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Re: It Is Not Easy To Be A Virgin by Youngpo413: 6:34am On Oct 24, 2015 |
Anyss:its not guys fault,its only that ladies are very cheap nowadays....I like your signature,so many messages are hidden in those few words. |
Re: It Is Not Easy To Be A Virgin by CountDracula(m): 7:02am On Oct 24, 2015 |
purplelips:Failed attempt at humour... 1 Like |
Re: It Is Not Easy To Be A Virgin by CountDracula(m): 7:03am On Oct 24, 2015 |
purplelips:Pls stop embarassing urself... Its enof. Its a new day |
Re: It Is Not Easy To Be A Virgin by 3rdlegxxx(m): 7:09am On Oct 24, 2015 |
obainojazz: so dude your point is, virgins shoudn't live their life, shoudn't have fun, shoudn't have male friends on 2go, shoudn't look sexy, dude you are shallow and your state of mind is old school and not reflection of a guy in 2015. 2 Likes |
Re: It Is Not Easy To Be A Virgin by 3rdlegxxx(m): 7:09am On Oct 24, 2015 |
A lot of ignorant people have turned this virgin thing to mean, you have to always wear clothes that cover your entire body, you have to stay away from guys, you have to look ugly cos if you look too fine, they don't believe you are a virgin anymore, smh for how basic some people think on nairaland, and to the ladies tho i guess it's cool to be virgin even tho to me i coudn't really care less, it probably would make a good story for your kids and all that but after the wedding night and other nights, it would be forgotten cos it isn't really that big a deal, your character, sense of humor, cooking and homely skills would remain, maybe your beauty, in this present day, a man needs more than just a girl being a virgin and pls it's important you try some fun sexual things before you marry ooo, not that you stay a virgin and have a million fantasies of all the kind of sex you would have after you marry only to discover your husband doesn't really like sex or is a 2 min man and sees no big deal in sex, you would be depressed all through the marriage, some things should be understood, know your body, what pleases you and what pleases the guy too and how to please a man. thank you |
Re: It Is Not Easy To Be A Virgin by Nobody: 7:13am On Oct 24, 2015 |
ndubisik: I wish I did, but I'm not that much of a saint. |
Re: It Is Not Easy To Be A Virgin by mirabeldesmond(f): 7:17am On Oct 24, 2015 |
joshuamoses101: ![]() |
Re: It Is Not Easy To Be A Virgin by Nobody: 7:20am On Oct 24, 2015 |
slyger:Keep telling yourself that while somebody else will do the right thing at your back. Please... Does it even matter anyway? |
Re: It Is Not Easy To Be A Virgin by obainojazz(m): 7:21am On Oct 24, 2015 |
3rdlegxxx:nah...I simply meant she has not seen seen the opportunity...don't think of something else... |
Re: It Is Not Easy To Be A Virgin by harristo(m): 7:23am On Oct 24, 2015 |
craziebone: Struggling with staying a virgin, hmmm Well that's dangerous, for guys mostly though. He might end up forcing himself on someone he shouldn't have. It's just natural that when you suppress something with pressure for too long, someday that thing is bound to explode in a way you won't be able to control / manage it. |
Re: It Is Not Easy To Be A Virgin by obainojazz(m): 7:23am On Oct 24, 2015 |
3rdlegxxx:nah...I simply meant she has not seen seen the opportunity...don't think of something else...some virgins do MouthAction and all that...then start quoting bible when its time for sex.... What will you call that....not judging though. Gracias |
Re: It Is Not Easy To Be A Virgin by obainojazz(m): 7:25am On Oct 24, 2015 |
3rdlegxxx:spot on...this is what I meant...can't even date a girl that don't dress well. |
Re: It Is Not Easy To Be A Virgin by harristo(m): 7:29am On Oct 24, 2015 |
obainojazz: Especially considering the fact that according to her, she is struggling to stay a virgin -struggling with konji. If she truly is one, she wouldn't be able to manage an hour of resisting if I ask her to do it with me (I mean if we meet though). |
Re: It Is Not Easy To Be A Virgin by harristo(m): 7:34am On Oct 24, 2015 |
all4naija: How can something like that not matter to you? ![]() |
Re: It Is Not Easy To Be A Virgin by obainojazz(m): 7:36am On Oct 24, 2015 |
harristo: ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: It Is Not Easy To Be A Virgin by Nobody: 8:10am On Oct 24, 2015 |
slyger: Do one really need their encouragement ![]() Not really ![]() |
