MaGenT77:


i am not nobody and i dont think you have any value to add to my comment talkless of me. no one asked you of your personal misfortune, please save it for your diary. do you know how much guys spend on ladies daily and keep mum about it as it is expected. its all risk lil sis. when i stated asset - let it be clear, i meant asset, mental asset and not you.

You misunderstood what i said.

Sorry if you feel i referred to you as nobody.
When i said, you cant be apprentice and order working class, it was not directed at you.
Was just agreeing to your post as well as echoeing the fact that as much as men have things they desire in women, women also have qualities they desire in men.

In conclusion, both men and women desire people who add values to them. These values are beyond financial and material values.

Once again, i am sorry if my earlier post offended you.

Take care.

fairlyisabel:
Lolllll tough guy. Yes I am on bbm but I might still not open up to you on that. We might end up discussing another thing. Let's digress a little. Have you ever being wooed by a woman before?

Ahnn ahnn is it that personal that you don't to share?and I was really anticipating the gist lol..well I can respect that but with time I hope things will change and you'll open up to me more..hmmm yes i have but that was a very long time ago when I was in the university and still very hyperactive..I actually don't think its a big deal,if you want something you go after it,life is too short to be playing cat and mice joor..

gratefulme40:



You misunderstood what i said.

Sorry if you feel i referred to you as nobody.
When i said, you cant be apprentice and order working class, it was not directed at you.

Was just agreeing to your post as well as echoeing the fact that as much as men have things they desire in women, women also have qualities they desire in men.

In conclusion, both men and women desire people who add values to them. These values are beyond financial and material values.

Once again, i am sorry if my earlier post offended you.

Take care.

i was just messing with you dont be too uptight and i observed that you are new on nairaland. i guess this thread made you join or you trying to mask your pre-known identity

fairlyisabel:
Lolllll tough guy. Yes I am on bbm but I might still not open up to you on that. We might end up discussing another thing. Let's digress a little. Have you ever being wooed by a woman before?

Been wooed is an understatement in my case.I have been molested by many ladies at different ages of my life. At 17 i was made a man by one akwa ibom lady and latter i never did that thing again until i was 25 and molested again by a long time friend and i will never forget how she laughed at me when i prayed for forgiveness after the act and i was like "e be like say this girl na devil proper" I cant remember how many times i will enter my room in school to see a naked girl in my bed just to send her out like mumu and many times ladies will pas the night in my place yet i go dey look them like bolo.

If not for Christ i have no business with marriage and this is exactly how so many guys out there think. Sex is so cheap and a man must be really responsible to settle with one lady a midst billions who are willing to be with a man.

MaGenT77:


i was just messing with you dont be too uptight and i observed that you are new on nairaland. i guess this thread made you join or you trying to mask your pre-known identity

Oh well...your response made me feel you were offended and to be honest, that was not in anyway my intention.

Not so new.....created this handle for this thread. Been around here for a while, though not very active

agora4now:
your smile is out of this world, not forced but from the heart.

Wow. Thanks a lot

Toks2008:


Please read her comments again and try to understand the message.

That is why this thread remains credible because honestly no one is freaking over getting hooked both male and female and the first priority is to socialize,get to mingle and be at home and feel at home then along the way you just might find that connection or bonding.


Shey you get?

thank you i do understand

gratefulme40:



Oh well...your response made me feel you were offended and to be honest, that was not in anyway my intention.

Not so new.....created this handle for this thread. Been around here for a while, though not very active

Do you know that these days i hardly visit the frontage of nairaland? In-fact if not for passion in freelance writing, i no longer see it necessary to create more threads simply because i feel so relaxed and safe on this thread and many people are bound to join soon.

The reason is simply because of the level of maturity displayed.Yes we are adults and we wil sometimes disagree but please lets always try to calm down and reconcile our differences.

I love your calm response.Kudos.

Quick question. Can someone who's over 30 but married make comments on the thread? Perhaps one who has one or two cents to offer to the thread.

