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Re: October 24th: My Introduction Date That Never Came Through by Nobody: 9:54am On Oct 24, 2015 |
I was born and raised a catholic,was an alter boy for years at a major seminary ,one time even thought I'd be a priest lol,I'd tell you this bro. My questions and convictions took me out of the catholic church,if you do that its like the muslims killing a convert just that in this case u will be a mini outcast,excommunicated kinda,we refered to people who left the faith as "born again people,they say they have seen the light" lol funny tho. My elder sister married a protestant against relatives wills,some people didn't even attend her wedding,and until today some still feels she doesn't "have a marriage" cos it wasn't in the catholic church. So take my cue bro,don't force it,if she's yours she will come by,leaving the catholic cult like faith is only done by conviction no be gra gra. And I'd tell you from experience,DO NOT covert,Catholism as Christianity is questionable,but that's not what this topic is for So I'd leave it at this. Receive Grace to make the right choice. 1 Like |
Re: October 24th: My Introduction Date That Never Came Through by lastmessenger: 9:56am On Oct 24, 2015 |
.you allowed an old man to deny you love.for me is a no no. |
Re: October 24th: My Introduction Date That Never Came Through by george4CHRIST(m): 9:57am On Oct 24, 2015 |
If she is truly your wife, she will come back to you. Before I got married my wife was a stunch Catholic while me a pentecostal. But she agreed to follow my own religion. So I believe love conquered everything. |
Re: October 24th: My Introduction Date That Never Came Through by SpeedyConnect(m): 9:57am On Oct 24, 2015 |
Oyind17:You mean you can't read like 500 words yet you want to be a research assistant. 1 Like |
Re: October 24th: My Introduction Date That Never Came Through by GeoOla25(m): 9:57am On Oct 24, 2015 |
I am feeling sleepy...bed time stories |
Re: October 24th: My Introduction Date That Never Came Through by Nobody: 10:01am On Oct 24, 2015 |
SpeedyConnect:Lol, when was that? didn't u notice I commented about the dad 1 Like |
Re: October 24th: My Introduction Date That Never Came Through by Lawsimon(m): 10:02am On Oct 24, 2015 |
femi4:the guy is a big joke. |
Re: October 24th: My Introduction Date That Never Came Through by PreshyG(f): 10:07am On Oct 24, 2015 |
And that is why it is adviceable to date and marry someone that shares the same faith and doctrine with u. I personally knw my doctrine and dt is why i can't even date a non-catholic, let alone marrying him. My father will not be d one to tell me. Nobody shud quote me pls! 2 Likes |
Re: October 24th: My Introduction Date That Never Came Through by teddybear007(f): 10:08am On Oct 24, 2015 |
fabre4: I wouldn't mind saying u re absolutely right. |
Re: October 24th: My Introduction Date That Never Came Through by chimaria(f): 10:12am On Oct 24, 2015 |
Does dat mean pple dat married from same church are all living happily? To me i fhink luv and ur happiness matters. 1 Like |
Re: October 24th: My Introduction Date That Never Came Through by tiar: 10:12am On Oct 24, 2015 |
Gaidenk: There are people who have left other churches to the Catholic Church and some who left like you returned many years later AND VICE VERSA. I guess you are fine where you are and the Catholics you left behind are fine where they are. We all have freedom to do what we want. If God did not give us freedom then, there will be no basis to judge us. You do not need to bash a girl after dumping her to strengthen or rationalise your position for leaving her behind. If you find out you always have to or tend to, then, it is time to look inward. The problem may just be you and not her. The devil does not have a good story to tell about God banishing him from heaven He has so MANY NEGATIVE things to say about God to defend his own actions and his justification for doing what he did that led to his banishment. We all know the problem is with the devil and not God. We also know the devil will never see things from this perspective. It is never about US, it is always about THEM. Best wishes |
Re: October 24th: My Introduction Date That Never Came Through by Setaje(f): 10:13am On Oct 24, 2015 |
dumo1: Am not joking. Don't be deceived. Whether catholic or protestant. Many people have spiritualist they visit. Some of your kinsmen have alfas (islamic cleric) they visit. You think they would come out and tell u the real source of their wealth. U don't want to know how much they have prayed, how many churches they have been to and how many sacrifices they have made. U just see them doing hail Mary and assume it is mother Mary that interceded on their behalf. Lol! This guy is not osu or ohu as u people call it. He is a pure igbo man. I have forgotten where is family compound is in nnewi. I new him through a family friend whose mum was my teacher in primary school. They are also from nnewi. Their family compound is close to each other. They are also cherubim and seraphim. Just pray you don't encounter problems that will push u to places u never imagined u will go. |
