Anyss:
I knw Manny ppl will not bliv esp guys cos of how dey s*x gals anyhow. #Team virgins kip it up#

its not guys fault,its only that ladies are very cheap nowadays....I like your signature,so many messages are hidden in those few words.

purplelips:
They've forgotten to administer your antipsychotic again. These psychiatric caregivers sef ehn. Them con put phone for your hand.

Who's in care of this patient sef? Nurse Titi!!!!

Failed attempt at humour...

purplelips:
I no talk am? Nurse Titi!!!! This patient needs your attention.

Pls stop embarassing urself... Its enof. Its a new day

obainojazz:
You not a virgin...but you following romance section, probably reading sexualty stories and having organism while doing that...you even advertised your 2go pin for guys to add you there....I simply think you just looking for attention and likes....smh....

so dude your point is, virgins shoudn't live their life, shoudn't have fun, shoudn't have male friends on 2go, shoudn't look sexy, dude you are shallow and your state of mind is old school and not reflection of a guy in 2015.

A lot of ignorant people have turned this virgin thing to mean, you have to always wear clothes that cover your entire body, you have to stay away from guys, you have to look ugly cos if you look too fine, they don't believe you are a virgin anymore, smh for how basic some people think on nairaland, and to the ladies tho i guess it's cool to be virgin even tho to me i coudn't really care less, it probably would make a good story for your kids and all that but after the wedding night and other nights, it would be forgotten cos it isn't really that big a deal, your character, sense of humor, cooking and homely skills would remain, maybe your beauty, in this present day, a man needs more than just a girl being a virgin and pls it's important you try some fun sexual things before you marry ooo, not that you stay a virgin and have a million fantasies of all the kind of sex you would have after you marry only to discover your husband doesn't really like sex or is a 2 min man and sees no big deal in sex, you would be depressed all through the marriage, some things should be understood, know your body, what pleases you and what pleases the guy too and how to please a man. thank you

ndubisik:

And I suppose you did same too?

I wish I did, but I'm not that much of a saint.

joshuamoses101:
why u dey shout m na...dnt u knw people can hear u

exactly y i dey shout so dat everybody go hear.

slyger:



That's your opinion... well never slept with her.. distance separated us and I have no regrets...its called destiny..
I repeat ``destiny``.

Keep telling yourself that while somebody else will do the right thing at your back. Please... Does it even matter anyway?

3rdlegxxx:


so dude your point is, virgins shoudn't live their life, shoudn't have fun, shoudn't have male friends on 2go, shoudn't look sexy, dude you are shallow and your state of mind is old school and not reflection of a guy in 2015.

nah...I simply meant she has not seen seen the opportunity...don't think of something else...

craziebone:


i honestly think that when you are struggling with a thing, then you probably should let it go especially when letting it go wouldn't have an impact on anything except your idea that 'virginity' is a pride.

When you say its not easy and you mention konji, then you are really struggling and that also means, your keeping it, is not because keeping it is your default setting (which i think it should be), but because you were told it is wrong to lose it. For me, that's a poor reason for keeping 'virginity'. If the bible and the christian church told you it is right to lose it, i am sure you won't keep it. That's very poor in my opinion.

How about your unending sessions of masturrbation? Are you still a virgin when you do that?

Struggling with staying a virgin, hmmm
Well that's dangerous, for guys mostly though. He might end up forcing himself on someone
he shouldn't have. It's just natural that when you suppress something with pressure for too long, someday that thing is bound to explode in a way you won't be able to control / manage it.

3rdlegxxx:


so dude your point is, virgins shoudn't live their life, shoudn't have fun, shoudn't have male friends on 2go, shoudn't look sexy, dude you are shallow and your state of mind is old school and not reflection of a guy in 2015.

nah...I simply meant she has not seen seen the opportunity...don't think of something else...some virgins do MouthAction and all that...then start quoting bible when its time for sex.... What will you call that....not judging though.
Gracias

