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Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by engrelvis(m): 9:33am On Oct 03, 2015
thank u op.i appreciate.no am nt single
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by myztikal(m): 9:35am On Oct 03, 2015
The 20plus girl ur looking for, which is wwhat started all this brouhaha, is reading all ur posts, and I know she is wondering, na so this guy be? Remember why u posted here in the first place, even though ur not up to the age stated. Ur looking for a bride. Now uve allowed urself to be derailed in public. How is ur 20plus lady seeing u now? A man who cannot walk away from a quarral, whether he started it or not? A man who must flex and have the last word in any battle? Let me tell u the diff btw a boy and a man. Boys flex. Men walk away.
That girl ur looking for, is reading ur posts. U slept quarreling with toks2008. U woke by 5am to launch more arrows.



***Epic Statement**

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Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by siamia(f): 9:36am On Oct 03, 2015
@engrelvis
Ok.
If ur not single, then ur a visitor, passing thru to say hello! Lol
This thread is meant for 30plus and single.
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by myztikal(m): 9:44am On Oct 03, 2015
Toks2008:


Aburo abeg no vex you hear. The truth is that at certain age you have outgrown some habits lke painting words but rather you talk straght and bold.

Ma binu dear,im a very frank and blunt person.Yes m single at 40 but not proud of that and i pray you will not have any reason to be sngle at my age maybe then you just might undderstand the uncertainties of life.

So sorry for scolding you as i did and i implore you to tender an unreserved apology for those lines you wrote in yoruba so that a ma yo inu s e iif you know what that means.

Remember as my sister wrote,that 20something lady might just visiit this thread and you will be a big No to her if she reads your harsh comments to your egbons.

And Yes its a faceless forum but bliv it or not in real life i have 4 younger sibblings older than 30 so i see you as my kid brother hence the need to pamper you after scolding you.

*hugs*

Awesome quote

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Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by smsshola(m): 9:46am On Oct 03, 2015
onstelly:
I must join oh, not yet upto 30 but I wanna be here oh

U ar welcome on board only a mature mind and respect for each other @Op desire.
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by engrelvis(m): 9:47am On Oct 03, 2015
sorry i taught it ws a social network or platform for meeting mature minds.i take my bow.GODBLESS
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by siamia(f): 9:55am On Oct 03, 2015
@engrelvis
It is, sir. With an extra touch...its for singles. This is a coffee lounge for singles of 30plus to sit back, kick off their shoes and hang out with their peers. In the midst of it, find love, if it is their portion here.
That does not mean that ur not welcome...to contribute, to advise, to encourage, to share.
I wasn't pursuing u. My pankere is only meant for those who come here to pick quarrel like mushin olosha boys (apologies to the gents from there).
By all means, hang out with us. But don't buy market here.... smiley
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by myztikal(m): 9:55am On Oct 03, 2015
I'm forced to come out of my shell now. its only in naija that getting married is the ultimate achievement, and used as a measure of responsibility. we must realise that some people just ain't into marriage, its their choice. i'm 37 and single, i wanna get married...i yearn for it, i'm not PROUD i'm still single, when you are this old and yearn for a life partner, then know its because of that one relationship that couldv'e been IT, but either of you botched it, its always hard to come back from that. i'd rather not bring my unpalatable baggage into any one's life...but i will appreciate a friend

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Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by siamia(f): 10:08am On Oct 03, 2015
@myztikal
Thanks for ur post.
We all have experienced it. Sometimes when the load is too heavy, u just need to...drop it and away. Ur not useful to urself or anyone else when ur lugging baggage around. If we all reminisced about our past, I wudnt even start this thread.
Pls, forgive urself, forgive whoever...forget the past. If u can still remember, then its still ur present.
Ur 37. U shd be someone's beau.

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Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 10:14am On Oct 03, 2015
myztikal:
I'm forced to come out of my shell now. its only in naija that getting married is the ultimate achievement, and used as a measure of responsibility. we must realise that some people just ain't into marriage, its their choice. i'm 37 and single, i wanna get married...i yearn for it, i'm not PROUD i'm still single, when you are this old and yearn for a life partner, then know its because of that one relationship that couldv'e been IT, but either of you botched it, its always hard to come back from that. i'd rather not bring my unpalatable baggage into any one's life...but i will appreciate a friend

You are absolutely right friend.

I must confess that i have no reason been single at this point in time and even after i parted with my ex i had and still have many options of ladies to pick from but the truth is that marriage is not what you just rush into.