Re: October 24th: My Introduction Date That Never Came Through by Spidermon: 10:13am On Oct 24, 2015 |
All these man made restrictions we place on ourselves.... Depending on how you live your life, God fit no send una at all sef. |
Re: October 24th: My Introduction Date That Never Came Through by teddybear007(f): 10:13am On Oct 24, 2015 |
Mekky05: Sorry if I ve to quote u, but truth has to be said. The pentecostal churches ve no issue with d catholics or other denomination but it is d Catholics who thinks that they re more holy dan d other denomination. Gracias. 1 Like |
Re: October 24th: My Introduction Date That Never Came Through by Lobolintin(m): 10:17am On Oct 24, 2015 |
if nah me, i go agree pay and take her home.... come to my house and commnad if i wont lash you out of my house,,mixed marriage ko, mix ediot no |
Re: October 24th: My Introduction Date That Never Came Through by airsaylongcon: 10:19am On Oct 24, 2015 |
Hannysmilez: They are Christian sects, parts of the same body just like u have Shiites, Sunnis and sufism in Islam 1 Like |
Re: October 24th: My Introduction Date That Never Came Through by vislabraye(m): 10:31am On Oct 24, 2015 |
Drfinn: Hmmm. Yours is a bit similarbto mine. I'm also Ijaw but I've had crush with Catholic Igbos. Didn't really take it that far because of this factor. It's good for you to keep your stand. You are going to be the head of the family so you shouldn't start what you can't continue. If you compromise your stand, what else will you compromise ? The lady in question can't really make such sacrifice. Look somewhere else for love. 1 Like |
Re: October 24th: My Introduction Date That Never Came Through by tiar: 10:33am On Oct 24, 2015 |
teddybear007: The issue is with you in this case. You are NOT a Catholic and you now speak for them that they think they are more holy. This of course makes you dislike them more because you have spoken for yourself to yourself and then answer yourself. To be honest as an observer over the years, the protestants (loosely used) were always more fascinated with the Catholics than vice versa. Fascination in the sense that they keep talking about them, bringing up erroneous comments like (they think they are holier) etc while the Catholics did not bother about any other denomination and frankly rarely try to convert anyone. In the other direction there is plenty of interest in converting "those people who think they are holier than us" Best wishes. Live and let live. The protestants enjoy going on the offensive against Catholics first while the Catholics tend to be on the defense thereof, if they even bother to engage. If the offensive stops then, we can all live and let live. I am not going to hold my breath though. Try to make heaven the way you think best and let others do the same. The path taken to a destination matters though, getting there is the ultimate prize. May God help us all. Best wishes 1 Like |
Re: October 24th: My Introduction Date That Never Came Through by engrshakespeare: 10:33am On Oct 24, 2015 |
IamLEGEND1: You could have made your point civilly without being so foul mouthed, seems your mouth needs to be thoroughly washed out with soap. |
Re: October 24th: My Introduction Date That Never Came Through by IamLEGEND1: 10:41am On Oct 24, 2015 |
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Re: October 24th: My Introduction Date That Never Came Through by Drfinn: 10:45am On Oct 24, 2015 |
I have read with rapt attention all the replies. No reply is absolutely foolish. Thanks everyone for your comments. Sometimes its good you share a personal experience. Someone out there will learn a thing or two from it. Surprisingly, this personal experience graced the front page!!!lol! Thanks Fammo, you seem to understand my reasoning. In the Old man's thought, he wants to continue giving his children spiritual nourishment. And that is irrespective of conjugal ties. He has been and still is a marriage counselor in the Catholic church. You can imagine the burden of doing the opposite of what you preach. As regards my ex she got me the more confused. She had once told me that should I accept the terms of mixed marriage, it will be impossible of her to renege. fammo: |
Re: October 24th: My Introduction Date That Never Came Through by Kimoni: 10:48am On Oct 24, 2015 |
TV01 - I read OP's story and I thought of you. Some of the things he said about headship, providing leadership and direction for his family being non-negotiable sounded so like you 'twas like I was reading from you. God help the OP, I feel for him. It's sometimes confusing if one should fight for true love in cases like this but I respect and applaud the OP decision based on his reasons. Lemme read some comments... 1 Like |
Re: October 24th: My Introduction Date That Never Came Through by axhead(m): 10:49am On Oct 24, 2015 |
