bronzegoddess:
I noticed d guys are d ones bashing u. When u say somthn dat they do not like, they resort to insults

lezz:
Moral of the story: A wise woman conquers are home and husband with wisdom, meekness and feminine power and grace.

Her husband didn't only loved her but cherished her as well.

arabianights:


Nairalanders are not criticizing her for her stands but the rude manner she presented it to the xtent of insulting the op's late aunt ? thats just too much.

daretodiffer:


I find the title and your post really insulting to women. You used the words 'mature and learn'. Do you assume that we are stupid or what? I do not understand what you are trying to achieve?

Did you try asking your aunty if she had any toasters and admirers after marriage? Ask her what stopped her? She is going to tell that she did and it was respect for her husband and their marriage that stopped her. But her husband does not the same respect for her and their marriage yet you will come tomorrow and insult a woman who cheats on her husband. Some men think that it is their birthright to cheat and he does not need to have respect for women. He goes ahead to do so and the world expects the woman to maturely deal with him. Yet you won't stop calling us petty or gold-diggers or less intelligent beings, How can you expect a specie with all that characteristics to be wiser and more mature than you are?


Why should women be wiser and more matured than man? I thought you were supposed to be the leader and the smarter one . Don't you think that the lack of those qualities make it unfit to be in a relationship not to mention lead a family?

The happy ending your uncle told you about rarely happen. You need to be mature to be able to learn that it is just a case out of many.


Moral of my rant:
Don't dish what you can take.
Respect is reciprocal
Every action has its unforeseen consequences

These apply to males and females. Treat people, most especially your partner the way you want to be treated. If they don't mind you treating them like garbage then good for you.

Missonas:

Oh I didnt see the insults jst saw d thread dis morning maybe she modified.Be that as it may the op should nt counter attack but instead let we ladies learn na.This is supposed to be an educative thread.Enjoy!

Chivasex:


Well scripted, but I must tell you that your so called rants are unfounded, baseless and heartless to say the least.
You need to be taught the cruel lessons of life and I bet its not far from you.
Its really true that these hoes ain't loyal

Chivasex:


Well scripted, but I must tell you that your so called rants are unfounded, baseless and heartless to say the least.
You need to be taught the cruel lessons of life and I bet its not far from you.
Its really true that these hoes ain't loyal

Chivasex:


Well scripted, but I must tell you that your so called rants are unfounded, baseless and heartless to say the least.
You need to be taught the cruel lessons of life and I bet its not far from you.
Its really true that these hoes ain't loyal

daretodiffer:


You are still stuck in the 12th century

In those days women had affairs too although they have be discreet. That should tell you the polygamous nature of women

Also, we have some vultures where women marry more than one man. Women were also wiling to please men at the expense of their own happiness. That shit ain't happening again

, you are welcome

somegirl1:
Nice read but your uncle only stopped because he wanted to.
Your aunt's response was mature but did not prompt the transformation.

PunkyVeer:


Leave him, yes. Whine, no. Life doesn't revolve around relationships. I'll find my fulfilment elsewhere. Find new hobbies, do a woman or two

bronzegoddess:



How did she insult her? She stated low self esteem abi na lie self esteem, and I totally agree. Only low self esteem can make a woman keep quiet like the aunt did. He said criticizing, u shld also criticize those insulting her for her comment too, don't forget to do so, mr critic.

dearestaramide:



some federal mugus will tell me nonsense that this is a script.Rubbish.
hope you learnt one thing or two

daretodiffer:
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They are pained now

It is an abomination for a woman to have an opinion

Kazrem:

If I should narrate how my then girlfriend now proudly my wife curbed that from me, it may take the whole day. Summarily, she caught me red handed but neither said anything concerning it until after we wedded and that was 2 years later. Today she is my one and only lady I truly love.

daretodiffer:


I find the title and your post really insulting to women. You used the words 'mature and learn'. Do you assume that we are stupid or what? I do not understand what you are trying to achieve?

