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Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by franklingud(m): 11:27am On Oct 29, 2015 |
Durentt:B*tch, u should be the one in hell. Bloody lesbian. |
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by shay101: 11:28am On Oct 29, 2015 |
Hafyz23:Thanks |
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by Penboy: 11:29am On Oct 29, 2015 |
OP, if you love her; go ahead with the marriage plans. Sex is not too important in marriage. If you need to reproduce, then there are Assisted Reproductory Techniques (ART) that are available. [see your gyn] 1 Like |
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by femi4: 11:29am On Oct 29, 2015 |
PunkyVeer:That's why men are configured differently |
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by Nnemuka(f): 11:30am On Oct 29, 2015 |
Penboy:wt? You're joking right? How can a girl consciously agree to marry a man who cant satisfy her sexually? i mean a man that cant go two rounds sef? na so husband scarce? i cant marry a man that has never satisfied me in bed ooo no matter what. no good sex, no love. 4 Likes |
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by REALIKUKU: 11:30am On Oct 29, 2015 |
For wanting to have sex to a woman you are not legally married to makes you not qualified for my council. |
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by Nobody: 11:31am On Oct 29, 2015 |
franklingud:okay. 1 Like |
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by femi4: 11:32am On Oct 29, 2015 |
shay101:Marry the other lady that sustain your erection. Its very simple, your fiancee body is not SEX APPEAL |
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by harsysky(m): 11:32am On Oct 29, 2015 |
I think the Op is SCARED that the lady in question is gonna be his wife ,and wen the knot is tied finally, no more cheating and what so ever. Loosen urself or you're ain't ready yet for marriage. Maybe, you cud understand better when you part ways with this one and propose to anoda. |
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by ummahmat(m): 11:32am On Oct 29, 2015 |
is very good u let her go or you should investigate very well she may be ur sister 1 Like |
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by montees(m): 11:32am On Oct 29, 2015 |
shay101:you are joking |
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by Mayany(m): 11:33am On Oct 29, 2015 |
Sometimes a guy can respect/love a girl so much that he doesn't feel like making love with her until marriage out of respect,, but can make love with any other girl that look sexy and slutty. I also think your girl might be the career type that you are proud of her but maybe she doesn't talk dirty in order to turn you on, you can go ahead with your wedding plans but first let her know what turns you i believe your marriage with be cool#my opinion# 1 Like |
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by Kingbilo(m): 11:35am On Oct 29, 2015 |
PunkyVeer: Erm I hope you know getting an erection isn't just something you can turn on and off when you want.. because he gets one watching a music video doesn't make him a freak.. It's what he does with it from there that shld be judged |
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by Ekunn(m): 11:35am On Oct 29, 2015 |
Durentt:Smh!!...Think b4 u talk,Read well before conclusion!!!! He said sleeping with another "LADY" no problems..buh with the same gal issues occur...Pls "How is that an issue of sexuality? "smh 1 Like |
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by seangy4konji: 11:35am On Oct 29, 2015 |
Ur head is valid. I had an experience once with one fine girl. Any time I was about to penetrate,it will be as if some one closed the door.my thing goes down. While fingering to get up. It will open again. I gave up dat day only to ask another nigga I knew was wit her some months back and nigga said same happen to him. She has a problem and she might not know her self. buzquet: 1 Like |
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by Franzinni: 11:37am On Oct 29, 2015 |
Gerarahiaa you just looking for attention OP |
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by ElFenomeno1: 11:37am On Oct 29, 2015 |
shay101: You are seeking help in the wrong quarters! You are in deep sh*t!!!! |
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by Nobody: 11:38am On Oct 29, 2015 |
you are not sexually attracted to her. shay101: |
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by Nobody: 11:38am On Oct 29, 2015 |
Ekunn:fvckk off. Scumbags, make una free me na. Na crime to comment? 1 Like |
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by Nobody: 11:39am On Oct 29, 2015 |
fimzzy1991:Please leave bible out of this. |
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 11:41am On Oct 29, 2015 |
I think u should dicuss with her about it if u haven't and if she says she can manage u fine that's if u can manage urself too, but if u too cannot manage urselves, then it will be better u end ur relationship amicably. Sex is very important oo, it something to joke with when it comes to marriage. wait oo, how what do singles know about sexin marriage to even begin with? |
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by Okeyson4wisdom(m): 11:41am On Oct 29, 2015 |
colp2015:thank u for advising the guy at the top anyway am in a happy mood coz today is my birthday pls hit like as much as u can for me. God bless u. 2 Likes |
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by Penboy: 11:42am On Oct 29, 2015 |
Nnemuka: lolz, i see! However, medically speaking, there are hormones/libido inhibitant drugs that suppress the desire to want sex. So if those drugs could be prescribed to you or the op's fiancee, then you won't bother looking for a husband to satisfy you sexually because the urge wont be there. #NoStress! 1 Like |
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by derato: 11:45am On Oct 29, 2015 |
