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Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Nobody: 2:26pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
Ihuomadinihu:We ask for gender equality not feminism. What is wrong with that? 1 Like |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by ceecee0703(m): 2:27pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
My sister what is actually the challenge with what the parents said or how an African mother raises her Daughters? i see nothing wrong cos the male children also get statements like. "is this how u will handle ur home" "is this how u will take care of ur wife" in Africa parents groom their children to be better parents than they are. The challenge with africa is that we are africans and we always want to copy everything we see no matter its low workability in our terrain. A report shows we have greater lasting marriages in Africa and Asia more than America n Europe...it also explains that we have more happy homes in Africa and America. the reason is simply because of the teachings frm parents. Every woman whether we like to or yes needs to learn home management its on this that her ability to chase and follow her dreams can wrk. Except if she doesnt want to get married. In Africa a man is better respected if he is married so is a woman...it means he or she can handle responsibility. This is also a criteria for being elected into power in the U.S. so lets carve out our own way of making women matter in the society while maintaining a strong family ties else...if we jus swallow women empowerment the way the west present it to us we will have countless nos of divorces, countless nos to trumatised children,countless nos of school shootings,countless nos of baby mamas countless nos of abortions the cons are numerous. 1 Like |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Oluboonmi(f): 2:28pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
[quote author=Tallesty1 post=38593662]A Lady after reading this: Lady: Oh, I love this. Thanks MizMyColi, I just wish our ladies will learn. Then she receives a message from boo. Boo: Are you free? Let's hang out. Lady: Oh! I love this. Thanks boo. So she goes out with boo, straffs him all night and everything she read wipes out automatically. And everything still remains thesame. BTW, the op failed to realize that marriage increases a man's or a woman's worth too. I don't care who you are or what you have achieved, if you are single then you are incomplete. quote] I so disagree with your "if you are single then you are incomplete" bro, you still live in the 19th century. Marriage does not complete you. You can be single and complete. Jesus was never married, did that cut short his destiny? NO. The Scripture says 'You are complete in Him' Now, just so you know, I am not against marriage. It's a beautiful institution created be God for mankind. I desire to be married someday and have a lovely marriage. People who say you are incomplete without marriage are those that weaken the 'defense' of most ladies. They feel no matter what they do or achieve or how far they've come in their career, or what have you, they are not complete until theres a husband, hence, husbandhunt starts. Many fall into wrong marriages just so they can feel that 'completeness'. To every lady out there, YOU ARE COMPLETE EVEN AS A SINGLE. WHEN YOU ARE MARRIED, YOU JOIN YOUR COMPLETENESS TO A COMPLETE GUY AND YOU'LL MAKE A BEAUTIFUL MARRIAGE. 3 Likes |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Yksoul(m): 2:29pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
U DONT NEED TO TELL US B4, WE KNOW U ARE A FEMINIST.ARE U OF THE OPINION THAT MARRIAGE IS IMPORTANT BUT NOT COMPULSORY? WHAT IMPRESSION AS LEGACY, ARE U GOING TO LEAVE BEHIND FOR UR MALE CHILD IF U HAVE ANY?THAT MARRIAGE'S NOT COMPULSORY? 1 Like |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Nobody: 2:29pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
Tallesty1:If your claim that "if you are single then you are incomplete" is anything to go by, isn't it safe then to say Jesus, Paul, John the baptist were very much incomplete since they never knew the innards of a woman despite being the purported silver-tails of the spirit? Doesn't that make flimflam of christianity in that their 'lord and personal savior' was, in fact, an incomplete bloke who never got married? 4 Likes |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by bukatyne(f): 2:29pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
4C2215131: You have inside scoop? ![]() |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Nobody: 2:30pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
A married lady went for an interview and was very late, when asked why she was late, her reply was I'M MARRIED! The man harshly told her to get out of His office. Is that an excuse? 1 Like |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Nobody: 2:30pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
bukatyne:yea...a lot of Nigerian women marry because of hardship. They want an escape. So if u don't need any emotional and financial savor... stay out. and stay out of sex if u wanna b religious. nobody stops u from achieving ur dreams...na una full law sch and medicine dept. 2 Likes |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by safarigirl(f): 2:30pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
