fairlyisabel:
@ siamia, you look good. Indeed black is beautiful. You did a nice job for creating this thread. I pray it doesn't get abused by guys below 30 and the ones that are 30plus but on assignment to do harm. Guys should also upload their pix(s) so that ladies can compliment them and chat them up too.

Maybe it should be made mandatory that every one who wants to be on the thread must upload his or her pics.

This thread is not like any other but made up of responsible and mature individuals so i really don't see why we should hide our identity on a decent thread such as this after-all we are not ghosts.

Remember that you can always create a new id to protect your privacy if you must and yes the primary aim of the thread is not to hook up but talk as in socialize but we all know that interacting with one another is juxtaposed to creating friendship which is the opium of any sustainable union.

I hope this makes sense.

Oga Toks2008 i can see you o!

IceDude:
Oga Toks2008 i can see you o!

I see you too lol..

Toks2008:


Divfavour you are highly welcomed.

Please feel free to express yourself.

Wishing you all a fruitful week ahead.

Thks boss.... same here.. hv a blast week with fun

I fully agree with toks2008. Pls consider uploading a pic. Let's get to know u...

tbaby123:


Ghost mode ke? Ghost mode deactivated

House please welcome me

I'm 34, lepa and single, ready to meet good people

My eyes is already on some beautiful faceless guys here..na shame crippled my first life..but I have put that behind me

Tbaby123.. How was your night? Nice profile pic, can we relate?

amanze54:


I have been on this marriage thing for some time now. Planning n praying but sometime u fill u hav not pray enough 4d right women. I tel u e no easy. I know how fun it was having girl frnds but marriage is a diff kettle. Some girls disposition towards relationship makes it dificult too, I remember wen I had to ask a girl do we cook or go out n eat? She quickly chose d latter, teling me hw she hate cooking wit stove, then I couldn't afford gas, then I knew am on a wrong lane.

lol

Don't cOok for him, don't ans all his calls,return some of his calls,be mysterious, stay away from his parents house.hehehehehe. For someone u want to marry or is dts for dating stages.

Okay you are 20years. Dating stage. Issorait!!
Different strokes!! Differnt folks!!!
quote author=Melish post=38649228]PLEASE LADIES KEEP TO THESE THINGS... THOSE OF US THAT HAVE DONE THE OPPOSITE WILL BEAR ME WITNESS THAT IT DOESN'T WORK....

1. Be feminine in every way. Don't act like a man or dress like one.

2. Men are different from women. They act and think differently. What he needs from you is RESPECT! Not necessarily love. Very important.

3. Don't chase a man. Let the man initiate everything. Men delight in "hunting" their women. Not the women chasing them. that's why the men you throw yourself at abandon you but the ones you detest keep chasing you.

4. Men like women who are neat and clean . Use your perfumes and deodorants. Be clean and look smart.

5. Men love privacy and don't like chatty women. Don't keep discussing things going on in your relationship outside.

6. A man in love with a woman acts differently towards her. When a man says "I Don't Love you" He MEANS it. Don't waste your time any longer. Just leave him and move on

7. Maintain a sense of vague in a relationship. Don't start saying everything you have ever done in your.. Maintain a sense of mystery.

8. Get busy. Men love independent women and get tired of those always available. Better to be too busy.

9. Men love their space.. Sometimes they want to be alone. Enjoy moments of silence when it comes up.. Don't feel obliged to break the silence.

9. Talk about your family with dignity. Don't start demeaning your family before him even if that's the case
10. Give value to yourself. Don't become his house help.. Don't wash his clothes. don't cook for him. don't go to his parents house to help them out. Don't sleep with him. Don't spend weekends in his house. If you leave him he wants all these things.. DON'T do it..

11. Men Don't propose when you throw yourself at them. They do so when they're afraid of losing you. So don't act desperate.

