I need honest answers.
Notice this days that Women earn than men.

If she is crazy znd deranged she gives out part of her cheque.

Let me dress back

Miami11:
If she is crazy znd deranged she gives out part of her cheque.

Her job z to be counting my money

So what is he giving her husband money for?

If it is to pay part of the bills, then there is nothing wrong. If the husband can give the wife money, why can't the wife give her husband money?

Depends on the purpose,if its important then there is nothing wrong with it......seriously which kind question be this?

MrHighSea:
Her job z to be counting my money

na xo

It depends tho. I won't give a lazy husband who's not ready to work up to half of my salary because he's definitely going to blow it up.

I think that money should go into a joint bank account created for the purpose of funding family/household projects - but I'm a single lady what do I know.

Three married women I know did this sort of thing on a regular basis, it led to their husbands becoming lazy and slacking off on responsibilities like paying school fees, house rent etcetera practically leaving those responsibilities to their wives to handle.

My only concern and fear is that your husband may go the way the men described above did. On the other hand another true life story of a married couple I know was different from the women above.

Tunde (not real name) was unemployed for seven years and all his attempts at business and finding a stable source of income wasn't yielding fruits. His wife (let's call her Kanwulia) on the other hand was gainfully employed and each time she received her salary she would give all of it to Tunde.

I figure she did this to honour Tunde as her husband and the head of the home. Tunde never took things for granted and always used the money wisely & prudently. No one ever knew the situation in that house for as long as it lasted not even their family & friends.

Today, Tunde & Kanwulia handle pre-marital counseling & classes at a certain church and they often share their story with intending couples.

You know your husband better than I do. Will he in the long run behave like Tunde or the other three husbands I mentioned?

A joint account thingy is what I would do in your shoes and since you earn more you can as well fund the account at a higher ratio than your husband with a caveat.

That caveat being that you are both signatories to the account and one person cannot withdraw funds without the knowledge & signature of the other. That way you are kept in the loop and aware of where your monies collectively as a couple is going to.

Nope. Either the whole "family money" is kept together and equally stewarded by Hub and Wifey or she keeps her checkssss

OP Explain pls.
Do you mean she shouldn't bear part of the financial responsibility of the home?

No! No! No! No! No!

It depends.


If he is responsible

Husband not boy friend oo

Hmm..

If she is contributing to the upkeep of the family I don't see an issue..

Irrespective my married colleague salary can take care of his home buh the wife still contributes her quota monthly thou he does not pick the cash from her..


Well, from my own perspective if u re a wealthy fellow, who won't even look at the coins ur wife earns..

Main reason my wealth must stink..

When i get married i will comment.

Not necessarily, except at a time he has an urgent need.

It's best if she uses that part to support the home, buy things that are needed for the home, without bothering the husband for money for Omo or bathing soap.

We are in 2015 not 1970


Its only a daft lady that does that

What's the big deal there. Though am working but my gf will bring her salary to me before taking out of it because she trusted me.

Don't let her c this thread o

Rukkydelta:
No! No! No! No! No!

Then be prepared to marry a ritualist..

No

Anything you know will bring misunderstanding in the future should be avoided in the present.

Use salary to do some house expenses but not giving it to mr husband. If he's a man with pride he won't even ask.

A little vague?

As to what end?

Note the kind of comments that will spring up on this thread, will better help clarify the kind of women we have naija

hhhhhhh

sihom:
I think that money should go into a joint bank account created for the purpose of funding family/household projects - but I'm a single lady what do I know.

Three married women I know of have done this sort of thing on a regular basis, it led to their husbands becoming lazy and slacking off on responsibilities like paying school fees, house rent etcetera practically leaving those responsibilities to their wives to handle.

My only concern and fear is that your husband may go the way the men described above did. On the other hand another true life story of a married couple I know was different from the women above.

Tunde (not real name) was unemployed for seven years and all his attempts at business/finding aa stable source of income wasn't yielding fruits. His wife (let's call her Kanwulia) on the other hand was gainfully employed and each time she received her salary she would give all of it to Tunde.

I figure she did this to honour him as her husband and the head of the home. Tunde never took things for granted and always used the money wisely & prudently. No one ever knew the situation in that house for as long as it lasted not even their family & friends.

The couple Tunde & Kanwulia handle pre-marital counseling & classes at a certain church and often share their story with intending couples.

You know your husband better than I do. Will he in the long run behave like Tunde or the other three husbands I mentioned?

A joint account thingy is what I would do in your shoes and since you earn more you can as well fund the account at a higher ratio than your husband with a caveat - that caveat being that you are both signatories to the account and one person cannot withdraw funds without the knowledge & signature of the other. That way you are kept in the loop and aware of where your monies collectively as a couple is going to.

It is dicey but then it depends on who he is. Money is nothing but it can change a lot of things.

What is that money for?