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Total Abstinence... Major Risk Or Not? by Nobody: 8:00pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
I don't know if a thread's been created on this before now..I never came across any,but I've been wondering,is abstinence really ultimate? I'm very conversant with all d benefits that come with abstinence, but there's one very big clause... What if after abstaining so long nd waiting 4 the wedding night to consummate marriage,u discover that ur partner's hopeless in bed? Would the other partner be able to put up with it? Or is sex in marriage not so much of a basic need?...I need opinions,pls..bcoz in my thinking there's no way to guarantee that sex in marriage will be fulfilling having never had d experience with that particular partner prior marriage.... So if I'm right,don't u think total abstinence is a risk? N.B: Nobody should judge me based on this..I simply want to know other ppl's say on this issue. #Philosopher Quëën# |
Re: Total Abstinence... Major Risk Or Not? by dharay99: 8:02pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
To†al abstinence? like no† even touchinq, romancinq & all sor†s? Hmm, if dah†s i† den Hell No.! No† in suppor† of dah†, even if we ain† qonna banq, we do sumfin close ²i†, †ru dah†, @† leas† i shuld b able ²know wa† is wa†. |
Re: Total Abstinence... Major Risk Or Not? by vizkiz: 8:07pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
so I should abstain totally till all my semen turns to giant frogs abi? Lol, well I can't "abstain" cuz I will have to know how "capable" my EVERLASTING partner to be is sexually. But if she is a virgin(tested and trusted) and insisting for a ring on it before anything happens. Then why wouldn't I give it a shot? . (That is if she's worth the effort oh! ) 1 Like |
Re: Total Abstinence... Major Risk Or Not? by libertyfather(m): 8:13pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
Ur right, it's the greatest risk |
Re: Total Abstinence... Major Risk Or Not? by Nobody: 8:13pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
just for the records, it's philosopher not philosoher. |
Re: Total Abstinence... Major Risk Or Not? by Nobody: 8:15pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
libertyfather:Hmmm.. |
Re: Total Abstinence... Major Risk Or Not? by Nobody: 8:16pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
vizkiz: Lol@fluids turning to giant frog..But that's a myth. |
Re: Total Abstinence... Major Risk Or Not? by Shebarh(f): 8:21pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
Don't know wah to say.. but sometimes total abstinence is not the right option cos this person ya talking bout is going to be ya life partner and you will v to know his/her worth on bed... You can do total abstinence when you know the person ya dating is not the serious type |
Re: Total Abstinence... Major Risk Or Not? by ronald4lif(m): 8:30pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
Too risky a route to take and I'd strongly kick against the arrangement of getting married without ascertaining the sexual compatibility of intending couples. Marriage is meant to be a lifetime union right? So why would someone want to exchange marital vows with someone they're clueless about their sexuality and proficiency. What if it turns he/she is gay and doesn't feel any attraction towards heterosexual sex? Gays don't have it written on their forehead. How about he/she is a sex maniac and can't be contented even when their partner gives in their best? This could be a recipe for cheating. And how about if they're easily exhausted while the other person is even yet to feel contented? Sex is a very vital component of a marriage and can lead to it success or failure of the union in some cases. I understand religious doctrines frowns against this but when sexual frustration sets in it would be inconsolable and regretful. Such problematic situation should be prevented. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Total Abstinence... Major Risk Or Not? by funlord(m): 8:31pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
Another Nonsensical sanctimonious thread! You should have taken this question to the "religion section" motherfucker! |
Re: Total Abstinence... Major Risk Or Not? by redgem(f): 8:32pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
ronald4lif: Hahaha hahaha.... Sometimes I love your reasoning 2 Likes |
Re: Total Abstinence... Major Risk Or Not? by ronald4lif(m): 8:34pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
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Re: Total Abstinence... Major Risk Or Not? by henribj(m): 8:37pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