Yes i had issues with my very lucrative business 3years back and like every human, no one in life is immune against financial downturn so in my view i need to be very very financially buoyant enough to take care of my woman before venturing into any new affair.

In-fact im the type of guy that can marry the daughter of bill gate and will not care about a dime of hers or her father but would even take care of her with what i can afford.

If im the opportunistic guy by now i would be married to one rich lady but GOD forbid i date or marry a lady i do not love just because of money as that will translate to perpetual slavery.

Most especially,my core values and beliefs is a deterrent for me and even if i chose to just get down with any lady that catches my fiance,i will be destroying my relationship with Christ.

To me nothing on earth is worth my eternal life. But nevertheless im praying to GOD to help me curb teh picky nature of mine cos trust me, im very very picky because i believe that marriage is a life long thing and as a man it is important to be with a lady that is pleasing to my eyes because what pleases the eyes apparently pleases the soul.I hate philandering and all my life i have never cheated on any lady in my life so i fear that if i settle for any lady less sexually appealing to me,i just might be tempted greatly to philander.

My believe is that it is the same hole with different casings so why cant i relax and go for my preferred spec rather than settle for less and live my marital life in perpetual bondage fantasizing about another lady while married to another.

This is why im still single and i pray GOD brings that lady that will be what i desire.

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Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Nobody: 10:20am On Oct 03, 2015
siamia:
I miss those days when e cudnt go to sch until our right hand cud reach our left ear! Lol
I remember when we went to school, lined up & d headmistress & teachers inspect our nails & uniform, then we march to our classrooms. U Remember now??• D days of Nasco Biscuit, Okin biscuit, Trebor, Iced Coloured water tied in nylon- we called it "lolly"• D days of Goody-Goody & Pako biscuit. D days of Dandy & Bazooka chewing gum, days of Tree-Top sachets, Baba-dudu & Ekanna Gowon sweets, Obi-Edun fruit, Awin, Agbalumo, Ireke-Obo roots, yeye fruit, Bongo coffee, Tate/Lye & St Loius cube sugar, Pambolabola, Majidun rainbow coloured pant with string, Ewekoro pant. D days of Ali & Simbi, Mr Salami & Mrs Salami, Agbo lives in Calabar, Eze goes to school, The Adventure of Sousa, An African Night Entertainment, Kyauta, The Directors, The flying doctor in Lesotho, Ogboju Ode ninu Igbo Irunmole, Igbo Eledumare, Alibaba and the Angels. Mr Giwa is a trader.
I remember those days when one naira was money, even stronger than the dolla. I remember when groundnut was 5kobo & chocomilo sweet was 5 kobo• Days of messing game, who is in d garden, police and thief• D days of mama & papa play• Days when we used to build houses with sand, play suwe game, tinco tinco, change Ur style, ten ten, skipping• Those days when we used to fly kite on streets, those days when rubber band was stock exchange• D days of limca soft drinks & choco milo adverts on black & white TV, Sunday rendezvous by 1:30pm. Days of Elopee dance, Soul Train, Disco '79 & Disco '80, Cock Crows at Dawn. The Old Village Headmaster, Awada-Kerikeri(Baba-Mero Theater), 'Ajimajashan Theater, Baba-Sala, Jacob & Papa-Lolo, Ishiekwu, The Bala-Miller Show, The Art Alade Show, The Harbour's Band, The Soul Train, The Bar-Beach Show, Ere abalaiye, Feyikogbon, The Oyin Adejobi Theater, Ishola Ogunshola (I-Show Pepper), The Osumare Theater, The Omidina Theater, Diran Ajijedidun news cast, Walter Oyatogun reporting, Mirror in the sun, Winds Against my Soul, Second Chance , Madam Kofo, Amebo, Sisi Clara, Zebrudaya, Mrs Ovularia Nwobo alias 4;30, Giringory, Gorimapa, Chief Eleyinmi, Chief Kokonsari, Omo Akara-Ogun, Chief Dagbolu, Chief Faderin, Mr Garuba, Hawaii-5-0, The Famous-five, Combat(Jam Locker, Michael London, Vic Moroe, Pennar Roberts & Long Green) Frank Spencer. When we say 'leke leke give me white finger'• Those days when Bic biro was d best• D days when we used to drink water from d tap, even suck out d water if it's not coming out• The days when NTA will show rainbow sign for 30 mins then national anthem be4 program starts @ 4pm• The days when basket sandals, simbi, Learneds' & Cortina sandals by Bata shoes were d best• Days when we all sing sandalili sandalili songs, Dstv has come, no more old fun! I'm really proud to have experienced all these. If u are not smiling it means u were not born in my generation. Which means u are d INDOMIE generation lol! Abeg share make others laugh too. ROTFL.

