Pain is inevitable, a heartbreak being the worst kind
of pain there is.With every heart break, it does feel
like we’ve lost a part of ourselves.Sooner or later,
after we’ve used up our free heart break quota, we
wake up one day to realize that we no longer
recognize the person we’ve become.We reach a stage
in life where we build a wall around ourselves. A wall
too strong to break; too high to climb. It seems safer
to be within those walls,to feel nothing at all.


What once used to be what you craved, now seems to
be what you absolutely detest.You were once a girl
surrounded by the people who adored you, and now,
the slightest sign of love seems to irk you.You begin
to slowly associate love with pain, and all you wish to
do is run away from it, as far as you can.


Believe me, the initial phase is blissful. You manage to
convince yourself that you are protecting yourself
from feeling any pain. The walls you put up, the
constant need of establishing boundaries, your
unquenchable thirst to be alone, just by yourself, yup,
it all seems like you’ve finally cracked the code to
living a happy life. When you give pain no room, you
will never lose complete control of your life, you
argue with yourself.


What you don’t realize is that tiny bit of emptiness
seeping into your life. You forget that we were born to
feel something. Anything. Every tiny feeling. Funny
thing about our emotions – You cut off one; you won’t
be able to feel any of the others. You try cutting off
pain, and happiness will evade you too. They’re all
interlinked.
The bubble you create by doing all you can to evade
pain, refuses to be filled with any other emotion. That
very bubble grows bigger over time and it envelopes
you completely. We call that phase, the depression
phase.


Before you know it, you’re stuck all alone, trying to
figure WHY you can’t seem to get your life back into
control. I mean, come on, it’s been months since he
left, and you’re still stuck in the same place as you
were when you had your heart broken! Ridiculous!
Putting up walls may seem like an easy solution, but
it’s gonna get you deeper into the mess. Learn to let it
all go. Heal.


Learn to forgive yourself. Don’t be too harsh on
yourself. Yeah, you misjudged someone, but it’s okay.
It happens. It’s part of life. Now you’re one step ahead
in trying to figure the next person out.

Associate pain with the person. Not with love. It’s just
like how you’d associate sourness with lemons, not
the entire fruit fraternity.

Allow yourself to be loved, not just by you, but also by
the people who deserve to have you in their life.

You’re allowed to be cautious. But don’t overdo it. It
becomes repulsive.


I know you’re afraid to fall in love right now, but
believe me, when you finally meet the one for you,
he’s not gonna break your heart. All of your previous
heart breaks begin to make sense, because each and
every one of it has slowly, very carefully, lead you to
him.


It may just seem impossible to pull yourself together
right now. It may seem to be too much of work trying
to find your lost faith. But you have to.


Because getting over all of your heart breaks, all the
pain you went through, those sleepless nights crying
into your pillow, the constant frustration you carried
around for months, learning all the lessons each heart
break taught you, making the effort to believe in love,
in yourself once again, will be worth it in the end..

written by: Zadok El nino Amos
cc: lalasticlala

Is it only girls that get thier hearts broken

deadZONE:

who seal your mouth??

you jst knw how to write!wow

Flashh:
This has nothing to do with one gender, both parties are facing it.

It shouldn't be as if men are heartbreakers, women are worse.

I know both parties get hurts,but I always believe a man would always move on,but ladies find it difficult to..

KiidaACE:
Is it only girls that get thier hearts broken

no both parties bro..

Prinzecharlez:
you jst knw how to write!wow

thanks broda..

zadok60:

I know both parties get hurts,but I always believe a man would always move on,but ladies find it difficult to..

Atimes men find it difficult to move on too

zadok60:
no both parties bro..

the topic says different.

You bring me up and live me fall to pieces.
I wish every girl should stay single, no (date) of any form.
Either she dates you and you broke her heart or that she instigate the break up.
Such posts has been hovering in this romance section how a girl do this and that.

I found out that the rate at wish Guy's cheat dis days are minimal cus some guy wishes true love but at the end they were screw up.
Girl if at all some one have broken yaa heart before no forgive the person intact remain single till some one pays for yaa bride price.
(magic it happens)

I wish all girls single till they learn how to be faithful Amen.


#Broken heartbeat #keepin my distance away from them.

gab264:
You bring me up and live me fall to pieces.
I wish every girl should stay single, no (date) of any form.
Either she dates you and you broke her heart or that she instigate the break up.
Such has been hovering in this romance how a girl do this and that.
I found out that the rate at wish Guy's cheat dis days are minimal cus some guy wishes true love but at the end they were screw up.
Girl if at all some one have broken yaa heart before no forgive the person intact remain single till some one pays for yaa bride price.
(magic it happens)
I wish all girls single till they learn how to be faithful Amen.


#Broken heartbeat #keepin my distance away from them.

hey c'mon bro,I hope the topic now suits you best..
kiidaACE,Malele flashh I just changed it now!

zadok60:

who seal your mouth??

love is over rated...
lets talk money, cars, weed and pussy..... leave that love sh!t for the weak.

deadZONE:
love is over rated...
lets talk money, cars, weed and pussy..... leave that love sh!t for the weak.

lmao...what da f*ck are you also doing here,you be yello?..

mehn this guy is too much I must confess.@op I have been following most of your threads and its been useful some ways.
I Know somebody's life would be touched with these words of yours after reading this..

deadZONE:
love is over rated...
lets talk money, cars, weed and pussy..... leave that love sh!t for the weak.

then when Its time to settle down,you settle with What?...

Onukube1:
mehn this guy is too much I must confess.@op I have been following most of your threads and its been useful some ways.
I Know somebody's life would be touched with these words of yours after reading this..

thanks boss!

zadok60:

then when Its time to settle down,you settle with What?...

you settle down with billions, expensive cars, live in a mansion with a pool....
you would see the number of girls lined outside you gate begging to mother your kids...
my guy love is for the weak and poor... loyalty, trust, are bigger words than love...
there is a thin line between love and hate... we cheat on love ones, we kill love ones, we lie to them... we betray them, seek for trust and loyaty not love... and the only way u can have peoples trust and loyalty is when you have money.... so my guy you see money comes after God..... love is for the weak hearts...