Don't touch her anymore or try to have Sex wi th her, if ure convinced in ur heart dat uve made the right choice, go ahead n marry her n pray about it.deres nothing God cannot do.He will surely see you tru, after all Sex before marriage isn't good.. 2 Likes |
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by Guyman02: 11:46am On Oct 29, 2015 |
First of all it is anxiety which arises probably because of your fiancees disposition towards sex, if you remember or she sometimes says things like 'I dont think what we are doing is right, remember what the Pastor or Imam said about premarital sex'; that moment the desire starts dropping. Also, the act is not spontaneous between the two of you as you may sometimes spend time pleading with her to allow you to do it and her resistance starts affecting your urge and can make your 'attention' (you be soldier?) not to last long. You lasted long with your control specimen because there were no inhibitions, she didnt make you feel any sense of guilt and she posted no resistance to your advances and you didnt think you may hurt her if you quit the relationship like you do with your fiancee when you ask yourself 'are we sexually compatible' which increases your anxiety and can affect the longevity of your 'attention' lol!. It is really a thing of the mind, you should refrain from thinking that it is an exam that you must pass to a certain grade and try to outdo yourself. Just relax and spend extra time playing and laughing like engaging in gentle mock wrestling and pillow fights, the playful body contacts reduces the tension and makes sex seem like a natural thing and not a routine exercise. If you want sex with her let it not start from your bedroom but should be planned out from the morning when you get to work. Try calling her and talking 'softly and romantically dirty' before you get home, playfully squeeze her bum when she is busy in the kitchen as if by mistake to send the message without saying it out this will increase the urge in both of you and not the 'wam bam thank you madam stuff'. The upbringing of the girl also matters here, if you feel she has respect for herself and is not a slut, you may have the feeling of becoming over protective of her and her emotions and your attempt to also try to respect her wish sometimes as a good girl can have its effects on sex between you as you then see yourself as the one pushing her against her wish compared to your control specimen whom you did it with without any feeling of inhibition. You are about marrying her because there is an inherent quality she has that goes beyond sex and that is where you should focus your attention, friendship is very important in marriage and as long as you get 'attention' your reproductive life is covered and the matter of the kind of sex you have with her now should not stop you from going ahead to marry her. She is active but sexually docile probably from inexperience and under exposure (which is to your advantage) which can be improved as you go along and the relationship waxes stronger. Warning: This is not for boyfriend and girlfriends to practice but for serious couples as I dont encourage premarital sex. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by Ursino(f): 11:46am On Oct 29, 2015 |
Marriage is not easy ooo, Bros. The major reason for marriage is for companionship and satisfaction (sexually and otherwise). If you can't CONSUMMATE your marriage with this woman (after your wedding night, though), the marriage can be nullified at any point. Have you discussed it with her? What has been her reactions on those days you mount her and can't live up to expectations? Well, if she doesn't give a hoot,I think you should, and more so now! Though some people might say it's spiritual, I strongly believe is more psychological. Change your adrenaline concentration, by trying not to panic before making love to her. It's important you relax. I don't support pre-marital sex, but there are some exceptional cases that need exceptional approach. If you can't still achieve a complete cycle while in her, I suggest you call off the wedding plans. No marriage survives without satisfying sex. It is your right, it is her right. And stop moving from Angelina to Angela. The solution lies within you. Don't forget to seek the face of God before you take the final decisions. It is key! Best regards 3 Likes |
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by shay101: 11:48am On Oct 29, 2015 |
Mayany:I feel like you've really said it 2 Likes |
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by cbliss(m): 11:50am On Oct 29, 2015 |
Is it just me or what I find it odd and kinda weird that she is even down with gettn hitched with u seeing as u can't get an attention with her..... 1 Like |
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by shay101: 11:51am On Oct 29, 2015 |
Franzinni:You think everyone is like you? Did u see OP ranting about making front page like most of you do? 2 Likes |
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by 9jatatafo(m): 11:51am On Oct 29, 2015 |
Did you ever expel your love juice in those period you had sex with her? I am asking this so that making her pregnant won't be a problem. Though it is a dangerous thing for bros not to stand up at attention when it is time for action |
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by Nobody: 11:56am On Oct 29, 2015 |
Kingbilo: I didn't call him a freak. I said "freaky". There's a difference. Anyway I don't care, whatever gets him hard. |
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by Franzinni: 11:56am On Oct 29, 2015 |
shay101:trap wey don catch bush pig! Now look here young man, I was saying that as a joke. The op kept saying he couldn't get attention instead of erectionnnn( dem dey change wettin I write sshhA ).... Gosh some people can't chill out ... But I give it to you for bringing your nukes to a fist fight tho..... You do well sir, but I no been dey find trouble o I just wanna help him get his attention ... |
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