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Question For The Men by IYADARA(f): 11:32am On Oct 05, 2015 |
Dear men, It is wrong if you help ur wife with house chores? ? Do u feel comfortable watching ur wife do all d works at home and all u could do is to ask for sex and food after? Can't u help ur wife who works as well to cater for the family...? You both leave in d morning, you even most time get home before her, will it reduce ur ego if u at least try to fix the meal or something else before she comes back? How do u feel when she comes back very tired and goes straight into d kitchen, sweeps, do d dishes, bath ur baby, nursed her to sleep, sometimes washes clothes while trying to fix ur meal and all you could do is to play games or read dead stories, waiting for ur food to be served while she riots.. Little wonder female tend to die faster than dear husband... Men, I need ur honest contribution, to know if am over reacting 1 Like |
Re: Question For The Men by donTbone(m): 11:34am On Oct 05, 2015 |
No biggie in helping with chores now. Both the last I will help her do is do her Laundry! Little wonder female tend to die faster than dear husband... But wait o... I totally disagree wiv the above Men die before women....go find out! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Question For The Men by lilmax(m): 11:54am On Oct 05, 2015 |
IYADARA:what is this one saying? And yes you are overreacting 2 Likes |
Re: Question For The Men by lilmax(m): 11:57am On Oct 05, 2015 |
The circumstances surrounding the op post is alarming, it seems she's fed up doing the chores, all you have to do is ask |
Re: Question For The Men by pickabeau1: 1:31pm On Oct 05, 2015 |
IYADARA: Generally it's the other way round You have more widows than widowers 3 Likes |
Re: Question For The Men by crackhaus: 5:03pm On Oct 05, 2015 |
IYADARA:To be honest, your husband is in the best position to answer these tough questions... 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Question For The Men by raumdeuter: 6:07pm On Oct 05, 2015 |
Where are men living longer than women? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Question For The Men by Haywhymido(m): 6:14pm On Oct 05, 2015 |
U shd ask ur husband nt me. Abi na me u marry Fu*king overreacting |
Re: Question For The Men by Nobody: 7:22pm On Oct 05, 2015 |
crackhaus: Seconded. 1 Like |
Re: Question For The Men by Chubhie: 7:25pm On Oct 05, 2015 |
Iyadara pele. Babadara must be giving you some not so good experiences. Regardless, you own it as a point of duty to teach and make dara a more balanced individual who can empathise. You can use Dara to teach babadara subconsciously cos if babadara knew any better he would act better. No body is born perfect. We are all learning everyday. Please make sure you don't release another babadara in the form of Dara to the society. The change now begins with you. Pele. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Question For The Men by bellong: 10:06pm On Oct 05, 2015 |
@Iyadara, Why did you marry him to later come here and rant? 1 Like |
Re: Question For The Men by nikenry(f): 5:24am On Oct 06, 2015 |
Firstly, I think it is insensitive of any man to allow his wife to be practically wrecked out, and still do nothing. Why is d love you said you have? If she were to be your blood sister, will you allow her to undergo this? Not all men are like this. I think it start from their backgrounds, I mean how they are raised. Any man that feel so big should make the job easier by buying washing machine or hiring housemaid. 2 Likes |
Re: Question For The Men by 5minsmadness: 5:38am On Oct 06, 2015 |
IYADARA: |
Re: Question For The Men by Youngpo413: 5:50am On Oct 06, 2015 |
nikenry:yeah "housemaid" a cute and curvy housemaids are the bomb. |
Re: Question For The Men by Nobody: 1:51pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
lilmax: why should a woman ask before a man can help out when he's not blind? 6 Likes |
Re: Question For The Men by candycrushsoda: 2:10pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
OP, u forgot to include the husband also expecting wifey to be an 'acrobat' in bed when the need arises. 2 Likes |
Re: Question For The Men by lilmax(m): 2:38pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
Mrs0J:what if he's blind? |
Re: Question For The Men by LewsTherin: 2:39pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
Mrs0J: It doesn't hurt to ask. I don't know about the OP's particular situation, but men are wired differently and many a time, we don't see these things. Myself as an example. I help out in the kitchen regularly. I mean I make a good number of our meals. I got us a washing mashine so that takes care of the laundry - which I also help out as the case may be. We have a lady come in once a week to do a thorough cleaning and since it's just me, my Lady and the Princess, we don't make much of a mess and if we do, I don't just sit and watch her clean house. I'm trying to say I'm a hands-on husband and father. But for some reason, my Lady is always doing something. I don't know what she does. I don't see what she does. But she's always busy. Many times I've had to tell her to sit the sod down and rest her feet. But every now and then, she's busy. A woman may understand but I don't. Only when she says "help me get bla bla bla", or "help me do so and such" do I get an idea of what she's doing and help her do it. My point is this. Depending on a man's upbringing and personality, he may not see what is ticking his woman off. All she has to do is ask. If that doesn't work, then we have a different issue on hand. 6 Likes |