Re: It Is Not Easy To Be A Virgin by Nobody: 8:15am On Oct 24, 2015 |
Generals03: Noted |
Re: It Is Not Easy To Be A Virgin by KingTom(m): 8:23am On Oct 24, 2015 |
iAmCharis:yes boss. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: It Is Not Easy To Be A Virgin by anigbajumo(m): 9:42am On Oct 24, 2015 |
sonofananimal: #sure nah,dey don spoil NL vnish..... |
Re: It Is Not Easy To Be A Virgin by Seculent: 10:10am On Oct 24, 2015 |
Successdude:That girl is lying |
Re: It Is Not Easy To Be A Virgin by mechanics(m): 10:16am On Oct 24, 2015 |
Na so. |
Re: It Is Not Easy To Be A Virgin by Nobody: 10:43am On Oct 24, 2015 |
Youngpo413: Well I agree. Dats d painful truth. Thanx(winks) |
Re: It Is Not Easy To Be A Virgin by socrateez(m): 10:50am On Oct 24, 2015 |
My dear Mary, I don’t get it – why should you apologise for your virginity, or feel ashamed? And why should you apologise for your faith in Christ? That’s your civil right and it’s fundamental. Your faith provides you moral compass. We all need moral compass in life. Life is too wide and long. You’re young. Even old men struggle to find their way through life. Moses didn’t get it right until 80! Had a 40-year hiatus. A moral compass gives you guidance, shows you which way not to go and leads you in the direction you should. A moral compass gives you an ambit of operation – you operate within its latitude. It keeps you in a safe perimeter. A moral compass is about safety. Now, some choose to remain virgin till they marry, and some deem otherwise. Some are sexually active and some have decided no more sex until marriage. It all boils down to individual choice. At the end of it all, it boils down to the philosophy we subscribe to. Our choices of sexual values are predicated on our philosophical subscription. For you, your faith is your life philosophy. That a ubiquitous army of sneering trolls chooses to inveigh on your moral stance shouldn’t bother you. Not one bit. Whose business is it whether you choose to remain a virgin or not! It’s YOUR life, it’s YOUR choice, it’s YOUR body, it’s YOUR values. It’s nobody’s business! Man is a free moral agent, a chartered liberty. We’re free to do as we deem with our lives. God recognises this right. But of course we also must respect God’s rights as sovereign Lord. We must reciprocate his gesture and goodwill. There will always be the cynics. There will always be the scornful. Don’t ever follow their counsel. And there will be those who regard you as a prehistoric relic of a bygone era, just because you’re a virgin! But here’s something you need to learn about human nature: the motivation of the heart of man is never apparent. Who knows the REAL reason they’re making fun of you! For all you know someone may just be feeling condemned by your virginal stance; or it may just be envy. It’s the same logic at play when people make fun of the conscientious student in class. They’ll even nickname him. Yet he’s the one doing the right thing. And the exam results soon prove that fact. In other words, people’s reaction to our stance is not indicative of the rightness or wrongness of our conviction. Should the conscientious student then stop studying because people make fun of him? Of course not! In the same way, it will be ridiculous for you to harpoon your faith to please those harassing you. Even if the whole world makes fun of you, be sure to stand by your conviction. Didn’t they mock Noah? Don’t compromise your chastity to please the world. Who made these people judge over you anyway? And so the larger issue is really conviction – your personal conviction. Don’t violate your ethical scruples by cowering to the dictates of a baying crowd. The conviction of the masses is always suspect. It always swings. Those who shout hosanna one day have been known to shout crucify him the next day. There is something called defiance of faith in the face of ignominious scorn. You must learn to exercise that option if you want to succeed in life. They can no more make fun of you than you can make fun of them. Everyone has a right to his or her conviction. Now, here’s the irony: some of the people making fun of virgins actually want to marry virgins. They want to hit it first. And some of the people who want to marry virgins are the very ones who disvirgined others, then dumped them. These are instances of inverted logic. But remember what I told