kosplateau:when my mother was alive, she was responsible for the clothing of the kids and the school fees of 2 kids. The fees were 500k per year for I and my sister and my father only paid 40k for my little brother. If your mum didn't contribute, don't assume everyone else grew up in the same conditions. 1 Like |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Tamee(f): 2:31pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
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Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by bukatyne(f): 2:31pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
ronald4lif: Lols You need to look deeper ![]() |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by nonjebose(m): 2:32pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
MizMyColi:That particular part of the narrative exposes the writer's naivety. Mothers understood the challenges of marriage in africa, whereby a wife is expected to fulfill domestic duties not only to the 'loving and understanding' husband, but also to his family. That phrase does not in anyway mean that the girl lives only to please the husband. 1 Like |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by iamkingzlee(m): 2:33pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
safarigirl:why evilz ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by bukatyne(f): 2:35pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
proxillin: Can you point where the OP pointed the bolded out? 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Nobody: 2:36pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
ceecee0703: bro, it is a criterion ..but actually it seems like one of the unwritten criteria. There was a bachelor US President. 1 Like |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by bukatyne(f): 2:36pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
kosplateau: ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by 1trillionlikes: 2:36pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
ednut1:you have to ask the OP if she believes in God and His words first..... I pity this generation and the ones to come |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Nobody: 2:37pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
bukatyne:the bold or emboldened. ![]() |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by 1trillionlikes: 2:38pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
bukatyne:that is exactly the summary of the thread |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by 4C2215131: 2:38pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
safarigirl: @seeing women as liabilities, women are the ones perpetuating this outlook! Y'all think in trying to get revenge on men for their lying, morally bankrupt ways is to dig into their pockets! That is the biggest mistake y'all made as the man is just going to make more money but see you as a liability (and if you're the type that is financially well-off, he sees you as a competitor, thus a problem! that is how he's wired to think and feel). As is common with human nature, the man is not going to see her materialistic nature as a silent plea for "please change your attitude"...he refuses to think he's done anything wrong and just attributes her materialistic tendencies to just plain gold digging. Hence I said, two wrongs cannot make a right. Woman, understand this, just live your life in the most conscientious way, do your best to be a good person, (a loving wife if you're married) or a darling friend/lover to the chosen one and forget all these men and women argument. Like I said, it'll never be concluded this side of paradise. I've given up on it a long time ago, and I am the better for it. You'd do well to adhere suit. Men started the problem, but women, in a bid to correct it, are utilising a tactic that won't work. Just the plain bare-assed truth here. 4 Likes |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by bukatyne(f): 2:38pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
MizMyColi: Nice one And for the life of me, I don not understand how women should have ambition = the OP is against marriage or feminist. The OP has clearly stated she is NOT a feminist. 3 Likes |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by monex(m): 2:39pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
nothing actually stops a woman from not seeing marriage as her all-in-all. there is nothing to fight for. it is no crime nor offense. but here's the caveat, humans are social animals. we are communal by nature. the lady who has an independent mind would still crave respect from society and would then find that society does not give her the respect she craves due to her being single. this then affects her psyche and she might jettison that independent mind she had. i know ladies who sang the not going to be married tune till they turned 33 only to now start getting desperate. it is not just a "women" thing. there are lots of men who would prefer not to be married but society terms an 40-year old unmarried man to be irresponsible or having a problem of some sorts. these are problems of stereotype. 1 Like |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by ronald4lif(m): 2:39pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
bukatyne: Perhaps I made a blanket statement. But a lot of your clique I've encountered don't assume much of a financial responsibility when in an affair. The aspect of even financial responsibility is where I'm much indifferent with Nigerian feminism. 1 Like |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Nobody: 2:40pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