3rdlegxxx:
A lot of ignorant people have turned this virgin thing to mean, you have to always wear clothes that cover your entire body, you have to stay away from guys, you have to look ugly cos if you look too fine, they don't believe you are a virgin anymore, smh for how basic some people think on nairaland, and to the ladies tho i guess it's cool to be virgin even tho to me i coudn't really care less, it probably would make a good story for your kids and all that but after the wedding night and other nights, it would be forgotten cos it isn't really that big a deal, your character, sense of humor, cooking and homely skills would remain, maybe your beauty, in this present day, a man needs more than just a girl being a virgin and pls it's important you try some fun sexual things before you marry ooo, not that you stay a virgin and have a million fantasies of all the kind of sex you would have after you marry only to discover your husband doesn't really like sex or is a 2 min man and sees no big deal in sex, you would be depressed all through the marriage, some things should be understood, know your body, what pleases you and what pleases the guy too and how to please a man. thank you

spot on...this is what I meant...can't even date a girl that don't dress well.

obainojazz:
nah...I simply meant she has not seen seen the opportunity...don't think of something else...

Especially considering the fact that according to her, she is struggling to stay a virgin -struggling with konji.
If she truly is one, she wouldn't be able to manage an hour of resisting if I ask her to do it with me (I mean if we meet though).

all4naija:
Keep telling yourself that while somebody else will do the right thing at your back. Please... Does it even matter anyway?

How can something like that not matter to you? Weird.

harristo:


Especially considering the fact that according to her, she is struggling to stay a virgin -struggling with konji.
If she truly is one, she wouldn't be able to manage an hour of resisting if I ask her to do it with me (I mean if we meet though).

when you see a real virgin...its good...not the ones that will self service to nairaland sexualty stories ....and still claim virgin..lol

slyger:




yeah... I buy your ideas but my point is just on the fact that others get encouraged..

Do one really need their encouragement

Not really

Generals03:



Lol Any man that cannot wait until the wedding night to taste your honey pot is not definitely not deserving of you. Your true man who loves you will surely wait.

But what im saying is that you hiding your status from him seems immature. You should be free to share with him your sexuality as long as he's your fiance. It doesnt change anything. Even if you are no more a virgin, tell him! Keeping it a secret is childish.

But you must always maintai your ground. No sex till marriage!!

Noted

iAmCharis:
Shout out to my fellow virgin brethren KingTom, ronald4lif, TrapLORD and kinglekan.

yes boss.

Successdude:
Mtcheeew... u mean if sumone told ur daughter to close her legs until marriage, u'll cal that DECEPTION ? Nawa 4 u o.

That girl is lying

Na so.

Youngpo413:
its not guys fault,its only that ladies are very cheap nowadays....I like your signature,so many messages are hidden in those few words.

Well I agree. Dats d painful truth. Thanx(winks)

