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Re: Guys I Think I'm About To Marry A MONSTER, Advice Me Pls, No Matter How Harsh by LadyX(f): 8:11am On Nov 03, 2015 |
WhoBeThisMan:Who is going to live with the 'monster'? Is it the church, family members, or you? Remember it will be the two of you in the house. If your intention is to live happily, put your self first. If your interest is to please the church and family, go ahead and marry her. Clearly this is a woman who will make you feel worthless if you don't have money. The choice is yours. 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Guys I Think I'm About To Marry A MONSTER, Advice Me Pls, No Matter How Harsh by WhoBeThisMan: 8:31am On Nov 03, 2015 |
LadyX:thats one hard truth. Thanks 2 Likes |
Re: Guys I Think I'm About To Marry A MONSTER, Advice Me Pls, No Matter How Harsh by yatch360: 8:33am On Nov 03, 2015 |
WhoBeThisMan: Its after u have finished selling the aso Ebi u are seeking for advice... 3 Likes |
Re: Guys I Think I'm About To Marry A MONSTER, Advice Me Pls, No Matter How Harsh by 400billionman: 8:37am On Nov 03, 2015 |
WhoBeThisMan: Nobody will beat you if you walk away. Dey there dey do Smue Smue.. Nah Only talk them go talk And TALK IS CHEAP.. 8 Likes |
Re: Guys I Think I'm About To Marry A MONSTER, Advice Me Pls, No Matter How Harsh by LadyX(f): 8:48am On Nov 03, 2015 |
WhoBeThisMan:Welcome 1 Like |
Re: Guys I Think I'm About To Marry A MONSTER, Advice Me Pls, No Matter How Harsh by 400billionman: 9:04am On Nov 03, 2015 |
WhoBeThisMan: Haha, welldone bro. Courtship and dating were set up to observe unlikely attitude in a future partner and walk away before its late. 1 Like |
Re: Guys I Think I'm About To Marry A MONSTER, Advice Me Pls, No Matter How Harsh by deanoffaculty: 9:34am On Nov 03, 2015 |
@OP.... We all have our individual differences and ways of managing feelings and emotions. You love the lady and she loves you too. For the fact that she's arrogant doesn't make her a bad person. Just find a romantic way of talking to her. Even when she is harsh and doesn't want to reason with you, pet her and calm her down......all ladies like that. Let the discussion be between you guys and no third party. Anyhow, anyhow..find a way of letting her understand the present financial constraints and what is on board. Don't allow people's opinion about her to discourage you. Marriage is meant for two imperfect persons and not two perfect perfect persons....."like terms repel,unlike terms attracts". Thank God you discovered her arrogance before marriage and not in marriage.....that means she is not a pretender. If you truly love her and you can manage her arrogance, then you guys need to do a serious talk. Don't forget the fact that we are not 100% perfect. At the tail end, you can walk away if she's not co-operating and reasoning with you. A BROKEN RELATIONSHIP/COURTSHIP is better than a BROKEN MARRIAGE. God will give you the wisdom to go about it IJN. ....... 2 Likes |
Re: Guys I Think I'm About To Marry A MONSTER, Advice Me Pls, No Matter How Harsh by rockyh(m): 9:45am On Nov 03, 2015 |
WhoBeThisMan:fear not a weddin can b canceld som hrs to it wat matrs is ur hapinez in marriage not wat piple feel 3 Likes |
Re: Guys I Think I'm About To Marry A MONSTER, Advice Me Pls, No Matter How Harsh by dwen: 9:56am On Nov 03, 2015 |
WhoBeThisMan:beloved, there is nothing wrong with that woman, it is a normal thing for her to act the way she is acting right now because her day of joy is being threatened, she is not a monster, the fact that she has waited this long does not make her one. all you need to do is to sit her down and reassure her that the wedding will hold and that you still love her and you will see her calm down. please go ahead with the wedding. 3 Likes |
Re: Guys I Think I'm About To Marry A MONSTER, Advice Me Pls, No Matter How Harsh by deanoffaculty: 10:01am On Nov 03, 2015 |
dwen:Nice one!!! |
Re: Guys I Think I'm About To Marry A MONSTER, Advice Me Pls, No Matter How Harsh by worth(m): 10:07am On Nov 03, 2015 |
