Sparkles003:

uncultured mannerless rude child

u dnt like me being straightforward abi?
I'm nt here to play wt any1's heart

Hello guys/ladies. Just came across this post and am loving it already. I will like to connect with beautiful and intelligent ladies for friendship/relationship. Will also like to meet the male folk to share business ideas, experiences. Am Ola, male and am based in IB.

klassic:
I posit we get another group, E.g whatapp or bbm group werein we can do as you have postulated without hindrance in any form whatsoever. This thread is too public for such.

seconded

Gdmrn fine nairalanders and parliamentarians of 30plus and single,
Its a rainy Monday, but I do wish everyone a happy new month! As rain starts the first working day of this month, may showers of blessing fall for u this entire 30 days.
Toks, how was Ur weekend? Too many friends, brothers and sisters here. Even the derailers, how are u all? And all of u who come here to vent, dont worry, I understand u. U can't vent on Ur folks, u can't vent on Ur boss, u can't vent on that olopa who slapped u for cutting into his lane, so u came in here to vent. I understand and I forgive u, but after getting that load off Ur chest, dont forget to come back in 24hrs to apologise,
So...
Megn, ur 29. Return next year ooo. Just take a seat somewhere and read quietly. I'll be back with refreshments.
Zelexotunla...up you. Nothing do u jare. Anybody that wants to try u, will stumble and fall.
Young03.... Stop the thing before I come after u with my famous pankere. Megn, they say, let the buyer beware.
For chalesamino, tobman, klassic and everyone else, there is a thriving chat for those who want serious relationships that can lead to marriage. The men and women in the chat have passed thru an initial screening, and are regularly screened to prune out the wolves from the sheep in true Buhari style. So far, God has been faithful. The number remains 08180632132.
I deeply apologise to the men and women who requested but cudnt be added, for one reason or the other. I will only say this. If u want gold, then dont be a panda. Let him that has an ear....
Udy, u will not miss Ur true bone. And every fake one, Holy Ghost will jam them before they jam u.
Bolliejay, special welcome.
Nouvelle, sending u a hot cup of choc on this rainy day.
Much love.
Remember, be kind to someone today. Do something nice to someone who is powerless to repay u. Dont find trouble, may trouble not find u.
Whatever has been programmed to make u cry, is cancelled from Ur life. This is Ur month of unstoppable testimonies. Uve been hearing other people's good news. Its time for Ur own good news to be heard.
Your time has come!

nouvelle:
@udysweet, or maybe udysweetest I am good, you keep giving me a shout out, I am touched. How was the Sapele wedding, I hope you had a nice time, hope you didn't get to drink some of the famous 'Sapele Water'.

I have been on the sideline as usual, viewing everything on the down low

Welcome to all the new members, tobmar, megn and any other person I didn't mention. toks2008 will be here shortly to advice you'all to deactivate your ghost mode by that he means you should say a bit about yourself: sex, if it's not showing on your moniker, age and anything else you feel like saying then putting up your picture for maybe 10mins so people can meet you.

Shout out to toks2008, gratefulme40, sparkles003, @klassic: strangely, the thingy about the date of birth didn't work for my personality, where is joebeckz , I am also shouting out to all others I didn't mention.

It's November and I'm grateful to God for the new month, new possibilities. Did we all make it to church? For us, we are in the process of finding a new church that works for both of us, we tried a new one last week, it was lovely, we went back to the normal one today. We may try another next week or stick with the new. I love possibilities. Have a sweet November everyone and a lovely week

Anyone needs me, i'm chilling on the bleachers Ma'am Siamia, no refreshment yet o

Am here o my dear. Happy new month jareh.