My dear Mary, I don’t get it – why should you apologise for your virginity, or feel ashamed? And why should you apologise for your faith in Christ? That’s your civil right and it’s fundamental. Your faith provides you moral compass. We all need moral compass in life. Life is too wide and long. You’re young. Even old men struggle to find their way through life. Moses didn’t get it right until 80! Had a 40-year hiatus.
A moral compass gives you guidance, shows you which way not to go and leads you in the direction you should. A moral compass gives you an ambit of operation – you operate within its latitude. It keeps you in a safe perimeter. A moral compass is about safety.
Now, some choose to remain virgin till they marry, and some deem otherwise. Some are sexually active and some have decided no more sex until marriage. It all boils down to individual choice. At the end of it all, it boils down to the philosophy we subscribe to. Our choices of sexual values are predicated on our philosophical subscription. For you, your faith is your life philosophy.
That a ubiquitous army of sneering trolls chooses to inveigh on your moral stance shouldn’t bother you. Not one bit. Whose business is it whether you choose to remain a virgin or not! It’s YOUR life, it’s YOUR choice, it’s YOUR body, it’s YOUR values. It’s nobody’s business! Man is a free moral agent, a chartered liberty. We’re free to do as we deem with our lives. God recognises this right. But of course we also must respect God’s rights as sovereign Lord. We must reciprocate his gesture and goodwill.
There will always be the cynics. There will always be the scornful. Don’t ever follow their counsel. And there will be those who regard you as a prehistoric relic of a bygone era, just because you’re a virgin! But here’s something you need to learn about human nature: the motivation of the heart of man is never apparent. Who knows the REAL reason they’re making fun of you! For all you know someone may just be feeling condemned by your virginal stance; or it may just be envy. It’s the same logic at play when people make fun of the conscientious student in class. They’ll even nickname him. Yet he’s the one doing the right thing. And the exam results soon prove that fact. In other words, people’s reaction to our stance is not indicative of the rightness or wrongness of our conviction. Should the conscientious student then stop studying because people make fun of him? Of course not!
In the same way, it will be ridiculous for you to harpoon your faith to please those harassing you. Even if the whole world makes fun of you, be sure to stand by your conviction. Didn’t they mock Noah? Don’t compromise your chastity to please the world. Who made these people judge over you anyway? And so the larger issue is really conviction – your personal conviction. Don’t violate your ethical scruples by cowering to the dictates of a baying crowd. The conviction of the masses is always suspect. It always swings. Those who shout hosanna one day have been known to shout crucify him the next day.
There is something called defiance of faith in the face of ignominious scorn. You must learn to exercise that option if you want to succeed in life. They can no more make fun of you than you can make fun of them. Everyone has a right to his or her conviction. Now, here’s the irony: some of the people making fun of virgins actually want to marry virgins. They want to hit it first. And some of the people who want to marry virgins are the very ones who disvirgined others, then dumped them. These are instances of inverted logic. But remember what I told you about human nature. It’s twisted.
You’ve got to learn to hold on to your personal convictions, especially your moral perpendicularity & upbringing. If you don’t learn the resilience of personal conviction, public opinion will oppress you and determine your life. And humans have an opinion on everything, including things that are of no concern to them. And they feed off third hand information. Witness the judgments passed on social media daily. If you can’t maintain your stand on this issue, even your choice of husband will also be the subject of referendum. You will be seeking validation from wrong sources – fickle self-appointed validators who feed on prurience. You don’t need the validation of these people. Who are they? What can they do to you really? All they can do is talk, make fun of you. And then what?
There are men out there who’ll applaud and appreciate your moral stance, who see you as what mama ordered. That other guy just got frustrated because you wouldn’t sleep with him. There are those who’ll appreciate your self-discipline. Virginity requires discipline and control. And self-discipline is a wonderful virtue. There’s nothing to be ashamed of. Learn to stand by your conviction, to live by your conviction, to live by conviction. The Pauline enunciation of sex is that sex is not just a physical act: “There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin.” That sex without commitment and intimacy makes us lonelier than ever. And marriage is the institutional platform of commitment and intimacy. That’s the philosophy of your faith. Sex is the physical articulation of the principle of oneness.
Now, if others are not ashamed of their disvirginity, why should you be ashamed of your virginity? And if your virginity gives you good conscience before God, by all means keep it till you marry. After all, it is Him with whom we all have to do at the very end.
I’ll touch on the other issues you raised in my next correspondence. Enjoy your singleness.
Your mentor, LA
© Leke Alder | talk2me@lekealder.com

Pls do virgin Gals also experience konji? If Yes how beans go ttake hungry person Wey Neva taste beans?

That's all...

gamaliel121:
I don't like virgins

And who's asking for your opinion?

zaragal:
U can say dat again ....keeping ur virginity has a better wage quote me anywhere

Btw publicity isn't neccessary tho u are meant to keep it sacred btw u and God

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viclawz
says who?? Mtcheew!
The girls who loose their virginity willfully only to come around claiming, "I am tight", do so proudly.
Men who go about cheating proudly announce it.
First class graduates are busy blowing their trumpets; everyone!
Why shouldn't a virgin announce that she is a virgin to encourage her fellow comrades

Delectablegyal, kaziblake, don't mind them o.
Keep talking and encouraging, we are listening to you.
All they are seeking is to silence those doing right while emboldening wrongdoers, even hailing them.
Gerrarahia man!

Estharfabian:
REAL Virgins don't make this much Noise...

Nigerians!!!!! Like all this so you'd be Hailed??
I really Do not Get....*Scratching head*

They do!!!
When push comes to shove, REAL virgins do!
Virgins don't need your hailings. Their virginity hails them!

CountDracula:
lack of opportunity

Airforce1
obainojazz
With guys swarming around girls, virgins & non-virgins, like bees to nectar?
Your statement sounds ignorant

MistadeRegal:

And who's asking for your opinion?

Nigga leave me alone..

MistadeRegal:

And who's asking for your opinion?

Nigga leave me alone..

kossyablaze:
The OP must be a male hidin behind female moniker seeking for gullible attention

probably!