hmm... A broken relationship is better than a broken MARRIAGE. 5 Likes |
Re: Guys I Think I'm About To Marry A MONSTER, Advice Me Pls, No Matter How Harsh by WhoBeThisMan: 10:08am On Nov 03, 2015 |
deanoffaculty:I have tried talking to her, it seems like the more I talk the more I arrogant and disrespectful and abusive she becomes 1 Like |
Re: Guys I Think I'm About To Marry A MONSTER, Advice Me Pls, No Matter How Harsh by WhoBeThisMan: 10:08am On Nov 03, 2015 |
dwen:thanks 1 Like |
Re: Guys I Think I'm About To Marry A MONSTER, Advice Me Pls, No Matter How Harsh by WhoBeThisMan: 10:14am On Nov 03, 2015 |
dwen:I have tried talking to her, at this point im in a position where I dont want to marry her anymore, but just hanging on because of what people would say. 1 Like |
Re: Guys I Think I'm About To Marry A MONSTER, Advice Me Pls, No Matter How Harsh by Babamide(m): 10:16am On Nov 03, 2015 |
That love sharking u would send u to hell. Pastor warned u and told u there is no going back. You think u can come and start running one month to the wedding? U are joking. Send us time, date and venue; WE WOULD BE THERE. 2 Likes |
Re: Guys I Think I'm About To Marry A MONSTER, Advice Me Pls, No Matter How Harsh by Nobody: 10:21am On Nov 03, 2015 |
WhoBeThisMan: In your spirit and soul you know what is right..... Is she violent too, unforgiving? Many time God himself speaks to us in clear evidences but we just wont listen. The Bible clearly states "by their fruits we shall know them" Arrogance is one of her fruits can you eat it? if you cant eat then leave. Go to your pastor and tell him all that is bothering you, he can give you good counsel based on what he knows about the both of you, he might chastise you but all the same hear him out 4 Likes |
Re: Guys I Think I'm About To Marry A MONSTER, Advice Me Pls, No Matter How Harsh by brofula(m): 10:24am On Nov 03, 2015 |
Bros, Call off the wedding for now. pls get a good convinction if you can endure all this. Marriage is not a a joke and it is a place where people face reality and not pretence. Pls take some time off to reconfirm and b sure you need thiss girl. shift this date because this girl may not be the best for you. a strain courtship is better than divorce. but if you insisit in moving on with the wedding GOOD LUCK to you. 2 Likes |
Re: Guys I Think I'm About To Marry A MONSTER, Advice Me Pls, No Matter How Harsh by WhoBeThisMan: 10:26am On Nov 03, 2015 |
chrisbaba1:shes not unforgiving but can be violent sometimes. What I cant deal with is how she makes me feel worthless anytime cahs is short when she is the one who pressured me into this situation |
Re: Guys I Think I'm About To Marry A MONSTER, Advice Me Pls, No Matter How Harsh by Nobody: 10:30am On Nov 03, 2015 |
WhoBeThisMan: Many time God himself speaks to us in clear evidences but we just wont listen. Since you are christian, the Bible clearly states "by their fruits we shall know them" Arrogance, Violence and evil words are her fruits can you eat it? if you cant eat then leave. 2 Likes |
Re: Guys I Think I'm About To Marry A MONSTER, Advice Me Pls, No Matter How Harsh by Macgreat(m): 10:34am On Nov 03, 2015 |
OP, You put yourself under. . . You still have a choice . . . decide what you want to do and do it. |
Re: Guys I Think I'm About To Marry A MONSTER, Advice Me Pls, No Matter How Harsh by Macgreat(m): 10:35am On Nov 03, 2015 |
chrisbaba1: Thank You! . . |
Re: Guys I Think I'm About To Marry A MONSTER, Advice Me Pls, No Matter How Harsh by deanoffaculty: 11:14am On Nov 03, 2015 |