When you say put up pics for 10mins,and let's see you,I presume ur jus d only one online then to view. Not every follower of this thread wld be available on the thread then to see the person. I trust you to come up a diffrent option to enable every one be carried along. Dat for "10mins" no work for me and for many odas(not like I look up pple's profiles sha wen dey join,and if and wen I want to,I fit log in wen d 10mins don elapse jare)

Toks2008:




Tobmar and megn i welcome both of you and nice cool pics you have megn and you look so calm and Tobmar please make we see your face for at least 10mins

@nouvelle,tnx a lot ma,my head is swelling o. Dis one ur always at d #observation corner,hahahaha.
@siamia,Amen to the prayers.
@Toks2008,oga at d top,awon olori oko bambam,twale for u sir!wait sef why I com dey hail u so,looool!
@the rest,mak una pardon me. I'll use a laptop one day,stat from page one and take note of names here so I can call each by names,so for now I'm grouping all,lol.
To the new entrants,welcome to the group*kisses*

udysweet:
@nouvelle,tnx a lot ma,my head is swelling o. Dis one ur always at d #observation corner,hahahaha.
@siamia,Amen to the prayers.
@Toks2008,oga at d top,awon olori oko bambam,twale for u sir!wait sef why I com dey hail u so,looool!
@the rest,mak una pardon me. I'll use a laptop one day,stat from page one and take note of names here so I can call each by names,so for now I'm grouping all,lol.
To the new entrants,welcome to the group*kisses*

lwkmd! Uduak walahi you don lost for lagos finish as you dey hail fore yoruba language.

Anyways how you dey?

My people in the house how life?

Yes i know we all can't really view the pics but maybe new comers should make it a culture to load their pics that day they join and leave it throughout that day so that we will have a fixed time to come in here to take a sneak peak on the new dudes and damsels in the house..Just thinking loud sha...

Honestly there is no new people can really develop close friendship here with facelessness.

Toks2008:


Though i dont know the OPs take on this but a lady above 25 can partake BY REGISTERING HER PRESENCE by introducing herself and the reason is because in my opinion,a 26yr old lady is matured enough to be a mrs but even 29yr old guy is not even welcomed cos in most cases,even a guy at 30 these days is not even sure he is old enough for marriage.

So as i opined,any lady below 25 is a big No but i still wait for the OP to have a final say on this.

Don't you think it is unfair to the OP and other posters to keep dropping the age requirement without consent? If you believe a 25 year old is fit for marriage why then Oga someone younger not fit?
Just my opinion though.

torqque7:

Be 30years and above and serious minded about what you want(serious relationship)

Ok then i am eligible

GboyegaD:


Don't you think it is unfair to the OP and other posters to keep dropping the age requirement without consent? If you believe a 25 year old is fit for marriage why then Oga someone younger not fit?
Just my opinion though.

A thread for 30plus male and 26plus female singles was what i clamoured for because i felt it will balance up as guys of 30plus and ladies of 26plus who are single will be more poised to mngle and interact with a salient purpose of closer union.


Nevertheless,we have been through this and have decided to maintain a status quo.

Hmmmm. nice thread we got here. I say goodevening to everyone on this thread.

Well, I just feel we should discuss some causes of being single at 30s and 40s.

I will blame our economy as the major problem, most guys and ladies wish to marry at least by age 25. but, how do explain that even at age 38yrs and through with school, yet, we can't a land a job. who wants to be a burden? and, who wants to accept a burden?

Truth be told, the rich guys in this country are mostly men in their 50s and 60s.

That all said, does it mean we should now fold our hands and watch the problem of this country hinder us? No..!!!


Let's face reality, we guys and ladies should know is time we come together and help each other. Gone are those days of waiting for one rich man or waiting for one gal from a rich home. Face it, the rich gets married to themselves.


If as a man you have an income of atleast 50k, ( which is the starting salary most coy pays now sef). then, go ahead and marry, if you have found that special person. But, please, let your partner be earning too. Even if its small, it will be needed in the family.

All every couple needs is planning. If a couple is on income of 80k monthly for eg, believe me, hunger won't kill them. they will be comfortable.they should decide to have just a kid for that moment on that income of 80k. not more than a kid oooo. until sometin better and bigger comes. All we need in this life of relationship is planning and understanding. and, not all the whole wealth in this world to settle down.


Abeg, I Don talk my own. another person should drop his own observation and what he/she thinks is the solution.

