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| I Don't Know How Else To Deal With This. by Gflat: 3:16pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
We broke up more than 10 months ago and since the very night we broke up, I stopped all communication with her and I even hated her so much because she cheated on me. I couldn't face the heartbreak, so I traveled out of the country for a while. Now I am back on my feet, ready to pick up the relationship touch and start afresh and the most impossible thing happened to me. I received a call from mum last week and she told me to see her when I am through at the office. On getting to my parent's house, I met my ex at home with a baby. She claimed the child to be mind, she said she realized she was pregnant after we broke up but she didn't know who is responsible for the baby between I and her newly found lover. I wasn't even ready to listen to anything, but you really need to see the most amassing resemblance between myself and the baby. There Is no way I can deny that child as mine because it Is just too much. I don't want to have anything doing with her or the child because I really felt heartbroken all over again. I have not been active since this incident and my ex is even making things worse. She is begging to get back into my life, she swore to me that she is a changed person. I am just confused right now. My parents told me to forgive and move on but they were not the one who felt the pains I felt neither are they the one who will be living with her(someone I can't easily trust again) for the rest of their life Please I'll need your help in order not to take the wrong step. |
| Re: I Don't Know How Else To Deal With This. by IndianaJay: 3:20pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
Gflat: Take her back if you still love and can forgive her. If you can't forgive and don't love her any longer, accept responsibility for the child and let the mother know you only want your child and not a relationship/marriage with her. Marriage is not beans and garri o...trust, love, compassion and understanding play the major part. 1 Like |
| Re: I Don't Know How Else To Deal With This. by vizkiz: 3:22pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
this is so heartbreaking punkyveer, please pass me that handkerchief  |
| Re: I Don't Know How Else To Deal With This. by Sharksblow(m): 3:23pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
take your child.... marry her if you can..... move on if you cant marry her.... but your child is your child.... so sorry for you sir.... it can be very painful... |
| Re: I Don't Know How Else To Deal With This. by Nobody: 3:27pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
vizkiz: Lol, here.. 1 Like
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| Re: I Don't Know How Else To Deal With This. by Gflat: 3:28pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
IndianaJay: I never stopped loving her,she really played a great impact in my life back then in the university. But I can't live with the thoughts of maybe she might still be cheating on me or someone else having sex with her. I don't want the "baby mama" thing either, it is not just my plan. I am so depressed right now |
| Re: I Don't Know How Else To Deal With This. by Gflat: 3:30pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
Sharksblow: Yes, I know the baby is my responsibility(not too sure about it though) what am I even typing? Sighs Cc lalasticlala. Please help me, I need advices 1 Like |
| Re: I Don't Know How Else To Deal With This. by pTomz(m): 3:31pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
*snifs* |
| Re: I Don't Know How Else To Deal With This. by elantraceey(f): 3:32pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
It's up to you, if you think you can forgive and accept her back then do that for the sake of the child, after conducting a DNA test of course. Life is full of taking risks, the lady you might be sure of will never cheat might just change tomorrow, I'm sure she must have learnt her lesson but if you're going to marry her, give it a long time and be quite convinced she's changed before you do. 1 Like |
| Re: I Don't Know How Else To Deal With This. by misspicy(f): 3:32pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
Gflat:Go for counselling,you need to forgive even if you can't forget,then you can achieve your aim which is no baby mama..... |
| Re: I Don't Know How Else To Deal With This. by IamLEGEND1: 3:36pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
carry ur pikin find road jor.... fūck that dumb bítch |
| Re: I Don't Know How Else To Deal With This. by StPete: 3:37pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
It’s a clear cut out part. Forgive her, marry her and accept the baby or Just let her go but play an active role in the life of the child |
| Re: I Don't Know How Else To Deal With This. by dopedealer(m): 3:39pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
# Ur woman, ur everything, ur baby, ur everything She for Don leave you tey tey if to say he no be ur baby Now u no go fit leave your baby! # Clears throath On a more serious note, the gurl and the baby belongs to you. The devil you know is better than the angel you don't know. It wuld be very difficult for her to cheat on you now! And she already swore she is a changed person kindly forgive and accept her back. I am glad you never stopped loving her. Follow ur parents advice and honour them, manage yo girls perception and let her understand the risk associated with cheating. Change her orientation and always elicite her to open up on issues of discontent.. I know thrust once broken is very hard to regain, but for the sake of ur baby just forgive her and give her anoda chance. On the other hand , put her under serious observation and monitoring in a clandestine manner. Take things slow... All the best niccu 1 Like |
| Re: I Don't Know How Else To Deal With This. by xtervaganza(m): 3:48pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