Thanks

Interesting. 30+ is actually d ripe age for a lot of tins

I think the op has done the impossible, a thread for the matured. Loving it. The huge traffic shows there are so many out there who want to be involved in discussions and chats devoid of unnecessary aggression and tribal attacks. By the way i'm in my mid 30's and recently married. In my journey thru bachelor hood I found out that a lot of matured ladies enter relationships wit the baggage of all their past xperiences. While it's impossible and even unwise not to learn frm the past, we mustn't let it be a stumbling block. Gotta learn to give ur partner the benefit of the doubt, Notin as refreshin. It has bin enlightenin readin tru, @ op I love ur personality. Stay blessed

bimflash:

Yes
I'm quite surprised really. ... do u know me please?

Yes, I do. We finished in d same set m I tot dat nickname rang a bell. U must remember the likes of Modupe Johnson, Bimbo Benjamin, Yetunde Esan, Abiola Adeoye, Tosin Okiti, Principal (Mrs Ojo), V.P (Mr Odofin), V.P. (Mr Onyedinefu), Tinuade Okoro, Ebuka Nnaji, e.t.c. I was in Red house and 'C' class thru awt. I think u were in Blue house.

Hello everyone! Good morning. Trust your night went well? I'm sure most of us are out already heading to workk(especially the lagos people)
Do hav a great day and be blessed!

udysweet:
Hello everyone! Good morning. Trust your night went well? I'm sure most of us are out already heading to workk(especially the lagos people)
Do hav a great day and be blessed!

Good morning.........sure we re.
Kunle 30+ 1month, frm lagos....hope am qualify 2 join dis thread?

[quote author=udysweet post=38676097]Hello everyone! Good morning. Trust your night went well? I'm sure most of us are out already heading to workk(especially the lagos people)
Do hav a great day and be blessed!

Hope u r fine ]

Sure you can! Abi @op? Says "30+" so feel free. You're highly welcome

kunlexbaba45:


Good morning.........sure we re.
Kunle 30+ 1month, frm lagos....hope am qualify 2 join dis thread?

[quote author=Eaa247 post=38676505][/quote]yes I am! Have a splendid day!

EggovinMma:
Toks2008,na wa o.
Banks no longer employ 26+ again na.

Anyway, will only observe from the sidelines. I'm not sure I will be single sef before the end of next year. May be saying yes to someone soon, still contemplating.

if you know how scarce husband are,you won't contemplate on saying yes...

Youngpo413:
if you know how scarce husband are,you won't contemplate on saying yes...

Husband is not scarce, good husband is.
If I decide to marry before the year runs out m even with how crazy I get I will, the issue is Am I getting married to someone I'm compatible with?

Toks2008:


See its an imperfect world and we just have to narrow down our demands from these complex beings.

in any list of virtues expected from any man or woman there is always the one ones that top the list.

I will fall in a flash for a lady who is a magician iin the kitchen,sexually decent,appealing to my eyes and humble with no age retrictions and i dont even mind a single mum.

Now you will say fair enough but then narrowing down those virtues,i just want a sexually decent lady who cooks well and fairly cool physically.

So your long list might look quite innocuous but you just miight realize after a long while that its hard to come by.

Guy I share same thing with you, ideally I need just 3 things from a woman; 1. she should know how to cook, feed my stomach and you will see me coming for more. I don't even mind running from my office to my house for lunch. 2. She should be sexually good in bed not the boring type who thinks making love is all about IN and OUT, there must be some play, things to remember each time we do it, it will makes us want more and keep you away from others, because I will always have this say "nobody does it better than my woman". 3. A woman that fears God, she should not even fear me but she should fear God. with this I know my family is secure both spiritually and otherwise, because she is always there telling God about the family, building our kids in a right direction, even when am not around, I will have the confidence in her decisions. with the fear of God, she will have limit to her actions towards me and vise versa.

With this bro am good to go.

Good morning house ooo,

You guys should welcome me na, Have introduced myself before.

Toks2008, Siamia, Fairlyisabel and all I dey wait oooooo.

Am Divfavor, a male, Lives and work in Lagos. in my 30s...

Abeg make una tell me welcome.

EggovinMma:


Husband is not scarce, good husband is.
If I decide to marry before the year runs out m even with how crazy I get I will, the issue is Am I getting married to someone I'm compatible with?

compatibility will come after marriage,wedding first other things will come later,even if there are some thing you don't like about him/her,that will change after marriage,people do change after marriage.

sihom:
At Martins 301,

You asked why older women discriminate against younger men, I'll gist you a bit about my personal experience and hopefully you may understand.