*drops mic*
*Let me continue eating my rice*

@miss bronze,make you nor chop the rice finish ooooooooooo

I'm intereted in ds group o. Pls how can I join?

nicerod:
u dnt like me being straightforward abi?
I'm nt here to play wt any1's heart

You shouldn't be here in the first place.cos you definately need to go learn how to coordinate your speech.

Melsan:
@miss bronze,make you nor chop the rice finish ooooooooooo

Lol.


Longer Longer throat.

I won't give you.

Sparkles003:

You shouldn't be here in the first place.cos you definately need to go learn how to coordinate your speech.

if u cant teach me hw to coordinate that means we'r on d same level

missbronze:
Lol.


Longer Longer throat.

I won't give you.

Sweerie you won't gimme rice too?

There is the silent majority.

stinggy:

Sweerie you won't gimme rice too?

Hmmmmm. where have you been? Run away bf.

@miss bronze...selling fish you

missbronze:
Hmmmmm. where have you been? Run away bf.

I've always been in your trouser

Long time, how have you been?

missbronze:
Hmmmm. nice thread we got here. I say goodevening to everyone on this thread.

Well, I just feel we should discuss some causes of being single at 30s and 40s.

I will blame our economy as the major problem, most guys and ladies wish to marry at least by age 25. but, how do explain that even at age 38yrs and through with school, yet, we can't a land a job. who wants to be a burden? and, who wants to accept a burden?

Truth be told, the rich guys in this country are mostly men in their 50s and 60s.

That all said, does it mean we should now fold our hands and watch the problem of this country hinder us? No..!!!


Let's face reality, we guys and ladies should know is time we come together and help each other. Gone are those days of waiting for one rich man or waiting for one gal from a rich home. Face it, the rich gets married to themselves.


If as a man you have an income of atleast 50k, ( which is the starting salary most coy pays now sef). then, go ahead and marry, if you have found that special person. But, please, let your partner be earning too. Even if its small, it will be needed in the family.

All every couple needs is planning. If a couple is on income of 80k monthly for eg, believe me, hunger won't kill them. they will be comfortable.they should decide to have just a kid for that moment on that income of 80k. not more than a kid oooo. until sometin better and bigger comes. All we need in this life of relationship is planning and understanding. and, not all the whole wealth in this world to settle down.


Abeg, I Don talk my own. another person should drop his own observation and what he/she thinks is the solution.

*drops mic*
*Let me continue eating my rice*

You have said it all and there is nothing else to add.

Even me, im so scared marrying a lady that does not have anything doing even when im ready to help out,there is still this fear that she may want more than i can afford for now..

I was in a relationship with a lady that despite establishing her in business i was still giving her 5k weekly to but sweets asides from taking care of her other financial neds but all i always hear is "how much are you giving me?" i know how much my mates are getting from guys out there..Infact i virtually pay my tithe to her monthly yet i no do well so im so pissed right now and if i must ever be with a Nigerian lady, she must be earning reasonable money and not that i ned a kobo of her money and not that i will expext her to spend her money on the homefront or even herself but at least i will have peace of mind that she is making something.

I really fear for Nigerian spinsters.https://www.nairaland.com/2678781/great-fear-many-nigeria-spinsters

Good night everyone.

missbronze:
Hmmmm. nice thread we got here. I say goodevening to everyone on this thread.

Well, I just feel we should discuss some causes of being single at 30s and 40s.

I will blame our economy as the major problem, most guys and ladies wish to marry at least by age 25. but, how do explain that even at age 38yrs and through with school, yet, we can't a land a job. who wants to be a burden? and, who wants to accept a burden?

Truth be told, the rich guys in this country are mostly men in their 50s and 60s.

That all said, does it mean we should now fold our hands and watch the problem of this country hinder us? No..!!!


Let's face reality, we guys and ladies should know is time we come together and help each other. Gone are those days of waiting for one rich man or waiting for one gal from a rich home. Face it, the rich gets married to themselves.