WhoBeThisMan:Okkk! This one is strong. There is always a substitute. From your heart deep down there, do you still want to continue with her in marriage things despite her arrogance? It doesn't matter what peoples' opinion are, there is always what your mind will be telling you to do. Obey your mind! From the look of things, the lady is a good lady cos she wants to make sure that the preparation works out but there is a 'but' in her. At the same time, don't let her push you to a point of no return: if you rush in,you will rush out. You can manage relationship/dating but it's not like that in marriage. It's a forever contract. Tell her plainly that she can go if she's not ready to endure the moment with you and that you are not comfortable with her choice of actions. As long as you are alive,you can always fall in love with someone else. If you guys are not dating each other again that does not mean you can't be friends. If you are going to quit, let it be peaceful. Life goes on.... Also, you can still manage the situation now with wisdom from God. Pray to God for direction and what to do. If she's meant for you, she's going nowhere. I pray that God will guide you on the next step to take IJN. There will always be a way out. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Guys I Think I'm About To Marry A MONSTER, Advice Me Pls, No Matter How Harsh by Nobody: 11:59am On Nov 03, 2015 |
My friend commot for road! Men and their insatiable ego, now that she supports you financially is when you realized she's a monster after a so called man of God warned you. She's probably still single because the previous guy was a jerk like you. Clear road for her make she see better person wey no get bad belly. We know una na; Single Never Married Male @ 50. 2 Likes |
Re: Guys I Think I'm About To Marry A MONSTER, Advice Me Pls, No Matter How Harsh by dinachi(m): 12:15pm On Nov 03, 2015 |
Hand her support money back to here and run for your dear life! She is not a wife,she is a witch! Are you a man or what? |
Re: Guys I Think I'm About To Marry A MONSTER, Advice Me Pls, No Matter How Harsh by WhoBeThisMan: 12:30pm On Nov 03, 2015 |
paybystraff:I dont believe supporting our wedding financially gives her the righ t to talk me down and trow abusive words at me. Anyway thanks for sharing ur opinion. I indeed said I wanted harsh advice if necessary. 1 Like |
Re: Guys I Think I'm About To Marry A MONSTER, Advice Me Pls, No Matter How Harsh by Enockia(m): 12:39pm On Nov 03, 2015 |
WhoBeThisMan: if the cards and aso ebi er more important dan ur happiness in marriage then go ahead if not u dont need Daniel to come read the writing on the wall..... 2 Likes |
Re: Guys I Think I'm About To Marry A MONSTER, Advice Me Pls, No Matter How Harsh by Nobody: 1:07pm On Nov 03, 2015 |
The story is so Senseless , Laughable And Unreal... ![]() |
Re: Guys I Think I'm About To Marry A MONSTER, Advice Me Pls, No Matter How Harsh by Nobody: 1:08pm On Nov 03, 2015 |
I met this girl last year december, beautiful, very comited to church, and she had all characteristics of what I want in a woman or so it seemed. I approched her, she liked me too, we started going out. I just got out from a very messy brakeup so I really was tired of dating, I told her I want to get married thats my intension and we should start working towards it. She said yes. Poor construction of first paragraph...weak tenses and poor spelling of words e.g committed, approached, break-up, intention to mention a few. Jonathan sef ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Guys I Think I'm About To Marry A MONSTER, Advice Me Pls, No Matter How Harsh by Nobody: 1:10pm On Nov 03, 2015 |
y'all strangers; you, your friend, his fiancee so... |
Re: Guys I Think I'm About To Marry A MONSTER, Advice Me Pls, No Matter How Harsh by Forwetinnah: 1:10pm On Nov 03, 2015 |
After describing her as a monster"" you still want advice? Smh |
Re: Guys I Think I'm About To Marry A MONSTER, Advice Me Pls, No Matter How Harsh by RichThug(m): 1:10pm On Nov 03, 2015 |
baba no juz try marry dat girl... u guyz are still dating nd she is already misbehaving juz cos u hav some financial issue... juz follow ur pastor or u gonna regret gannnn |
Re: Guys I Think I'm About To Marry A MONSTER, Advice Me Pls, No Matter How Harsh by free2ryhme: 1:10pm On Nov 03, 2015 |
You are an adult The signs are obvious your destiny is in your hands 1 Like |
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