes us into unreasonable, bias and non objective activism. @op, everyone in Africa (i don't know how it is in other parts on the world) is brought up with marriage as the ultimate aim. I have heard guys being told "with this lazy behaviour of yours, how are you going to fend for your family?" i know guys who have been told "with your keepin to yourself, how are going to be able to relate with your wife?" "this talk wey you dey always talk to yourself, your wife go run commot from house leave you one day" "with the school wey you no want take seriously like so, for ladies, theirs is even better, but for you, who is going to marry you". With that, a boy is told that the reason he must go to school is to make sure he is elligible for marriage. And that is true! His chances of making it in life is greatly reduced if he is uneducated. And not even the feminists, who claim it is ok for the woman to be bread winner, will be attracted to him at that point. Stop feeling its only you that gets corrected in hope you don't carry undesirable behaviours into marriage. Men are being told the same thing too. If you've not noticed that, then its because you've been so fixated on your ideology. No wonder you feel the weight of the world is on your shoulders and you think the man is a legitimate object to hate. 6 Likes |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by safarigirl(f): 2:11pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
4C2215131:not enough. We still see the same stories of girls supposedly gold-digging. Nigerian women are continually mocked here, so we'll keep preaching until we actively change this mentality that women are liabilities |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Nobody: 2:12pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
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Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by ronald4lif(m): 2:14pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
proxillin: Ya true. Whoever initiated a relationship or dinner date is inconsequential to the offsetting of refreshment bills. The excuse of you asked me out and should pay is negligible and hold no ground. It's like saying because I proposed to you I should see to your welfare forever. That's a pile of folderol if you ask me. 1 Like |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Nobody: 2:15pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
safarigirl:but if all u do is to get married to a guy..u are. ![]() |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by bukatyne(f): 2:16pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
Tallesty1: I think you are mixing things up Nobody has said marriage is bad.... at least not the OP; however, marriage is not the end, it is a means to an end. Men desire to marry too but how many men are solely trained for marriage? A woman is much more than a wife. And the fact a woman knows herself does not mean she would not have relationships or a marriage. 4 Likes |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by proxillin(m): 2:17pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
[size=15pt]But come to think of it. To my anti-marriage feminists. Marriage is joy and strength of a woman. Show me a single successful woman. NONE. I am not talking about female celebrities who are into semi-prostitution. I am talking about powerful women. They are all married. Hilary Clinton - is married. Despite her husband cheating on her, she still stayed in the marriage. She nurtured her marriage and she got to places. To get to place of power, you need to show the world you have a family and you are responsible. No singleton will be taking serious. Angela Merchella (German Prime minister) - She is married Mention a powerful woman in the society, you will see she is married. All these lopsided writeups to dissuade/discourage women from marriage is just out of it. Even a comic character like Kim Kardashian is not joking with her family [/size] 5 Likes |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by bukatyne(f): 2:17pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
MizMyColi: ![]() |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Mightyodi: 2:18pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
good points but don't u see that these value of being a good wife when a young girl is corrected is a better model in the mindset of a damsel growing up than just sayin good woman, ppl need sense of value with better internal picture representation.these day most women have not give it a better thoughts of being a good woman as a better value that's y they throw their pride away. secondly, when one is corrected and marriage is used as a reference point for a young girl is far better than any life event u may sum up.do u know marriage is the long lifetime day to day event btw a woman and man,it is not just wedding.so what are we talking about,if u have a pickup characters that sum to habit,then that will define you, and certainly ur children character in your marriage. marriage is an institution that ppl like the writer usually underestimates. but certainly it can determine the personality of ur family. |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by NiRfreak(m): 2:18pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
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Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by bukatyne(f): 2:19pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
proxillin: Infact, your post shows that a woman can be married and still know herself/fulfill her dreams. You are actually aligning with the OP. And those women had those dreams because they were not trained for only marriage. Besides, Hilary stayed because of her political ambitions ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by cruzyteejay(m): 2:19pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
raayah: that shouldn't be an excuse,i bet you 98% percent of those set of men you mentioned above just wanna wack and go.........go down well through genevive's life and you will never remain the same |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by proxillin(m): 2:22pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
bukatyne: [size=15pt]Read the ops message. The message is about how women should not take marriage serious. They should not train themselves for marriage. Any woman taking advise from post of this type will end up being Rihanna, Myley Cyrus of this world. They are human with no respect.[/size] 2 Likes |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Nobody: 2:22pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
lonelydora:so should dey go and kill themselves because they aint married? or what are you insinuating? |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Hannysmilez(f): 2:23pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
stinggy:Not really.Already gat the ring and its the most important thing to me. Jxt talkin on behalf of oda' ladies. |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Nobody: 2:23pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
raayah:no be say u dey go work be d issue...u no dey bring in anything. na d man dey foot all for hux. so u kukuma stay home and cuddle. |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by safarigirl(f): 2:26pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
kosplateau:your English is barely comprehensible. You'll have to work on it, then maybe I can understand you enough to give you a proper reply |
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