Chai madam u just made me remember then. I could do anything for tree tops and had steady supplies of bazooka luv the way it fills the mouth and taste unlike slim dandy... oohhh walls ice cream and after licking it we use the stick handle for o hande made toy plane and helicopter... all those. limca,green sand shandy,canada dry,gold spot etc I loved space 1999,sweeny,the protectors, Joe 90,Mr Spencer, Tarzan,tomorrow people,voltron,Gforce,all christopher lee's Dracular movies,all the James Bond (moonraker, the spy who loved me,dr no,from Russia with love,Gold finger, you only live twice,diamonds are forever,live and let die etc), steptoe and son,famous five etc....man those days sha..goodl ol days I remember an incident I came. out 11th in class and my mum promised to throw me in the washing machine and peg me later on hahaa I was so scared even when I eventually came out 5th the next term.


D days when we used to drink water from d tap,
even suck out d water if it's not coming out•


This. was tha bomb lolzzzz and water must come out o chai!!

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Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by princejenks(m): 10:32am On Oct 03, 2015
Am present,someone holler back pls
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by siamia(f): 10:33am On Oct 03, 2015
@runnazz
Am glad I made ur day...lol
Uve made mine too by reminding me of many more...lol
Ahh...those were the days...

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Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Skii(m): 10:35am On Oct 03, 2015
Gentlemen and Ladies (special mention to siamia for opening this thread, God bless you and may you find the Answer to your prayer...AMEN!)

Here is a link to a message by the late Dr. Myles Munroe from one of his visits to City of David church here in Lagos, Nigeria for your listening pleasure

In this message, he points that INFORMATION and not necessarily love is THE KEY to marriage/relationships. He remarks that we face challenges in relationships because we lack knowledge and information on the subject because we neither study nor prepare for it. His supporting illustration is the fact that we spend several years of our lives acquiring knowledge and information and becoming experts in our chosen fields but don't dedicate any time at all to learning how to live with people.

To this end therefore, some of the things we should expect especially at this stage that WE find ourselves are things like cultures, bad habits, backgrounds and so on. These things he says are the things that do not make relationships work! But being informed and acting on that knowledge (wisdom) will increase the chances of relationships surviving!

I enjoin you to listen. Its about 93mb to download, but i can assure you that it will be worth every megabyte!

God bless!

https://www.dropbox.com/s/kpk1jyf71yov5lv/02%20Kingdom%20Standard%20for%20Love%20and%20Mar.mp3?dl=0

Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Nobody: 10:39am On Oct 03, 2015
siamia:
@runnazz
Am glad I made ur day...lol
Uve made mine too by reminding me of many more...lol
Ahh...those were the days...