Re: Question For The Men by socrateez(m): 4:59pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
Most times it is the man's upbringing that comes to play in the home. We had a discussion on this issue with some couples recently and I asked if they are teaching their boys how to support in doing house chores in their respective homes. The answer is no. So I said their daughters in law will face the problem they are presently facing. The truth is that a guy who did not grow up doing house chores will find it difficult to enter into the kitchen and soil his hands when married. This should have been detected during courtship so that a lady knows what to expect after marriage. If you date a guy who does not have cooking pot but relies on eateries for dinner, you shouldn't expect him to join you in the kitchen after marriage. If your man does not know how to support you with house chores what do you do? Ask. Don't assume he should know what to do. Make a gentle request that he helps hold the baby while you're in the kitchen. Be bold and courteous. he will begin to learn. 3 Likes |
Re: Question For The Men by jmoore(m): 5:10pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
Are we the one that married you? Ask your husband for the answer na. |
Re: Question For The Men by bukatyne(f): 5:19pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
LewsTherin: Very funny especially @ bolded I can relate. There is always something to do... have you considered cleaning the fridge? Freezer? Re-arranging the room or kitchen? Washing the plate racks? Sieving the Amala etc.? Picking the beans emasse? Washing the bathroom? Washing the curtains? Cleaning the TV stand and electronics? Point is invisible chores even tend to be more than visible chores LewsTherin: True 2 Likes |
Re: Question For The Men by Nobody: 5:25pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
lilmax: Then it's excusable, not when he's not and yet doesn't help out without been asked. 3 Likes |
Re: Question For The Men by bukatyne(f): 5:25pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
socrateez: @Bold: I am amused when I see women who complain about unhelping husbands still train their sons NOT to help in chores. Then why the heck are they complaining about their husbands? @IYADARA: Go with the suggestions of you asking your husband, he might not know Again, I will have to ask: How do you run you home? I know you are working but do you contribute to the finances or it is a case of he handling finance while you handle the home front? If yes, biko get to work or get a maid from your pocket 2 Likes |
Re: Question For The Men by bukatyne(f): 5:26pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
Mrs0J: |
Re: Question For The Men by LewsTherin: 5:26pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
bukatyne: Sieving the amala? SIEVING THE WHAAAT? Dem dey sieve amala? Wow!!! They say you learn everyday. I'm not sure I've learnt this one yet oh! Still too stunned!! |
Re: Question For The Men by Nobody: 5:27pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
LewsTherin:Thank God you help out, not everyone like to ask(eg. myself). 2 Likes |
Re: Question For The Men by LewsTherin: 5:28pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
bukatyne: Word! |
Re: Question For The Men by Nobody: 5:29pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
bukatyne: No be laughing matter oo, d tin dey pain cos hubby is exactly what the OP described. |
Re: Question For The Men by bukatyne(f): 5:30pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
LewsTherin: LOLS! Work Plenty Aluta Continua I am sure there are some stuffs you do she doesn't know about too |
Re: Question For The Men by LewsTherin: 5:32pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
socrateez: Very true. In a bid to show how many yards of wife material that they are, many females will not let their boyfriends lift a finger to help with chores. Then when they get married they expect the guy to know that it is his duty to help with chores and hurt when he doesn't 1 Like |
Re: Question For The Men by bukatyne(f): 5:32pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
Mrs0J: Permit me to laugh again... It is personal to you Do what 5mins suggested. Again, was he always like this? My question to IYADARA also stands... |
Re: Question For The Men by bukatyne(f): 5:35pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
LewsTherin: Are you a mind reader? I was with a couple some months to their marriage.... The hubby to be was saying he did not want a career wife o; he also complained a lady did not kneel fully to greet in school campus o! If I hear say the wife complains when he tells her to kneel fully to greet him or tells her to resign when she is growing in her career. Most times, people see what they want to see. 1 Like |
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