total abstinence is being preached by the bible, and as is the case with the bible, it is never wrong. look at it this way, if everyone abstained from sex till marriage, do you think anyone would know that different men perform differently in bed? if there was abstinence from sex, no woman would ever expect so much in bed from her partner because whatever she gets sexually from her partner, she would believe it is the same other women are also getting from their partners, so therefore their won't be a need to compare one's sexual life with that of other people. unfortunately since majority of people do not practice abstinence, women have come to learn and expect certain things sexually from their partner. 22 Likes |
Re: Total Abstinence... Major Risk Or Not? by Nobody: 8:37pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
ronald4lif:You didn't know? |
Re: Total Abstinence... Major Risk Or Not? by redgem(f): 8:39pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
ronald4lif: Lol...... Maybe yes |
Re: Total Abstinence... Major Risk Or Not? by Hannysmilez(f): 8:39pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
Hmmm. Dunno wat to say,i'm torn between religion and common sense. 1 Like |
Re: Total Abstinence... Major Risk Or Not? by juizzyemmanuel(f): 8:39pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
Oliviaarims:then you don't love her |
Re: Total Abstinence... Major Risk Or Not? by ronald4lif(m): 8:41pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
Re: Total Abstinence... Major Risk Or Not? by ronald4lif(m): 8:46pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
Hannysmilez: Well, the moment one employs common sense and critical thinking they'd declass religion. There's no logic in religion. One then wonders what would become of mankind if we jettison rationality for mythology. Hmmm 1 Like |
Re: Total Abstinence... Major Risk Or Not? by Nobody: 9:00pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
juizzyemmanuel:How does that answer d question? 1 Like |
Re: Total Abstinence... Major Risk Or Not? by Nobody: 9:02pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
Hmmmm let me sit back and read from others. Kachisbarbie safarigirl MizMyColi HFOG BreezyRita Specialist900 kaboninc LordReed dearpreye |
Re: Total Abstinence... Major Risk Or Not? by Nobody: 9:05pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
PrimeMinisterr:Lol...u,again!... Twas a mistake...fanks 4 pointing it out. |
Re: Total Abstinence... Major Risk Or Not? by Nobody: 9:07pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
Shebarh:Sometimes it's not...but how dyu know when it's not? |
Re: Total Abstinence... Major Risk Or Not? by Nobody: 9:10pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
ronald4lif:For most ppl,religious doctrines is why they abstain...I keep wondering what they get to find out in marriage. 1 Like |
Re: Total Abstinence... Major Risk Or Not? by Nobody: 9:13pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
funlord:Go check d meaning of "sanctimonious"and come back to rant...The post's asking a question not an assertion....clueless fellow! 4 Likes |
Re: Total Abstinence... Major Risk Or Not? by Nobody: 9:15pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
henribj: Satisfaction isn't relative or dependent on what more yhu can get. Once u're satisfied,then u're satisfied! 2 Likes |
Re: Total Abstinence... Major Risk Or Not? by Nobody: 9:20pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
Oliviaarims:. . . . lol , so you still remember the previous episode ? |
Re: Total Abstinence... Major Risk Or Not? by ronald4lif(m): 9:21pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
Oliviaarims: When the outcome is negative and unfavourable the malcontent fellow gets regretful, frustrated and unhappy and they're stock with the quandary infinitely. I'm guessing if the wife is the one with a problem the hubby got a free pass to cheat whilst if it's the hubby then the wifey would have to live with her misery and advised to put him in prayers. 4 Likes |
Re: Total Abstinence... Major Risk Or Not? by funlord(m): 9:30pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
Oliviaarims: You must also be a dumb slag to think that I give a toss about your inconsequential and useless query! |
Re: Total Abstinence... Major Risk Or Not? by safarigirl(f): 9:40pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
Oliviaarims:how can your partner be hopeless in bed when the pornography industry is still thriving? 1 Like |
Re: Total Abstinence... Major Risk Or Not? by henribj(m): 10:06pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
Oliviaarims: true, but different people reach satisfaction faster/quicker than others, and some people... well they are plain "Oliver Twist". besides, people expect more when they are aware that they might/can possibly get more, and the more you expect the more difficult it takes to get satisfied. |
Re: Total Abstinence... Major Risk Or Not? by henribj(m): 10:07pm On Oct 06, 2015 |
safarigirl: pornography only shows you a few of the skills that can be performed sexually, it does not in any way add to a man's stability in bed or staying power in bed. besides, too much pornography is not good, it creates a lot of tension and expectations which might not be satisfied most times. |
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