udysweet:
Lol! As we never see any clergy. @Toks2008 fit join us jo and maybe finsh asst pastor join,lol. @Toks2008 were u dey na

Lol Abi o..but I hope the union would be recognized o aspa no be court or church we rush to do..Good morning dear,how're you today? trust your night was sweet?enjoy your day

Nina4u:
so nigerian girls gonna be home chillin while the man go pay for everything? Thats fuk#ed up ...get u a gal that wanna marry u for love ..not money ..that works and pay for her own shyat....no money ..no seeex ...u have to buy her stuff ...thats prostitution in a nicer way than ashawos ...one naija gal on fb told me ..i got one bf paying brazilian hair..one bf paying recharch card ..one buy clothes ...wrf? Love dont cost a thing ..thats prostitution straight up ...get a freakin job lazy ass..

So on point..

Waooo. I like this single talk. Why not less talk on whatapps less share ideas. Am single live in lagos. My own whatapps is 08030746837 let's me martured frds. Share ideals thanks.

Eva since I met d love of my life.my thinking about women,spending money for them is a waste.doe I couldn't marry her cos I met her married. doe,I didn't know.it started right from d first day,she went out of her way for me.it wasn't about money.u will spend money but not conditioned.since then,I don't spend anyhow for ladies.love should come first before money.let d guy feel u a little, d guy will spend all of his life making u happy.it is an experience I luv to share any time.in my heart ,she'll be forever mine.

lolu20:
Eva since I met d love of my life.my thinking about women,spending money for them is a waste.doe I couldn't marry her cos I met her married. doe,I didn't know.it started right from d first day,she went out of her way for me.it wasn't about money.u will spend money but not conditioned.since then,I don't spend anyhow for ladies.love should come first before money.let d guy feel u a little, d guy will spend all of his life making u happy.it is an experience I luv to share any time.in my heart ,she'll be forever mine.

Hmm she is married to someone else and you still consider her forever yours? anyway I can understand where you are coming from because I also fell in love with a married woman before and God helped us realise it was wrong so we ended it before things got messy..it was painful but had to be done cos my brother what goes around comes around o..

OP
Talk about what?!

what do u call a relationship that started right from d state.a girl I met in d dream while I was in Lagos b4 travelling to the east for d first time.what do u call that.I told d same tins I said to her in d dream and she replied d same way.the same sitting position,the same time as it was in d dream.what do u call dat ?

lolu20:
what do u call a relationship that started right from d state.a girl I met in d dream while I was in Lagos b4 travelling to the east for d first time.what do u call that.I told d same tins I said to her in d dream and she replied d same way.the same sitting position,the same time as it was in d dream.what do u call dat ?

Spirit wife.....just joking
Sent from heaven....another joke o
my brother forget na another man wife.

Sparkles003:
Spirit wife.....just joking Sent from heaven....another joke o my brother forget na another man wife.

I don forget her

Toks2008:


My brother i do understand you and i also understand that the Nigeria factor will surely mitigate against your quest to get a lady to love and cherish you cos apparently in Nigeria, many ladies will only love,appreciate and respect you based on the criterion that you can provide for the family especially the ones who do not have a tangible source of income.

But one intriguing prt that readily gets me confused is the way ladies advice men to pursue financial stability before getting a lady into their lives because the the pursuit of financial stability do not have a time tag so that means if it takes you 5years to get your dream job or get financially stable then your life must be on hold as regards getting on with the opposite sex and lets just say you get a good job,or get financially stable and you get a lady to marry ore date and then something happens to that finance or job i guess you will ask the lady to leave...

In view of all these sermon on the mount,i will advice that you remain resolute in pursuing your dream and also be on the look out for a financially independent lady meaning a lady that makes her own living not because you need a dime from her but you will have lesser pressure to cater for her and also have time to build yourself while maintaining a healthy affair.

If every Nigerian lady is waiting for a man to be financially ok before they get settled then things will certainly get out of hand. As a man please just get something doing and keep striving to get better and for the lady please do your best to be financially independent so that you can be with a man for the right reason and also allow him to pursue his dreams rather than hurriedly settle for a mediocre job that may enslave him all his life.

Let me stop here.

You always complain about this. .
Is it a crime to want to marry a financially stable man?
Please it's a necessity. You shouldn't bring a child into this earth to suffer....

Melish:





You always complain about this. .
Is it a crime to want to marry a financially stable man?
Please it's a necessity. You shouldn't bring a child into this earth to suffer....

Since you have refused to let us be,i will advice you comport yourself properrly and discuss issues without sarcastic conotations and insinuations.

And please can you define the term financial stability?

Do you have the power to put a spell on "a financially stable guy" to marry you if at all any one wooes you?

wat happens iif that financially stable guy becomes unstable financially?

