I've been dating this guy for six years and he does't talk about settling down. ive put pressure on him; and discovered he's just a mummy's boy who is so dependent on the family and scared of leaving them. I decided to move on, met someone else who has all a woman wants in a man. kind, caring, listener, goal getter, independent, matured in mind and capable of making decisions. we fell in love and he's started discussing our future together.We've dated for just two months and it's like we've known each other all our lives... no pretense, just real and open. the mum wants him to get a wife as he's the first son. he feels i'm the only gurl that understands him, he's told the mum; who is in the east about me.

the bad news is.. we both went for a medical test and found out we are both AS.. i'm 31 please what do i do...been crying my heart out

Save yourself of the agony of baring and nurturing a sickle cell anaemic child.
Better you cry now and enjoy a pain free futire my dear.

never loose hope my dear,your husband is on the way

Wooooooooh. Speechless. My little advice. Take it to God in prayers. There's Notin He can't fix

Abeg marry the dude if you wanna. Can adopt a child or risk bearing one child firstt. Cus u guys are a AS doesn't mean u can't have healthy kids.

damn!! Both As!

Anyways...My Mom n Dad are Both AS tho... They kinda wasn't aware of the Risks back then...They were All teenagers in Love...Buh God being Faithful and all....his kids Are Both AA's.... *Me and my bro*?

I'm nuh saying You should jump into the marriage tho...Just saying, sometimes you could be lucky... Anyways...Good luck!

I'm sure God would find a way...somehow...maybe y'all Ain't just made to be together...

Life's A Biatch.....

The is a probability when it comes to gene manipulations and expressions. The test does not mean you must give birth to an SS but it is wise to be on a safer side.

Mummy's boy
I've dated one of those before.

Personally, if I ever get to fall in love with someone who doesn't match me medically, I'll still go ahead and be with him and forget about kids.
Adoption is always an option.
Even if I eventually get kids of my own in the future, I'll still adopt a child.

I know that you'll still want to have kids of your own. Just talk to him and you guys should come to a conclusion about what you'll do.
BTW, I heard there's a permanent cure for Sickle cell patients

Speechless, I feel your pain !!!

If you can afford a bone marrow transplant, by all means carry on and marry him. Current breakthrough in science tells us this is now very possible.

If you can afford the emotional strain and unbearable pain that comes with seeing your children enduring a crisis, looking them in the eyes and seeing their question "Why are u and daddy making me go through this?" mingled with a pain that cataflam cannot mask, and having to always live in fear of their death, by all means marry him. You have 1 in 4 chances of having a sickle cell child, with another 2 unable to marry whoever they would love to because they are hybrid carriers, naturally resistant to malaria (if you happen to give birth to 4 offspring)

If you have a faith as small as a mustard seed, potent enough to provoke the Hand of the Ghost of All that is Holy to alter the natural order of the genotype of your children, by all means marry him. In this lifetime I have two friends who's genotypes were altered because they believed the Power of and that is God cannot squat with the genetical evolutionary mishap that is sickle cell, and niw their blood type is AA. I say this not to lie, but to shamelessly promote the ideology that what you believe works for you...

So my dear, make your choice, its really about what you can afford and accept as your solution to your challenge.

But if you lack the resources to afford any of the afore mentioned, may I humbly suggest you call it quits and wait for someone you are compatible with.

But whatever u do marry a man and not a child, you deserve better as a lady.

I believe you know what to do.

If you need a confirmation from nairaland then I confirm that you walk away.

Face the reality today, don't postpone the evil day because it will surely come.

This experience will be a pain for a short time.

My Sister your story is a painful one. I will advice you not to continue with the marriage as it is very risky. According to genetics if you have 4 children the last one will be an SS patient. Please do not continue with the marriage. Don't risk your life and happiness as it us not worth it.

u could take d risk at u neva know what life has in stock;there is a probability dat all ur children may b AS or d other way round;life is all about risk

IamBae:
Mummy's boy
I've dated one of those before.

Personally, if I ever get to fall in love with someone who doesn't match me medically, I'll still go ahead and be with him and forget about kids.
Adoption is always an option.
Even if I eventually get kids of my own in the future, I'll still adopt a child.

I know that you'll still want to have kids of your own. Just talk to him and you guys should come to a conclusion about what you'll do.
BTW, I heard there's a permanent cure for Sickle cell patients

why are you doing this?

darlingtonVII:
why are you doing this?

Doing what?

I really thank you all for your warm advise. really appreciate. ive accepted my faith and choose to let go; but the tears wouldn't stop running. He in turn wouldn't want to let go, it keeps making me feel that God has a reason for bringing us together..

affigurl5:
I really thank you all for your warm advise. really appreciate. ive accepted my faith and choose to let go; but the tears wouldn't stop running. He in turn wouldn't want to let go, it keeps making me feel that God has a reason for bringing us together..

Please my sister since you have decided to let go do not allow anything to make you change your decision. God brought you together so that you will feel love but not to get married as it is very risky.

Anyss:
Wooooooooh. Speechless. My little advice. Take it to God in prayers. There's Notin He can't fix

hmmmm.. see d way I take dey look u..



instead of advising her to take heart and look for some else who will be compactable with her and AA., u are here talking about prayers..Ok perform d miracle to change AS to AA...

Fourwinds:
hmmmm.. see d way I take dey look u..



instead of advising her to take heart and look for some else who will be compactable with her and AA., u are here talking about prayers..Ok perform d miracle to change AS to AA...

Heheheh. Whr u c me Wey u day look me? So telling ha to take heart is beta Dan advising her to talk to God? Ahcantbuhlivdis

Thanks dear.

boxer022:
Please my sister since you have decided to let go do not allow anything to make you change your decision. God brought you together so that you will feel love but not to get married as it is very risky.

thanks dear.