ilawanson44:


I didn't. Just going by what most women say. But if you don't share the same notions with them, then it's super-cool

daretodiffer:

frakdon:
you got my mail?

PunkyVeer:


In your world, maybe.

Yeah, we all know how much he "cherished" her *eyeroll*

PunkyVeer:


I'm not reading the comments but I can make a guess off the top of my head that many are not down with a cheating hubby. Well, so am I. What's the point of being married if you can't even honour the vows you made (before God & others), promising to forsaken all others? Just remain single & sow your wild oats to your heart's content, without dragging someone else through your mess of course. Marriage is not by force. If you feel you aren't ready to put your mack ways behind you & SETTLE DOWN, then simply don't get married. Because like everything else, marriage has rules to abide by. End of story.

PunkyVeer:


My mail thingy is not working. I can't read or reply to messages. You know other alternatives.

daretodiffer:


I find the title and your post really insulting to women. You used the words 'mature and learn'. Do you assume that we are stupid or what? I do not understand what you are trying to achieve?

Did you try asking your aunty if she had any toasters and admirers after marriage? Ask her what stopped her? She is going to tell that she did and it was respect for her husband and their marriage that stopped her. But her husband does not the same respect for her and their marriage yet you will come tomorrow and insult a woman who cheats on her husband. Some men think that it is their birthright to cheat and he does not need to have respect for women. He goes ahead to do so and the world expects the woman to maturely deal with him. Yet you won't stop calling us petty or gold-diggers or less intelligent beings, How can you expect a specie with all that characteristics to be wiser and more mature than you are?


Why should women be wiser and more matured than man? I thought you were supposed to be the leader and the smarter one . Don't you think that the lack of those qualities make it unfit to be in a relationship not to mention lead a family?

The happy ending your uncle told you about rarely happen. You need to be mature to be able to learn that it is just a case out of many.


Moral of my rant:
Don't dish what you can take.
Respect is reciprocal
Every action has its unforeseen consequences

These apply to males and females. Treat people, most especially your partner the way you want to be treated. If they don't mind you treating them like garbage then good for you.

arabianights:




hmmmmmm.............................smh.last word for you[b],ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING[/b]

lezz:
I bet you would have had her raise the roof and dust, probably reacted in kind.


But she won in grand style.

daretodiffer:


Why don't you list all the insults?

God! You are such a hypocrite!

That is if she even gets married.

kinibigdeal:


I pity your man

Omotayor123:

Aminat508 come and read this!

Aminat508:
tayo love. Pele

ilawanson44:


You are absolutely right tho. What people fail to understand is that apart from the religious and emotional (love) aspect, marraige is like a convenant (ritual) which binds you to your spouse and demands loyalty. Like you truly said, if one is not ready to be that loyal, then stay off marraige

daretodiffer:


Yes, Attitude is everything.

You need to change yours. I pity your wife.

PunkyVeer:

Plain & simple.

frakdon:
please send a message to me on Facebook, thanks?

Coolabbie:
@dearestaramide, Ur aunt was a fôol and died a fôol. Go and teach this lesson to your mum so she can apply it when ur dad inevitably cheats on her.
Idiota.

PunkyVeer:


Ok. But maybe a little later though. I'm having network issues on my side.

daretodiffer:
Yes, Attitude is everything. You need to change yours. I pity your wife.

arabianights:




I have gone over the op\s write up several times and read in between the lines.how many women do you feel are living with cheating ,lying bastards?If every one was to walk out based on that then trust me,state of emergency on marriage would have been declared.

you and i both know that a very high percentage of marriages have a cheating partner much as the writter did not analyse,YOU MY FRIEND HAD NO RIGHT TO INSULT HIM.


you have gone ahead to prove to the whole world as the op stated, that you are ill mannered and frustrated and possibly depressed and of course very unhappy.JUST VIEW YOUR CHOICE OF WORDS<ABEG! for goodness sake ,if you wont repect your self then please respect we other readers.[/b]

daretodiffer:


I find the title and your post really insulting to women. You used the words 'mature and learn'. Do you assume that we are stupid or what? I do not understand what you are trying to achieve?

Did you try asking your aunty if she had any toasters and admirers after marriage? Ask her what stopped her? She is going to tell that she did and it was respect for her husband and their marriage that stopped her. But her husband does not the same respect for her and their marriage yet you will come tomorrow and insult a woman who cheats on her husband. Some men think that it is their birthright to cheat and he does not need to have respect for women. He goes ahead to do so and the world expects the woman to maturely deal with him. Yet you won't stop calling us petty or gold-diggers or less intelligent beings, How can you expect a specie with all that characteristics to be wiser and more mature than you are?


Why should women be wiser and more matured than man? I thought you were supposed to be the leader and the smarter one . Don't you think that the lack of those qualities make it unfit to be in a relationship not to mention lead a family?

The happy ending your uncle told you about rarely happen. You need to be mature to be able to learn that it is just a case out of many.


Moral of my rant:
Don't dish what you can take.
Respect is reciprocal
Every action has its unforeseen consequences

These apply to males and females. Treat people, most especially your partner the way you want to be treated. If they don't mind you treating them like garbage then good for you.

PunkyVeer:


No, that's too much energy spent on someone that doesn't deserve it. You calmly pack your shyt up & exit stage left.

I see no "grandness" in this, other than someone who spent miserable years as a human doormat, whilst not even being appreciated. God probably snatched her to save her from all the pain she endured being married to a playboy...since she didn't have the smarts to liberate herself. That's it

frakdon:
alright darling Punky, smiles*

daretodiffer:


I find the title and your post really insulting to women. You used the words 'mature and learn'. Do you assume that we are stupid or what? I do not understand what you are trying to achieve?

Did you try asking your aunty if she had any toasters and admirers after marriage? Ask her what stopped her? She is going to tell that she did and it was respect for her husband and their marriage that stopped her. But her husband does not the same respect for her and their marriage yet you will come tomorrow and insult a woman who cheats on her husband. Some men think that it is their birthright to cheat and he does not need to have respect for women. He goes ahead to do so and the world expects the woman to maturely deal with him. Yet you won't stop calling us petty or gold-diggers or less intelligent beings, How can you expect a specie with all that characteristics to be wiser and more mature than you are?


Why should women be wiser and more matured than man? I thought you were supposed to be the leader and the smarter one . Don't you think that the lack of those qualities make it unfit to be in a relationship not to mention lead a family?

The happy ending your uncle told you about rarely happen. You need to be mature to be able to learn that it is just a case out of many.


Moral of my rant:
Don't dish what you can take.
Respect is reciprocal
Every action has its unforeseen consequences

These apply to males and females. Treat people, most especially your partner the way you want to be treated. If they don't mind you treating them like garbage then good for you.

FuckYou:
well. I re read your post I skipped..u made lotta sense. Congrat.

trapQ:
God bless you abundantly, we need more minds like yours in Nigeria. A man cheats and they are asking the lady to "learn". Learn what?? We should be advising the men not to cheat than blaming the women for not handling their husband's cheating "maturely". African mentality is sour.

lezz:
Nicely opined. But your recommendation is more suitable for an ordinary romantic relationship, not marriage.

The bottom line is she won her husband over and conquered his lustful indiscretion while keeping her family safe and United.

That's a legacy to me.
I bet society would be marked by broken homes, insecure children and teen prostitutes and drug addicts if mommy decides that daddy isn't worth a fighting chance.



You modern women equate marriage with just any other romantic relationship. That woman was a hero.

And if her God took her, her crown will be the grandest amongst crowns. She was a soldier who never abandoned her mission.