Good to know & btw I no think say nepa dey take light that time o cos I can't recall anything like use of generator until early 90's why can't things be that beautiful again..anyway God bless naija & have blessed day too
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 10:51am On Oct 03, 2015
siamia:
I miss those days when e cudnt go to sch until our right hand cud reach our left ear! Lol
I remember when we went to school, lined up & d headmistress & teachers inspect our nails & uniform, then we march to our classrooms. U Remember now??• D days of Nasco Biscuit, Okin biscuit, Trebor, Iced Coloured water tied in nylon- we called it "lolly"• D days of Goody-Goody & Pako biscuit. D days of Dandy & Bazooka chewing gum, days of Tree-Top sachets, Baba-dudu & Ekanna Gowon sweets, Obi-Edun fruit, Awin, Agbalumo, Ireke-Obo roots, yeye fruit, Bongo coffee, Tate/Lye & St Loius cube sugar, Pambolabola, Majidun rainbow coloured pant with string, Ewekoro pant. D days of Ali & Simbi, Mr Salami & Mrs Salami, Agbo lives in Calabar, Eze goes to school, The Adventure of Sousa, An African Night Entertainment, Kyauta, The Directors, The flying doctor in Lesotho, Ogboju Ode ninu Igbo Irunmole, Igbo Eledumare, Alibaba and the Angels. Mr Giwa is a trader.
I remember those days when one naira was money, even stronger than the dolla. I remember when groundnut was 5kobo & chocomilo sweet was 5 kobo• Days of messing game, who is in d garden, police and thief• D days of mama & papa play• Days when we used to build houses with sand, play suwe game, tinco tinco, change Ur style, ten ten, skipping• Those days when we used to fly kite on streets, those days when rubber band was stock exchange• D days of limca soft drinks & choco milo adverts on black & white TV, Sunday rendezvous by 1:30pm. Days of Elopee dance, Soul Train, Disco '79 & Disco '80, Cock Crows at Dawn. The Old Village Headmaster, Awada-Kerikeri(Baba-Mero Theater), 'Ajimajashan Theater, Baba-Sala, Jacob & Papa-Lolo, Ishiekwu, The Bala-Miller Show, The Art Alade Show, The Harbour's Band, The Soul Train, The Bar-Beach Show, Ere abalaiye, Feyikogbon, The Oyin Adejobi Theater, Ishola Ogunshola (I-Show Pepper), The Osumare Theater, The Omidina Theater, Diran Ajijedidun news cast, Walter Oyatogun reporting, Mirror in the sun, Winds Against my Soul, Second Chance , Madam Kofo, Amebo, Sisi Clara, Zebrudaya, Mrs Ovularia Nwobo alias 4;30, Giringory, Gorimapa, Chief Eleyinmi, Chief Kokonsari, Omo Akara-Ogun, Chief Dagbolu, Chief Faderin, Mr Garuba, Hawaii-5-0, The Famous-five, Combat(Jam Locker, Michael London, Vic Moroe, Pennar Roberts & Long Green) Frank Spencer. When we say 'leke leke give me white finger'• Those days when Bic biro was d best• D days when we used to drink water from d tap, even suck out d water if it's not coming out• The days when NTA will show rainbow sign for 30 mins then national anthem be4 program starts @ 4pm• The days when basket sandals, simbi, Learneds' & Cortina sandals by Bata shoes were d best• Days when we all sing sandalili sandalili songs, Dstv has come, no more old fun! I'm really proud to have experienced all these. If u are not smiling it means u were not born in my generation. Which means u are d INDOMIE generation lol! Abeg share make others laugh too. ROTFL.
You sure sey you still know road to Akwa ibom so?lol!

Because its like you are sold out to Lagos o.
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by siamia(f): 10:52am On Oct 03, 2015
@runnazz
Amen ooo

@skil
Thanks for that writeup by myles munroe. I encourage all of us to read this and also download the link.

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Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by engrelvis(m): 10:58am On Oct 03, 2015
ok.am digressin here.alot of people wud hv been helpin their fellowmen or women on dis NL but alot of people here r fake.everbdy cannt b rich so people shud stop dis big boy or big girl front.b real because u cannt say where yr help is comin from.if any person cannt accept u d way u r den is nt worth being yr frd or bein in relationship wit.i really applaud dis thread.

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Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 11:00am On Oct 03, 2015
The secret many ladies do not know about single guys of 35years and above


I shouldn't be divulging this but i believe it is pertinent so that ladies can catch the drift.

Guys of 35years and above who are stil single are very very vulnerable because they tend to be somewhat confused as regards who to date or marry except very few ones who have been in a deep affair before the clock that age.

At that age they can easily be carried away by any lady who shows deep interest and it will be so surprising to ladies that guys at this age do not spend more time trying to woo any lady because to these set of guys they are already fed up and even the supposed randy ones secretly desire to have just one lady to call their own and take home to mama.

Guys in this age bracket are conscious of the fact that they need to settle down and any lady who can "dominate" them with virtuous attributes will win them over in a flash.

So if you find yourself admiring a 35year old guy or above,just know that having him to yourself is very very easy and all you need do is take charge of him without cheapening yourself and when he sees how serious you are,he will likely let down his guards and put a ring on it.

This assertion holds true for most guys in this age bracket.

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Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 11:01am On Oct 03, 2015
engrelvis:
ok.am digressin here.alot of people wud hv been helpin their fellowmen or women on dis NL but alot of people here r fake.everbdy cannt b rich so people shud stop dis big boy or big girl front.b real because u cannt say where yr help is comin from.if any person cannt accept u d way u r den is nt worth being yr frd or bein in relationship wit.i really applaud dis thread.