Im forced to restrain from saying you are indeed naive to write that I ALWAYS because you dont know jack about lovee affairs in relation to finance.

A guy that managees to bring home 1k a day can be said to be financially stable innit? but how many Naija ladies will marry such a man?

I am only replying you because i want you to learn a thing or two but next time i wont reespond to you if you make sarcastic comments to my post here again.

Toks2008:


Since you have refused to let us be,i will advice you comport yourself properrly and discuss issues without sarcastic conotations and insinuations.

And please can you define the term financial stability?

Do you have the power to put a spell on "a financially stable guy" to marry you if at all any one wooes you?

wat happens iif that financially stable guy becomes unstable financially?

Im forced to restrain from saying you are indeed naive to write that I ALWAYS because you dont know jack about lovee affairs in relation to finance.

A guy that managees to bring home 1k a day can be said to be financially stable innit? but how many Naija ladies will marry such a man?

I am only replying you because i want you to learn a thing or two but next time i wont reespond to you if you make sarcastic comments to my post here again.

Means you can pay the basic bills and provide basic needs for your home and kids at least initially ...

Secondly you should have a JOB....

Thirdly you should have plans of expansion as time goes on....



Whether the wife is working or not!
.... But if you think as a man that it's not an issue to be jobless when it comes to marriage/love then the man can as well pair up with a Jobless woman...

Marriage shouldn't be entered blindly you enter with your eyes wide open.....

No sentiments or pity whatsoever!...




And if any woman here thinks that the fact that "It's men that propose/woo ladies" makes her choiceless you're so wrong.... In the midst of the so called husband scarcity some women are flooded with more men than they can handle... Why? Content.

Melish:





Means you can pay the basic bills and provide basic needs for your home and kids at least initially ...

Secondly you should have a JOB....

Thirdly you should have plans of expansion as time goes on....



Whether the wife is working or not!
.... But if you think as a man that it's not an issue to be jobless when it comes to marriage/love then the man can as well pair up with a Jobless woman...

Marriage shouldn't be entered blindly you enter with your eyes wide open.....

No sentiments or pity whatsoever!...




And if any woman here thinks that the fact that "It's men that propose/woo ladies" makes her choiceless you're so wrong.... In the midst of the so called husband scarcity some women are flooded with more men than they can handle... Why? Content.

You are still living in fantasia

This is Nigeria dear where you are not guaranteed a job even with a super first class so cut off that dogma of a man gtiing a job as a valid criterion for settling down with a lady.

Ladies should be encouraged to be financiallky independent and marry a man not because he is finacially ok according to her standard but because she truly wants to be with the man.

Who is pitying who here?lol you are definitely still growing and maybe when you grow more iin maturity you will realiize that 100 men can come for a lady and none of these 100 men want her as a wife but just to play with her and move on.

young lady wise up,Nigeria is a perculiar country where even the employed are not paid,those who have jobs are been laid off daily and there is no assurance of the so called financial stability spanning for long.

As a lady,seek to be financially independent even if it is a skill you will put into practise.

i repeat,if ladies still beelieve that because few guys are gettiing lucky to get a job and decide to turn down advances from a vsion driven JOBLESS but struggling guy,many ladies may as well become extra wives to the made men.

At 25 i was zounting millions from my IT firm and lets assume a lady married me because i was finacially ok then after i had an accident at 26 and could not use my limbs for long and became so broke i guess she will definitely leave and lets assume she was willing to stay and suffer with mwe till i break even again then what is the hullabaloo about a must get a financially stable guy.

my point is clear,hope for a fin stable guy but dont sacrifice a vision driven guy who loves u because he is not financially stable. look at the guy vison not his pocket,be intrested in making him fufil his dreams and not what he has in his account..strife to be financially independent so that you will not be a leech to him...this is my point.

financial stability is relative and subject to unforseen situations hence the need to make it secondary not placing too much importance on it.

Imagine guys also making up their mind that they will only woo a financially independent lady...how will that play out?

Does gender equality not suggest that ladies should also strife to be a bread winner if not the bread winner so wats the fuss about?

my mum was an hair dresser now called beautician and i never for one day heard my mum complain about our dad not doing his part in the home front when it comes to finances...

Today most ladies have lost the zeal for financial independence and would rather marry a monster who presently has the cash rather than be with a sincere man cos "he is not financially stable" most of our ladies need a re orientation

Toks2008:


You are still living in fantasia

This is Nigeria dear where you are not guaranteed a job even with a super first class so cut off that dogma of a man gtiing a job as a valid criterion for settling down with a lady.

Ladies should be encouraged to be financiallky independent and marry a man not because he is finacially ok according to her standard but because she truly wants to be with the man.