Did you try asking your aunty if she had any toasters and admirers after marriage? Ask her what stopped her? She is going to tell that she did and it was respect for her husband and their marriage that stopped her. But her husband does not the same respect for her and their marriage yet you will come tomorrow and insult a woman who cheats on her husband. Some men think that it is their birthright to cheat and he does not need to have respect for women. He goes ahead to do so and the world expects the woman to maturely deal with him. Yet you won't stop calling us petty or gold-diggers or less intelligent beings, How can you expect a specie with all that characteristics to be wiser and more mature than you are?


Why should women be wiser and more matured than man? I thought you were supposed to be the leader and the smarter one . Don't you think that the lack of those qualities make it unfit to be in a relationship not to mention lead a family?

The happy ending your uncle told you about rarely happen. You need to be mature to be able to learn that it is just a case out of many.


Moral of my rant:
Don't dish what you can take.
Respect is reciprocal
Every action has its unforeseen consequences

These apply to males and females. Treat people, most especially your partner the way you want to be treated. If they don't mind you treating them like garbage then good for you.

frakdon:
yeah, it is when you beliefs that no one "darestodiFfer" hmmm*

Anyways, someone is trying to warn me, about my pending proposal of marrying you, what do you say on that? Because I am serious..

dearestaramide:
MY uncle and I love to have conversations on life, relationships, politics etc. Any way, we got into discussion on the high rate of divorce in Nigeria and he went on to express what he felt were cause of it. He emphasized on patience and forgiveness and went on to tell me of an experience that cured him of his player life style

Years ago, my uncle was like the average Nigerian man, that is of course womanizer but like the average man, he was smart not to flaunt it, though as women, we always can tell. His wife had always known and was always told by her over sabi friends but since she never caught him red handed, she couldn't do anything about it.

The constant late night calls, meetings, sudden travels increased her belief of what she already knew. what could she do? yes, as any average wife, she was in pains but still showed him love and made sure she was there for him any time he needed a friend to talk to. She never complained or cried to her family or friends but kept in all inside her. He respected her for this even though as he said, he was too addicted to women to stop, though he tried.

My uncle was called off for a conference which was to last for one week and as usual with out delay, he jetted off. A cousin of my aunt whom she had not seen for over two years then came to visit and but was staying in a hotel which was by all means high standard and very expensive. My aunt decided to visit her on a Saturday so as to stay longer and catch up on old times. My aunt as you suspected caught sight of her husband really romancing a woman in the pool area and as you know, the man was supposed to be in Port Harcourt and had presumably jetted off three days before. She calmly finished what took her to the hotel and went back home.


My aunt never showed her husband any difference and still treated him normal as usual but one day whilst he was in a very good mood and they were watching an interesting movie in their room, she calmly told him what she had seen THREE MONTHS EARLIER and asked him not to do it again as he had hurt her deeply.

That night, shame, shock, fear all kinds of thoughts but best of all respect clouded my uncle's thought. He did eventually stop but not immediately oooo. He said it was gradual but he eventually stopped.

MY aunt fell ill and died years later and my uncle was sooo heart broken. He is still single by the way.

WHAT I LEARNT

all men are the same only thing that differentiates them is fear of God and self control.
Women need to be wiser and more matured than men.
Never act immediately this enables you time to think and strategise
shouting doesn't change men but pushes them away

ilawanson44:


Eh! U'll do a woman or two? I hope it's not what I am thinking?

Missonas:

Oh I didnt see the insults jst saw d thread dis morning maybe she modified.Be that as it may the op should nt counter attack but instead let we ladies learn na.This is supposed to be an educative thread.Enjoy!

Kazrem:

If I should narrate how my then girlfriend now proudly my wife curbed that from me, it may take the whole day. Summarily, she caught me red handed but neither said anything concerning it until after we wedded and that was 2 years later. Today she is my one and only lady I truly love.

PunkyVeer:


Well, you're the one that insinuated all men suck

Mskrisx:





Boo boo I owe you an Xmas gift...God bless the day you were concieved.

arabianights:



is that the only insult you saw? ok .....have a good day.

daretodiffer:


I am not interested

daretodiffer:


Why don't you list all the insults?

God! You are such a hypocrite!

PunkyVeer:

Well, you're the one that insinuated all men suck

daretodiffer:


Sorry to say this but you have no right to quote me. How am I to know that the aunty is late?