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| The truth about friendzone by Nobody: 9:52pm On Nov 01, 2015 |
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| Re: The truth about friendzone by Nobody: 9:59pm On Nov 01, 2015 |
Let’s get to the main: The truth about friendzoning is that, it exist and it doesn’t exist. It exist because almost every guy has experienced it and it doesn’t exist because sometimes being in the friendzone isn’t such a bad thing. We live in a society where there is intense gender role. The males are expected to be assertive , strong, and actively initiating. Every other males who aren’t assertive or initiating enough get friendzoned by the ladies he is romantically interested in. The truth is that, women don’t have it in mind to friendzone you right from the start, in fact they don’t even know what they want with you, right from the start. Women don’t really know what they want. You as the guy, would determine where you want to be in a woman’s life at the early stage by acting accordingly and she would have to decide whether she wants that with you or not(chances of her wanting what you want is high). Women don’t decide who they want by thinking or being rational, they decide by how you make them feel. If you make them feel at ease and comfortable and happy and light headed and friendly chit-chat etc, then they will start loving you as a friend, because that’s how you make them feel and that’s what they are giving you; friendship. But even if you make them feel uneasy, uncomfortable, being risky with them, being confident, being carefree with them, though they could feel the romantic attractions to you but if you don’t tell them what you want is romantic relationship, they will just assume that’s how you are and nothing is ever going to happen. A woman can hardly ever bring herself into a romantic relationship with you if you don’t tell her that’s what you want, no matter what you do, no matter how attractive she finds you, except she is a cheerful giver, who gives without being asked, and don’t expect to find such women everywhere. My point is this: A woman NEVER knows what she wants with you at the beginning of your interactions with her, the only things she knows is how you make her feel and what you tell her you want from her. So you have to be upfront and straightforward with her, show your self confidence and don’t be scared of rejection, because being rejected is far far better than being “friendzoned”, and don’t just go ahead to tell her your intentions right away, make sure at least you guys are getting along; but the moment she becomes too comfortable with you and starts doing things she does to her ” buddies” to you, then it would come as a shock to her when you tell her your intention, and then she tells you she is confused because she is now beginning to see you as a good friend with no intention of romance. So be quick with making your intentions known once you guys are getting along, because then she hasn’t really decided what she wants with you, so you are filling in the gap of a romantic relationship with her earlier before she puts you in her list of buddies. It sounds crazy, I know, men already know if they want to be romantically involved with a woman at first sight, but that isn’t always the case with women, except you are a rich and famous guy that every girl is dying for, then you don’t need to be reading this. You can’t really blame them for being that way, its the way their brain has been wired. 1 Like |
| Re: The truth about friendzone by Nobody: 9:59pm On Nov 01, 2015 |
Let me tell you a story, a Facebook friend of mine added me on BBM, although we don’t know each other in real life nor have we meet before, so we started chatting, after I saw her picture, I decided I was going to date her, we were really getting along , and on the third day I told her my intention, that I would like a romantic relationship with her, she was shocked because I was so fast , and it was really soon. This was what I did because I know women don’t know what they want and they make decisions based on how they feel, I made her feel that there was nothing unusual about it by telling her reasons why I like her that way. She ended up deciding to date me, even though we have never met, even though she has never dated a guy without being friends with him(she told me) , even though she knows close to nothing about me, even though I didn’t really “work” to get her, she still accepted to date me despite the fact that some guys have been disturbing her for months to date her. Why did it happen like that? Because I was fast and straightforward, I wasn’t scared of rejection, I was ready for anything, and I didn’t care if she says no(of course you won’t tell her this, lol), and this she found attractive because it shows how confident I was and she was likely to say yes, considering the fact that I made it clear, what I wanted and I wasn’t ready to settle for anything less; which I also made clear. You see? It isn’t that difficult. Just be confident and know what you want, let them know what you want, say it, be straight forward and direct, be assertive , be the initiating one, be fast, don’t wait for weeks. That’s what society demands. That’s how their brain has been wired, they only go for a guy who knows what he wants and isn’t scared