12. The way a man acts towards you during courtship is what will be happening during marriage. If he's beating you now, no matter the promises he makes to you, the beating will continue till rapture. Same thing with stinginess and womanising.

13. Always be polite. Even when you're refusing offers and advances.. Always do it nicely.

14. Men want to be respected and valued.

15. You have to be seen to be approached... Don't hide in your house. Go out and interact.

16. Carry yourself with grace Like a beauty Queen . Project happiness, radiance and confidence. Don't carry yourself like a failure or a trash can. Have a sense of dignity and significance. Don't latch on to any man like he's your life.

17. Always be nice friendly and polite. Always use "PLEASE" and "THANK YOU".

18. For those dating older men, maybe your boss. Use titles due to him. Don't become too informal even though he might be open to informality .

20. Don't just talk about love during dates. Talk about hobbies and career and academics.. Not just love.

19. Always leave a man seeking for more of you instead of giving him too much of you. Don't see him often, don't always answer his phone call.. Don't call him often. Don't let him get bored of you. For every three of his calls, Return one. Always end the phone conversation first.

20. Let marriage never be mentioned by the lady in a relationship. Act like you're not interested in marriage. If you feel the relationship has gone on for longer than you like, you can leave. Don't bother him.

21. If you are not engaged to a man and he is dating other people then date other people as well. Again if he's arranging dates for you with other men it's time to move on girl. He's not interested.

22. Don't fight him when he talks to other ladies or when other ladies flirt around him. Be calm and act as if you're not bothered about it. Never ever act desperate.

23. Don't take risks. Don't close down your account for him or try to please him at the expense of your academics or career. Don't take it to the sexual areas. Before marriage check for diseases and genotype compatibility. Be sure of his status don't be too trusting.

24. Always let those in authority over you know him. But he should take you to his parents first. Stay away from his parents house .

25. Always be ready to walk away from a dead end relationship.

26. Don't impose change on a man. If you don't like his attitude and behaviour, move on.



Finally you're a child of God. So have great self esteem when one door closes seven others open .[/quote]

rofemiguwa:
Don't cOok for him, don't ans all his calls,return some of his calls,be mysterious, stay away from his parents house.hehehehehe. For someone u want to marry or is dts for dating stages.

Okay you are 20years. Dating stage. Issorait!!
Different strokes!! Differnt folks!!!
.

Please deactivate your ghost mode

Lets know you

rofemiguwa:
Don't cOok for him, don't ans all his calls,return some of his calls,be mysterious, stay away from his parents house.hehehehehe. For someone u want to marry or is dts for dating stages.

Okay you are 20years. Dating stage. Issorait!!
Different strokes!! Differnt folks!!!
quote author=Melish post=38649228]PLEASE LADIES KEEP TO THESE THINGS... THOSE OF US THAT HAVE DONE THE OPPOSITE WILL BEAR ME WITNESS THAT IT DOESN'T WORK....

1. Be feminine in every way. Don't act like a man or dress like one.

2. Men are different from women. They act and think differently. What he needs from you is RESPECT! Not necessarily love. Very important.

3. Don't chase a man. Let the man initiate everything. Men delight in "hunting" their women. Not the women chasing them. that's why the men you throw yourself at abandon you but the ones you detest keep chasing you.

4. Men like women who are neat and clean . Use your perfumes and deodorants. Be clean and look smart.

5. Men love privacy and don't like chatty women. Don't keep discussing things going on in your relationship outside.

6. A man in love with a woman acts differently towards her. When a man says "I Don't Love you" He MEANS it. Don't waste your time any longer. Just leave him and move on

7. Maintain a sense of vague in a relationship. Don't start saying everything you have ever done in your.. Maintain a sense of mystery.

8. Get busy. Men love independent women and get tired of those always available. Better to be too busy.

9. Men love their space.. Sometimes they want to be alone. Enjoy moments of silence when it comes up.. Don't feel obliged to break the silence.

