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Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by MizMyColi(f): 3:42pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
cococandy: Nne Lekwanum ooo I kuku left the thread for them. I seriously thank heavens I don't have a large circle of friends. Is this the kind of mumbo-jumbo they will be filling my ears with? Such unrepentant egotistic insecurity! Okay, let's take Sister Philomina as an example (permit me to explain one last time, Coco...I just have this urge to ![]() No man dey look her face at the mo. She really doesn't have anyone who fills her ear with "I love you" She is 29 going on 30 Wait, is she supposed to cry her eyes out always in her closet and envy married folks like Coco. Even if she desires marriage and a life-long partnership, should she always carry it like HIV/AIDS in her LMAO ![]() ![]() Make I stop here abeg. I cast and bind all spirits of epistle following me around on this thread. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Nobody: 3:43pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
kosplateau:LOLZ! On a serious note: I don't have anything against FEMINIST or whatsoever, my problem is with the hypocritic NAIJA WOMEN. There are talking about equal right but still want the men to pay bride price, equal right but you won't see them proposing to a man but rather says “god forbid ” equal right but there will want you to pay there tp, food money and you won't see the so called NAIJA WOMEN saying “let me pay half of it” but rather asking you to pay ![]() Shall the OP is just pouring out her depression. Nothing much |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by cococandy(f): 3:43pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
Lol. ![]() That's exactly what she's expected to do. If she's not doing that, she's not massaging the egos and that's not acceptable by our culture. Why else would sister philo (or Genevieve for example) post a picture online and the comments that follow query her for smiling at 30 when she's not married? Bind the epistle spirit well well o ![]() MizMyColi: 2 Likes |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by ronald4lif(m): 3:46pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
dicefrost: Rightly said. The OP write up is faultless. In Nigeria, the message every parent and the society passes across to their daughters is how to become good wives, submissive and obey everything a man says whether right or wrong. Hardly do they train their sons to be good husbands and how to treat a woman fairly. When a couple are having feud and the wife narrates her ordeal to her family or in-laws the advise she get is to apologise to her husband. They say things like don't you know she's the man regardless of if the man is at fault. This is wrong. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Nobody: 3:47pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
Tallesty1:No qualm. Have a nice evening ahead. |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by IsaacBuchi(m): 3:47pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
Tallesty1: You have a beautiful way of sharing rich ideas with stories. Love that! Following You immediately ![]() |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by cococandy(f): 3:49pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
At least we have some honesty on this thread. There's hope. ronald4lif: 6 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Tallesty1(m): 4:02pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
IsaacBuchi:Thanks bro. You're welcome 1 Like |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by MizMyColi(f): 4:03pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
dicefrost: Hahahahahhha I used to be that girl too, whose ultimate ambition was to serve my husband, with my blood sef if desperate times call for it. But all that is changing now. And my dear, impossible is nothing. Do I still want to get married? No "still want" is Undermining...I DESIRE to get married. Why? I want to form a lifelong partnership with someone who understands what it's like to be me. I want to build a home and kids who are replicas of their creator. I am aware that two heads are better than one. I want to be with someone whom I will share my completeness with, someone who understands that I am not lacking in any way. He helps me grow, I help him grow. I want to be the wife of someone who understands that CHRIST IN US IS OUR ONLY HOPE OF GLORY. Not woman in man or man in woman is our only hope of glory. OR Man needing woman/Woman NEEDING MAN is our only hope of glory. Now I believe that there is a right time for everything under the Sun. Mine is happening now. What about those who will not have their desires met till they are 30 going on 35? Should they be miserable, desperados who have no iota of self anymore, other than a ring and a title? Is it actually okay to live in the awareness that you are complete and you're not lacking in anyway even if you do not have a man to call your own? What happened to your dreams? Why did you jettison them? Why lay it all down for a future you are not even sure of whem and how it will happen? Why? Why? If it is marriage you desire, you will have it. It will come. Know the one in whom you have believed. If you do not desire marriage, forget the 1980s talk on this thread....don't force yourself to desire it. It is not compulsory. Fulfilling your inner purpose is what's compulsory. Either ways, just be! learn to always be at a state of peace and rest. Will there be times when you feel an aching for someone, for some intimate loving, yes. But you cannot let that become your sole focus...you can't. You are much more than that babe! Carry on! Live, Please! Feel free to walk away and disidentify from negative situations and negativity. *Sighs* Sorry Dicefrost, most of what I typed up there isn't for you. I can see these epistle spirits won't leave me. lemme logout of NL first ![]() 3 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by MizMyColi(f): 4:08pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
cococandy: ![]() Lols Yes oooo IF I open a thread now and talk about how Sister Philo feels miserable and stuff, you will see them clapping for Sister Philo. They enjoy her miserableness, they don't see anything abnormal in a human being wearing a long face over a life situation which she has little or no control of. Afterall, they are the ones tasked with the huge responsibility of completing her. Way to go with such mentality, way, way to go! |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Nobody: 4:09pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
MizMyColi: To unlearn the wrong things we've learned and ate indoctrinated with for ages, is one of the most difficult things we could ever do. There's more to life than the ring and a title. 1 Like |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by MizMyColi(f): 4:13pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
dearpreye: That's what I was trying to communicate to Lilmax, dunno how well I did. You don't just expect a thought process of 20 - 30 years to disappear in 5 years, how much more one day. The difference between you and the girl next door is that you are better informed now. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by IsaacBuchi(m): 4:13pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
MizMyColi: Welcome Home ![]() Beautiful Article. Our mothers must be praised for the effort they have made yo raise us. The values, and culture they ve tried to transfer might sound archaic but not entirely out of place. Inspite of the civilization of more developed countries I would choose my African mothers any day any time over them. The Holy Book at 1Cor 11:9 says " And what is more, man was not created for the sake of the woman, but woman for the sake of the man". While that is true we also recognize that the beauty of a man is his family, the happiness of his wife & kids. As such he needs to learn from an early stage that his skills, his dreams and goals are also tied to realising the joy of his family directly or indirectly. (i.e if he wants to marry) If a man or woman doesn't think of marrying he/she still realises that he he is affected in his judgment by the impression of people. Just like it is said, 'we dress because of others'. ![]() |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Nobody: 4:16pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
