gab264:
Op it took me 2 hours

Jboyossai:
You can't bro, that shiit is natural if u have it

Godswillnwaoma:
I know my dear but at least someone can reduce it .

EroticAngelina:
You don't have to change who u are for a girl. keep on being nice, and a girl will appreciate that in future

EroticAngelina:
You don't have to change who u are for a girl. keep on being nice, and a girl will appreciate that in future

EroticAngelina:
You don't have to change who u are for a girl. keep on being nice, and a girl will appreciate that in future

Godswillnwaoma:
It seems to me that I,m a nice guy especially to ladies, th because of my family background a well dedicated Christian family. It often happens when I.m asking a girl out, at this time my nice guy character will just automatically start to show up. For instance there is this girl I was trying to woo for the past few months, though she was a jambite and she put my school as first choice. As a nice guy wey I be I provides her with all the information she needs from what to read for the exam to and exam date etc. I also encourages and motivated her during those times she was preparing for the exam. As God did it she was admitted on first list. I congratulate her. So yesterday I remind her of my intention of dating her still this girl say NO. As often time when I read some topics here on romance section I saw many posts that says girls don't date nice guys that they love bad guy and nice guys finish last.so that reminds of me of my ex gf who broke up wit me with no tangible reason which I thought could be that I was too nice to her. So my friends I.m no saying that I want to be bad guy just because of girls. no no no far from it.I will continue to be a nice guy to my fellow guys. But as for girls I want to know how I will stop being nice to them. Your comments and contributions will highly be appreciated. Moderator pls help me push this to the front page cus I need advice form nairalanders

uche92:

Bruh I was once in your shoes. I had low self confidence tried my best but women always tried to friendzone me because I was always so nice and then I realized that a lot of women can smell the weakness from a mile away. I don't know of any women that want to be with a 'yes man' and so I hit the gym started taking care of myself sports, stuff I was interested in and gradually built my confidence. Never ever help someone because you want to gain something from them help them only when you have the ability to and out of your free will and women won't take your for a 'nice guy'

menix:
OP the truth is that when u re of good heart, believe me u can't change it..nooo i.m nice to everyone one .

Most time I pray nd ask God to take away that heart from me nd replace with a stone heart buh he has not answered that..

I just hope ur good heart ain't just towards the female cous if thatz ur problem, u re a Notorious Woman wrapper..

menix:
OP the truth is that when u re of good heart, believe me u can't change it..

Most time I pray nd ask God to take away that heart from me nd replace with a stone heart buh he has not answered that..

I just hope ur good heart ain't just towards the female cous if thatz ur problem, u re a Notorious Woman wrapper..

ronald4lif:
Work on your confidence around women first. When you're overtly nice to them they consider you weak and unattractive not impressive.

When your confidence is soaring there will be a turn-around to your relationship experience. How to go about improving on your confidence I can't say precisely. You stated you're a student let me highlight some campus life character you might be exhibiting and which is unhelpful when making advances to ladies. Let's say you're wooing a certain girl or have intentions to woo her.

She keeps telling you to secure a seat for her during lectures because she comes late and you always do exactly like she said. Impressive right? No. When she plead with you to secure her a sit and after obliging once and maybe twice you have to reject and stop doing it and tell her straight up you can't as you're not her handbag or guardian to run errands for her. Another could be that when she plead you buy her refreshments in the canteen, do it once or twice and stop it forthwith. These are just two scenarios but I'm sure you can get the bigger picture.

What happens when you always carve into her request is that she doesn't only see you as a weakling, pushover but gutless and indiscipline. While women appreciate nice gesture they don't want a man who's not bold and firm. One of the major attribute women finds attractive in men is their boldness and their gut. These are characteristics that exude manliness, the ability to be firm and take decisions. No woman like a yes yes man. It's a turn off.

When a pretty lady besiege 10guys with request for instance, chances are that at least 7/8 would do her bidding while the remaining two would decline. They're used to having guys dance into their tune so they find it uninteresting and unimpressive but are intrigue when a guy decline their request which is uncommon. And it would piqued their inner mind to get know this courageous guy. For you to be taken serious, stand out of the crowd and distinguish yourself from the bandwagon.

iAmCharis:
The last time I checked, originality still sells more than garri.

But you should know when to say no to her requests sometimes and reduce how you show some unsolicited care.

Godswillnwaoma:
abi

viickerz:
Let me tell u something, dont be nice at all at all, if she calls you, dont pick it up all the time, be funny, in a firm way,.. Stop calling her, if at all you want to call her, make it once in 3 days and when you do, dont tell her about your relationship!

Make her laugh, effortlessly, dont even tell her you love her, dont ask her out again..

Just be funny, and cool.. Let her know that you are the man, not a p.u...ssy (sorry to say)

do this for a month and see her running after you

dont grant her requests again, be a jerk, in a funny way, just be funny

im not a pro at all this stuff but thats what i did to a girl that did it to me, today, that girl chases me, and im not that cute

DONT COMPLIMENT HER, DONT SAY HER PICTURE IS FINE, DONT LIKE HER PICTURE ON FACEBOOK,
be different

Godswillnwaoma:
I know my dear but at least someone can reduce it .