9. Talk about your family with dignity. Don't start demeaning your family before him even if that's the case
10. Give value to yourself. Don't become his house help.. Don't wash his clothes. don't cook for him. don't go to his parents house to help them out. Don't sleep with him. Don't spend weekends in his house. If you leave him he wants all these things.. DON'T do it..

11. Men Don't propose when you throw yourself at them. They do so when they're afraid of losing you. So don't act desperate.

12. The way a man acts towards you during courtship is what will be happening during marriage. If he's beating you now, no matter the promises he makes to you, the beating will continue till rapture. Same thing with stinginess and womanising.

13. Always be polite. Even when you're refusing offers and advances.. Always do it nicely.

14. Men want to be respected and valued.

15. You have to be seen to be approached... Don't hide in your house. Go out and interact.

16. Carry yourself with grace Like a beauty Queen . Project happiness, radiance and confidence. Don't carry yourself like a failure or a trash can. Have a sense of dignity and significance. Don't latch on to any man like he's your life.

17. Always be nice friendly and polite. Always use "PLEASE" and "THANK YOU".

18. For those dating older men, maybe your boss. Use titles due to him. Don't become too informal even though he might be open to informality .

20. Don't just talk about love during dates. Talk about hobbies and career and academics.. Not just love.

19. Always leave a man seeking for more of you instead of giving him too much of you. Don't see him often, don't always answer his phone call.. Don't call him often. Don't let him get bored of you. For every three of his calls, Return one. Always end the phone conversation first.

20. Let marriage never be mentioned by the lady in a relationship. Act like you're not interested in marriage. If you feel the relationship has gone on for longer than you like, you can leave. Don't bother him.

21. If you are not engaged to a man and he is dating other people then date other people as well. Again if he's arranging dates for you with other men it's time to move on girl. He's not interested.

22. Don't fight him when he talks to other ladies or when other ladies flirt around him. Be calm and act as if you're not bothered about it. Never ever act desperate.

23. Don't take risks. Don't close down your account for him or try to please him at the expense of your academics or career. Don't take it to the sexual areas. Before marriage check for diseases and genotype compatibility. Be sure of his status don't be too trusting.

24. Always let those in authority over you know him. But he should take you to his parents first. Stay away from his parents house .

25. Always be ready to walk away from a dead end relationship.

26. Don't impose change on a man. If you don't like his attitude and behaviour, move on.



Finally you're a child of God. So have great self esteem when one door closes seven others open .

[font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font]This is what i'm talking about. This is written by a lady! people thinking principles aint matter no more. can u please upload ur picture to your handle?

Hmmmmmm

rofemiguwa:
Don't cOok for him, don't ans all his calls,return some of his calls,be mysterious, stay away from his parents house.hehehehehe. For someone u want to marry or is dts for dating stages.

Okay you are 20years. Dating stage. Issorait!!
Different strokes!! Differnt folks!!

My sister not just for dating even if you're engaged keep to this things.... If you are doing the opposite I'm very sure the r/ship will fail or you'll not enjoy love and respect in it....


Until a man takes you to the alter he can wake up one morning dump you and nothing happens...

Sorry all. I qualify for sideliners. Am 2yrs short of target. So I will jus watch n learn. I just had to comment cos her post reminds me of my younger sis, she is in that age bracket and has same ideas n behave same way. I jus look at her n laugh esp we she goes ' I can't be u o! I can't cook for anybody when jevinik has not closed, what I will I be doing when u marry me' and I am like hehehehehehehe. Yes ma! Anyone that rocks ur boat o! I luv cooking don't see why I can't extend my skills to leboo. Funny idealogies I just don't get! . I cook for even my normal male friends, no strings attached when I was in school. I take the stomach of my man very serious. It is important to me! He doesn't even eat out. Well that's me. It has being working for me sha! Don't know about other opinions. I believe a lady should be domesticated. And u r not a slave. If u help make his meals and clean up together when u r around.
Differnt strokes, different folks sha!!