Early last year (2014) at 32, I attempted to date a guy 5 years younger than me - first time ever I would attempt such a feat. The experience was for the most part an unpleasant & annoying one.

Daniel ( not his real name) wanted sex practically all the time and he had this obnoxious habit of calling incessantly at all hours of the day - common like who does that?

He would call at 5 am on his way to work - when I was either having my quiet time with Heaven, working out or just trying to wrap my mind and head around a new day. He would call during working hours when I was seriously pressured with tasks, and call again in the evenings.

This was someone I informed early on, that if you call me twice and I don't answer, pls send a text message and I'll get back to you as quickly as possible. Did he listen - no he didn't he just wore me out with calls. I felt severely harassed at the frequency of his calls and I am not exaggerating about the calls or this entire story.

Our phone conversations were often like this:

Me: Hi how was your day and what's happening with you.
Daniel: I am feeling Hot when was the last time you had sex.
Me: Can't we have a meaningful conversation without you bringing up sex?
Daniel: Ok, fine my day was ...... so what are you wearing now?

Exhausting conversation right? As if that wasn't bad enough the dude would ask me to come see him at his office after working hours during the week when you are trying to beat traffic and get home. Seeing him on a Friday would have been cool cos there's no work on Saturday but he never thought that way.

These are just a few incidents, the dude was too immature & unreasonable in how he conducted himself. I mentally cringe when I recall things and I say to myself - girl what the hell were you thinking?

I am extremely wary of men younger than me, Daniel put a sour taste in my mouth about that. That whole affair with him didn't last more than 4 months but I still cringe. I wasn't dating him for marriage's sake, I was just being spontaneous, trying something new & different.

I mean no offence to younger men but very often we are worlds apart in our emotional & mental maturity as well as in other things. I still prefer my men older than me - the older the better.

very very cute guys like to behave this way,this Daniel,he is cute right?

Good morning everyone! I bless this day for us all!!

fairlyisabel:
@ siamia, you look good. Indeed black is beautiful. You did a nice job for creating this thread. I pray it doesn't get abused by guys below 30 and the ones that are 30plus but on assignment to do harm. Guys should also upload their pix(s) so that ladies can compliment them and chat them up too.

just check out my pix,I will be 30 in just 4yrs time(you know how time flies)so shall we chat up?

@everyone
Happy new week,
How are u all doing? Special welcome to divfavor ooo.
I just read thru posts. How are u doing, toks? Magent? Isabel? Grateful? Icedude? Dosunmu? Udy? Torqque? And everyone else?
I'm glad u are all on this thread. When we reach 100pages nairaland shd make us life members as well as partners in profit sharing.
I want to appreciate everyone who has posted something in a timely and respectful fashion. I applaud the budding relationships and friendships.
For the guy who posted his number for a sugar mummy, try dangote company. Don't come here again. Zero tolerance for trash. That's hy we have dustbins.
To the ladies, if any guy indicates interest in u, ask him to meet u at the group chat. That will allow u (and the rest of us) to properly access him. If he meets ur specs, then u can go private. The group chat is an online eatery...just as u wud do, if u were to meet him physically. If he is a predator or a scammer, he'll be exposed there bcs someone will surely know him.
I wish u a fruitful week ahead.
God bless.

DIVFAVOR:
Good morning house ooo,
You guys should welcome me na, Have introduced myself before.
Toks2008, Siamia, Fairlyisabel and all I dey wait oooooo.
Am Divfavor, a male, Lives and work in Lagos. in my 30s...
Abeg make una tell me welcome.

Divfavour you are highly welcomed.
Please feel free to express yourself.
Wishing you all a fruitful week ahead.

@youngpo
My friend, stop that thing! Time does not fly, or we, ur seniors, wud have been marking 100yrs today.
Get back to the bench and sit quietly ooo.

Youngpo413:
compatibility will come after marriage,wedding first other things will come later,even if there are some thing you don't like about him/her,that will change after marriage,people do change after marriage.

Doesn't work for me that way.Id love to see who I'm setting down with, I get easy irritated with attitudes I dint like.

Siamia am ok.....How was ur nite?