I don't just know who installed this mentality that a guy has to love the girl more than she loves him in a relationship. it's really making love so hectic and suffocating for guys.

Just yesterday i was at a friend's house discussing, and he started telling me of his past relationship and why he broke up after 3 years of dating this girl.

He started preparing for the girl's birthday a month before it came, Designed her photos, videos and other great lovely gifts in his way of celebrating her.

But when it was his birthday, Na facebook notification remind de girl.


E dey fair?

Aside that, She's would not really reciprocate his affection, gifts, and she hardly feels remorseful for doing what's wrong, leaving the capacity to make everything work to the guy.

After some time, He was emotional stressed, mentally too, Couldn't take any longer cos she was also proud of her wrongs, and now making it look as if the guy can't leave her, So he had to opt out.

These things happens daily, I've had my Share of it in the past.


If there's anything an average Nigerian girl fears, its a 50:50 relationship. I can remember a girl ran away from me cos I said I do 50:50, she said its not possible.


Guys, Show a woman love, if she doesn't reciprocate, My brother leave her no matter how much she claims to love you.


You use a girl's photo for DP, then you beg her to use yours? Mehn what kind of manipulation is that?

You call her sweet names, but you beg her to call you at least 'Dear'


When you're wrong, you apologise, when she's wrong, she takes more offence then manipulates you to feel guilty of her sins, so you're pushed to apologise when she's wrong, That's imprisonment!!!


The funny thing about it, is that you'll keep doing these things, being the fool, cos you read somewhere that to make your relationship work, you must let go of your ego and value the relationship.


Relationships that worth sacrifice, are relationships where our significant other values us and love us correspondingly.


My brother, love is like an investment, If you're putting in Your effort, and there's no tangible response from the other end, it is a bad investment, my brother change business.


It is better not to know a person than to know them and feel like you don't exist. If you're not treated special in your relationship, then you're not regarded as being valuable. Simply put, Your worth is not known.

And truly you can't be properly loved when your worth is unknown.

When your purpose is unknown, you can't be properly managed, And mismanagement brings about abuse.

Don't jump fence for someone who can't cross gutter for you..

If she's wrong and refuses to apologise, my brother take offence and walk away..

What's the essence of loving a person without feeling when you've wronged them?

Some people are in a relationship but still there's no division of labor, and when there's no division of labour, The load becomes much on the person.
The load of calling them sweet names, showing affection, spending money, and etc, if its not divided, it'll crush you down.

Run for your life bro.

The greatest level of mental and emotional abuse is being in a relationship, giving out the best of you, and receiving little of none of them..

Don't ever place value on an abusive relationship.
When it comes to issues like this, Value your ego first.

When you see girls who say a guy must love a Lady more, run from them, They'll kill you. The more you show them love, the less you'll get it from them..

Let me just add, When two people are really in love, they'll be no such thing as who's to love more. Cos love knows no quantity, When you truly love, you can't limit it, You just love.

After reading this, I'll like to hear testimonies jare. Its not easy being imprisoned for years, some of you up to 5years, some up to 3years. Be free in Jesus name.


Amen.

Solomon Franklin Buchi Bartholomew

Kilode na textbook you wan write

misspicy:
Kilode na textbook you wan write

lol

Although this is applicable to both gender but it's more common with women, some hardly feel remorse when they're wrong but would rather manipulate the guy and make him feel remorseful. No guy should allow themselves manipulated and apologise for doing nothing wrong. You only make yourself look foolish and gives her the freedom to play you more. If anyone offends you and don't want to apologise, screw them and move on.

Naira girls Don deal with this op well well

This write up is likely to cause break ups.

After reading

stupidity:
This write up is likely to cause break ups.


After reading

Or knock sense into some people


After reading

Op sounds like his heart jst got broken..jst take heart broda..all is well

lol salient points u gat there

MrTeymee:
lol salient points u gat there

if only they will listen

lalasticlala , ishilove help spread the word na

Ideally, in relationships, one ought not to keep accounts of inflows and outflows etc, it isn't a balance sheet or a financial statement of any kind.

Love and relationships are not mathematical nor are they business; as the lingo in the article would suggest.

Ideally, 50-50, but it is nearly impossible. There are so many facets to relationships, that you cannot truly be 50-50 in all of those facets. Why? because you cannot be good in everything.

Instead, each person ought to find his/her strengths and focus on it, and then work to improve your weaknesses.

It's more like trade-offs, discounts and rebates really if you are going to stick with business terms.