Bro, forget abiut any form of resemblance Go for a DNA test on the baby 1st It happened to my friend at poly then, a lady got preganancy and told him he's responsible. You need to see how much the baby looked like him. Alas the baby belonged to another guy in the end |
| Re: I Don't Know How Else To Deal With This. by Gflat: 3:48pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
elantraceey: You are a woman, and you know women will do anything just to achieve their wants. And she might start pretending to be a changed person while she is not. The thoughts of her even sleeping with someone while having "my baby" makes me even more mad! |
| Re: I Don't Know How Else To Deal With This. by vizkiz: 3:49pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
| Re: I Don't Know How Else To Deal With This. by Gflat: 3:51pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
misspicy: I can forgive her,but I don't think I will forget what she did. What if I start using those things against her? |
| Re: I Don't Know How Else To Deal With This. by Gflat: 3:54pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
IamLEGEND1: She said she can't leave her baby and bro, I don't want that child to be a BASTARD CHILD as nigerians will say |
| Re: I Don't Know How Else To Deal With This. by Gflat: 3:55pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
StPete: Its not that simple bro |
| Re: I Don't Know How Else To Deal With This. by Gflat: 3:57pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
dopedealer: [i]Another complicating issue now is that I have someone I am going out with. Its just some few months old and we are getting serious with it[/b] |
| Re: I Don't Know How Else To Deal With This. by Godfullsam(m): 3:58pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
Go for a DNA test! Don't jump into conclusions that u are the father of the child because she/he resembles u. The baby is just one month old and the facial appearance is still in the transition process. Don't be suprise if he/she turns out to resemble someone else at 6 months. The results of the test should do justice. If results confirm u as the biological father of the child , u may find a place in ur heart to forgive ur ex but if you are unforgiven , u can take responsibility for child up keep and move on with ur life. Mind u , there is no assurance that ur next babe won't cheat on u oh  !D devil u know is better than the angel you dont know. |
| Re: I Don't Know How Else To Deal With This. by Deefuray(f): 3:58pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
Whatever decision you make, do not abandon the child 1 Like |
| Re: I Don't Know How Else To Deal With This. by misspicy(f): 4:00pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
Gflat:Do you have it in mind to use it against her? What if it was you that cheated,have a baby outside,wunt you want your wife to forgive you and accept ur baby... If u really dnt want a baby mama syndrome you will do all you can to take her back and clear your mind,its your decision to make not hers |
| Re: I Don't Know How Else To Deal With This. by Gflat: 4:00pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
Godfullsam: xtervaganza: This is the first time I'll hear about this!  Ok, so can we have a DNA test now? I thought the baby, needs to get to a certain age |
| Re: I Don't Know How Else To Deal With This. by jmoore(m): 4:02pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
Pregnancy/Baby mama is not a prerequisite for marriage-Jmoore (2001) |
| Re: I Don't Know How Else To Deal With This. by Gflat: 4:03pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
Deefuray: What if the kid is not mine like others are suggesting? |
| Re: I Don't Know How Else To Deal With This. by Gflat: 4:05pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
misspicy: This sounds pretty good when reading, but it seems hard to do I reality |
| Re: I Don't Know How Else To Deal With This. by Gflat: 4:08pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
jmoore: Yes, that is why I always make sure I don't mess up with ladies. But bro, women are dangerous |
| Re: I Don't Know How Else To Deal With This. by awesome11(m): 4:10pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
IndianaJay: Seconded.. The oracles have spoken through him! |
| Re: I Don't Know How Else To Deal With This. by Deefuray(f): 4:12pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
Gflat:From your post, you said there is a striking resemblance. The child might be yours, but to be certain, conduct a DNA test 1 Like |
| Re: I Don't Know How Else To Deal With This. by misspicy(f): 4:13pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
Gflat:Okay...thats all i can do. Hannysmilez darling,i saw it buh i cnt access it,wat are we gonna do  |
| Re: I Don't Know How Else To Deal With This. by IamLEGEND1: 4:13pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
Gflat:bàstards or whateva........ those are just labels bruh. sure,it might not have happened the way it should have but so what.. what has happened has happened.. itz not the end of the world (and I'm saying this with the assumption that the baby actually turns out to be urs....which there is a strong chance it isn't) any reconnection with the woman is never going to turn out well save urself the stress and misery and stay away from that hoe.(no offiense just in case u still have the feels for her) + she is obviously desperate going to ur mom straight without even attempting to get in touch with u first........ datz just messed up mehn. |
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