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Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by fransixe(m): 10:51am On Oct 20, 2015 |
[quote author=Hi55 post=39119443][/quote] my dear pray for him...after which, try to talk things through with him...let him know how you feel..."this man" doesn't know what he has oh.... |
Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by Nobody: 10:53am On Oct 20, 2015 |
I feel you and totally understand where ur coming from as iam in ur shoes right now but we're newly married and don't have kids yet its just been two months but feels like we've been married for 10 years and already lost interest in eachother where it should be opposite,first he started coming home from work late and when he gets back from work he's off to the gym then after to his friends \collegues apartment and stays there late and by the time he's home he's too tired and goes to bed . I feel like he wasn't ready for marriage and lives like he's still single and the worst when its weekend he goes to a road trip with his friends and I am at home all alone for hours .I still didn't talk to him although I want to but because we just got married I want to see how long until he realizes I sometimes show him that iam upset but he turns to be the nicest most adorable person there on earth that's breathing and I can't bring it up but he doesn't understand that the loneliness is killing me ![]() |
Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by Micheydy(m): 10:57am On Oct 20, 2015 |
To me, I don't see this as a cooked story because I am facing the same thing with my wife. Its the grace of God that is still keeping me up till today and if not for that I would have gone astray, involving in adultery. I see it as very odd because it is the wife I think should be running after her husband for affection and love but mine is not so. My sister, I will advise you to hold on to God and learn how to pray if you ve not been praying before. Here you will receive a lot of advice but be careful with the one you follow. God originate your coming together, so, go back to Him and let Him see you through. |
Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by Alfreddd: 10:59am On Oct 20, 2015 |
Madam,I think it high time you reviewed your way of dress. May be you do tie wrapper on your chest every evening,hence making you look like his mama. Try and start dressing sexy,if you have opportunity to make love with him,Do it like u mean it. He might be possibly addicted to porn,and what porn does is opting your emotion life to imaginable one. While doing the aforesaid,try as much as possible to draw God attention for restoration of love and peace in your home. Thank you. Hi55: |
Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by Elhabeeb1(m): 11:10am On Oct 20, 2015 |
Your husband is turning gay, ask Cris Jenner/Kardasian for clues. |
Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by dinachi(m): 11:20am On Oct 20, 2015 |
daretodiffer:Just shut your rotten hole! We all know who is supporting murderers on this forum. |
Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by Missonas(f): 11:23am On Oct 20, 2015 |
ebakhaiyhe:Jesu! ![]() |
Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by Nobody: 11:32am On Oct 20, 2015 |
dinachi: Was it mummy? |
Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by dinachi(m): 11:35am On Oct 20, 2015 |
daretodiffer:Was it your daddy? |
Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by Juzzybabe(f): 11:35am On Oct 20, 2015 |
kinibigdeal: You are right,but a problem shared is half solved. In my own trying times,i talked to God but God uses Nairalanders to walk me through it. So dear,God wont come from heaven to answer her,he will use someone. OP,please be patient,dont stop being a good wife,talk to him when he is in his good mood and dont stop looking sexy in his presence. Those girls out there are working hard ![]() |
Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by Nobody: 11:44am On Oct 20, 2015 |
dinachi: I will remember you in my prayers 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by onojemma: 11:53am On Oct 20, 2015 |
Hi55: Hi HI55, I read your story and am touched by it.Its obvious when men begin to avoid there wife/wives just like the way you've narated,it clearly shows that something is definitely wrong.When a man begins to avoid his wife either quietly or glaringly something is very very wrong. I know what am talking about not from book or paper or internet experience,but from practical experience. My advice:First and foremost,pray about it,talk to God about it for direction on what to do.The God factor in any marriage is very,very key i.e important. Secondly, take him out,to either his favourite place or to any quiet place alone, you and him and truthfully talk to him,talk to each other alone,don't try to prove you are right or know it all,a lot of men don't like this habit in women,wether you are more educated than him,have more money than him etc etc,in marriage put all that aside,its possible there's something you're doing that he does not like or he has subtly told you something he does not like and you are not doing anything about it.For example,though men differ,there are some men that like their women to respect them in a particular way and the woman is not doing it the way theman wants,the man may have quietly or subtly told the woman to have a change and perhaps she has not taken the man serious and not doing anything about it.Find out yours when you talk with him alone.Many men(especially married) are highly coded,esp the matured type,they talk to you codedly,it will take you a lot of maturity and wisdom to decode. Be plain,open up with him,talk to him truthfully,even if he does not open up immediately,press on determingly,don't give up,be consistent in your talk with him respectfully and lovingly,he will open up with time.Women have this power,this innate ability to sway a man to doing things which a lot of women themselves don't even realize,tap into that power,mark my words,with RESPECT,LOVE,CONSISTENCY and wait patiently for the amazing result. I would have continued but for lack of time...remember your marriage will work if you are determined to let it. Cheers. |
Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by sabi99(m): 12:01pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
Artistree:Then something must be wrong somwer, I believe something paranormal is backing this whole things up, d woman should pray harder cos only Gods intervention can soothe the problem. |
Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by sabi99(m): 12:14pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
Artistree:u must be a good girl, I was even waiting 4 u 2 rain abusive words on me cos mine was a bit more abusive cos I called u a marriage watchnight but u didn't,instead u mellowed down to even explain things d more 4 me 2 get it right, please 4giv me, may God bless u 4 me. |
Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by smsdigito: 12:18pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