bukatyne: @all, personalizing issues and a deliberate refusal to look at the other person's life, is the begining of the feeling that the world's entire weight is on your shoulder, hence the butt-hurt feeling which pushes us into unreasonable, bias and non objective activism. @op, everyone in Africa (i don't know how it is in other parts on the world) is brought up with marriage as the ultimate aim. I have heard guys being told "with this lazy behaviour of yours, how are you going to fend for your family?" i know guys who have been told "with your keepin to yourself, how are going to be able to relate with your wife?" "this talk wey you dey always talk to yourself, your wife go run commot from house leave you one day" "with the school wey you no want take seriously like so, for ladies, theirs is even better, but for you, who is going to marry you". With that, a boy is told that the reason he must go to school is to make sure he is elligible for marriage. And that is true! His chances of making it in life is greatly reduced if he is uneducated. And not even the feminists, who claim it is ok for the woman to be bread winner, will be attracted to him at that point. Stop feeling its only you that gets corrected in hope you don't carry undesirable behaviours into marriage. Men are being told the same thing too. If you've not noticed that, then its because you've been so fixated on your ideology. No wonder you feel the weight of the world is on your shoulders and you think the man is a legitimate object to hate. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Nobody: 2:41pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
safarigirl:gud for ur mom...some moms didn't have d opportunity in monetary values. why are u bitter? are u pitying ur mom? just stay away from marriage...nothing gud comes from it and u can only change how u view things. 1 Like |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by vivaciousvivi(f): 2:41pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
MizMyColi, I know that a lot of people will refuse to read the sublime message from that write-up and may call it feminist and free-thinking or new-age (none of which I see anything wrong with btw). To you I would say this, God bless u sister! 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by bukatyne(f): 2:42pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
1trillionlikes: SO 1trillionlikes 'You are more than husband, develop yourself more at work' translates to 1trillionlikes, don't marry? ![]() Don't we have married successful women e.g. Omotola, Dora, Ngozi Okonjo, Hilary Clinton, Liberia's President, Margret Thatcher etc. etc. Where did the OP go against marriage or tell women NOT to marry? 1 Like |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by 4C2215131: 2:42pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
bukatyne: Not really...just that coming across as 'socially correct' (an indispensable index in her line of business) is a pretty huge motivator to acting out a script of everything being honky-dory at home and the like. |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by ronald4lif(m): 2:45pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
Tamee: That statement is falacious, blackmailing and should be outrightly dismiss. Not every woman need a man to make progression and be complete in their respective career and obtain inner happiness. Some are single by choice and happy. Likewise men too. No one should be cajoled to embark on a relationship/marriage coz of what people think of them or societal pressure. They should coz they want to. 1 Like |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by porozhniy(m): 2:46pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
when will the nigerian woman stop blaming the society for her poor choices in life? when will she take full responsibility for the direction her life is headed? nobody is holding you down but urself. society exerts the same pressure on everyone regardless of gender. 2 Likes |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Ignyte(m): 2:47pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
xmich: Have you watched empire?? Have you seen Lucious Lyon?? Buhari is like Luciois Lyon infact let me use a popular character, Buhari is like Niklaus Michaelson. Imagine, plotting against Klaus openly. The move is as foolish as a sheep, dancing shakitibobo in the presence of a hungry lion. The same way that they used to corner Saraki. na the same way them go corner Biafra. Common sense you people cannot use. Na to dey disturb pple make dem follow una for suicide mission.. I'm down wid d biafra campaign but make una choose better strategies... the man from daura had 12 years to plan all his activities for the next four years |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by nonjebose(m): 2:47pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
CharlesPhc:Exactly! I was trained to do all those boys' stuff. Yet, my mum did not allow me be, went on to teach me how to cook, do the dishes, tidy the house and every other stuff they are having issues with. She always said that this will not make me be at the mercy of ant woman. Guess she is right with all the issues now 1 Like |
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