Who is pitying who here?lol you are definitely still growing and maybe when you grow more iin maturity you will realiize that 100 men can come for a lady and none of these 100 men want her as a wife but just to play with her and move on.

young lady wise up,Nigeria is a perculiar country where even the employed are not paid,those who have jobs are been laid off daily and there is no assurance of the so called financial stability spanning for long.

As a lady,seek to be financially independent even if it is a skill you will put into practise.

i repeat,if ladies still beelieve that because few guys are gettiing lucky to get a job and decide to turn down advances from a vsion driven JOBLESS but struggling guy,many ladies may as well become extra wives to the made men.

At 25 i was zounting millions from my IT firm and lets assume a lady married me because i was finacially ok then after i had an accident at 26 and could not use my limbs for long and became so broke i guess she will definitely leave and lets assume she was willing to stay and suffer with mwe till i break even again then what is the hullabaloo about a must get a financially stable guy.

my point is clear,hope for a fin stable guy but dont sacrifice a vision driven guy who loves u because he is not financially stable. look at the guy vison not his pocket,be intrested in making him fufil his dreams and not what he has in his account..strife to be financially independent so that you will not be a leech to him...this is my point.

financial stability is relative and subject to unforseen situations hence the need to make it secondary not placing too much importance on it.

Imagine guys also making up their mind that they will only woo a financially independent lady...how will that play out?

Does gender equality not suggest that ladies should also strife to be a bread winner if not the bread winner so wats the fuss about?

my mum was an hair dresser now called beautician and i never for one day heard my mum complain about our dad not doing his part in the home front when it comes to finances...

Today most ladies have lost the zeal for financial independence and would rather marry a monster who presently has the cash rather than be with a sincere man cos "he is not financially stable" most of our ladies need a re orientation

I've made my point....
he who has an ear let him hear
I started this talk cause you utilize every opportunity to spite ladies on how financially minded they as if they're just some hopeless beings that should follow every dick and harry that bothers wooing them.....


Talk from today till tommorow everyone wants what's best for them not a liability man or woman...
Goodbye.

Melish:






I've made my point....
he who has an ear let him hear
I started this talk cause you utilize every opportunity to spite ladies on how financially minded they as if they're just some hopeless beings that should follow every dick and harry that bothers wooing them.....


Talk from today till tommorow everyone wants what's best for them not a liability man or woman...
Goodbye.

Sorry dearie, i totally forgot i was discussing with an adolescent with no experience of any affair so when you are 30 whether married or single,please come and discuss sensitive topics such as this. And please don't quote this.

For the mature ladies please understand that a job is not a guaranty of financial security and the fact that your business is booming right now is not a guaranty of financial independence. This is no sadistic stand-view but a fact. The only guaranty for success in life is determination to excel against all odds.

I have seen millionaires crash to nothinaire and i have seen people lose their jobs in a flash so the most important thing is to go into any affair you desire with optimism and seriousness of purpose and take the bulls by the horns.

While don jazzy was frying buns at a popular bustop in Lagos i guess he will be seen as jobless,when patoranking was selling rat killer i guess he will be a no for many ladies but today ladies want them because they are typical example of successful guys. Every wealthy guy today was at a time jobless and financially depressed so if you say NO to a man today because he has no job or enough cash why must you say yes to him tomorrow when he is ok?

For the guys i would like to advice that you must try never to flaunt the fact that you are financially ok when you meet a lady except you really don't want a wife but a fling.A lady meant for you will love and want you even if you are damn broke and jobless. Just show great zeal in making it and have great drive.

women r like cars,u av to feed them like fuel and oil.give them water and bath them up on a regular basis.u only do dat for a woman dat u r riding, I mean having sex with. not for girls dat want to use ur head.

toks weds mel

after making dis post"nothing worse than a broke ass bitch who thinks she's entitled to a man with some money"on bbm.d only girl that complained about it was actually d person I was referring to.

Sparkles003:
toks weds mel

lol! nowadays its the lady wedding the guy so i guess it should be sparkles003 weds toks

ehemwhy:
Please I need matutre advice .
I am 35, (will be 36 in january) I just lost my job and I am pretty sure I'll get a better one soon. Problem is I have not been in any serious relationship for a while (4 years) and I am seriously thinking of settling down , I'm torn between searching now or to wait till I get a good job and be in a better Financial position .
I have not been lucky in my past relationships and havE long come to the conclusion that women are driven by money and don't see beyond their present situation.

You shouldn't consider marriage if you are not gainfully employed yet, get a job first and hopefully every other thing will come in place

Melish:






I've made my point....
he who has an ear let him hear
I started this talk cause you utilize every opportunity to spite ladies on how financially minded they as if they're just some hopeless beings that should follow every dick and harry that bothers wooing them.....