Toks2008:


Please deactivate your ghost mode

Lets know you

lolsss I see my ex commenting on this thread...waow dude go marry oooo..na y advise be that..hehehehe

rofemiguwa:
Sorry all. I qualify for sideliners. Am 2yrs short of target. So I will jus watch n learn. I just had to comment cos her post reminds me of my younger sis, she is in that age bracket and has same ideas n behave same way. I jus look at her n laugh esp we she goes ' I can't be u o! I can't cook for anybody when jevinik has not closed, what I will I be doing when u marry me' and I am like hehehehehehehe. Yes ma! Anyone that rocks ur boat o! I luv cooking don't see why I can't extend my skills to leboo. Funny idealogies I just don't get! . I cook for even my normal male friends, no strings attached when I was in school. I take the stomach of my man very serious. It is important to me! He doesn't even eat out. Well that's me. It has being working for me sha! Don't know about other opinions. I believe a lady should be domesticated. And u r not a slave. If u help make his meals and clean up together when u r around.
Differnt strokes, different folks sha!!

This your cooking thing got my attention. Are you married?

Melish:


My sister not just for dating even if you're engaged keep to this things.... If you are doing the opposite I'm very sure the r/ship will fail or you'll not enjoy love and respect in it....


Until a man takes you to the alter he can wake up one morning dump you and nothing happens...

Melish i like you and respect your zeal to be theoritically oriented but please can you do yourself a favour..stop making comments here until you are say 27 or 30 then you just might be writing from experience ok.

Toks2008:


Melish i like you and respect your zeal to be theoritically oriented but please can you do yourself a favour..stop making comments here until you are say 27 or 30 then you just might be writing from experience ok.

No be theory oooo..
Wisdom gathered from real time experience...
I'm so sorry for people who won't learn until they're devastated...

Doing wifey duties will not bring a proposal your way... It delays it rather... That's why women date one man for years and are eventually dumped....
Why should a man still propose when you're already doing everything for him....
. Until women starts seeing things from men's perspective they'll keeping harming themselves with their very good intentions..

Melish:


My sister not just for dating even if you're engaged keep to this things.... If you are doing the opposite I'm very sure the r/ship will fail or you'll not enjoy love and respect in it....


Until a man takes you to the alter he can wake up one morning dump you and nothing happens...

big lie!!. It is only if u are dating an immature man before he will lose respect for u for cooking or cleaning.or visiting his parents or answering all his calls.that is just plain childish That guy Brain never done!! And u need to move asap!.
A good mature guy will value u more and respect u if u are homely than when u dey form beautyqueen.it is all dose university boyfriends u need to be forming mystery for. Not ur potential lifemate that two of u r ready for serious business. No worry u still have a lot to experience!! With time, u go use ur own hand,dey modify ur views as need be!!

Good luck sha. Enjoy ur mystery youthful days.

Hehehehe in the process sir.

Toks2008:


This your cooking thing got my attention. Are you married?

Melish:



Hmmm.

Rotflwkmd chai...

Melish ok let me ask you..can you go into marriage right now?

You have been glued to this thread since 3days now and anytime i see your id as a viewer i just cant stop lol.

Please if you are grounded in your knowledge of marital thiings let me know and i will come to your parents to ask for your hand in marriage.

Im not joking o..cos you seem to be so prepared judging from your knowledge...so naughty kai...lmao

Melish:



No be theory oooo..
Wisdom gathered from real time experience...
I'm so sorry for people who won't learn until they're devastated...

Doing wifey duties will not bring a proposal your way... It delays it rather... That's why women date one man for years and are eventually dumped....
Why should a man still propose when you're already doing everything for him....
. Until women starts seeing things from men's perspective they'll keeping harming themselves with their very good intentions..

Haaa mogbe..real time experience at 20? from wat time to wat time?