If as a man you have an income of atleast 50k, ( which is the starting salary most coy pays now sef). then, go ahead and marry, if you have found that special person. But, please, let your partner be earning too. Even if its small, it will be needed in the family.

All every couple needs is planning. If a couple is on income of 80k monthly for eg, believe me, hunger won't kill them. they will be comfortable.they should decide to have just a kid for that moment on that income of 80k. not more than a kid oooo. until sometin better and bigger comes. All we need in this life of relationship is planning and understanding. and, not all the whole wealth in this world to settle down.


Abeg, I Don talk my own. another person should drop his own observation and what he/she thinks is the solution.

*drops mic*
*Let me continue eating my rice*

Just created a thread with this..

Sorry i did not ask for your permission but i see this as too good to be kept just on this thread.
https://www.nairaland.com/2708990/wonderful-advice-female-nairalander-nigerian

You're really celebral. Just the kind of female I did like to have. First in this section. I actually read up to here because of your posts . . . Well done.
You asked why older women discriminate against younger men, I'll gist you a bit about my personal experience and hopefully you may understand.

Early last year (2014) at 32, I attempted to date a guy 5 years younger than me - first time ever I would attempt such a feat. The experience was for the most part an unpleasant & annoying one.

Daniel ( not his real name) wanted sex practically all the time and he had this obnoxious habit of calling incessantly at all hours of the day - common like who does that?

He would call at 5 am on his way to work - when I was either having my quiet time with Heaven, working out or just trying to wrap my mind and head around a new day. He would call during working hours when I was seriously pressured with tasks, and call again in the evenings.

This was someone I informed early on, that if you call me twice and I don't answer, pls send a text message and I'll get back to you as quickly as possible. Did he listen - no he didn't he just wore me out with calls. I felt severely harassed at the frequency of his calls and I am not exaggerating about the calls or this entire story.

Our phone conversations were often like this:

Me: Hi how was your day and what's happening with you.
Daniel: I am feeling Hot when was the last time you had sex.
Me: Can't we have a meaningful conversation without you bringing up sex?
Daniel: Ok, fine my day was ...... so what are you wearing now?

Exhausting conversation right? As if that wasn't bad enough the dude would ask me to come see him at his office after working hours during the week when you are trying to beat traffic and get home. Seeing him on a Friday would have been cool cos there's no work on Saturday but he never thought that way.

These are just a few incidents, the dude was too immature & unreasonable in how he conducted himself. I mentally cringe when I recall things and I say to myself - girl what the hell were you thinking?

I am extremely wary of men younger than me, Daniel put a sour taste in my mouth about that. That whole affair with him didn't last more than 4 months but I still cringe. I wasn't dating him for marriage's sake, I was just being spontaneous, trying something new & different.

I mean no offence to younger men but very often we are worlds apart in our emotional & mental maturity as well as in other things. I still prefer my men older than me - the older the better.[/quote]

Toks2008:


Just created a thread with this..

Sorry i did not ask for your permission but i see this as too good to be kept just on this thread.
https://www.nairaland.com/2708990/wonderful-advice-female-nairalander-nigerian

wow.

No problem.

we are all here to learn.

You're really celebral. Just the kind of female friends I did like to have. First in this section. I actually read up to here because of your posts . . . Well done.

At Martins 301,

You asked why older women discriminate against younger men, I'll gist you a bit about my personal experience and hopefully you may understand.

Early last year (2014) at 32, I attempted to date a guy 5 years younger than me - first time ever I would attempt such a feat. The experience was for the most part an unpleasant & annoying one.

Daniel ( not his real name) wanted sex practically all the time and he had this obnoxious habit of calling incessantly at all hours of the day - common like who does that?

He would call at 5 am on his way to work - when I was either having my quiet time with Heaven, working out or just trying to wrap my mind and head around a new day. He would call during working hours when I was seriously pressured with tasks, and call again in the evenings.

This was someone I informed early on, that if you call me twice and I don't answer, pls send a text message and I'll get back to you as quickly as possible. Did he listen - no he didn't he just wore me out with calls. I felt severely harassed at the frequency of his calls and I am not exaggerating about the calls or this entire story.