you about human nature. It’s twisted. You’ve got to learn to hold on to your personal convictions, especially your moral perpendicularity & upbringing. If you don’t learn the resilience of personal conviction, public opinion will oppress you and determine your life. And humans have an opinion on everything, including things that are of no concern to them. And they feed off third hand information. Witness the judgments passed on social media daily. If you can’t maintain your stand on this issue, even your choice of husband will also be the subject of referendum. You will be seeking validation from wrong sources – fickle self-appointed validators who feed on prurience. You don’t need the validation of these people. Who are they? What can they do to you really? All they can do is talk, make fun of you. And then what? There are men out there who’ll applaud and appreciate your moral stance, who see you as what mama ordered. That other guy just got frustrated because you wouldn’t sleep with him. There are those who’ll appreciate your self-discipline. Virginity requires discipline and control. And self-discipline is a wonderful virtue. There’s nothing to be ashamed of. Learn to stand by your conviction, to live by your conviction, to live by conviction. The Pauline enunciation of sex is that sex is not just a physical act: “There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin.” That sex without commitment and intimacy makes us lonelier than ever. And marriage is the institutional platform of commitment and intimacy. That’s the philosophy of your faith. Sex is the physical articulation of the principle of oneness. Now, if others are not ashamed of their disvirginity, why should you be ashamed of your virginity? And if your virginity gives you good conscience before God, by all means keep it till you marry. After all, it is Him with whom we all have to do at the very end. I’ll touch on the other issues you raised in my next correspondence. Enjoy your singleness. Your mentor, LA © Leke Alder | talk2me@lekealder.com 2 Likes |
Re: It Is Not Easy To Be A Virgin by Nobody: 11:44am On Oct 24, 2015 |
Pls do virgin Gals also experience konji? If Yes how beans go ttake hungry person Wey Neva taste beans? 1 Like |
Re: It Is Not Easy To Be A Virgin by adahib: 12:18pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
That's all...
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Re: It Is Not Easy To Be A Virgin by MistadeRegal(m): 12:20pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
gamaliel121:And who's asking for your opinion? |
Re: It Is Not Easy To Be A Virgin by yougosee: 12:37pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
zaragal:DharmyYinks, Zaragal, charlesucheh, abbaapple all4naija Freemanan Miscellaneous joseph1832 Epimetheus Mcowubaba autaspakladi spicy244 Seculent DeeTus Estharfabian viclawz says who?? Mtcheew! The girls who loose their virginity willfully only to come around claiming, "I am tight", do so proudly. Men who go about cheating proudly announce it. First class graduates are busy blowing their trumpets; everyone! Why shouldn't a virgin announce that she is a virgin to encourage her fellow comrades ![]() Delectablegyal, kaziblake, don't mind them o. Keep talking and encouraging, we are listening to you. All they are seeking is to silence those doing right while emboldening wrongdoers, even hailing them. Gerrarahia man! |
Re: It Is Not Easy To Be A Virgin by yougosee: 12:38pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
Estharfabian:They do!!! When push comes to shove, REAL virgins do! ![]() Virgins don't need your hailings. Their virginity hails them! |
Re: It Is Not Easy To Be A Virgin by yougosee: 12:45pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
CountDracula:Airforce1 obainojazz With guys swarming around girls, virgins & non-virgins, like bees to nectar? ![]() Your statement sounds ignorant ![]() |
Re: It Is Not Easy To Be A Virgin by gamaliel121(m): 12:46pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
MistadeRegal:Nigga leave me alone.. |
Re: It Is Not Easy To Be A Virgin by gamaliel121(m): 12:46pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
MistadeRegal:Nigga leave me alone.. |
Re: It Is Not Easy To Be A Virgin by Gerrie(m): 12:54pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
kossyablaze: probably! |
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