1000likes

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Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by siamia(f): 11:11am On Oct 03, 2015
@toks2008
Actually I was born in lagos...luth to the precise, to parents who did their registry wedding in lagos before having kids. So I am very much a lagosian.
Not only that, I attended a private primary sch that is older than I, and still exists. I also attended a premier secondary sch in lagos, queen's college, yaba. I only went to do my first degree over there when my parents felt I was getting away from my roots. After that, I came back to lagos, attended more schs and started working.
In fact, I feel concerned abt the fact that I am not a properly rooted akwa ibomite and that's why I opened another thread on the same day I opened this one. Of course its not as popular. Lol.
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Rexnegro(m): 11:21am On Oct 03, 2015
VenusBetty:
though I still have a decade to go, but I wanna learn from my egbons
Can I no you ? You seems to me to be my awaiting wife....hala if you are .
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Nobody: 11:38am On Oct 03, 2015
[b][/b][quote author=Toks2008 post=38622197]

My believe is that it is the same hole with different casings so why cant i relax and go for my preferred spec rather than settle for less and live my marital life in perpetual bondage fantasizing about another lady while married to another.

Hmmmmm..its true bro, but how can one live without them? Honestly I have given up hope of finding or meeting someone difrent, because its like praying to find a fish alive in a football field. No woman is willing to build, its either you are already built or you go hug lekki transformer( 247 power suply) so how can I take you serious when its obvious you just wanna lick owo epo...hmmmm, honestly guys..marriage requires more than meet the eyes...learning continues
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by engrelvis(m): 11:38am On Oct 03, 2015
@siamia .pls op create a platform of people on dis platform shud b meetin.it shud b in a public place probably an eatery.alot of us make relationship mistakes wen we r young.lookin back nw u wish u will b given d chance to do it differently.but d truth is nt marryin early dt is d issue but findin yr soulmate.alot of people r sufferin n smilin in their marriages these days.queencalypso i gbadun yr pic in yr monkier
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by kinglekan: 11:39am On Oct 03, 2015
JeffreyJamez:
King.lekan and kin.gtom.. you're summoned!
angry angry angry
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by queencalipso(f): 11:41am On Oct 03, 2015
Am loving this thread even though am not up to 30. I jus like the maturity, sincerity and open mindedness it contain people can actually be themselves on nairaland without getting insulted for it. Nice one op kiss talking about the memories of your childhood days am trying so hard to remember some of those things, lol can't even get a clear picture of the little I remember. cry I pray we all find all that we are looking for amen.


Sorry op I joined without asking for permission hope am welcomed?
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by queencalipso(f): 11:44am On Oct 03, 2015
engrelvis:
@siamia .pls op create a platform of people on dis platform shud b meetin.it shud b in a public place probably an eatery.alot of us make relationship mistakes wen we r young.lookin back nw u wish u will b given d chance to do it differently.but d truth is nt marryin early dt is d issue but findin yr soulmate.alot of people r sufferin n smilin in their marriages these days.queencalypso i gbadun yr pic in yr monkier


Lol thanks for noticing me
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by onstelly(f): 11:44am On Oct 03, 2015
IceDude:
I said it!
You said what
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by mumu9gerian: 11:48am On Oct 03, 2015
siamia:
Now recommending joebeckz...
Guys, pls post tangible posts ooo. Let's know u...
stop recommending people maam,
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by fairlyisabel(f): 11:51am On Oct 03, 2015
@skii, I love listening to the pastor's message. His messages are highly informative and educative. Between, does love exist? I don't think so. I believe that getting married and staying married has more to do with tolerance and selflessness but that does not mean that you shouldn't run when you see danger signals during courtship.
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by IceDude(m): 11:53am On Oct 03, 2015
onstelly:
You said what
Lol, nvm.....Gud morning
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by kaboninc(m): 11:55am On Oct 03, 2015
Toks2008:


Good morning my sister. beauty!

I must confess you have such a beautiful soul that even you do not know.

If you check this thread from inception you will observe that i literarily hijacked it from you and the reason is because it was just mnutes away to my creating smilar thread and trust me,this thread if not closed at 100pages will run endlessly cos its an haven for mature mnds to come together and socialize.

As i wrote,you have an awesome personality and you have an endearing virtue that many can attest to.

though i have not seen you one on one but even now,im so happy to come across a wonderful personality like yours.

Gd morning

Good morning sir! cheesy

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