Our phone conversations were often like this:

Me: Hi how was your day and what's happening with you.
Daniel: I am feeling Hot when was the last time you had sex.
Me: Can't we have a meaningful conversation without you bringing up sex?
Daniel: Ok, fine my day was ...... so what are you wearing now?

Exhausting conversation right? As if that wasn't bad enough the dude would ask me to come see him at his office after working hours during the week when you are trying to beat traffic and get home. Seeing him on a Friday would have been cool cos there's no work on Saturday but he never thought that way.

These are just a few incidents, the dude was too immature & unreasonable in how he conducted himself. I mentally cringe when I recall things and I say to myself - girl what the hell were you thinking?

I am extremely wary of men younger than me, Daniel put a sour taste in my mouth about that. That whole affair with him didn't last more than 4 months but I still cringe. I wasn't dating him for marriage's sake, I was just being spontaneous, trying something new & different.

I mean no offence to younger men but very often we are worlds apart in our emotional & mental maturity as well as in other things. I still prefer my men older than me - the older the better.

Toks2008:


You have said it all and there is nothing else to add.

Even me, im so scared marrying a lady that does not have anything doing even when im ready to help out,there is still this fear that she may want more than i can afford for now..

I was in a relationship with a lady that despite establishing her in business i was still giving her 5k weekly to but sweets asides from taking care of her other financial neds but all i always hear is "how much are you giving me?" i know how much my mates are getting from guys out there..Infact i virtually pay my tithe to her monthly yet i no do well so im so pissed right now and if i must ever be with a Nigerian lady, she must be earning reasonable money and not that i ned a kobo of her money and not that i will expext her to spend her money on the homefront or even herself but at least i will have peace of mind that she is making something.

I really fear for Nigerian spinsters.https://www.nairaland.com/2678781/great-fear-many-nigeria-spinsters

Good night everyone.

Hmmm. sorry for your experience sha. But, the good thing is you learnt a lesson from it.


Well, that your ex is just money conscious and greedy. She complains that 5k is nothing, yet, she can't boast of 5k of her own sweat. Such a person won't still be grateful if you offer her all your world. Be glad she is your past.


Like I do tell my siblings and friends, "if you desire money so much, go out there and earn it". that way, you won't be a burden to anybody.

Seriously, guys that keeps giving money to ladies are trying. I give kudos to them. you know why? to give out money can annoying. When i was in sch, if I ask my mom for money, she will give me, but, not without letting me know how me and my siblings are making her not to save. But, I didn't understand then, I thought it was my right.

After, I graduated, started earning, pay bills, and have to settle some home issues too. I then understood how annoying it can be to spend. because, those spendings usually sets you a step back.

missbronze:
Hmmm. sorry for your experience sha. But, the good thing is you learnt a lesson from it.


Well, that your ex is just money conscious and greedy. She complains that 5k is nothing, yet, she can't boast of 5k of her own sweat. Such a person won't still be grateful if you offer her all your world. Be glad she is your past.


Like I do tell my siblings and friends, "if you desire money so much, go out there and earn it". that way, you won't be a burden to anybody.

Seriously, guys that keeps giving money to ladies are trying. I give kudos to them. you know why? to give out money can annoying. When i was in sch, if I ask my mom for money, she will give me, but, not without letting me know how me and my siblings are making her not to save. But, I didn't understand then, I thought it was my right.

After, I graduated, started earning, pay bills, and have to settle some home issues too. I then understood how annoying it can be to spend. because, those spendings usually sets you a step back.

You wowed me!! You're just spot on!! May we meet you? I mean introducing yourself to us. You are worth knowing o!

Good morning everyone! Happy third day of the month!!

halexito:

You wowed me!! You're just spot on!! May we meet you? I mean introducing yourself to us. You are worth knowing o!

Good morning.

I am missbronze, not married, based in Abuja, and, old enough to be on this thread.

I am otokx, not married, based in Port Harcourt and old enough to be on this thread.

Good day