Example:

If my (future) husband is a little more outgoing in terms of romantic gestures of flowers, gifts, well perhaps with my personality I am a little more conservative; then it's more like 70-30% in that facet of our relationship.

However, he does not like cooking or doing laundry, but I do. So, I will gladly cook and make sure his tummy is full, and he has clean clothes. In this case, it's more like 70-30% in this facet of our relationship. It could also be 90-10%, but as the list goes on, I'm sure it all balances out somehow. And, even if it doesn't, that's the sacrifice you make.

Additionally, a man may like the idea that he is the sole (or majority) of bread winner (99-1%), but the wife who may be a homemaker and mother takes care of the home and the children for the most part (99-1%). In some ways, it satisfies the condition of 50-50 even if in reality it may be 60-40% give and take certain percentage.

See what I mean?

Be that as it may, the point of this article is well taken though. It is to each couple to work out how they divvy up their relationships, and what they are comfortable with.

Xiadnat:
Ideally, in relationships, one ought not to keep accounts of inflows and outflows etc, it isn't a balance sheet or a financial statement of any kind.

Love and relationships are not mathematical nor are they business; as the lingo in the article would suggest.

Ideally, 50-50, but it is nearly impossible. There are so many facets to relationships, that you cannot truly be 50-50 in all of those facets. Why? because you cannot be good in everything.

Instead, each person ought to find his/her strengths and focus on it, and then work to improve your weaknesses.

It's more like trade-offs, discounts and rebates really if you are going to stick with business terms.

Example:

If my husband is a little more outgoing in terms of romantic gestures of flowers, gifts, well perhaps with my personality I am a little more conservative; then it's more like 70-30% in that facet of our relationship.

However, he does not like cooking or doing laundry, but I do. So, I will gladly cook and make sure his tummy is full, and he has clean clothes. In this case, it's more like 70-30% in this facet of our relationship. It could also be 90-10%, but as the list goes on, I'm sure it all balances out somehow. And, even if it doesn't, that's the sacrifice you make.

Be that as it may, the point of this article is well taken though. It is to each couple to work out how they divvy up their relationships, and what they are comfortable with.

thank you... but do we really have people who want to create the balance ?

Eye opener na 2 breakup wt sola 2day

cuvox:


thank you... but do we really have people who want to create the balance ?

Sure! I think when you are in a relationship with someone, you would be able to tell or feel out whether you are giving more than you are receiving. As in, you feel you give and give and all they do is take and take. Not necessarily monetary, as money doesn't define all.

But, do you feel you have unmet emotional, physical, spiritual and mental needs?

Most importantly, do you communicate these across to your parnter and you still feel like you are getting the short end of the stick?

You cannot change people and their personality, so, if you constantly feel you have unmet needs and are unfulfilled, then cut your loses and move one because you clearly are not comfortable with your partner's assets and liabilities.

It's the essence of compatibility.

nicerod:
Eye opener na 2 breakup wt sola 2day

lol. abeg o.

BTW, make una tell the mods to help spread the gospel na

Fantazia where are you?

God bless the OP.All he said is nothing but the truth. Even ladies can't tolerate it if the reverse is to be the case.Once again,OP may God bless you. You will live long. You are a true son of your father.

Ladies will not be happy. Eyes of many men are about to open.Many men are about to be delivered. Can't you see how MISSPUSSY said the op is writing a textbook. She wanted to divert thread.

cuvox:


lol. abeg o.

BTW, make una tell the mods to help spread the gospel na

na only dey call,buy card.pay tfare,fixed etc it is finishd btwn us

nicerod:
na only dey call,buy card.pay tfare,fixed etc it is finishd btwn us

talk to her about it

datz ma problem wit relationships of dis days....wen d guy is wrong h'll apologise & wen shez wrong h'll still apologise & dis acts kip me depressed 4 weeks & datz y d GAY faction is succeeding inwhich I'm finking of officially switching by January 1st 2016

Preach on Pastor
El..shsuh_sakra_inshi
Pvssy-assa_niggas Reciieve

NemzySeries:
datz ma problem wit relationships of dis days....wen d guy is wrong h'll apologise & wen shez wrong h'll still apologise & dis acts kip me depressed 4 weeks & datz y d GAY faction is succeeding inwhich I'm finking of officially switching by January 1st 2016

seriously.. U wanna switch
Ur gonna be wearing Pampers for life
NB: Gay lovers don't nagg ... NA Murdering things

NemzySeries:
datz ma problem wit relationships of dis days....wen d guy is wrong h'll apologise & wen shez wrong h'll still apologise & dis acts kip me depressed 4 weeks & datz y d GAY faction is succeeding inwhich I'm finking of officially switching by January 1st 2016

bro abeg wait don't switch yet o...