Hi55:Could you give me his email address? I will do the magic after that you will come here and share the testimony. check this site [url]courtshipandmarriage.com[/url] and you will be good to go. |
Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by Lilymax(f): 12:35pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by oketoyinboshola(m): 12:36pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
[quote author=Hi55 post=39119443]Hello nairalanders, I just wish I'll get a shoulder or two to cry on tonight. Things are becoming unbearable for me and I don't know how far I can walk on these shoes. Here's my story... I am 28 and married to a 35yr old youngman whom I love so dearly. We are blessed with 2 kids and most material things one can pray for. My marriage is 5yrs with just minor issues that do come up once in a VERY LONG while. The problem is that my hubby does not show me affection and hardly approaches me for sex. I am a very neat, beautiful, Godfearing, educated and classy lady. Most times I am the one who initiates intimacy in our marriage. My heart breaks each time I read or hear of women who deny their husbands sex because its an opposite in my case. For more than two months now we've not been intimate. To make matters worse, he prefers to sleep in the sitting room or children's room than in our matrimonial room. He always pretends to be tired but not too tired to be chatting on whatsapp with friends. I have his password, that is not an issue. I am not suspecting anything even though I'm not totally ruling out the possibility of adultery. He comes back very late in the night unlike before. Infact even when he comes early these days, he will rather stay with friends within the street or house than come inside. Believe me nairalanders, we don't have issues. Infact he keeps saying that God blessed him with a wonderful woman. It's not like I make the house uncomfortable for him. The only communication we have these days is greetings, asking how the day went or few general topics. I am not a woman who can't do without sex but I just need to be shown affection even if sex is not there. Committing adultery on my own part is IMPOSSIBLE, i will rather opt for divorce. I am so confused, lonely and heartbroken. I love my husband beyond the word LOVE. I just wish he can see the tears in my eyes as I lay lonely on our bed each night. I am very fragile by nature and gets hurt easily. Believe me...this is killing me. Please, people drop a word or two for a hurting soul. Dear sister Port straight away. |
Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by Nobody: 12:38pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
Arisha:Where are you at? You should start seeking for help before it is too late. Some men can be crazy and pretend to be 'adorable'. |
Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by dinachi(m): 12:42pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
daretodiffer:Very thoughtful of you but you know you need prayers much more than i do! |
Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by sabi99(m): 12:57pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
Artistree:u must be a good girl, I was even waiting 4 u 2 rain abusive words on me cos mine was a bit more abusive cos I called u a marriage watchnight but u didn't,instead u mellowed down to even explain things d more 4 me 2 get it right, please 4giv me, may God bless u 4 me. |
Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by Nobody: 1:01pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
all4naija: We live in small town and we're new here I tried talking to my sisters or u could say seeking help cuz we're really close to eachother and my eldest said to give him a taste of his own medication like make girl friends around the area and leave the house go out for shopping while he's at home nd be busy the whole time until he feels it . to be honest m just abt to do that but m gonna give it a time if he doesn't realize what he's putting me thru m gonna answer it with his own actions |
Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by luvprince4real(m): 1:04pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
Give me any of ur hubby's contact, bbm, watssap, fb, badoo, weechat, etc let me forward dis ur post to him, it might explain better. |
Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by IYANGBALI: 1:04pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
truckpusher,borntofuck and other vaseline members where una dey?make una come apply for the work o ![]() |
Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by Nobody: 1:08pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
Arisha:Probably, a small town in TX, I guess. This is getting serious. You need to act now and stop being a home decoration. Have you put in some sexy moves to see if he would want to act and communicate? |
Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by Nobody: 1:18pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
dinachi: You are obsessed with women. It is a problem. A big one 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by Nobody: 1:28pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
I've tried everything but even when he sees m upset by his action he doesn't ask like why just right into pampering me or coming home with flowers and gifts so I don't have a chance of sitting him down and talk ![]() |
Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by Nobody: 1:35pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
Approach him when he's not angry, and tell it to his face about how you feel. About how it's killing you because he is not showing affection to you. And if you are sorrowful, let the tears come, do not try to stop it. Most of all pray to God to guide you through. |
Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by Nobody: 1:38pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
Arisha:Why in the first place would you marry somebody that is intimidating to you? If I am correct you are of Somali origin. Start to look for women going through the same situation both online and within the community and make friends with them. This kind of man can be dangerous. You need to act now. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by 123papas(m): 1:39pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
I stopped being intimate with you when I discovered what you did with ur exboyfriend |
Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by KanwuliaJara: 1:46pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
Ertekazee: Ahem bo! Beta pikin! Jide Obi was HOT those days sha. Kai!!!!! Glad I ain't the only "old posin" on "NERA" land. ![]() |
Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by Nobody: 1:46pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
123papas:Do you judge people based on their past life or deeds? ![]() ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by zynzyn(m): 2:01pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
Ab025: Ahan! Men don't cry. It's actually a problem! Try finding out from when it started......! 1 Like |
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