MizMyColi: That's the way it is 1 Like |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by kelechiMarie(f): 4:17pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
nasha1:the article was written by a male. I think 4 Likes |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Nobody: 4:19pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
ronald4lif: i think there are some posts here you did not read otherwise, you wouldn't have come up with this. |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Toroze(m): 4:19pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
@OP It would seem that your friend or whoever wrote that write up has been reading or listening to Chimamnda Ngozi Adichie #iLike |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by hensben(m): 4:23pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
bukatyne:Men are not trained for marriage? You dey this Naija so? |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by MizMyColi(f): 4:29pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
IsaacBuchi: Well, true than, to an extent...... Lol And what if I contend that Pol section is home? ![]() |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by bamssy(m): 4:31pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
OP r u married? If no, m nt surprise. If yes, y did u. 1 Like |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by MizMyColi(f): 4:31pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
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Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by MizMyColi(f): 4:33pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
vivaciousvivi: Amem! ![]() |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by MizMyColi(f): 4:35pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
bukatyne: Lols Perhaps, the activist in me gives me off as one. I am not for Equality...I am for equity, fairness and justice. |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by MizMyColi(f): 4:38pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
1trillionlikes: I can bet this precious waterbottle on my table that you are no more a believer in God than I am. |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by IsaacBuchi(m): 4:43pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
MizMyColi: Well I won't fight that....while might be true that you spend more time there, we can however equate that to the fact that people spend more of their life span in the office that the do for their homes & family & even in their own lives...everybody knows where home is at the end of the day ![]() |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by MizMyColi(f): 4:49pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
IsaacBuchi: ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() You Win! |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by 4C2215131: 5:11pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
safarigirl: Actually I was writing in the third person perspective...wasn't slinging shots your way girl. Just tired of seeing this same 'ole stuff creeping up again and again. P.S. Just like there are faithful women out there, there sure are faithful men. In fact I know a coupla them and these are full bloodied, modern, successful, urbane men, not some nerdy, glass-wearing, prone to vacillating, whimpering, uptight, sissy of a man. I say this as most people assume that men that don't cheat are like that cos of the fact that they aren't attractive enough, man enough or do not possess the material wherewithal to do so, or they are just plain weird (incestuous pricks!). |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Nobody: 5:14pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
Tallesty1:Oga, You really should be the one to understand that marriage does not and has never completed a man any more than being a nairalander completes you. We come complete. Everyone of us. We are no half men, half vacuum needed to be filled up by half women, half vacuum who themselves need similar gesture from us. To maintain otherwise is a big fib Oga. You should understand this and stop pole-vaulting crass twaddle under the flimsy facade of Religion. If the sky-porter that be had intended to design marriage as a 'without-which-not', everyone who opted not to tie the knot would be incomplete including Jesus, Paul et al. And that much is certain. No exceptions. Truth, however, is that marriage is very much optional not a sine qua non to our existence. Your gift of celibacy drivel is pointless and doesn't prove the contrary. Your bible never said marriage is a 'must-do'. To use your bible to evidence that marriage is optional, here is what one of the lawyers turned authority and silver-tail of the spirit said: 1 Corinthians 7:8 New International Version (NIV) "Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do" Did paul say the unmarried and the widows need the gift of celibacy to stay unmarried like him? No! If marriage completes a man as you are ignorantly making a last-ditch attempt to prove, why was apostle paul advising the unmarried to remain single as he did? Was Paul telling them to stay incomplete? Of course, not. As a matter of fact, Paul felt being single was a better option and made one even more complete. Hence, his advice. Except you want to claim you are more drunk in the spirit than Paul to have come up with your absolute claim. I know you would want to argue that the above scripture was Paul's personal conjecture. If that was Paul's personal conjecture, then it means 'all scriptures are not inspired by God' as the bible purported which makes your celibacy claim even more specious. As a matter of fact, marriage has destroyed more men and woman than singlehood has done; marriage has rendered more people incomplete than being single has done. Not everyone can cut it as 'married' and that doesn't make them incomplete. I understand you needed likes to pump up your ego that was why you resorted to putting up your above reply in your initial front-page post rather than replying my post squarely. 9 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by IsaacBuchi(m): 5:20pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
MizMyColi: Ummm...that feels good. Thank You for spending your leave with us. ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by Nobody: 5:26pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
I think MizMyColi was misunderstood. Thank God you said,the ones you know not every woman. Even my older brother finds that disgusting. Back then in Madonna as a medical student,he said what surprises him about his class girls was the fact that their ultimate ambition is getting married and funny enough they end up with just any man! One who doesn't encourage them and gets easily intimidated. That is why many of them end up not practicing. Just to get a title..may Amadioha forbid that for me and the women in my generation. Marriage will come but our life purpose should go along with it. dicefrost: |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by DeRay98(m): 5:27pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
lonelydora: You shot the bill's eye with this See Op, all these rich ladies are not happy they are not married. They cry in their secrets. Some of them confided in me and told me so. Ask Linda and Genevive, you think they don't want to be like Omotola? 1 Like |
Re: Woman! Know Thyself! You Are More Than A Ring And A Title. by MizMyColi(f): 5:29pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
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