tiar: What a load of rubbish.what kind of brainwashed and confused mindset is this? |
Re: October 24th: My Introduction Date That Never Came Through by wagzyl: 10:51am On Oct 24, 2015 |
Dear OP, don't know if you will get to read this. If the woman in question is the woman of your dreams as you claim, please go back to her, shift grounds and make it work. 99% of guys out there and in this forum may not agree with this and say it is a stupid thing to do, you're not man enough, you're being controlled, blah blah blah........ My brother, you will be surprised how much authority wives, sisters, brothers, parents, etc wield in the lives of those advising you to be "man" enough. it's easy to advise others and play God. In all honesty, I have had fixed dates for introduction and marriage dashed! Was supposed to be married on my birthday, October 2 this year!!!! My Dad changed his faith and joined my mum in the Catholic Church. Don't make a big deal out of this I beg you in God's name. Shift your ground, make things work with the love of your life, shun all those discouragement. No one can ever Control your home on account of your change of faith. They'll rather respect you more and your wife n children will ever cherish you for the length you went to bring them to life. I'm a living testimony. 1 Like |
Re: October 24th: My Introduction Date That Never Came Through by nkyblast(f): 10:56am On Oct 24, 2015 |
If u nid my advice,pple ve gone thru same experience I hv a cousin whose father was a stunch Anglican ( but he is late now),a knight of d church he had 5 daughters and 1 son,for any1 who is seeking to marry his daughters he tells u dat it must be in his church,if u disagree no marriage.so it now happened dat one of his daughter now brought a Catholic man home,d man's pple too a stunch catholic both families were nt ready to shift ground.some now advice dem that d man shd wed in Anglican dat after d marriage her father can't run ur home and dat solved d prblm,dey re happily married and d girl is now a Catholic so u can also do like wise,if u so love d girl agree to dre terms and after dat u tk her to ur church u will be d one to win at last |
Re: October 24th: My Introduction Date That Never Came Through by Drfinn: 10:56am On Oct 24, 2015 |
darknez: Thanks bro. Its good knowing someone had been in my shoes before. I had my reservations when she told she was catholic. I specifically sought counsel from my Pastor. He gave me the go ahead. In his reasoning, marriage should be based not on religious affiliation but on compatibility, and the ability of both parties to compromise. You can imagine the nightmares when things started unfolding. I had 'abstained' from committed relationships for a year plus with the hope anyone I go into will end in marriage. I have moved on. But the scars?? Time heal all wounds. 2 Likes |
Re: October 24th: My Introduction Date That Never Came Through by RuuDie(m): 10:58am On Oct 24, 2015 |
dumo1: Very simple... go with the flow, marry the woman FIRST! After she enters HIS HOUSE, then HE TAKES CHARGE! |
Re: October 24th: My Introduction Date That Never Came Through by crackhouse(m): 10:59am On Oct 24, 2015 |
Hannysmilez:the protestants are protesting the catholics. |
Re: October 24th: My Introduction Date That Never Came Through by CORRECTMAN78(m): 10:59am On Oct 24, 2015 |
missyadorable: That is because you've not truely loved anyone. If you have loved someone to heart, not lust, then you would have understood how he feels. I don't see him as a weakling. But then, he has to put together himself and move on. |
Re: October 24th: My Introduction Date That Never Came Through by fammo: 11:00am On Oct 24, 2015 |
Drfinn:I'm glad you found my advice helpful, the truth of this issue is that ur Father-in-Law-to-be has probably chaired some of the meetings where parents who allowed their children marry from outside the church was condemned, it really is not about his principles but more about the fear of being condemned and mocked the way he must have done to other people who allowed their children marry from outside the church. Pls don't let urself be dragged into what does not concern you, if your fiancee truely loves you she'll come around and wake up from her sleep, just stay strong, be a man of principle, don't do anything that will make you less of a man in the name of love......and Pray, I'm sure God will see you through.... 1 Like |
Re: October 24th: My Introduction Date That Never Came Through by fammo: 11:02am On Oct 24, 2015 |
RuuDie:What you can't take charge of before you marry, you will only cause problem with if you attempt to do it after d wedding ceremony....make your stand known on time |
Re: October 24th: My Introduction Date That Never Came Through by Nobody: 11:02am On Oct 24, 2015 |
Boy,the chick no even love you and the situation just saved you from future disappointment-because if she does, you know the rest of the story! |
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