Talk from today till tommorow everyone wants what's best for them not a liability man or woman...
Goodbye.

I pray you don't learn your lesson the hard way. You believe you've READ EVERYTHING.......

As a man with ample experience in life,i have had several experience and i can tell you first hand that most Nigerian ladies especially the ones who are not financially independent will give you serious issues if you insist on no job hunting policy.


So the bottomline is that if you truly want your lady to give you breathing space,ensure that she has her own viable source of income else...

Hello house! Una good evening o,hope the day went well? Lagos sun and heat is really draining me,I'm typing this lying on my back wit the standing fan stationed on me direct,lol!infact I need a serios vacation o,seriosly serios,lol!
@torqque7,ddshow,klassik,toks2008,joebecks,sparkles003,siamia,lolu20,halexito,nouvelle,and the new entrants,hope una dey fine? To those oldies whome I can't rememba their names make una pardon me mbok!hope y'all doin fine? *kisses*

Good evening Lovelies and gents! I presuppose our day went pretty well.

I have a small gist to share once I'm settled.

Toks2008:
As a man with ample experience in life,i have had several experience and i can tell you first hand that most Nigerian ladies especially the ones who are not financially independent will give you serious issues if you insist on no job hunting policy.
So the bottomline is that if you truly want your lady to give you breathing space,ensure that she has her own viable source of income else...

Boss, you should stop arguing with that girl.....she isn't worth the least of your arguments.

A 20year old is still very far from reality.

missKiffy:

You shouldn't consider marriage if you are not gainfully employed yet, get a job first and hopefully every other thing will come in place

What happens if he has a job, gets married to you and loses the job six months after marriage? You'll go back to your father's house?

Ehemwhy, trust me...this is the best time to conduct random sampling. It's more likely that a woman who sees you through your challenges will stay with you forever. Those ones that hop in while you are made or telling you to get a job first are mostly devourers and self-seekers in search of where to spread their mats with comfort.

Thanks all iam really grateful.
@Nina4u I m not lazy sis, iam an accountant and information systems auditor with 3 years plus experience.

ddshow:
Good evening Lovelies and gents! I presuppose our day went pretty well.

I have a small gist to share once I'm settled.



Boss, you should stop arguing with that girl.....she isn't worth the least of your arguments.

A 20year old is still very far from reality.



What happens if he has a job, gets married to you and loses the job six months after marriage? You'll go back to your father's house?

Ehemwhy, trust me...this is the best time to conduct random sampling. It's more likely that a woman who sees you through your challenges will stay with you forever. Those ones that hop in while you are made or telling you to get a job first are mostly devourers and self-seekers in search of where to spread their mats with comfort.

Thanks ddshow..infact henceforth i will stop responding to melish.

Why choose to respond to her sometimes is because i always think she is objective but even when we all know that no man is an island,she has a way of dogmatically reiterating her standview as though she knows what she is saying whearas she is only fooled by what she reads on paper and church sermon.

i hve told her to stop showcasing her naivity here.

Can I come in?

ehemwhy:
Thanks all iam really grateful.
@Nina4u I m not lazy sis, iam an accountant and information systems auditor with 3 years plus experience.

My broda ma wo ti e...

In a country where yahoo boys are celebrated,looters are made kings and agberos are feared,how do you expect people to respect legit hard working guys?

missKiffy:
Can I come in?

Let us meet you first, no ghost mode here, please. Let's start with knowing your age............

udysweet:
Hello house! Una good evening o,hope the day went well? Lagos sun and heat is really draining me,I'm typing this lying on my back wit the standing fan stationed on me direct,lol!infact I need a serios vacation o,seriosly serios,lol!
@torqque7,ddshow,klassik,toks2008,joebecks,sparkles003,siamia,lolu20,halexito,nouvelle,and the new entrants,hope una dey fine? To those oldies whome I can't rememba their names make una pardon me mbok!hope y'all doin fine? *kisses*

Hmm.. Always so cheerful.
What is the secret, sweet?

Toks2008:


Thanks ddshow..infact henceforth i will stop responding to melish.

Why choose to respond to her sometimes is because i always think she is objective but even when we all know that no man is an island,she has a way of dogmatically reiterating her standview as though she knows what she is saying whearas she is only fooled by what she reads on paper and church sermon.

i hve told her to stop showcasing her naivity here.

You can keep attacking cause I don't share your views but I don't care....

I stopped replying you cause I noticed you like arguing and you always wanna have the last word using all degrading comments at your disposal..

If women's financial mindedness is giving you sleepless night then don't marry.... Simple...

Goodnight

Mellish seem like a driven lady who believe with her new found faith she has answers to all life's problem. But i think she'll do okay and inspite of all the flaks that she has taken for baring her mind she still kept her cool. If u are for real then i might want to meet u.