2dice:
Preach on Pastor El..shsuh_sakra_inshi Pvssy-assa_niggas Reciieve

Yo bad man ha!

pinceprinz:

Yo bad man ha!

lol..how am i bad sir ?

2dice:
lol..how am i bad sir ?

The way you were speaking in tongues ehn? Try am for church next Sunday

pinceprinz:


The way you were speaking in tongues ehn? Try am for church next Sunday

u want make holyspirit arrest me abi..
Issorite

cuvox:
I don't just know who installed this mentality that a guy has to love the girl more than she loves him in a relationship. it's really making love so hectic and suffocating for guys.

Just yesterday i was at a friend's house discussing, and he started telling me of his past relationship and why he broke up after 3 years of dating this girl.

He started preparing for the girl's birthday a month before it came, Designed her photos, videos and other great lovely gifts in his way of celebrating her.

But when it was his birthday, Na facebook notification remind de girl.


E dey fair?

Aside that, She's would not really reciprocate his affection, gifts, and she hardly feels remorseful for doing what's wrong, leaving the capacity to make everything work to the guy.

After some time, He was emotional stressed, mentally too, Couldn't take any longer cos she was also proud of her wrongs, and now making it look as if the guy can't leave her, So he had to opt out.

These things happens daily, I've had my Share of it in the past.


If there's anything an average Nigerian girl fears, its a 50:50 relationship. I can remember a girl ran away from me cos I said I do 50:50, she said its not possible.


Guys, Show a woman love, if she doesn't reciprocate, My brother leave her no matter how much she claims to love you.


You use a girl's photo for DP, then you beg her to use yours? Mehn what kind of manipulation is that?

You call her sweet names, but you beg her to call you at least 'Dear'


When you're wrong, you apologise, when she's wrong, she takes more offence then manipulates you to feel guilty of her sins, so you're pushed to apologise when she's wrong, That's imprisonment!!!


The funny thing about it, is that you'll keep doing these things, being the fool, cos you read somewhere that to make your relationship work, you must let go of your ego and value the relationship.


Relationships that worth sacrifice, are relationships where our significant other values us and love us correspondingly.


My brother, love is like an investment, If you're putting in Your effort, and there's no tangible response from the other end, it is a bad investment, my brother change business.


It is better not to know a person than to know them and feel like you don't exist. If you're not treated special in your relationship, then you're not regarded as being valuable. Simply put, Your worth is not known.

And truly you can't be properly loved when your worth is unknown.

When your purpose is unknown, you can't be properly managed, And mismanagement brings about abuse.

Don't jump fence for someone who can't cross gutter for you..

If she's wrong and refuses to apologise, my brother take offence and walk away..

What's the essence of loving a person without feeling when you've wronged them?

Some people are in a relationship but still there's no division of labor, and when there's no division of labour, The load becomes much on the person.
The load of calling them sweet names, showing affection, spending money, and etc, if its not divided, it'll crush you down.

Run for your life bro.

The greatest level of mental and emotional abuse is being in a relationship, giving out the best of you, and receiving little of none of them..

Don't ever place value on an abusive relationship.
When it comes to issues like this, Value your ego first.

When you see girls who say a guy must love a Lady more, run from them, They'll kill you. The more you show them love, the less you'll get it from them..

Let me just add, When two people are really in love, they'll be no such thing as who's to love more. Cos love knows no quantity, When you truly love, you can't limit it, You just love.

After reading this, I'll like to hear testimonies jare. Its not easy being imprisoned for years, some of you up to 5years, some up to 3years. Be free in Jesus name.


Amen.

Solomon Franklin Buchi Bartholomew

U have sense

cuvox:

bro abeg wait don't switch yet o...

hahahahaha....i don hear

2dice:
seriously.. U wanna switch
Ur gonna be wearing Pampers for life
NB: Gay lovers don't nagg ... NA Murdering things

hahahaha....i don already submit ma CV ooo but i want dem to employe me as D Blesser & not d Blessed

NemzySeries:

hahahaha....i don already submit ma CV ooo but i want dem to employe me as D Blesser & not d Blessed

LMAO