to say it and act it, and a guy that won’t settle for anything less(just friends), if that isn’t what he wants. Don’t play games and don’t let them play you. Let’s now talk about the good side of friendzone. Friendzoning is never good if you are sexually/romantically attracted to the woman, quit the friendship if its affecting you please. It’s only good when you are not sexually/romantically attracted to the woman, this way, it is easier for you and you have nothing to loss. You both would benefit a lot from such relationships. She can hook you up with babes, she can help you find out about any girl you like. She can even help you make a good impression on any girl you like by gossiping good about you to the girl or praising you in the girl’s presence, the benefits are endless. But don’t ever ask a third party to ask a girl out for you, it shows you don’t have a backbone, and no woman would find such a man attractive. Always go after her yourself, and let her reject you if she wants you. Don’t take it personal , it has nothing to do with you but with her. There would always be a better girl out there, don’t stop, keep trying. Enjoy life and don’t be put down by any event. 4 Likes |
| Re: The truth about friendzone by Nobody: 10:00pm On Nov 01, 2015 |
Just a minute pls |
| Re: The truth about friendzone by redvektor(m): 10:52pm On Nov 01, 2015 |
hmmmmmm u try this an eye opener what will u say about a girl u have never asked out but she keep treating u like her guy thou we are friends she do the calling d most she always find the time to see me any time I need her she even sometimes assist me financially but I have never told her I like or want to date her what do I do note I be sharp guy but in this case I just day dull |
| Re: The truth about friendzone by Nobody: 11:56pm On Nov 01, 2015 |
redvektor: The girl obviously likes you, but you never can tell if it's romantic or platonic like. You just have to ask her out, and if she says no, decide if you want to remain just friends with her without hoping to get romantic with her in future, cos it hardly ever happens that way  1 Like |
| Re: The truth about friendzone by Nobody: 9:36pm On Nov 02, 2015 |
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| Re: The truth about friendzone by NarnieSnyper(m): 10:07pm On Nov 02, 2015 |
God, i'd rather be in sambisa zone(war zone) than to be friendzoned. Tufiakwa! Karashika of friendzone fall and die oo imagine my sweetest crush just telling me i'm just a 'friend'. God forbid |
| Re: The truth about friendzone by Nobody: 10:13pm On Nov 02, 2015 |
the subject of friendzone, eh . . . |
| Re: The truth about friendzone by Nobody: 11:08pm On Nov 02, 2015 |
NarnieSnyper: Lol. Its understandable. Funny enough gals get friendzoned too. I friendzone gals that are not endowed in the physical features from afar even before getting to meet them. |
| Re: The truth about friendzone by IamLEGEND1: 11:27pm On Nov 02, 2015 |
friend zone |
| Re: The truth about friendzone by NarnieSnyper(m): 7:14pm On Nov 03, 2015 |
Dapo777: Haha! But u knw there are some endowed girls u just dont feel anything for: some are just meant to be ur friend naturally, no strings or whatever attached |
| Re: The truth about friendzone by Nobody: 9:18pm On Nov 03, 2015 |
NarnieSnyper: It's a lie, I can never willingly friendzone a gal that is endowed, except she has a boyfriend and she is loyal to the core. I don't even make friends with such gals , I would be torturing myself. I only make friends with gals that are flat assed and flat chested. No woman would be loaded that I won't feel anything for, except she is an old woman, or those food sellers.  1 Like |
| Re: The truth about friendzone by ambassadorgozie(m): 12:01am On Nov 04, 2015 |
OP thumbs up U nailed it! I can never allow one bitch to friendzone me, I dey mad! There are many fishes in d water jare 1 Like |
| Re: The truth about friendzone by Nobody: 2:57am On Nov 04, 2015 |
ambassadorgozie:  That's the way bro. If I am gonna be Ur friend, it would be from my own initial intension. I shouldn't expect anything romantic from a female friend, they shouldn't expect any friendship from me either. That's a fair exchange. Males and females aren't just meant to be friends, except there is no sexual attraction between any of them. |
| Re: The truth about friendzone by NarnieSnyper(m): 3:04pm On Nov 04, 2015 |
Dapo777: Dude, ur case dey altar call  no be me go solve ur case.As for me, i'v friendzoned a very pretty and 'ok' in physique girl, my friends were casting me but i just ddnt feel anything for her, and i cnt force my self either |
| Re: The truth about friendzone by Nobody: 11:06pm On Nov 04, 2015 |
NarnieSnyper: Heyaaa sorry  |
| Re: The truth about friendzone by stanvesco(m): 1:03am On Nov 05, 2015 |
frndzone kor french zone ni,
i so fancy dat zone,its a cool spot to transit to frnds wid benefit.
Dm go chi chum chin.
#spits on any1 tinking of friendzoning me# |
| Re: The truth about friendzone by Nobody: 6:03am On Nov 05, 2015 |
Lu BBi Sh |
| Re: The truth about friendzone by Nobody: 1:45am On Nov 25, 2015 |
| Re: The truth about friendzone by Nobody: 4:14am On Nov 25, 2015 |
STFUareyouGod:confam! |
| Re: The truth about friendzone by Nobody: 1:51pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
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