Thats why ii asked you to give me go ahead so i can come over to marry you.Abi you dey fear?lol

Toks2008:


This your cooking thing got my attention. Are you married?

At Toks2008, same question I was about asking her, If she is married, see any woman that knows the sound of my stomach gets me knocking on her door always and I give her 50% of my wants in a lady. I need a woman who has the magic of bringing home whenever am outside. be it work, outing with friends, or anything.

Toks2008:


Rotflwkmd chai...

Melish ok let me ask you..can you go into marriage right now?

You have been glued to this thread since 3days now and anytime i see your id as a viewer i just cant stop lol.

Please if you are grounded in your knowledge of marital thiings let me know and i will come to your parents to ask for your hand in marriage.

Im not joking o..cos you seem to be so prepared judging from your knowledge...so naughty kai...lmao

Twenty year olds marry every day all over the world so no be tory...


I'm here cause I'm really passionate about this matter..many a time ladies are pulling things the wrong way expecting things to turn out right.... I'm here to tell ladies where they're missing it so as to readjust and get to the promised land ... I've had little experience myself but have learned extensively in this area both from people's experiences and from other materials .. So that I won't waste my time in relationships and end up devastated at the end due to ignorance of the facts ...

rofemiguwa:
Hehehehe in the process sir.

ok o i just hope you are not forming..we are real here o.
But if na true then invite me to come eat pounded yam and efo riro.

All these emotionally immature people should let dis pretty poster be. . . . . .

Nah, u will be invited . Nov 14th save d date.details later

Toks2008:


ok o i just hope you are not forming..we are real here o.

But if na true then invite me to come eat pounded yam and efo riro.

Melish:




Twenty year olds marry every day all over the world so no be tory...


I'm here cause I'm really passionate about this matter..many a time ladies are pulling things the wrong way expecting things to turn out right.... I'm here to tell ladies where they're missing it so as to readjust and get to the promised land ... I've had little experience myself but have learned extensively in this area both from people's experiences and from other materials .. So that I won't waste my time in relationships and end up devastated at the end due to ignorance of the facts ...

Leave all these grammer..

My point is that if you are a good cook or ready to learn,humble and God fearing,and since you hate time wasters,just give me the go ahead and it will surprise you how fast i will come to your parents and marry you because you definitely know more than enough.

So dont be shy say yes if you want me to come..who knows,you just might be an old soul in a young body.

rofemiguwa:
Nah, u will be invited . Nov 14th save d date.details later

It will come to pass in Jesus name..AMEN

DIVFAVOR:


At Toks2008, same question I was about asking her, If she is married, see any woman that knows the sound of my stomach gets me knocking on her door always and I give her 50% of my wants in a lady. I need a woman who has the magic of bringing home whenever am outside. be it work, outing with friends, or anything.

Nothing pleases a real man more than a lady who speaks the language of his intestines no wonder why our elders say the way to a man heart is through his stomach.

Any lady who can not make sumptous meals for her man has failed maritally.

Toks2008:


Leave all these grammer..

My point is that if you are a good cook or ready to learn,humble and God fearing,and since you hate time wasters,just give me the go ahead and it will surprise you how fast i will come to your parents and marry you because you definitely know more than enough.

So dont be shy say yes if you want me to come..who knows,you just might be an old soul in a young body.

I wanna marry at the age of 25 and I can't marry someone I met online... I wanna achieve some things first

Toks2008:


It will come to pass in Jesus name..AMEN

Amen ooo

Melish:



I wanna marry at the age of 25 and I can't marry someone I met online... I wanna achieve some things first

Splendid.

So focus on those things and bother less about giving relationship advices.

You see why we say you are not matured enough? you give advice to people online but cant marry someone you meet online so wats the use of admonishing people you cant relate with.

Those who counsel are usually married,divorced or old enough to have the experience.

i put that to you to prove the point you just confirmed...you are not ready for marriage so stop making comments. So respect the thread henceforth and happy viewing.