Ihuomadinihu:
So much insecurity on the part of men. This post is for women and how they can find a sense of purpose while waiting for marriage. It's only insecure half ass men that will condemn this post cos they don't even know what they want in a mate.
There are two clear issues here: 1. Men see themselves as a mini god. 2. African men are threatned when they see or hear the word 'Feminism'. There are different types of feminism. No one is struggling with anyone but women should be allowed to live up to their potentials with or without marriage. This idea of shaming single women only happen in less developed societies.

Tallesty1:
A Lady after reading this:



Lady: Oh, I love this. Thanks MizMyColi, I just wish our ladies will learn.

Then she receives a message from boo.

Boo: Are you free? Let's hang out.

Lady: Oh! I love this. Thanks boo.


So she goes out with boo, straffs him all night and everything she read wipes out automatically.


And everything still remains thesame.




BTW, the op failed to realize that marriage increases a man's or a woman's worth too. I don't care who you are or what you have achieved, if you are single then you are incomplete.


And What's with people and their recent attack on marriage btw? Is marriage the only institution that is failing?

Nothing on earth is better than a blessed marriage, it's an achievement on its own, the reason most fail is is our sin.

It is sin that will make a man to hit his woman. It is sin that will make a man see a woman as a lesser being, it's sin that will make a man to cheat on, beat or mistreat his woman in any way. Same thing goes for the woman.


Listen, if we all should repent and follow God's guidelines for marriage then believe you me that marriage will become the best thing on earth.

4C2215131:


And who in God's earth told you Omotola is happy? Gotta ask, as you seem to speak or should I say write with such belief. You never know man...you never know (beware the plastic smiles and cheap media projections as the issue of happiness anchored on the emotions of the other sex is a very contentious one).

Who can really fathom the depths of the human psyche, the human mind...

bukatyne:


Infact, your post shows that a woman can be married and still know herself/fulfill her dreams.

You are actually aligning with the OP.

And those women had those dreams because they were not trained for only marriage.

Besides, Hilary stayed because of her political ambitions

kosplateau:

no be say u dey go work be d issue...u no dey bring in anything. na d man dey foot all for hux. so u kukuma stay home and cuddle.

ronald4lif:


Not so much is wrong with feminism in the real sense of that word. Having an equal footing with a woman is not a problem and myself and some other guys don't have a problem with gender equality. However, Nigerian feminists are fake and insincere with their feminism crusade.

They don't take equal financial responsibility in relationship/marriage and subliminally still harbour the breadwinner ethos of men. A man is still expected to seamlessly impress them with gifts and treats while they don't or sluggishly return the gesture. You can't champion equality and same time depends on a man for livelihood.

MizMyColi:


I'm sorry you misunderstood the writer then.
Did you read this part?

safarigirl:
your English is barely comprehensible. You'll have to work on it, then maybe I can understand you enough to give you a proper reply

proxillin:


Read the ops message. The message is about how women should not take marriage serious. They should not train themselves for marriage.
Any woman taking advise from post of this type will end up being Rihanna, Myley Cyrus of this world. They are human with no respect.

ceecee0703:
My sister what is actually the challenge with what the parents said or how an African mother raises her Daughters? i see nothing wrong cos the male children also get statements like.
"is this how u will handle ur home"

"is this how u will take care of ur wife"

in Africa parents groom their children to be better parents than they are.

The challenge with africa is that we are africans and we always want to copy everything we see no matter its low workability in our terrain. A report shows we have greater lasting marriages in Africa and Asia more than America n Europe...it also explains that we have more happy homes in Africa and America. the reason is simply because of the teachings frm parents.

Every woman whether we like to or yes needs to learn home management its on this that her ability to chase and follow her dreams can wrk. Except if she doesnt want to get married. In Africa a man is better respected if he is married so is a woman...it means he or she can handle responsibility. This is also a criteria for being elected into power in the U.S. so lets carve out our own way of making women matter in the society while maintaining a strong family ties else...if we jus swallow women empowerment the way the west present it to us we will have countless nos of divorces, countless nos to trumatised children,countless nos of school shootings,countless nos of baby mamas countless nos of abortions the cons are numerous.

kosplateau:

yea...a lot of Nigerian women marry because of hardship. They want an escape. So if u don't need any emotional and financial savor... stay out. and stay out of sex if u wanna b religious.

nobody stops u from achieving ur dreams...na una full law sch and medicine dept.

ednut1:
Nice article. But some things are jst meant to be d way nature nd God put it. In the West where women are empowered what do u have, women refusing to marry, women as baby mamas from diff men, women using anonymous sperm donors, high divorce rate. Life itself is not fair btw.

bukatyne:


Can you point where the OP pointed the bolded out?

bukatyne:

Can you point where the OP pointed the bolded out?

safarigirl:
not enough. We still see the same stories of girls supposedly gold-digging. Nigerian women are continually mocked here, so we'll keep preaching until we actively change this mentality that women are liabilities

MizMyColi:
This writeup is written by a Nigerian, especially for Nigerian Ladies.
Please understand that while I and the writer share this view, you are under no obligation to share.
If it does not resonate with you...please feel free to toss it out and shout like Orubebe did "WE WILL NOT TAKE THIS; THIS IS UNACCEPTABLE"
If it does resonate with you, please welcome like a breath of fresh air.




https://wordsmithf./2015/09/30/woman-you-are-more-than-a-ring-and-a-title/

bukatyne:


Lols

You need to look deeper

bukatyne:


I think you are mixing things up

Nobody has said marriage is bad.... at least not the OP; however, marriage is not the end, it is a means to an end.

Men desire to marry too but how many men are solely trained for marriage?

A woman is much more than a wife.

And the fact a woman knows herself does not mean she would not have relationships or a marriage.

safarigirl:
when my mother was alive, she was responsible for the clothing of the kids and the school fees of 2 kids. The fees were 500k per year for I and my sister and my father only paid 40k for my little brother. If your mum didn't contribute, don't assume everyone else grew up in the same conditions.

1trillionlikes:

that is exactly the summary of the thread

bukatyne:


You have inside scoop?

Tamee:


I like you

Ps: Do you think only frustrated women of marriageable age who are single console themselves that they don't need men?

xmich:
Have you signed the petition if no I hope its time for you to do so

http://petitions.moveon.org/sign/a-call-to-boycott-buhari.fb49?source=s.icn.fb&r_by=14294119

CharlesPhc:
..

Exactly, Even as boys growing up we had our own training as well. Mom would always say " Don't cry, be a man that you are" or Why would you allow your sister carry that can? don't you know as a man you should do the heavy job?

So @Op your post should rather be in the direction of educating and even reminding the ladies of today on the morals/virtues they all should imbide to bring out the best in them.